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Call me Chuck. Terrifyingly, Technically an Adult. Also on ao3 at the same handle. Icon is a pair of converse by La Quoc Bao

[creekfiend]

there are a NUMBER of folktale Woman-Creatures like selkies who exist to make the inherently coercive nature of heterosexual marriage explicit and to externalize male anxiety about how if your wife had actual autonomy she very well might disappear and you might never fucking hear from her again

which is a FASCINATING category of Woman-Creature imo

[creekfiend]

someone said it's also a cautionary tale about mistreating your wife and I think that's spot on especially for other related types of stories e.g. the crane wife. like I think these stories are very much Husband Anxiety Stories. the Woman-Creatures are black boxes whose interior experience it is impossible to know and who have strange and often seemingly arbitrary rules that you must follow or else they will disappear. idk. like. that's why I think that any empowering-to-women-ness qualities of these stories is incidental. I think they're externalized anxiety about coercive societal heterosexuality and the inability to truly Know one's wife in such circumstances.

[whetstonefires]

you also see a variant of this formula a lot (generally at the more literary end of the fairy tale space) where it's not a creature you capture, but a magical lady who picks you for seemingly arbitrary reasons, bettering your fortune enormously with her magic and wealth and second-hand status.

and then, for reasons usually at least slightly less arbitrary, fucks off again.

the husbandly anxiety here is more about not having access to coercion as an option.

[creekfiend]

oooo yes absolutely!

[creekfiend]

was just talking to Story about this and he told me about one folktale where a guy meets a beautiful woman at a lake and she brings a bountiful dowry of like one million fat cows and such and she is of course a fairy so she's like "my one requirement in our bargain is that if you strike me three times I will leave" and in many versions of the story the husband doesn't ""actually"" strike her -- each time it's something like, one 'strike' involves her forgetting her gloves inside and he walks out and taps her on the shoulder with her gloves, but she tells him that counts as striking her. this sort of thing. which is TRANSPARENTLY like "whoa wouldn't it be fucked up if your wife could enforce consequences for behavior she said was harmful, even if according to your cultural norms it was fine, and you didn't see it as a big deal?" like... lol. what if women could actually be the ones who decided whether or not any given action their husbands took against them was harmful? IMAGINE... PREDEY SCARY....

[clockoftheheart]

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[samreich]

fun fact: a format that's been spun off into its own show - returning to its original show - is called a SPINON, i've decided

[nudityandnerdery]

Come on, Sam.

You spin it off, it comes back, it's clearly a Boomerang.

[toskarin]

I mean you've threatened to kill me a bunch of times. You once told me you were gonna drown me in a river like a kangaroo.

[warm laugh of fond reminiscence] I did do that

[animentality]

[annabelle--cane]

right so reportedly we got the karaoke scene in the movie because ryan gosling overheard sandra hüller singing to herself in some downtime on set and approached the directors to say "if we have her here and don't ask her to sing in the movie then we're insane," so the scene was hastily planned and recorded during the last day they had with that set; stratt grew up singing in an east german youth choir because hüller did, too. a fun meta textual wrinkle this adds is that gosling is also a singer but grace doesn't take a turn with the mic, so you can read the scene not just as stratt saying "I am a full human being, I just can't be for this project, you get to see it for two minutes before I turn it off again" but additionally "you could be doing this exact same thing but you aren't even willing to give us two minutes." his doomed work friend the trained choral singer, his fated bestie the being who communicates only through song, his world-saving probes named for the most famous musicians ever, his choir-based soundtrack underpinning all his actions, and his unwillingness to sing himself.

[annabelle--cane]

"ryan gosling can sing?" yeah mate! he had a band, la la land was a musical, he had that song in the barbie movie, and I think there was a lot of singing involved in being a mouseketeer but idk I'm ten years too young to have ever seen any of that. I'm quite partial to this clip from lars and the real girl because that is some very good control and support for someone lying on their back with their legs propped up. if you haven't seen the movie then don't even worry about the life sized doll btw she's great she works as a hairdresser.

