my petty gripe about anachronism in historical/fantasy/spec-fic worlds is attraction language.
Weâve all heard the âshould you use modern queer labels or notâ argument but honestly even when people go âtrue, they wouldnât use the labels âaromanticâ or âasexual,ââ so often the characters describe their experiences as âI never felt romantic attractionâ or âI donât feel attracted to anyoneâ in ways that makes me go. You are stilllllll thinking about this in an extraordinarily modern online way. That 19th century steampunk detective man will NOT be angsting about having never felt romantic attraction, he would be angsting about being unable to feel moved by the beauty or charm of a woman, or something. And I do think that âattractivenessâ language is different from the identity-level idea of experiencing attractionâSherlock Holmes does not talk about not experiencing attraction, but when Watson says âWhat a very attractive woman!â Holmes responds âIs she? I did not observe.â (And then Watson calls him an inhuman automaton and calculating-machine and Holmes calls Watsonâs judgement biased). Never swayed by the attractiveness of a man or woman, never desirous of marriage, never charmed by the delights of love, all of these feel like some of the variety of ways that someone in this milieu might describe an ace- or aro-spectrum identity more than ânever felt attractionâ does. Mostly because, like the terms for aromantic and asexual themselves, nailing down an exclusively attraction-based definition of a-spec identities is a relatively new and extremely post-AVEN thing. And yet in fiction everybody knows to articulate their experience as feeling sexual/romantic attraction. And I always want to go nooo how would THIS character think about it?? Not how you think this character SHOULD think about it, how would THIS person in THIS context articulate their feelings?
#I think part of this language conversation should touch on how divisions between romantic and platonic love change with time and cultures#like romantic friendships are a thing we simply Do Not recognize anymore#sworn brotherhood is a relationship dynamic we do not recognize anymore#relationships that fuzz the line between what WE NOW consider romantic and platonic but were in their og context fully platonic--#or at least were defined by and overtly held space for fully platonic expressions--#were completely standard at various points in history#men could share a bed and that was considered platonic#women could write gushing love letters to each other and that was considered platonic#were some people queer-allosexual in this context and able to use these relationships to make space for themselves? absolutely#but ace/aro people had more options for fulfilling relationships than I think we give history credit for#so if we're encouraging writers to examine their ahistoric use of modern definitions of attraction#then IMO we should also be encouraging folks to examine their ahistoric use of modern models of romantic love#ok that's been my messy little addendum
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