Let's talk about padded agere!
(TW: Mentions of kinks/fetishes)
Where I stand with diapers:
I see diapers as just another agere tool like a pacifier, or a bottle, or a blanket. I understand that for some, diapers can be a tool that helps or encourages their regression. This does not mean I support the kinks and fetishes associated with diapers or other age based dynamics.
With that said..
It's come to my attention that some age regressors believe that if other regressors use diapers for any reasons outside of medical necessity, it's a kink or fetish, regardless of whether one identifies as a regressor.
This is not true. There are many different reasons regressors might use diapers outside of medical usage, and those reasons are valid reasons. It doesn't take away from them being regressors, it doesn't automatically mean they are part of kink(s) or fetish(es) (communities) or engaging in sfw kinks, and just because you believe something is gross doesn't automatically make it wrong, or give you the right to assume and sexualize it. Diaper-based (and most) Kinks and fetishes have everything to do with intent and sexual attraction, not about whether someone is just wearing/using them.
Here are some reasons a regressor might wear diapers outside of medical usage:
➜ Comfort & Regression tool
Some padded regressors use diapers when regressed because it brings back a sense of snuggness and security, and just like how other agere gear items like paci’s and toys may help some regressors regress, diapers also help others regress. The cutesy patterns also make fun! (Just because something is fun does not mean is sexual!)
➜ Deep regression
Some regressors can regress deeply enough to where it can become harder to understand and be aware of the signs and cues of needing to use the bathroom. So they’d use diapers as a precaution, and to prevent accidents.
➜ Menstrual cycles
Some regressors wear diapers during their menstrual cycle instead of other menstrual products because they are more absorbent, all-around coverage, and comfortable.
➜ Bed wetting (TW: MENTIONS OF BRIEF AND SUBTLE SA & TRUAMA)
Some regressors struggle with bed wetting when regressed deeply. SA survivor’s and trauma survivor’s regressors may also struggle with bedwetting.
As an age regressor I understand that it is easy to assume. It is human to be scared or disgusted by something that’s seemingly weird. Most regressors don’t want anything sexually-related to enter their safe space, which is 100% valid. I myself have trauma regarding people among the abdl and other age based kink communities and used to be very biased towards padded regressors. Healing through my trauma and growing up is what helped me realize that for those regressors who do use diapers are using them in the same sense that a little regressor would use a pacifier: as a tool that helps their specific wants and needs as a regressor.
Before immediately assuming anything about a diapered user you should check the tags of any post, and read intro posts if any.
To the padded regressors:
You are genuine regressors.
You are not gross.
You are not inappropriate
You are not unsightly
You are valid
And I apologize on my past beliefs, and in advance of anyone who’s ever made you second guess yourself, feel shame, or feel gross. You are trying your best to cope in a world full of sad, miserable, and judgmental, people who would rather stay ignorant than understand why you do the things you do. Unless someone is willing to be educated, save your explanations, you don’t owe anyone. You only have one life, so make the most of it. If wearing or using diapers benefits your regression in any way, that’s okay. Block those who are rude. You are loved! (and that goes towards all regressors not just padded ones.)
(I like comments guys! 😭 I know everyone’s shy and has social anxiety (I do too). So, to encourage conversation and human interaction I’m going to start adding these little short responses questions to some of my posts!)
I’d like to hear from some padded regressors, how can padding be helpful for to you, and to regressors who don’t use padding, how do you feel about padding? (Please be kind and respectful in comments!)
