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Call me Rose, or Melody I'm a Dorley girl in a Barbie world

[evilgirlbat]

"you're biased in favor of trans women" yes. i am. and i'm entirely right for it.

[evilgirlbat]

bringing this back because it's pride month and people are saying i'm trying to "divide the community." motherfucker everyone in the queer and trans communities shit on transfems all the time and you want me to act like there isn't already a division? no one gets to pretend like everything's okay when the people who are supposed to be our allies are transmisogynists. everyone is already biased against us. do you know how sickening it is to see random people in my fucking community so easily and readily go along with any accusation against transfems, no matter how absurd or unsubstantiated? do you know how sickening it is that the people i'm supposed to lean on are the ones painting us as predators and monsters and threats for no other reason than "the vibes were off"?

i'll stop being biased for transfems when there's no longer a need. i'll stop when people actually treat us like people and not some fucking underclass they unfortunately have to include. hell, it would be a leap forward for aspiring allies to even so much as acknowledge that we're treated this way, instead of living in a fantasy that we're doing just as well or unwell as anyone else. so long as the status quo continues, the community is already divided. try working with us instead of pretending we're making shit up if you want me to stop being a bitch about it.

[helicalsymmetry]

8 hours of decent sleep will have you thinking things like 'i am a beautiful horse and i will never die'

[helicalsymmetry]

2 hours of bad sleep will have you thinking things like 'i am a stranded whale and i need to be covered in dynamite in an ill-advised attempt to clear the beach'

[boringkate]

Reasons to take estrogen

Softer less oily skin

Less acne

Prevent male patern baldness

Less cleanup after orgasming

More free time (masturbating feels less urgent)

You can make new friends (membership to a new community)

More trans girls will wanna date you

Jiggle physics

It's something to do

Maybe you're bored

Be spared during the alien invasion and their purging of lesser lifeforms

It makes you smell nicer

More people will like your selfies

[atelier-tamamoland]

Makes you good at posting

[estrogenesis-vaporeongelion]

yknow in spite of the fact that the entire world is currently turning itself upside down to prevent me and my friends from having a good day, i really can't imagine being anything other than a trans woman. this shit kicks ass. we are so cool

[cj-noway]

A lot of this (Dump your puppygirl, Hbomberguy and Lady Emily jumping into Patricia Taxxon's lolcow campaign) boils down to content creators prioritizing clicks and supporting the status quo and arguing for the oppressive structures within is what gets clicks.

[wretched-mog]

there's been a lot of jokes about the difference in tone between the Drifter's and the Operator's storylines in warframe, but i was browsing thru my screenshot library and the contrast is fucking killing me lmao...

drifter: cowabunga pizza party

meanwhile, the operator:

[haunteddollsgeorg]

As a society we have benefited so much from successful public health measures that we now have the privilege of declaring that we must not need them anymore

Bitch before enriched flour, neural tube defects like spina bifida were far more common. Even now, spina bifida clinicians and researchers are begging to have salt and maize fortified to reach groups that don’t use as much flour. Before iodized salt, the United States had a fucking GOITER BELT. Eleven years after the introduction of fluoridated water, a city in Michigan found the rate of dental caries among school children dropped a staggering 60%— in an era where tooth decay regularly fucking killed people

I’m literally not even going to start on vaccines, which are among the most successful and robustly studied public health measures in world history

You might say “oh well today we all have access to vitamins and toothpastes and dentists so we don’t need those things in our food supplies” and boy do white people on social media loooove to fucking say that. But here’s the thing: no, people don’t all have easy access to those things. That’s privilege talking yet again

[akuman0mi]

[griffonatrix]

i’ve seen like six different mentally ill women reblog this today

[zal-cryptid]

One of my favourite Sisters of Dorley scenes

[kayla-denker]

When transmascs attend an event or group "for trans people" and its mostly transmascs there, or even all just transmascs, I wish it was more common for them to notice this and asky why.

