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she/her ✿ sometimes writing, probably procrastinating, perpetually in a crisis

[headspace-hotel]

No offense but the internet gives you the most wrong and fucked up idea of helping people because people get mad if you don't care about disasters happening in 72 countries, meanwhile the people in real life that are doing the most good picked one VERY SPECIFIC thing to care about and care about it REALLY HARD

[headspace-hotel]

Walks up to a guy working on restoring a native tree species to his downtown "why aren't you posting about grasses in Turkmenistan!"

[headspace-hotel]

The internet has taken a whole generation of bright, motivated, passionate young people who care and have big hearts and turned them into paralyzed, shattered wrecks too crushed by the weight of the world's pain to hand a pair of socks to a person in need

[achillesinhighheels]

sorry i can’t go out tonight i’m at home sitting down

[jesterlesbian]

hey anyone figured out another way out but through. i’d love to not go through

[byjove]

I can’t remember if I told you guys this but my grandpa paid a guy to put up a rock retaining wall in the backyard when my grandparents moved into their house in 1966. They live at the bottom of a mountain. The wall finally collapsed this year and my grandfather with dementia was PISSED OFFFFFF and he wanted so badly to call the guy who did it and chew him out for doing a bad job. My grandma is trying to explain that the wall lasted 60 years and the guy who did the work is probably dead and it TURNS OUT HE IS STILL ALIVE. Now we’re worried grandpa is going to get through to him (small town) and we’re going to see two 85 year old men come to blows over a rock wall that has been there since the mid-60s. My grandpa is a scrapper, he’s been to jail over a bar fight, the possibility that he WOULD fight this guy is high.

To top it off? The stone mason is the only person in town with one arm so grandpa would definitely recognize him if he saw him. If that is your grandpa, please protect him from my grandpa.

[postapocalypticparenting]

Actually what is the expected lifespan of a stone wall? I grew up in New England

[byjove]

I don’t know. They could last indefinitely in perfect conditions on flat land. Like I said, they’re at the bottom of a mountain in Appalachia and this wall has held back 60 years of snow melt and ground shifting and it has survived countless major weather events. In my opinion it is very good work and I think 60 is a good run for a rock retaining wall. The problem is that grandpa feels like the wall was put up recently so he thinks it is shitty craftsmanship. He’s mad because he can’t quite grasp that this wall has done its job for 60 years. Dementia is a terrible disease but if you don’t laugh you’ll cry and grandpa’s righteous indignation at this man’s work is kinda hilarious.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

does the body ALWAYS have to keep the score? maybe we could just have a friendly game this time. maybe we can just have fun without putting numbers on it

[writingdose]

writers, instead of asking ai for help, you can always use your childhood trauma and repressed issues to help you with that fic

[sapphling]

the more time you spend in active recovery from any given self destructive behavior or addiction the more you understand the common conception of the "relapse" as defined by a broken "streak" to be, like, so bad for one's own well-being that it would be funny if it weren't resulting in just a lot of misery and death

[the-peoples-puppy]

I told my girlfriend to think of quitting vaping as training her endurance by seeing how long she can run before she gets tired, then doing it again and hoping to go further next time. She said it really helped her.

[duckbunny]

don't infantilise yourself. you are not a child who needs an adult to make your decisions for you. you are a splendid and magnificent autocrat and you are consulting your trusted advisors. you are exercising great wisdom by inviting an expert to give their opinion before making your ruling. often the path of wisdom is to say "good morning, I'm trying to [perform task] and I have a question about [aspect], can you tell me who I should speak to for advice?" before you do it. sometimes the path of wisdom is to hire a plumber. there are times when you cannot do things for yourself but that doesn't mean you are not an adult. you don't need a grown-up. you need a specialist.

[sarcasticmothwrites]

As a full-blown adult with a mortgage and a child, I can assure you that not only is this true, but the key to successful adulthood is knowing who to ask for help. Most complicated situations have professionals whose job it is to know how to do the thing. Need to buy a house? Realtor. Trying to figure out insurance? Broker. And if you can’t figure out who to ask, look for a neighbor, coworker, relative, boss, etc who’s done it and ask them for a referral. Who does your hair? Where did you get those shoes? How do you figure out withholding on your W-2? In my experience, people who’ve been through a thing are delighted to share their experiences with you.