[annabelle--cane]

#i normally headcanon that he's tone deaf #but ykw the idea that grace CAN sing and chose not to in the karaoke scene.... it really fits......... #he doesn't wanna embarrass himself. he doesn't wanna be vulnerable. very typical grace moment. #he keeps making these brief little grabs for human connection then walking it back. he'll go a certain distance but no further. #it would fit really well with the scene before that where he and stratt are talking #which is framed in the directors' commentary as another bid for connection from him but like. it kind of isn't? #or if it is then it's not a very good one. #he says she's mysterious. she shares a personal fact about herself. #which he does not react to or respond to in any way #then proceeds to bulldoze over the conversation just talking about whatever he was planning on talking about anyway. #like. i guess he is reaching out to stratt in his own way? #but it pretty clearly demonstrates that he doesn't really see her or know her as a person and isn't that interested in doing so. #like. he's in there sitting at the bar doing paperwork. #staring wistfully at other people Making Connections then avoiding their gaze when they catch him at it. #he won't go over to join any of these people he's known and worked with for possibly YEARS at this point #and he won't get up there and sing. because that necessitates trying‚ which carries the implied possibility of failing. #being part of something means maybe getting hurt when you don't have it any more. (via @grimark)

hope you don't mind me pulling this out of the tags (edit after writing this rest of this: and sorry for hitting you with a wall of text, this was meant to be two paragraphs max 😭) because that is an internal contradiction in the scene that really grabs me. I think it is an honest bid for connection, grace is trying to do a "haha it looks like we're both a little uncomfortable with the party dya wanna talk about that maybe..." and he wouldn't have approached her in the first place if he weren't interested in trying to make something happen there, but he fumbles it because a) he's still scared of connection even when it's what he's looking for so keeps hedging instead of being direct, and b) he fundamentally misunderstands that her reason for being a wallflower is different than his.

first, you're completely right, he's making a series of grabs here and keeps walking them back. what he wants is to bond with the only other person who looks like she's also uncomfortable over how interacting with people is difficult and makes them both uncomfortable, and he demonstrates his difficulties with interaction very elegantly by failing to start small-talk like four times in a row and apologizing for even trying to initiate a conversation before getting to the one thing he's there to say. he wants to stand close to her, but he chooses the side of her the puts a big metal pole between them. he asks her a few personal questions and gets sincere answers, but then he feels awkward and looks away and pulls his hat over his eyes. he wants to connect with her but no he doesn't. he wants what he wants but no that's scary.

secondly, and this it where I think the Internal Contradiction secret sauce is hidden, his small-talk keeps failing because stratt negates nearly everything he says in this scene. "permission to board?" "you're already aboard" / "did you get a free hat?" "I bought them" / "you don't sing?" "yes I do" / "you're mysterious" "no I'm not" / "sorry for bothering you" "you aren't bothering me" / "this is a weird party" "is it?" / "this must be hard for you" "no it isn't." he's making a lot of casual assumptions about the kind of humor she responds to, her recent activities, her hobbies, whether she even likes him, etc., every single one of them is wrong, and they all underpin his main wrong assumption about her in this scene: why it is that she's hanging back from the party. he thinks it's the same as his reason, i.e., that she finds social interaction and vulnerability difficult. she doesn't. he gets tongue-tied trying to make conversation with her and feels awkward about it because he thinks it makes her feel awkward, but she doesn't mind it at all. he's being a wallflower because connection is difficult for him, but she is being a wallflower out of a choice not to connect. it won't help her do her job, so she's abstaining. this is a bona fide bid at bonding from him, he's saying "want to bond about how neither of us can bond?", but because he hasn't bonded with her he's blind to the fact that she isn't bound to not being able to bond.

he gets the closest to really talking to her and learning more about her as a person in the last moments of the scene by asking some big questions that he doesn't try and pre-answer, but then he averts his eyes, falls back on trying to make a joke with his salute, and leaves. he's actually doing it there for a second! he directly says what's on his mind and stops autofilling who he thinks she is, and she responds positively by hitting him with that big smile, and then he just. shrinks away again. he works out how to stop fumbling this conversation and gets exactly the connection he'd come to her for and then balks at it. the existential questions about god and humanity's future are suddenly too much. when he's on his A-game he can successfully bait her into breaking her "no camaraderie for me" rule, but he won't respond to her in kind. she'll take a turn at karaoke to show everyone that she can; he won't.

