hello, friendship. @clairedoty - Tumblr Blog

I think losing a friendship hurts ten times more than losing a romantic relationship... because when I thought nobody would love me, you were there.

I'm losing the history. I'm losing late night games of murder in the dark. I'm losing the hours spent watching game theory. I'm losing shared bags of lollies, and animated movies, and stupid videos that we laughed over.

I miss you and I don't know how to move on.

maybeboygirl

Friendship breakups are like mourning someone who isn’t even dead. Things just can’t go back to the way they were.

nipsyyy

As you raced towards the finish line,you had forgotten along the way,who you had started it all with by your side.I think we grew up together only to outgrow each other.

-nipuna

shrnyxx

“I think about how much depends upon a best friend. Then you wake up in the morning you swing your legs out of bed and you put your feet on the ground and you stand up. You don't scoot to the edge of the bed and look down to make sure the floor is there. The floor is always there. Until it's not.” ― John Green

petrichara

Sometimes friendship breakups aren’t poetic, sometimes they’re a prick

it-was-yxu

rinwreck

I can't believe you left me alone with grief. This is all I feared and I trusted you to keep me safe. You who knew me best.

robinsnestwoutrest

How I’ve Been Feeling // A Friendship is Burning To Ashes (And I’m Not Sure If I’m Angry Or Just Tired)

Be Nice To Me - The Front Bottoms // Tired - beabadoobee // ritikajyala // Tucker Edwards // aidashakur // Best Friend - Lauren Aquilina

petrichara

July 21/March 22

ceruleanwhore

I just had a friendship breakup and there’s some stuff with that that lines up with a particular sub-population of the internet that I think some of y’all really need to hear. Basically, it doesn’t matter if you’re neurodivergent or mentally ill or whatever, you cannot just deny reality, make shit up, and insist that your fantasies are real. For example, if you do something shitty to someone, you cannot just decide that them being mad at you is not a natural consequence of your actions and that they aren’t allowed to be upset because it makes you uncomfortable.

I bring this up on here because it’s super common for people with mental health struggles to go through a phase where they feel like everyone else should just cater to them while they do literally nothing to treat their issues. I know it comes from recognizing the unfairness of how everyone else can just do whatever while you have to dedicate years of your life to changing yourself but that change is necessary and you’ll get over it. This is for the traumatized girlies who try and insist that literally any and all expressions of anger are abuse and anything else like that because anger makes them uncomfortable so they make it everyone else’s problem. Touch grass and get a therapist, you’re not valid and you aren’t going to be able to form and maintain relationships as long as you have that level of entitlement and detachment from reality.

Also, I get that a lot of you didn’t get the special extra education that those of us who grew up autistic did, where you’re manually taught social pragmatics and emotions and shit, but I’ve also got another something special that y’all missed. If you did a shitty thing to someone you have a relationship with, it is neither normal nor valid for your very first response to them expressing their anger to be playing the victim and saying they can’t be mad at you. Same also goes for if your very first response to them is to nitpick the wording of what they just said before you say literally anything else. If you’re the asshole in the situation and now you need to make amends and shit, do the apology stuff first and then bring up any issues like that after.

Oh and last thing - I know it’s been said before but if anyone claims or acts like they’re always the victim, no the fuck they aren’t. If someone has a pattern of not having relationships with people last and then claiming every single time that they did nothing wrong and it was all the other person, they are lying. Also, don’t be that person either.

automnelog

people who do not know how to process their own emotions and the emotions of others, will interpret you expressing your emotions as “drama”

chaosmagicwanda

“Sometimes self-love shows up as the willingness to release people who have no interest in learning how to love you. You deserve to be handled with care.”

- Michell C. Clark

youadans-reverie

Sometimes, I miss people that used to be in my life and feel the urge to reach out and tell them "hey I know we don't talk anymore but I still fold my sweater the way you taught me to". Not in a "I want you back in my life" way but more of a "my life has more colors now because of all the days we spent laughing together and I'm thankful for that".