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69 cities in the united kingdom and forty seven thousand pubs

england is smaller than my state and has like almost as many bars as the entire US combined. like it's just 10,000 short of catching up to the US, a country with almost 5 times its population

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going to one pub every single day it would take you 130 years to go to every pub in britain

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I've plugged our route into Google, who's with me

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Pub crawl impractical think we’re going to have to pub speedrun this one lads

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Perfect combination of fresh snow and fall colors in Yosemite National Park [2000x2501][OC] - Author: mrcnzajac on reddit

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Today marks 30 years of Star Trek: Deep Space Nine! Here's an appreciation post featuring some more episode artwork I've made over the past few years.

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He is once again so right

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Change. Again.

I am having a real internal battle over whether your partner should or shouldn’t be able to ask you to change.

My initial gut reaction is that you should love your partner for who they are and want to be with them complete with their vices, flaws, insecurities, bad habits, and lifestyle - and vice versa. The idea that you “like everything about someone except one thing” has gotten me almost two years and a planned engagement deep into a terrible idea. Part of me feels that you shouldn’t go in to a relationship with the thought of changing the other person because that’s not the point. Love me as I am, or leave, you know? Because I don’t know how I would react if the other person asked me to change something about myself.

And then I flip the other way. If a relationship is a partnership in spirit, body, and world, what is wrong with identifying something that is making one or both of you less successful, or healthy, or productive? This started when I read something to the effect of “if you love someone enough you should be willing to make changes in the way you live your life.” I mean, when you move in together, you’re changing. You’re changing your daily routine, the way you interact with each other, and so many more things. If a relationship is two beings choosing to move forward through time and life, shouldn’t there exist the premise of making changes (big or small) that change the path the two of you take?

I feel at the heart of this dilemma is the idea that the flaws you point out in your partner (or anyone in life) are actually the things that you don’t like about your character or lifestyle, not theirs. Another way I look at this is if I wait for someone to come along with all of the traits that I consider desirable with absolutely nothing I don’t like or wish they would change I could be waiting for a very long time. So one part of my brain kicks in and says learning to accept these limitations is part of the fundamental reason relationships are formed.

But where does the line get drawn? If you are living with someone and an addiction develops - to drugs, gambling, food, video games, anything - are you wrong to wish they would change that part of their character? You know it is for their - and the relationship’s - well-being, so would wishing your partner to change in this case be considered selfish and inappropriate? Are you supposed to just accept it as the “love me or leave me” mantra so popular with the dating generations today?

And therein lies what I feel will be my biggest struggle with dating and relationships going forward. I know the perfect person doesn’t exist, so how do I temper and distinguish between the things that I should just accept and those things that should be a long term goal to work on?

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“And I don’t think anybody should feel bad if they get diagnosed with a mental illness, ’cause it’s just information about you that helps you to know how to take better care of yourself.

“Being bipolar, there’s nothing wrong with it. Being bipolar is like not knowing how to swim. It might be embarrassing to tell people, and it might be hard to take you certain places. But they have arm floaties. And if you just take your arm floaties, you can go wherever the hell you want.

“And I know some of you are like, ‘But Taylor, what if people judge me for taking arm floaties?’ Well, those people don’t care if you live or die, so maybe who cares? Maybe fuck those people a little. I don’t know.”

Taylor Tomlinson, Look At You (2022)