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idk who needs to hear this but it’s healthier for you to just accept that you’re gonna be kinda fat than it is to live the rest of your life miserably trying to monitor yourself to maintain a skinny weight your body doesn’t want to hold onto

kosmogrl

frontmansdefender

no but seriously sometimes the best fuck you you can give trolls or anon hate in your inbox is ignore, delete or report these asks. people who sent others hate often keep coming back to their targets’ blogs to see if they (the people they harassed) have responded to them. and yeah it drives them so mad when they realize you ignore them and their existence.

my point, don’t post about them, don’t acknowledge them at all. they want your attention, don’t give them what they want. stay unbothered

petaltexturedskies

I hope you find glimmers of joy in July: a beautiful sunset that takes your breath away, kind words from a stranger, moments that remind you to slow down, soft rain after a sunny day, connections that make you feel seen and known, little nods from the universe telling you you're on the right path, hope for all that's waiting ahead for you.

akindplace

carrying on because you don’t have any other option but to go on and deal with whatever it is you’re dealing with is still a brave thing. even when being brave is your only option. it doesn’t make you weaker if some problems sometimes feel unbearable, just remember you don’t have to constantly carry everything on your own, and you can and should reach out for help, and doing so doesn’t make you any less brave

wetheurban

Let people misunderstand you, let people miss you, let people be wrong about you. Your peace is not dependent on their accuracy.

stuckinapril

“Do it scared” “do it alone” are all great tips, but my biggest takeaway from therapy is do it messy. This is especially true if you’re getting out of a burnout, which I experience often. Literally just do it messy. You don’t need to pick the perfect trail to walk, the perfect playlist to listen to, whatever the fuck it is. You don’t need to have a meticulous to do list and wake up at the exact time you planned and drink the exact amount of water you planned to drink. Like the biggest thing for people like me to remember is sometimes it’s okay to do it messy. Put on a random yt workout and just get it done in sweats. Do 5 minutes of a daunting task and go from there. Sometimes just getting up is a win during intense burnouts or depressive funks. Literally just do it messy.

docrobinavitch

i fear that some of you take yourselves far too seriously for adults who log into tumblr every day

teaboot

The problem with giving advice to angry and suffering people is that rather frequently the thing they need to know to improve their position is the last thing they want to hear and not something they have the capacity to internalize or accept

teaboot

Unfortunate truths you can tell people that would help if they could hear what it means and not just what it sounds like

You were the victim, and it wasn’t fair, but it’s over now. Nobody came to save you, and I’m sorry, but it’s too late for anyone to go back and do it different.

You’re suffering over something that cannot be resolved. You’re allowed to feel angry, or outraged, or betrayed, but there will eventually come a time that you don’t feel that so violently anymore, and you’re going to want to have something good left to go back to.

You can’t make anyone love you the way you need to be loved. That’s how a lot of good things end. Not with a clear sign, something blocking the road that says “do not proceed”, just a splitting of the path that’s still moving somewhat in the same direction.

You can’t fix them. Nothing you can do will fix them. And if they fix themselves, they can’t do it for you- they have to do it for themselves as well, because otherwise a day may come when they’re alone, and as long as they live, they are their only true constant. So you can support, and you can encourage, but the hardest part is up to them. And sometimes they can’t do it even with your help.

Sometimes letting go of someone feels like mourning at their funeral before they’ve died, and every time you see them after it’s like talking to a ghost that doesn’t know it’s dead. Sometimes that happens. You’ll both still wake up tomorrow anyways.

I understand that you’re afraid, and that you’re afraid for good reasons. And I understand that being brave isn’t as easy as just turning that fear off, and you would if you could in a heartbeat. But the thing is, as long as that fear is able to dictate your choices, it will have power over you. If you don’t believe you can try to fight it, if you accept that it will always be in charge, you let the frightening thing stay present in your life. It will exist as long as you stay paralyzed. And that sounds cruel, but it isn’t something anyone can fix for you.

The person you may let yourself become after experiencing the terrible thing may very well grow into a much bigger, much more terrible thing, and someday it will swallow the first terrible thing whole. And all that will be left is something far worse for someone else. And you will not be able to shrink it down by explaining where it came from, because terrible things that are dead and gone are never as terrible as terrible things that are alive right now in front of you.

No matter how much or how little I love you, I still do not have the ability to help you the way you need to be helped. I might be the helper you want, but I am not a helper you can get. If you are to be helped at all, you will need to accept that it will come from someone else.

taffybuns

these puppies believe in you, and you should too

howilearnedtocope

Image descriptions: Drawings of puppies with banners that say “you are loved,” “you are not worthless,” “you are strong,” and “Things will get better; you’ll be okay”

marcelshorjian

anatomy of a humiliation

pnglove

suggestionsofkindness

To all of my fellow jobhunters: May you be the right candidate, at the right place, at the right time soon. And may that place turn out to be full of friendly people. 🌸