movie!grace's central character flaw is that he thinks he just can't, he believes that he lacks the secret sauce that makes other people full, competent individuals who are capable of doing hard things and being meaningful to each other. this is untrue, he absolutely can, he just hasn't figured out how. to bring this back to the singing, his bid to her here is basically sidling up to say "hey, you also Can't, right?", having difficultly accepting it when it seems like she actually Can, aborting the mission when he also Can for a few seconds in a row, and then watching in silence as she demonstrates that, yes, she absolutely Can. he goes into the interaction thinking they're alike in both being unable, she finishes the interaction by suggesting they're alike in both being able. he might not know how to steel his nerves and get on the mic just now, but fundamentally he could make the exact same choice as her and do the exact same thing if he so chose to motivate himself.

[fireflysummers]

I'm apparently so consistently aroace that a friend of mine uses me as a measurement for whether or not something counts as "romantic," based on when I stop understanding what he's talking about.

[fireflysummers]

@loraxofygg Stop being funnier than me on my own post (/j).

[the-real-seebs]

Someone linked me this beautiful poster, and I'm just really impressed.

My contribution:

[harveyguillensource]

A selection of some of our fave Harvey Guillén fashion moments in 2025!

Harvey showcased a lot of new designers throughout the year, alongside his ongoing collaborations with Christian Siriano!

His Emmys fashion journey showed this in microcosm: he slayed in Bishme Cromartie to announce the Emmy nominations, in Siriano at the Creative Arts Emmys, in Harry Halim at the Primetime Emmys, and in Cucculelli Shaheen at the post-Emmys parties.

Harvey continued to highlight sheer textures in his looks and added a new twist with temporary tattoos on his arms for a couple of red carpets. He introduced pleated pieces by Homme Plissé Issey Miyake and explored new ways to show some skin with backless outfits by Siriano and Jonathan Marc Stein early in the year. He leaned into leather with a stunning photoshoot also in Jonathan Marc Stein, repped fat positivity with a Mameko Maeda Tenga X Artist sweater, and featured eco-friendly fashion with Romina Cardillo at the premiere of Companion. Plus, he revived one of his earliest fashion collabs, with Ashton Michael, at the 2025 Latine Honors.

Check the image descriptions for the events and designers for each look!

Which 2025 Harvey fashion moment is your favorite? We can't wait to see what he wears in 2026!

[failure-to-adult]

[what-even-is-thiss]

What would a Yankee Candle go for in ancient Greece?

tbh the most confusing thing about it to them would probably be the glass that the candle is contained in. They might try to buy information about glass from you.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Yeah basically

[what-even-is-thiss]

Yeah I should’ve clarified (pun intended). They had glass in the ancient world especially in Rome and Egypt but it was basically super heated sand and color additives put in a mold and often looked opaque and kinda lumpy. Even if it was blown like it was in some regions it wouldn’t have looked like modern glass.

Clear blown glass like you’d see a modern scented candle contained in wasn’t invented until the late Middle Ages and certainly wasn’t mass produced until the 1500s and even then places like Venice that had knowledge of these techniques literally forbid their glassmakers from leaving their city or region so other people couldn’t make it, forcing artificial scarcity and making it a very expensive material.

So if you showed a yankee candle to an Ancient Greek, especially one from a city or something, they’d be like burning scented wax okay not something I’d do but it makes sense. Also how the fuck is that glass transparent.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Like imagine if someone brought you something weird but understandable contained in a material that they said was made out of wood and you could tell that it’s clearly made out of wood they’re not lying about that but it was also completely transparent and see through with no visible flaws. That’s about the level of weird we’re talking about here.

[animnightmare]

It isnt flawless, but transparent wood does already exist actually

[what-even-is-thiss]

What the fuck I feel like a medieval peasant seeing an iPhone

[unyieldingsilence]

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[what-even-is-thiss]

Who goes there

[d3athwish]

me, mentally flipping through the various daydream universes i’ve crafted up like records in a crate: hmm, which fantasy shall i indulge in tonight?