[moghedien]

I feel like I need to share this because idk if Europeans are familiar with the presence of Aldi in the US, but at least especially in my area they’ve been growing a lot recently. Like Aldi bought out some local failing grocery chains where I live (Louisiana) and have opened Aldis in all these somewhat rural communities and small towns, which for the record I’m fine with

But as a result of this they are advertising a lot more in my area and also in many cases, the people in these areas have never been confronted with Aldi or any European grocery store. So the ads that Aldi is pushing out to its new US customer base feature a cowboy shopping at Aldi who is explaining to new Aldi customers how Aldi works. Like this cowboy is explaining you gotta put a quarter in the shopping cart and why there are very little name brands. A cowboy is how they want to reach their American customer base. They gave us a cowboy

[moghedien]

Here he is, the Aldi Cowboy

[trytocallmecal]

Two things:

is it Aldi Süd or Aldi Nord?

Will this end like the time walmart tried to operate in germany?

[theneonmark]

1. Aldi Süd. I believe Aldi Nord became Trader Joe's out here?

2. Aldi (all references now are to Süd) has been operating in the US for decades. I believe it started US operations in Iowa, which is where I was born and raised. I grew up on Aldi. It's inexpensive, small, and easier to shop at than our usual big box stores in the US with my disabilities. It's finally growing well beyond the Midwest, but I would definitely say it's got staying power and won't be chased out of the country!

[teaboot]

Can I be honest with yall I don't want to hear SHIT against cishets at pride this year

[teaboot]

"But it's not FOR them!!!" The biggest military power in the world belongs to a christofascist nation overseen by a felon found guilty of 34 federal crimes and has greenlit a gestapo with more direct funding than the entire military of Canada for the purpose of ethnic cleansing. Let Hetero Jessica throw some biodegradable glitter at a municipal parade

[teaboot]

At this point if anyone is trying to exclude anyone benignly pro-queer from a pro-queer space I'm just going to assume you're a fed or something idk like something something destabilize the movement from within or whatever

[findingfeather]

I am making a VERY big point of the Ally flag in all my pride stuff at work.

Feel awkward about people maybe thinking you’re queer but still want to clearly signal “queers are okay with me”? SURE. LOVE IT. HERE’S YOUR WEIRD FLAG.

Don’t fucking at me about allies right now, they are ALSO actually getting fucking killed over us. Take your puri-gay shitty tent somewhere else mine is great with people’s cishet friends and relatives showing up to have our backs.

(“but what if they -“ shitty behavior is shitty behavior I don’t care if you INVENTED queer sex, if you’re acting like a douche i’ll kick you out. wanna act decent and accept the premises of queer coexistence and freedom, cool, i’m not judging you for feeling ok with the gender title they gave you in the delivery room or being attracted to people with the other standard issue title, grab a pop).

[queercripintersex]

Agreed, and also what the hell is is going to take for people to recognize that there are cishet queers? Intersex, asexual, and aromantic people are queer, it's exclusionary to be using cishet as a synonym for nonqueer.

[anneapocalypse]

Setting aside the question of how you would even know who's "cishet" at Pride if you don't know them personally because it's not like you can always tell just by looking!!! I cannot emphasize enough just how important it is, especially at times like this, that Hetero Jessica comes to Pride and brings all her friends to wear rainbows and wave flags and buy some merch from queer-owned small businesses and eat some kettle corn.

While it is true that some LGBTQIA+ gatherings are meant to be more private safe spaces, PRIDE is a public event that is both celebration and demonstration. More people coming to Pride:

makes it safer for queer people to be there if they aren't out publicly.

sends a message to local businesses and local officials alike that queer rights still have a large support base and aren't a niche demographic they can safely ignore.

And as for the rainbow capitalism? Unless you have a plan to abolish capitalism next week, I am going to call it a win that my local bank and supermarket are out making a show of their willingness to hire trans people and give mortgages to same-gender couples.

