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blindbee

avodaco

me when i get my student loan

g8dtier

this is the money cat. reblog in 30 seconds and you will find yourself with more wealth

strikercorbie

#this is the only money cat i will reblog because it’s actually doing the manekineko pose151,646 notes (via lolwhutninja)

OMG YOU’RE RIGHT

#can't be too fortunate #always reblog the money cat

internettythings

northstareclipse

I understand why optimization culture has boomed so hard in the past several years.

Something big happened that most of us could do very little about. The world became openly unstable in ways people could no longer politely ignore. Institutions failed. Safety nets frayed. The future got harder to imagine. So a lot of people started reaching for control wherever they could find it: morning routines, dopamine detoxes, habit stacks, sleep scores, screen-time limits, supplement protocols, productivity systems, “nervous system regulation,” whatever the app-store priesthood was selling that week.

I get it. I really do.

But I’m going to pull a phrase people love to use when they want to sound emotionally mature: trauma explains behavior; it does not excuse it.

Because at some point, “I am trying to regain a sense of agency in a chaotic world” turned into “everyone who doesn’t live like me is undisciplined, addicted, immature, morally weak, spiritually degraded, or secretly begging to be rescued from themselves.”

And that’s where I get off the ride.

I’m not saying optimization is bad for everyone. Some people genuinely benefit from tweaking parts of their lives. Some people like routines. Some people feel better with stricter sleep schedules or less social media or more deliberate habits. Great. Wonderful. I’m sincerely glad when people find something that makes their life easier.

The problem is the culture around it.

The culture is ableist because it treats “functioning” as a moral achievement and assumes everyone has the same body, brain, energy, pain level, sensory needs, executive function, and recovery capacity.

It is classist because so much of it quietly depends on flexible schedules, disposable income, safe housing, nutritious food access, leisure time, privacy, and the ability to refuse exploitative work conditions without immediately risking survival.

And it is Puritanical because underneath all the soft wellness language is the same old suspicion of pleasure: too much comfort will rot you, too much rest will weaken you, too much fun will corrupt you, too much convenience will make you less human. You are always supposed to be renouncing something. You are always supposed to be proving that you can suffer correctly.

That’s the part that bothers me.

Not “I tried changing this habit and it helped me.”

Not “I personally feel better when I do less of that.”

But the constant creep from personal preference into moral hierarchy. The assumption that a “better” life is always a more controlled life. The belief that every impulse must be interrogated, every pleasure audited, every habit optimized, every moment made legible to some invisible performance review.

And honestly, I think a lot of people would rather accuse everyone else of being addicted, lazy, dysregulated, or broken than admit how scared they are of being alive in a world where control is often partial, fragile, and unevenly distributed.

By all means, arrange your life in ways that help you. But the second your coping mechanism turns into a cudgel against people with different needs, different limits, different joys, different bodies, different schedules, different resources, or different definitions of a life worth living, it stops being self-improvement and starts being social pressure.

darkleysgarden

Sometimes I think about how, when they met, Achilles was considered extremely sweet and kind-hearted while Patroclus was considered a violent killer. And then by the time they die, Achilles is considered a violent killer while Patroclus is the one considered sweet and kind-hearted

copper-dust

Critical literacy moment, you didn't just mean "sometimes," did you.

#achilles #patroclus #patrochilles #the iliad #homers iliad

oysters-aint-for-me

do me a favor and plz reblog with your five most recently used non-face, non-hand, non-heart emojis

#🧶🌺📖☕🪖

saskamagina

A Hockey Love Story: Laura Stacey and Marie-Philip Poulin navigate marriage and career

#idk just too moving to not reblog

Thoughts on aging, and moving past the discourse

So much of what's discussed online no longer feels relevant to me. I don't know if this is a function of being past my twenties, or of struggling with chronic illness for a long, long time, but the following much-discussed topics on various social media platform no longer seem to interest, amuse, enrage or titillate me anymore:

-whether XYZ kind of person is a red flag in dating

I feel like no human being is a red flag because people are people, and even flawed people deserve love. Further, a lot of the "red flags" noted are just symptoms of poverty, or ADHD or autism or trauma...things that don't inherently make someone unlovable.

-whether XYZ media or media trope or hobby/pastime or fashion look is cringey

I just don't care anymore. I find the obsession with trying to know whether other people will perceive you as cool is just kind of adolescent. It's not on my mind anymore. People will dislike me for all kind of reasons. I will dislike some of them. That's it. Further, almost everything you can do past the age of thirty is going to get you labelled "cringey" or misogynistic slurs if you're female, because it's about ageism! Being alive as a woman over thirty is cringe. You're not an ingenue or a naif anymore. Move on.

