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caregiver things i love:

when they call you a good baby/kid

when they say “you’re too little to do that” and just do it instead

their voices

their touch full of care

the daddy/mommy stare they give you when you’re in trouble

how patient they are even after you’ve been very bratty

but also how they know when you’re out of limits and need to give you a punishment

when they pick up your paci just so they can put it in your mouth and say “come here, let me take care of you”

when they put on your socks and shoes for you

how they open all the doors for you

how everything is better, happier and more fun when they’re around

when they’re sad and know you’re there to give them support

just like when you’re sad they’ll always be there for you

how much reliable they are

how caring and sweet they are

how strong and such an example they are for their regressor(s)

their eyes, their smell, their hands… ah… their hands! and all the perfect expressions they do as a response for every little thing you do

when they call you “butthead” or “silly/dork” just so they can see you pout and then call you cute

when they always grab your hands when crossing the street, because they want to protect you

how they pay attention to what you like and dislike just so they do what’s best for you

everything. they exist.

caregivers are so good and deserve all the appreciation. they’re there for us and do everything they can. thank you, every caregiver out there. we know how hard you all try too!

special thanks to my amazing daddy, @numberonedada! <3

childre

ok but think about it: trans age regressors are perfect nd belong in the community

teddytigers

💐things to help a sad age regressor💐

🌼check on them, talk to them, ask them what’s wrong/what happened!

🌼offer to turn on their favorite show or movie

🌼give pats or run a hand through their hair

🌼huggggssssss!!

🌼make them a tiny meal with their favorite foods and snacks!

🌼read or tell them a happy story

🌼run them a nice warm bath, get some bubbles and toys !

🌼tickle or play peek-a-boo!!

🌼hold their hand

🌼ask them to draw or write what’s wrong

🌼bring their favorite stuffie or toy to them

🌼wrap them in a comfy blanket!!

🌼and maybe your baby just needs some time alone! let them have a nap if they need one!

🌼 and remember to always always always be there for your baby!! they always need your love and care in their dark times!

old-itty-bitty-emi

Age Appropriate Tasks

Do you work all day? Does your baby feel guilty for not doing “enough”? Here are some tasks for regressors of all ages to complete, and maybe earn rewards doing!

Ages 0-3:

🍼 Take a nap!

🍼 Eat 1 serving of fruits and veggies

🍼 Get dressed (1 onesie/cute outfit, cute socks, no PJs all day)

🍼 Put back toys

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Ages 4-8

🐣 Color a picture

🐣 Draw you and themselves (can be stick figures)

🐣 Take a nap (if needed, some won’t sleep without you)

🐣 Draw the alphabet

🐣 Write a small story about what they did today

🐣 Put back toys

🐣 Put away dishes

🐣 Practice counting instead of tantrums

🐣 Get dressed

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Ages 8-15

🐥 Do their homework

🐥 Study something new

🐥 Clean their room

🐥 Get dressed (weather appropriate)

🐥 Make themselves a meal (soups and pasta dishes are really good and easy for beginners)

🐥 3 small chores (vaccuum, clean litter box, put away dishes, etc…)

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Always remind your regresser how good they are! Even on days when doing any of this is too hard.

Happy caring~!

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Teeny tiny bunnies🖤🖤🖤

Thank you for this post set!!

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@elithelittle

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i wish there was more talk on tumblr about hypersexuality as a response to trauma, tbh. i see a lot of talk about asexuality and sex-repulsion due to trauma, but i rarely see people talk about the opposite. idk, its a difficult subject i suppose

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Hypersexuality as a result of trauma can happen because you start believing you’re not good for anything else but sex. Because you believe you can’t expect love without it. Because you believe sex is the only way anyone could possibly connect to others. Because sex is the only kind of intimacy you’re “any good at”. Because you don’t know how else to get attention. Because it’s easier to get sex than love. Because cuddling after sex is the only way you know how to get nonsexual physical touch. Because you’re high/drunk all the time. Because you have no libido/desire/attraction anymore and keep hoping that having sex will kickstart it. Because you’re good at sex and it’s the only way to get recognition and respect. Because you were told that you’re “bad at sex” and you feel ashamed and are trying to “get better at it.” Because you have flashbacks if you abstain from sex. Because you feel wordlessly desperate/scared/anxious if you don’t have sex for a certain period of time. Because you associate sex with danger and you don’t believe you’re allowed to be safe. Because you feel so bad so much of the time that sex/orgasm is the only way to calm down or feel good anymore. Because you’ve been re-targeted by other abusers/perpetrators who can tell you don’t know how to say no. Because you’re still with your abuser/rapist/perpetrator and the only way to prevent “worse” violence is to initiate sex. Because sex is physically or emotionally painful for you and you’re using sex to self-harm.

