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[da-crip-hilia]

Welcome! This is daCRIPhilia, a blog mainly about the intersection of kink and physical disability.

This blog is run by a multiply disabled, queer, plural POC with a strong interest in sexual health. I am neurodivergent and chronically ill, experience chronic pain, use mobility aids, and personally reclaim the slur “cripple” - you may not call me this without my consent.

I might occasionally do less serious hornyposting/goreposting, feel free to block those tags if needed.

Ask box open!

[firewalkwithmedvd]

man if you're disabled you've GOT to find some way to make your fuckass body a source of pleasure whenever you can. jacking off. eating good food. wearing soft clothes. kissing an animal on the head. whatever you can do

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Good girls use their safeword frequently btw

[the-sensitive-sadist]

Some people had a weird reaction to this one, so let me clarify some misconceptions and express my perspective a bit more.

When we talk about kink, a lot of the time people treat safe words as if they are exclusively an expression of an absolute limit. A firm proclamation that the scene is too rough, the pain too much, the situation too extreme, and that the entire thing needs to stop. Safeword use in such situations is obviously essential and mandatory in order to bring the scene or sensation to an end and ensure the safety of all participants. This is not, however, the only time a safeword should be used.

They can be used to express when someone is at their limit. They can mean the scene needs to end completely because the sub can't take it anymore at all. But they don't have to mean that. Safewords should be used to pause or stop the scene and break character for any reason. You can also use your safeword to pause and discuss a limit, communicate that something is or isn't working for you, ensure that everything is going to plan, take a water break, go get a toy from the other room, check with your partner about something, pause to change your laundry, or do absolutely anything else out of character related to your scene.

This is why a lot of people use green/yellow/red.

Green - continue

Yellow - pause and make a change (this can be anything from "slow down a little bit" to "I need something different but want to keep going")

Red - I need this situation to be over and for us to get right into aftercare.

What a lot of people seem to miss is that in this framework yellow is also a safeword.

All of this is ignoring the additional dimension that Dominants also need to safeword!! It's completely normal and if you're doing a lot of BDSM it should happen in your daily kink life often. Real life is not a romance novel.

Using your safeword is essential and you should use it all the time, whenever you want. Breaking character during kink is normal, healthy, sexy, and fundamentally essential. Do it more often.

[herbert-west]

surgery is so intimate like what do you mean im gonna be naked and asleep on a table while surrounded by a group of people who are responsible for my very life. kind of sexual. i mean who said that

[noxidae]

Big fan of when a character really wants to have sex but they can’t. Not in an incel way, or just not having the access, but in. Like they love the taste of mango but they’re severely allergic to mango.

[saltoncity]

girl is that a knife in your hand or are you jerking off your sharp detachable penis in my stomach

[thesituation]

i don’t get ppl who are fine w period pussy. smelling like wet parking lot pennies

[thesituation]

you’re scaring me

[disability-shout-outs]

Warning: the following disorder relates to sex.

Shout out to folks with Postorgasmic Illness Syndrome!

[annabelle--cane]

what I mean: "sexual intercourse" is as much a social construct as "romantic courtship," and you discover this very quickly as a queer person if you try to talk to able bodied straight cis people who literally think the only thing that counts as Actual Sex is penis-in-vagina penetration, like they call oral "foreplay" it's so dire. various people have a lot of vested interest in cleanly defining "sex" vs "not sex" for a whole slew of reasons (ex. censorship dodging and enforcing, conferring the social clout of virginity and prowess, finding and closing loopholes about premarital sex, deciding what relationships "count" as serious partnerships, ligating what is general assault vs sexual assault vs Something That's Definitely Probably Fine And Not Sexual At All, Actually, etc.), and it's really not something you can just fall back on as obvious common sense that people are dumb for questioning.

what I say: sex isn't real and you can't have it

[da-crip-hilia]