[mamoru]

life pro tip: if you happen to be considering purchasing an LG TV or monitor, you possibly want to pick something else! and if you have an LG monitor that has not been plugged into anything in a while, you might want to leave it that way!

if you already have an LG monitor or TV or intend to buy one, you probably want to watch this video and keep an eye on gamers nexus for updates (or anyone else covering the LG spying situation):

posted july 16 2026

LG is doing some bad things. how bad? well. here are some very brief bullet points. I am not an expert, gamers nexus is, see the video for more information than this:

LG monitors (brand new and years old, cheap and expensive) auto-install LG's own adware-spyware called LG Monitor App onto windows 10 and 11 computers. you plug in an LG monitor for video output and this gets installed automatically. no hitting OK, no confirmation, no toggles, NOTHING.

the auto-installed LG Monitor App auto-grants itself access to your internet connection and ALL computer resources. the LG Monitor App has the ability to collect: geolocation data, device data, personal information, online activity data, contact data, and more!

...and it shows pop-up ads! because fuck you

on some affected versions of windows, auto-installed shitware like the LG Monitor App can be prevented by navigating to gpedit.msc -> computer configuration -> administrative templates -> system -> device installation -> prevent automatic download of applications associated with metadata

...but, if your LG monitor already installed the LG Monitor App, this is like closing the barn door after the horse got out. and that horse has the logs of everything you were doing on your computer! someone stop that fucking horse!!!

unrelated to the LG Monitor App, many LG TV owners are now required to tell all household members and guests that their LG TV is recording and processing ALL nearby voices. or else they may be in violation of local eavesdropping and wiretapping laws. for owning a fucking LG TV.

plus, how many businesses, workplaces, public spaces use LG TVs?

allegedly the microphone spying can be turned off by disabling microphone features, but LG has been caught disregarding opt-out settings before.

LG TVs can record everything that happens on the TV, including the video output of connected devices like phones, computers, gaming consoles, anything that happens on the TV screen.

LG was sued for their spying, and as a result of that spying suit, now shows pop-ups saying oops! they got caught spying and intend to continue spying. thanks for buying LG!

as of when the video was posted, there was no list of every spying LG monitor or TV. but this stuff is getting rolled out to more and more LG devices, including those purchased years ago.

and that is the shortest summary I can make of this situation without just summarizing more of the gamers nexus video.

@gamersnexus.bsky.social

Update: We are working on a follow-up to the LG story and have some disturbing findings re: LG's products. It will take us a while to parse

⬆️posted july 23 2026

gamers nexus is fairly respected in technology journalism. they fly around the world investigating companies that fuck people over and have pressured major companies to make major changes over the years.

so for gamers nexus to say that this LG spying situation is both unprecedented in how uniquely bad it is in this era of spying, and that it gets even worse than their video where they already say to stop buying and using LG products while recanting every prior recommendation for LG products?

oooooofff

[stardazeart]

[annabelle--cane]

🎤 speak more on eva stratt dom drop

eva stratt is thee #1 poster child for telling submissive partners "You Must speak up and tell me if you don't like something and/or if you want me to do something else, those are The Rules and my word is law" without everrrr considering that the same thing also applies to her. she'll feel weird or uncomfortable or think "oh fuck that sounded way too close to their real discomfort/pain sounds but when I check they just say green" but simply keep the calm cool persona on because that's what she thinks she has to do as the person who's "in charge" and running the scene. she knows that everyone else in the world has feelings that need accommodation and management, it merely just so happens that she doesn't, which is why she 100% does not need aftercare nope nuh uh not her. now if you'll excuse her she's going to have a very long shower at a suspiciously scalding temperature.

[cannibalchicken]

[werewolfweed]

this image made me so sad I had to clean him and give him a hot cocoa

[sam-starling]

🎉 TIGER TIGER WON AN EISNER!!!! 🎉

i unfortunately don't have time rn to make something new, so here's a repost of an old animation i did :D

(everybody go read Tiger Tiger RIGHT NOW!!!!!!)