We need all the solidarity we can get. 🏳️‍🌈 Happy Pride.

[tinygameralec]

shitty behavior is shitty behavior I don’t care if you INVENTED queer sex, if you’re acting like a douche i’ll kick you out.

Getting this on a shirt cause goddamn some people need a constant reminder

[petewentzisblack1312]

we seriously need to stop conceding to the personhood trap when it comes to abortion rights. is a fetus a person? thats a spiritual question. i dont care about the answer. should another person dictate what someone can do with their body? simple answer: no.

[petewentzisblack1312]

like if a fetus isnt a person it has no right to my body and if a fetus IS a peson it also has no right to my body because there is no other context in which we are required to put ourselves at risk of physical harm to preserve another persons safety or even life.

you dont have to save someone from drowning even if youre a strong swimmer. even in death youre not required to donate organs and that could save several people. you can kill someone if you truly believe your safety is at risk. we dont mandate preservation of life over autonomy in any of these circumstances.

[heavensghost]

ur twenties are for seeing how many mistakes u can make in the shortest amount of time possible and getting a cool haircut

[heedra]

unsung benefit i think a lot of ppl are sleeping on with using the public library is that i think its a great replacement for the dopamine hit some ppl get from online shopping. it kind of fills that niche of reserving something that you then get to anticipate the arrival of and enjoy when it arrives, but without like, the waste and the money.

[nonimaginaryfriend]

bonus it ALSO fills that dopamine hit of in-person shopping. “oh I didn’t go in looking for this but hmm, I’m tempted… I can’t resist… oh ho ho I have made some irresponsible decisions at the library today [carrying my stack of ten random books]” and then it doesn’t even matter if you don’t like them because a) free b) you’re gonna give them back anyway

[grumpy-cardigan]

Librarian here! Please please please please PLEASE do this! We don’t have any way to know if you read them, and we don’t care! We’re happy to see those books go out because that helps our stats. And that affects how much money we can get.

So grab that silly paperback romance, and maybe this new YA fantasy, oh and check for the new movies too! And don’t forget to check Libby and hoopla for music and ebooks and e-audio.

[sightofsea]

love when cats hear that you've woken up even just a little bit and they're like hiiiiiii oh my god oh my god!!!!! i wrote some poems in the night let me recite them for you. this one is called: screaming and knocking your water bottle off your nightstand

[finally-figured-it-out]

There was a young man from Peru

Whose limericks stopped at line two

[finally-figured-it-out]

There once was a man from Verdun

[genteelblackhole42]

There once was a man from the sticks Whose limericks stopped at line six. They were fine till line five Then they took quite a dive — But the problem is easy to fix If you just ignore the last line, it doesn't even follow the rhyme scheme oh god I've really lost control of this thing I'm so sorry...

[shredsandpatches]

There once was a man

From Cork who got limericks

And haiku confused.

[ruckuscauser]

There once was a man from the sticks

Who liked to compose limericks

But he failed at the sport

Because he wrote them too short

[alphabetcompletionist]

There once was a man from the Kells

Whose limericks mixed with villanelles

Said he, when you asked

Which line would come last,

"There once was a man from the Kells."

ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXY

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[chongoblog]

There once was a man from online

We know he wrote limericks so fine

In which he’d do better

Now with each line’s first letter

Ended the limerick with that word:

[creekfiend]

I don't think men saying out of pocket shit to me on the internet is because they're men. everyday billions of men wake up and don't say out of pocket shit to me on the internet. this is clearly an active choice

[creekfiend]

genuinely one of the scariest and saddest kinds of conversations that I find myself regularly having with various women is where they will describe something that a man in their life has done or said to them that is absolutely horrific and then when you express horror about it they are just like "haha well you know how men are"

girl that is not how men are. I have many men in my life who I care about and none of them are like that. that man is not biologically compelled to treat you like shit. it's a choice he is making. ARERRGH

[fagcrisis]

ideologically i disagree with outside cats but i cannot deny the allure of being able to just meet a little guy anytime anywhere