Hypersexuality after trauma is way more common than anyone wants to believe, and it can happen for so, so many different reasons. These are just a few.

profeminist

Readers, there are some very moving comments on this thread (TW due to topic) if you are reading and thinking “this sounds like me” or “is this a thing?”

chubbylittlebabi

TW WARNING TRUAMA SEX

This is honestly so important. After my truama, my PTSD morphed into hypersexuality. I saw everyone talk about abstaining and being fearful of sex, but I could not relate at all. My sexuality was the only way that I could get ANY attention and "love" . I would messages anyone and everyone, flirting and sexing because I kept just stuffing sex into a empty hole in my chest. Now that I have my Daddy, (AND YEARS OF THERAPY) I have learned that sex is not my whole world. Everytime my daddy would turn me down for text I would sob because I thought he didn't love me anymore, now I relize he turned me down because he did love me. He wanted me to get better, and now I did. It was a ton of learning, meds, therapy, and talking but now I have found the balance in my sexuality.

It is possible! Never be ashamed to struggle with hypersexuality ! Always get help if you think you need it!

Virginity is a social construct, there is no "loosing it". You give it away to someone you want too. That helped me in my darkest moments.

Remembering I am more than what happened to me,

I am more than sex.

I am more than virginity.

I am more than trauma.

I am me.

#twtruama #assult

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Its ok to show urself to your mama

Its ok to wake up your mommy in the middle of the night. Infact its encouraged Its ok to inform her of triggers Its ok to ask for help Its ok to show ur real self to your mama. Its what shes there for. Being a little isnt all fun and games and being a dom isnt all cuddles and love. Sometimes its talking seriously. Sometimes its crying together sometimes its facing something scary

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littles with eating disorders

eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia and binge eating aren’t always about just food. they’re often about using food to cope with bad feelings such as stress, sadness, pain and anger. feelings no daddy, mummy or caregiver wants their little to feel!

1. when talking about the eating disorder, talk about feelings or relationships instead. link this to why you’re concerned, not on weight, food and appearance. 2. remind them that you want to care for them as much as they should care for themselves. 3. avoid fat prejudices and do not compare them to others. if they claim to ‘be fat,’ instead of saying “you are not fat,” ask them why they fear being fat instead, and what they think they will achieve being thin. 4. do not demand change. do not criticize their eating habits. people with eating disorders want to be in control, and this can be in or out of their littlespaces. 5. avoid placing shame, guilt or blame on them. this will only make your little one feel terrible. no accusatory statements using ‘you.’ “you are acting silly,” or “you just need to eat” is wrong. perhaps you could use ‘i’ statements. “i am worried about you because you are not eating lunch or dinner,” or “it makes me afraid to hear you vomiting.”

in a caregiving role, daddies, mummies and caregivers are often a main place for security and comfort for littles. there are other things to include in this sense: 1. have a think about your own thoughts on food, weight and body image. if you have your own body image pressures, and share these with your little, try not to voice them so openly. it’s good to communicate once in a while, and bottling up isn’t safe, but influencing can be terrible. 2. no threats, scare tactics or outbursts of anger. saying you will abandon them, take away their privileges or more is emotional abuse. 3. attempt to set kind and consistent limits and rules. practice how to respond to them skipping a meal, purging, binging or eating with others. 4. be firm. regardless of pleas and/or promises, stay very focused on what is happening. you may have to force them to go to the doctors or hospital. if possible, join them, or call them when they do. 5. do whatever you can to promote self-esteem. this includes intellectual, athletic and social endeavours. try to avoid praising their appearance, as this further supports the painful behaviours.

i hope this helps! remember, everyone is different, and some techniques will work for some, and not for others. whilst this post is aimed towards littles with eating disorders, one for daddies, mummies and caregivers will be out in the future!