Untitled because object permanence 🤯

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[depsidase]

[dandelionsresilience]

Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Niger has just become the first country to ever criminalise asexuality ‼️‼️‼️

[shadowen]

This is an anti-despair checkpoint! You must share something you're looking forward to before scrolling on.

[creativepromptsforwriting]

good traits gone bad

perfectionism - never being satisfied

honesty - coming off as rude and insensitive

devotion - can turn into obsession

generosity - being taken advantage of

loyalty - can make them blind for character faults in others

being dependable - always depending on them

ambitiousness - coming off as ruthless

optimism - not being realistic

diligence - not able to bend strict rules

protectiveness - being overprotective

cautiousness - never risking anything

being determined - too focussed on one thing

persuasiveness - coming off as manipulative

tidiness - can become an obsession

being realistic - being seen as pessimistic

assertiveness - coming off as bossy

pride - not accepting help from others

innocence - being seen as naive

selflessness - not thinking about themself enough

being forgiving - not holding others accountable

curiosity - asking too many questions

persistence - being seen as annoying

being charming - can seem manipulative

modesty - not reaching for more

confidence - coming off as arrogant

wit/humor - not taking things serious

patience - being left hanging

strategic - coming off as calculated

being caring - being overbearing

tolerance - being expected to tolerate a lot

eagerness - coming off as impatient

being observant - being seen as nosy

independence - not accepting help

being considerate - forgetting about themself

fearlessness - ignoring real danger

politeness - not telling what they really think

reliability - being taken advantage of

empathy - getting overwhelmed with feeling too much for other people

[apolladay]

Did you work during any of the Covid lockdowns?

yes outside the home

yes but from home

yes to both of the above

no but I wasn't/couldn't/didn't work anyway

no Covid stopped my job at some point

nuance/other/results

Voting ended onJun 24

[canichangemyblogname]

This June, I need Gen Z queers to understand that some people are closeted.

[canichangemyblogname]

I am saying this as a Gen Z queer, before y’all get your guns out to fucking shoot me.

But I need y’all to understand that if someone doesn’t give you their government name in a queer space, it’s not because they’re “mysterious,” and you do not have permission to take it upon yourself to figure out their “real identity” and go digging for them online like a private investigator. First, that’s creepy and a violation of privacy and reasonable boundaries. Second, some of us keep our private and professional lives very separate because we need to keep food on the fucking table and a roof over our heads, and our private life could jeopardize that.

[canichangemyblogname]

“Why won’t you tell me about your parents?” “Why can’t I know your real name?” “Where do you work?”

1.) Not all our parents would bake us a fucking cake when we come out. Some of us are closeted. Surely you understand this? You also do not need to know my parent’s names or occupations; we are both adults. I do not need nor want to mix you and my private life with my parents and my public life.

2.) Trans people do not owe you their dead name or government name

3.) I’m not telling you for the sake of job security. I am a government fucking caseworker working amidst a fucking lavender panic!

“There’s no way you’re a different person outside this; you’re still you at your core. What harm is there—”

No, I am a completely different person. A different person with a different personality and different interests and a different name and presentation. I am a completely different person because I keep this life and my public life private to avoid fracturing 90% of my interpersonal relationships and 100% of my professional ones.

“You’re not out? But you’re so confident.”

See— that’s part of the issue. Y’all assume someone is in the closet because they hate themselves or lack self-identity. Some of us know exactly who we are, but need to prioritize financial stability or else our entire life gets exponentially harder immediately.

[canichangemyblogname]

You meet queer people over the age of 40 and one of the first/earliest questions is “who knows?”

I need y’all to start bringing that energy. Because it’s not always safe for someone to be out and not everyone is safe to be out around.

There is a misnomer that “the closet” inherently means “doesn’t know they’re queer” and not “isn’t out widely and publicly.” “Outness” is often a patchwork.