But its not. I've literally never seen one do it myself.

Me and my girlfriend attended a "Transgender Dance Party" in Fort Collins last month, and we were the only trans women there. Every single other person was transmasc or cis, and they all very obviously avoided us. Like, when we went out on the patio where a bunch of them were talking in order to try and socialize, everyone out there immediately went inside away from us. So we, the only trans women there, just left.

I just saw a post by someone pointing out that their college has a bunch of transmasc professors and not a single transfem professor. I have to assume that they have some kind of event at least once in a while where all the trans faculty get together. I have to wonder if even a single one of them ever notices that there arent any transfems there. I doubt it though.

[cutecipher]

whether or not men benefit from feminism has no bearing on whether feminism is worthwhile

[cutecipher]

put another way. i dont care about how men are impacted by feminism

[cutecipher]

already have people mad about this. okay here's another take. men should be feminists for no benefit.

[mantis-lizbian]

just as white people should be anti-racism for no benefit, and cis people should be pro-trans for no benefit. the only "benefit" that should be required is the creation of a more just world, not because you, personally, actually do get something out of it.

[stjohnstarling]

The reason most indie novels are written like the author is terrified of doing something wrong is because the overwhelming majority of indie novelists get their start by networking in the violent panopticon of the social media indie publishing community, which favours the people who are able to win at the social policing game.

[3s-are-green]

Okay so this comment got me googling because I hadn't heard of Isabel Fall

And if you also hadn't heard of her go read this because uhh... Holy Shit

[headspace-hotel]

I had heard of the whole messed up situation with this story, but I hadn't ever read the synopsis of the story before, and WOW

This story sounds like it could have been a brilliant exploration of gender and warfare and violence but instead it was attacked by people who didn't know how to confront a story that made them uncomfortable, and the author faced horrible consequences.

It's so important to be able to deal with stories that give you uncomfortable feelings in other ways than just attacking it. Being shown new perspectives sometimes has feelings of discomfort because it's an unfamiliar way of seeing the world.

[mickpin]

You can read it Here

[headspace-hotel]

...

Holy shit.

Holy shit.

For the love of God, please read this story. It is so fucking good in ways that I can't even begin to articulate.

[theprimeministerofamerica]

since i am a trans woman who plays sports i will never find your joke about trans women in sports funny. sorry.

[theprimeministerofamerica]

been said before but. allies also often throw in a “well actually when transwomen are included in sports with regular women they come nowhere near being the best so it’s fine to let them compete together.” bc like, well, i would like to think i could one day become the best. am i only allowed to play in sports because I’m not actually trying? it shows that there is actually a threshold in ability that, when reached, will cause certain groups of people who seem to support trans women in sports to reevaluate and find out they have been bioessentialists the whole time

[catgirlfunctor]

Every time I compete I am scared I will win. Nobody should ever have to be in that situation. I got second at a competition and I saw the look on the face of the woman who got third, and I left that competition as quickly as I could because I didn't know if she would try to do something about it.

[maidthings]

"this is unbecoming of me" is genuinely a useful thing to have in your mental toolbox

[fake-lancelot]

[mousidy]

no yeah thanks for welcoming me to womanhood again but like yeah this man is in fact currently following me home can we maybe address that aspect

[mousidy]

no yeah like I totally see how that was traumatizing and why you would feel threatened by the sight of someone like me in the same bathroom as you. um but can I please get to the sink so I can wash my hands

[mousidy]

no right it does sound especially bad for you in ways I could never understand. I will say though I'm not sure if I agree that revealing to the man sexually harassing me that I'm trans would have made me safer actually

[mousidy]

no you don't have to call the cops you're right I'll just use the men's. no yeah I should have just listened to you when you said men will just harass women if they share a bathroom. no yeah I'll hold up a sign saying I'm trans so they know not to hurt me

