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beacon-lamp

[white knuckling the bathroom sink] but i stay silly :3 but i stay silly :3 but i stay sil

willgrahamscock

⚠︎ ! your body has kept the score.

willgrahamscock

⚠︎ ! hospital ⚠︎ !

tlirsgender

"You know what's harder than Getting Better? Living Like That" is just the thesis for my whole shit going on right now honestly. You know what's harder than doing my physical therapy? Hurting All The Time. You know what's harder than addressing my gender dysphoria? Hurting All The Time

tlirsgender

I'm Doing The Hard Thing and it's *easier* than how I was living before. If you make yourself feel better you will have more energy to spend on Getting Better. Nice inch nails - the upward spiral. Crawl out of your grave Thursday

hudconvent

pursuing my postdoc in belaboring the point from dead horse university

destielgaysex

dude i domt feel good. yeah its the everything again

feluka

my top hobbies are shame and embarrassment but i also occasionally dabble in envy

castformi-deactivated20241025

dystopia au where we are all assigned one of two chosen genders at birth

peppylilspitfuck

Thanks to ultrasounds, the genders can be assigned before birth. The people are so excited to conform they throw “Gender reveal parties” to make sure their offspring exist in a strict binary since before they can even form thoughts.

slightlykylie

Children are color-coded according to their binary assignment.

darkersolstice

One of the genders is seen as inherently inferior.

yothobro-deactivated20200505

This all sounds really effing creepy when you put it that way

rooksandravens

#BECAUSE IT IS

fuckyeahfeminist

And if you deviate from the assigned gender you can be disowned by your family, fired from your job, and beaten by authorities.

rodserlingofficial

fairycosmos

clocking in at the don’t ruminate on it factory

#and brother I will be slacking off on the job

andoutofharm

yeah pass me the tallahassee by the mountains goats im not driving . walks out the door and immediately smacks into a light post and collapses in the street

queerpuck

Yes Supernatural is 15 seasons long but it’s really simple. every season something happens and the world is about to end and one of the main characters goes I have an idea I’M GONNA KILL MYSLEF and that’s it. for 15 seasons. and the gay yearning of course

tryksters

they matched each others freak. 42 injured. 7 dead. 12 missing.

daggerdoggy

settings > wound > my wound > reopen

daggerdoggy

do not forget this

sweatermuppet

closing statement from an article about being intersex & the possible connection of gender expression and sexuality in intersex individuals, published in The Gay Liberator, 1970s

genderkoolaid

i think genuinely one of the biggest political weak spots on the trans community in terms of actually pursuing liberation is people's aversion to meaningfully challenging the gender binary because it is personally gender affirming for them. so much reactionary bullshit in this community is intimately tied to exorsexism and transmedicalism/

and like. i also don't want to downplay why people would feel like that. you spend your entire life suffering because of being denied your gender. it impacts your identity and your relationships and your work and your everything. and then when there's finally a chance that you may actually be able to cross the great divide that separates the group you are forced to be to and the group you have always felt you belonged in, there is all of this talk about how we should dismantle the groups entirely, when you have barely - if at all - gotten a chance to even exist in a way that doesn't make you want to kill yourself, when the groups are still influencing everything about the world all the time.

but the thing is! we feel this way primarily because in our present culture, to be gendered as cis-binary is to be made human. it is to socially exist, to be seen, to be loved, to have existential, ontological meaning as a person. and nonbinary people do not get to pursue gender euphoria that also makes us human, you understand? nb/gq/gnc people do not have the option of pursuing being socially recognized as you truly feel you are and not wanting to kill yourself. some people can be happy on either side of the chasm and carve out space for themselves there, but too often only on the precarious edge. and the rest of us can only jump off or wait to be shoved off.

do you understand? we don't have the option. our insistence on fighting and deconstructing the binary is not an abstract political choice based on what we speculate would be the most #radical. it is as much a choice made out of trans survival as any binary trans man or woman's pursuit of a passing and stealth life. and plenty of us also do not want the concept of "man" or "woman" to be erased entirely; many of nb/gq/gnc people are men and women! sometimes both at the same time! others want to see new concepts to gain acceptance and social recognition!

but that is the problem with the community's exorsexism when it comes down to it. it is binary gender ideology which provides the foundation for patriarchal ideology and power as a whole, and so as feminists it is the binary we need to challenge (early radical feminists circled this realization, although they failed to develop it productively; intersectional feminism leads us to challenging the gender binary by challenging the related privileged oppressor/powerless oppressed binary). nb/gq/gnc people strain under a binary system and binary culture, and so tend to be more conscious of the binary and the need to challenge it, just like cis perisex women are more likely to be conscious of patriarchy than cis perisex men because they experience a lot more direct and obvious strain under it. all trans people are ultimately oppressed by gender binary ideology and exorsexism, and it goes against trans people's class interests to support it. but a lot of trans people who identify strongly with the binary have, for decades at this point, actively decided to sacrifice the pursuit of trans liberation and liberation from patriarchy as a whole, in favor of keeping the binary in place so they can experience being the ones who benefit from it and wield it against others. like lower-middle class people being fierce defenders of capitalism and taking great pride in self-sufficiency and financial sense and not relying on handouts.

genderkoolaid

#THIS#had a convo with some binary trans friends awhile ago about something similar#they were saying that if you met someone who isn’t obviously fem or masc and didn’t get to ask their pronouns#you should take your best guess at what they’re trying to present as and choose she/her or he/him#and if you’re corrected change of course#which is Such a binary way of thinking about it#and might be affirming for binary trans people sometimes#but ensures people who use they/them are literally never gendered correctly#and assumes that everyone is trying to perform their gender according to gender roles#trans femboys and butches aren’t going to get gendered correctly either that way#like. i understand#you would want other people to do that for you#but a Lot of people don’t want you to do that for them

& there is a real sick irony here right. binary trans men and women like your friends think its reasonable for everyone's habits regarding strangers' pronouns to follow what would help them the most, protect them from being misgendered. without seeming to register at all that nonbinary/genderqueer/gnc people get constantly misgendered by both cis and binary assumptions.

when one thinks "people should always try to guess if someone uses she/her or he/him if you can't ask, because that way a trans person whose trying to pass might be gendered correctly" implicit in that statement, to me, is the belief that we see reoccurring constantly, that it doesn't matter when nb/gq/gnc people get misgendered. it hurts us less, but more importantly it hurts other people less. its less uncomfortable to see us get misgendered. its more normal. there's all of this cultural background that makes us immediately understand why denying a man his manhood by calling him a woman is hurtful, why denying a woman her womanhood by calling her a men is hurtful. but nonbinarity is culturally seen as un-human, or ugly and monstrous. so when someone's nonbinarity/genderqueerness is denied there's no implicit sympathy, there's no understanding that this would be just as hurtful. because a lot of people see the problem with misgendering not as denying a person's gendered existence, but forcing a man to be a woman and a woman to be a man, forcing them to be at odds with the gender binary that defines our social personhood.

sorry to get all deep about it but like. this is what i mean about the community's exorsexism! there is an implicit understanding a lot of people have - and i say implicit because its often not out of active malice - that they simply do not need to care as much or feel as bad when a nonbinary/genderqueer/gnc person gets misgendered. we get toleration and non-hostility, not sympathy; sympathy, like humanity, belongs to the belonging to the binary.