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"Other people are going through worse" so? So what? That doesn't mean you're not sad. That doesn't mean you're not suffering. That doesn't make your pain less valid.

You shouldn't feel like your struggles don't matter. Your feelings are important.

Just because there are bigger problems out there doesn't mean you're not going through something tough.

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“Don’t judge yourself by what others did to you.”

— C. Kennedy

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Your trauma is valid even if you felt in control of the situation at the time and didn’t realize you were being traumatized.

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Some people won’t understand your trauma, and they won’t understand your recovery. But know this: You deserve to heal. You deserve to grow, to live, to survive. You deserve to be who you are.

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shoutout to all the people who are working hard as fuck to heal themselves but can’t fully heal because they’re still stuck in toxic situations or around toxic people. please know you’re doing all that you can. you got this. keep going.

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“I couldn’t heal because I kept pretending I wasn’t hurt.”

— Unknown

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why can’t i smile?

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coelacanth

Sometimes I remember the sheer scale of evolutionary alterations that coelacanths have muscled their way through

the weight of eons of change and incremental improvement on a cellular level that have been concealed under, to what our eyes, an ossified limb configuration that’s remained stagnant in its antiquity.

So I can seek comfort in my own improvements, even if nothing hints to it from the outside

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You owe no one the proof of your progress

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lmao what is it called when you make fanart of your own work

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Abusers are really good at is making you feel like your anger is worse than their abuse.

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This is so important. Many survivors have spent months or years not being allowed to express anger or being made to feel ashamed for experiencing anger.

So if you know a survivor, and you tell them that they “can’t” or “shouldn’t” be angry, that will almost certainly be triggering, and it’s really cruel.

Telling survivors that they need to “get past” their anger or to “be the bigger person” or “holding onto anger is like holding onto a hot coal” or “anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die” or that “healing is only possible with forgiveness” or that “forgiveness will set you free,” or that “being angry means the abuser still has control,” or that experiencing anger makes the survivor as bad as the abuser, or whatever else– that’s culturally imposed abuse apologism and if you want to be an ally, you need to unlearn resorting to those platitudes when trying to comfort survivors.

It’s okay to experience anger. It’s literally the natural reaction to boundary violation, and when someone’s boundaries have been repeatedly violated and broken down for years, it’s important for a person’s health to be able to experience and express that anger. It honestly really is.