-whether XYZ celebrity is "one of the good ones."

I feel like we need to reach this point where we recognize parasocial relationships with celebrities are one-sided, because we fundamentally don't know these people and if we did, we wouldn't think of them as celebrities anymore. Major celebrities are probably "problematic" more often than normal people because they're exposed to many degrees more temptation and are often surrounded by yes-men and enablers. Most of us normal people would probably not survive the celebrity bubble world of enabling, cossetting, fawning and constant surveillance without making some poor choices.

-whether such-and-such Jewish celebrity is one of the "good ones"

Please stop doing this. Really. Every moderate liberal Jew is under a world of pressure to both publically support and denounce Israel. It's a very painful topic, especially for those of us who abhor the government's recent's actions but also have family and friends living in Israel. Please don't assume that every Jew has political power and authority and could personally end Israeli atrocities in an instant except for their evil Zionist ways. We are really struggling with trying to communicate with our own families, let alone the media. I'll probably speak more about this in a separate post.

Anyway, I'm interested to hear anyone else's take on how their attitude toward these topics has changed over time.

#discourse #ageing #aging #nuance #my thoughts #thoughts

metanarrates

the slow casual creep of misogyny back into every point of our lives both digital and physical is making me feel fucking insane

metanarrates

2010s feminism was extremely flawed and deserved to be criticized but do you remember when most people at least pretended to like women

copper-dust

Sure, the Jezebel brand of cutesy Millennial feminism was kind of annoying, but look at what we have now... White House Dinners with Nick Fuentes, Ballerina Farm tradwife hell, "glass skin," horrifying beauty routines, "high value" women... it's exhausting to consider what it would actually take to become the Gen Z ideal woman.

#women's rights #feminism #thoughts

johaerys-writes

achilles son of peleus you have to stop. your waist too slutty. your swag too catastrophic. your doomed fate is too cunt. achilles son of peleus they'll kill you

tiktoksthataregood-ish

nitewrighter

Peer-reviewing tags by @dickwitch

copper-dust

This is the most effective advertisement I've ever seen.

NEW FIC PROMO ALERT

I know this isn't the chapter update for Check the Spindle or Merry Men that you've been asking for, but I've only recently returned to creativity after a very extended period of severe depression and illness. I do have a little something to share: The Sleeve, a pentina (a type of poem) set on the afternoon that Harry unsuccessfully attempts to convince Nearly Headless Nick that Sirius may come back as a ghost. If you enjoyed The Seam Between or All Your Seasick Sailors, you might enjoy The Sleeve. Plus, I made a little artwork to go with it. Enjoy.

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

#new fic #fic: the sleeve #harry potter #fanfiction #hp fanfiction #character: harry potter #character: sirius black

desolationlesbian

fiction got off soooo lucky with dreams and hallucinations. imagine if the human brain didn't come with a built-in path to surreal imagery that could perfectly represent abstract themes and emotional truths through metaphor. we'd be so fucked man

#perfect post #this is exactly the content I come to tumblr for

teaboot

I love that I share my house with one of the most efficient apex predators millions of years of evolution could produce. I love that two of nature’s most prolific machines met and were like “hmmm. We should lay around and do nothing together”. Now we’re both fat and happy and full of meat. The hedonism of it all

teaboot

Humans keeping cats and dogs as family members is like three prodigy assassins being introduced in the back of a shady nightclub and 45 minutes later they’re 6 crunchwrap supremes deep passing a blunt in the back of a shag carpeted Volkswagen microbus rating Oreo varietals by fuckability

miseria-fortes-viros

tumblr users have the unique ability to string together sentences never before seen in all of human history and yet they conjure up such specific visceral imagery that you can’t help but be a little in awe. and i think that’s beautiful

teaboot

Love and peace on planet earth

thememedaddy

#not at work but #i was in a car accident recently and the insurance company co cluded their investigation and said i was 0% at fault #and i don't think i've ever known such a feeling as someone officially recording that It Wasn't My Fault

gideonisms

The thing about a really good ship is I need it to be equal parts sweet and fucked up. It's like a lemonade. you want it half sour and half sweet because the two flavors are complementary. The love needs to be there so it can wreck their lives or they need to be wrecks so they can fall in love