[mousidy]

no yeah it sounds devastating not to be able to get pregnant. no you're right I'll never be able to understand what you're going through

[mousidy]

no you're right, I should just dress masculine so men don't harass me, it's my fault for dressing this way

[mousidy]

no sorry yeah spaghetti straps probably are too much. no sorry I didn't think about the possibility there could be children

[mousidy]

no you're right sorry I should have told you I was trans right away. no yeah it does sound really scary and upsetting to find out about my genitalia you're right

[mousidy]

no yeah I'm sorry for trying to trick you. um but I really did just wear this makeup look because I thought it would look cute, that's all

[mousidy]

no like this isn't a performance sorry I just threw this dress on to run to the pharmacy. uh but thanks for saying I'm slaying boots the house down becky. drag race? no I haven't seen it

[mousidy]

no right sorry I didn't realize there was a gender neutral bathroom available. you're right sorry I should be hiding my presence

[mousidy]

no sorry yeah I'm being irrational, he probably was just trying to be nice. I'll stay quiet next time

[mousidy]

no sorry like I was actually thinking I'd just keep my shorts on in bed till surgery. no yeah I'm aware there's risks. no sorry I already know I don't want to, I don't need to try it "just once." um are you interested in other parts of my body or...?

[mousidy]

no yeah thanks for letting me know I'm trying too hard with this skirt. I just thought it was cute is all sorry

[lusciouslusciousliz]

it's utterly fascinating how many so-called allies believe both "not telling someone you're trans before sleeping with them is rape by deception" and "rapists deserve the death penalty/vigilante justice" at once. literally recreating the gay panic defense from first principles. and by fascinating I mean fucking sickening

[los-copa]

Sickening indeed.

Not sure if much noise was made at all about this, but the precedent has now been set in law here in the UK, with the case of Ciara Watkin, who was sentenced to 21 months in prison back in October 2025 for "fail(ing) to disclose her transgender status" to a guy she was seeing, being convicted of what the courts deemed "sexual assault". In addition to her prison time, she is now a registered sex offender for 10 fucking years. We are told to think of the "significant impact on his mental wellbeing" with the victim here being the man she didn't disclose to, and you see how easy it is for them to enforce the idea of "rape by deception", like, how the fuck do we fight that?

So now, trans women in the UK don't have the luxury of not telling some potential partners, like, we have to police ourselves in addition to the law absolutely not being on our side, not that it ever was I guess.

[gigglesister]

also, to be completely clear on how rape by deception as a concept in uk law is treated when it doesnt involve trans women.

in 2010/2011 it became known that a number of undercover police (targetting predominantly left wing political groups) had been conducting relationships with women in these groups. they had sex with women, got sham married to women, and had children with these women, all while every aspect of their identity was a lie attempting to get these women and their associates to be arrested, and while they knew they would completely disappear without any explanation once their job was done. crown prosecutors at the time said legally those actions did not count as rape by deception.

a few years later, the met police issued a public apology that called this abuse, violating, and achieved through deception. there was no changes.

as of april 2026, the inquiry over this behavior is still ongoing, with no impact on undercover policing other than that (now deleted from the met site) public statement and the disbanding of some units known to have been involved.

so in british law, rape by deception is wrong though fully legal if youre a police officer fucking protestors, but it can be whipped out to validate the fragility of a guy who feels embarassed his mates saw him with a trans woman by jailing her.

[flagellant]

kill the shift manager in your brain

[flagellant]

you are not wasting time you are vibing. you are not being unproductive you are literally chilling. make a grill cheese with cheddar cheese and slather a piece of the bread with some honey and maybe you'll relax

[foulmiraclekitty]

...ok but what if the shift manager is actually right

[flagellant]

you are a minor so i will say this with absolute confidence as an adult: there is not a single time on the history of this planet that a shift manager has ever been right. and more seriously, in this metaphor: treating yourself like shit for not being productive doesn't actually make you more productive. it makes you treat yourself like shit.