[the-scottish-costume-guy]

Even if someone who isnt out does share any life details with you, you keep those to yourself. You tread carefully and assume others dont know until told otherwise. And sometimes you lie and help keep that closet door shut. It is ok to feel super weird about it if someone comes out to you as trans but tells you to only use their preferred name and pronouns privately just the two of you. It's fine to feel uncomfortable when people ask you if a gay person has an opposite gendered partner. It is so valid to feel weird and bad deadnaming someone even though they requested it. It stops being valid if you do anything other than they asked. Feel your feelings, and keep them to yourself - someone else's identity isn't about you.

[neverbreakheart]

[starlightshadowsworld]

A 30 year old Sudanese man in Belfast was charged with attempted murder by stabbing and it has unsurprisingly sparked racist riots across the city.

Migrant homes are being set on fire and people are having to be evacuated into emergency accommodation. With the youngest being a 2 month old baby. It doesn’t stop there either, their cars are being set ablaze and migrant owned businesses are being destroyed.

Schools are sending pupils back home because they’re afraid of more violence breaking out.

It’s just…I don’t even have words for it you know. I do hope the victim is able to heal and get justice for what happened to them.

But it doesn’t warrant this.

Why is it when one white person does something wrong it’s only the individual who gets punished. But if the perpetrator happens to be of the global majority then we’re all punished for it.

It’s not all men but somehow it’s all Black people, all immigrants, all Asians etc.

People are being burned out of their homes and for what? No one whose participating in this violence is doing it cause they care about the victim.

They’re just using a tragedy as fuel for their racist bullshit. It fits their narrative so they’re going to go to town and do what they have always wanted to do.

But now suddenly feel they have a pass for.

If you’re BAME in Belfast I hope things will be okay for you. I hope all the violence dies down and you can rebuild what you’ve lost. God I can’t even say stay indoors anymore because that’s not even safe anymore.

Who does this protect? Who feels safe seeing all of this? I guarantee no one does.

[crazyhickofftheirrocker]

Lads, after 3 intolerable months of inertia/burnout, I finally submitted another thesis draft chapter.

Admittedly it was chronically late (both timeline wise and also having sent it at 3am, prompting my supervisor to be like "you got it done 🥳 but seriously, at that hour, are you okay 😵‍💫")

But on the plus side, still banked about 8hrs sleep, got to chill and do life admin to make myself feel more human and less bedroom hobbit AND I get to meet up with one of my best friends tomorrow for the first time in 6 months for a day of coffee and bookshop-hopping 😎🥳💃

This is entirely unnecessary information but as the past 3 months have felt like one colossal bad day on repeat, I'm shamelessly sharing my delight and excitement because if I don't, it might disappear 🫠

[smallpwbbles]

Happy pride month my peeps!! (Why the fuck are we half way thru the year already?)

[thedankmemes]

[ktempestbradford]

Wow, the IT ME is strong with this one.

[leighlew3]

ALL. OF. THIS.

[crazyhickofftheirrocker]

Just realised my next academic conference coincides with Edinburgh Pride. Guess where I'm going once we finish up on Saturday:

[winterskyfirefly-deactivated202]

Reblog to hug prev poster (they need a hug)

[notlayingroses]

Everything I read about recovering from burnout is like “it takes months or even years to fully recover” and it’s like okay…. I have a weekend before I gotta clock in on Monday

[beardedmrbean]

[theman]

I GOT A FUCKING RAISE THE POTATO WORKED WTF

[tattooedzombigirl]

This potato works. Every. Fucking. Time.

[secondlina]

Reblogging because it’s a damn potato and I want to encourage people to assume potatoes are magical.

[admiringlove]

my exam is coming up :(

[camilaxmartin]

please😵‍💫

[dark-night-insomniac]

Fine i need a raise

[pandamiswifey]

I need luck

[nika1882]

Fine, let's see if I make $200 tomorrow...

[platypus-quacks-too]

Ya estoy aquí.

Ya estás aquí. Dios mío, estás aquí.

I'm here now.

You're here now. Oh my God, you're here.

Sueños de libertad | Ep. 561