As my birthday is approaching everyone is asking me how will I be celebrating the be Three-Two, that is 32 for us with the ongoing mommy brain (btw does that ever go away? Aye dios mios). Even my amazing significant other has been asking me for weeks how I want to celebrate. Before I would make a point to do something. I’ve been over the whole club scene for years now, but I still at least made it a point to celebrate me. So today I told babe that I may just want to sleep all day, what a way to celebrate. This brought me to the question of when was the last time I did something for myself? I am not a high maintenance type of gal however I do love my regular mani and pedis, going to get my eyebrows done, spending type with my loved ones…without baby girl. It has been a long time where I made the time for the things that keep me in a positive state. What happened to me taking care of myself?? What happened to my self-care?
When I think of self-care it is not just about pampering myself and for others that may be major to them and that is okay, but MY self-care is not just that. My self-care are things that make me a better person physically, emotionally, and mentally. I feel as though when we become mothers we are so focus on everyone else, our children and significant other. However, I’ve learned that to be the best mother or partner I must be the best me. Being the best, me means that I’m doing things that will continue to put me in a positive state of mind. Before having my beautiful Emerald Rose, I was very much about myself in a good and bad way. But I always tried to stay in a happy place, I tried to continue to find activities that only make me a better me. I’ve realized that I have not been doing what is needed to keep my spirits high. I’ve been so focused on being a great mother and great partner I forgot about being a great ME!! For me to continue being a great mother and great partner I need to be the best me; when my relationship with myself is flourishing there is no way that the other relationships in my life will not flourish.
The 32-year-old Daeonna vows to do things that will only benefit me as a person in a positive way. I vow to get back to my regular pampering, to get back to listening to my podcasts that helps me think outside the box and give me more positivity in my life (shout out to the Friend Zone podcast). I vow to get back into the gym to help clear my mind and get rid of this EXXTTTRRAAA baby weight or just regular weight whatever you want to call it. I vow to start my journey back to me. I encourage all the mommies, new or seasoned, if they have not to start their journey back to themselves. Self-Care is necessary. It is hard to manage that time for just you, especially when you’re trying to make sure baby has had time outside, house is clean, and dinner is made not too late…on top of being in school for your MASTERS (yes I decided to be a new mommie and go back to school for my Masters in Education at the same time, I’m so smart) but I PROMISE it will only make you a better mother and spouse and most importantly a better YOU.
Ladies what is your self-care regime??
(update its actually my birthday today)