Damn I had a bunch of dreams about getting raped. Which probably has something to do with having sex with my girlfriend before she left for the weekend… 2 days no wife means having to jerk myself off to those dreams, which is just an objectively worse experience. It not only feels better to have someone else help me, it’s less uncomfortable and painful and easier on my body. It intersects with her caretaking I think… it’s not completely unlike helping me with food or meds or hygiene, but there’s a lovely intimate component to it too…

(and yeah we do a lot of noncon or dubcon stuff… when I’m on the receiving end it makes me feel very safe and secure. When I’m not err I think I’m just a pervert. Something very satisfying about breaking someone you love)

[da-crip-hilia]

Damn I had a bunch of dreams about getting raped. Which probably has something to do with having sex with my girlfriend before she left for the weekend… 2 days no wife means having to jerk myself off to those dreams, which is just an objectively worse experience. It not only feels better to have someone else help me, it’s less uncomfortable and painful and easier on my body. It intersects with her caretaking I think… it’s not completely unlike helping me with food or meds or hygiene, but there’s a lovely intimate component to it too…

(and yeah we do a lot of noncon or dubcon stuff… when I’m on the receiving end it makes me feel very safe and secure. When I’m not err I think I’m just a pervert. Something very satisfying about breaking someone you love)

[da-crip-hilia]

cupboard is for dishes

scabbard is for sword

glove is for hand

and mouth is for cock :3

[da-crip-hilia]

Made the mistake of being too bratty. Got raped by my wife AGAIN. ☹️

[faeriefag]

shout out to my chronically ill sluts out there who want nothing more than to have the spoons to fuck and/or get fucked nasty crazy style 🙏☝️💖

[infectiouspiss]

claims a fucking machine on my disability benefits because i can't fuck or even finger myself without damaging or straight up dislocating my wrist

[infectiouspiss]

this is partially a joke but also it's not. it's what disability benefits are for, disabled people deserve just as much of a sex life as abled people and for lots of us we can't even jerk off when we need to because it requires aids we can't afford.

benefits are so that we can live a normal life without suffering, while non disabled people can just crank one out whenever, lots of disabled people can't. same goes for sex, we deserve to fuck like everyone else and that's why disability benefits should be used for things like sex swings or support furniture.

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

vibrators never did much for me but I'm healing a broken nose now and my gf lent me her bullet vibe so I can press it against my sinuses and help with the blood and snot clogging. 10/10, I get the hype now.

fascinating series of words here

[da-crip-hilia]

I genuinely would like to get a powerful wand-type vibrator for the purposes of musculoskeletal pain. Normal handheld massagers barely do anything unless I press them in way too hard… if anyone sees this feel free to recommend me anything powerful and decently affordable, especially if one could easily reach their own shoulders & back with it >.<

[mountaincripple]

there are disability aids for literally everything…. and that includes intimacy!!

its very important to me that you know this!!!

here are just a few examples:

18 and over post pls <3

first my credentials: i’m physically disabled (wheelchair user, chronic pain, spasms in extremities, muscle weakness, numbness and atrophy in all limbs, seizures, etc) i’m an ex SW and i used to work at an adult store (trying to get rehired again pray for me pls)

pillow forms:

my fave is the liberator wedge, but there’s a lot of shapes. can be used in a variety of ways to ease strain.

hand harnesses:

extremely helpful if you can’t grip for long periods of time. just like regular harnesses, you can fit it with a toy and use it on yourself or a partner.

hands free toy holder:

suuuper helpful if you can’t grip at all/if you’re like me and can’t stop your hands and arms from doing as they please. can be used on yourself or a partner.

intimacy chairs:

usually used by people with paralysis but also helpful for profound muscle weakness and if you can’t hold yourself up/produce motion reliably

sleeves:

generally most useful if you have a penis, fantastic if you don’t have steady hand motion but can grip semi reliably.

mount/toy mount:

these have a ton of variety. you can get ones that are a pillow with a spot for a toy, or ones that act more as a sling for your body (and can be used with toys or partners)

and remember these are only a couple! if you are disabled and struggling to be intimate in any way, there is a tool out there that may very well help you!!!