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bestie. beloved. bastard.

nothing sexier than that picture with the italian players on top of eachother after the win and the english ones going through the 5 stages of grief in the back

THIS ONE

i can see it

No homo

@italian-depression casual homosexuality is just italian culture ig

italian-depression

We're all Latin lovers and you gotta try with men first so you're prepared for the women

#thats just part 5 of jjba

glumshoe

oh hey sorry I’ve been distant lately…. I’ve been really busy having a brain that is bad

#me @ everyone i know #😔#i miss u guys

atlanxic-deactivated20250205

sometimes you say or do bad things while you’re in an awful mental place. sometimes you say things that are rude or uncalled for or manipulative. and i’m not going to hold that against you. mental illness is hard, and no one is perfect. but once you’re through that episode, you need to take steps to make amends. you need to apologize.

“i couldn’t help it, i was having a bad episode” is a justification, not an apology.

“i’m so fucking sorry, i fucked up, i don’t deserve to live, i should stop talking to anyone ever, i should die” is a second breakdown and a guilt trip. it is not an apology.

when you apologize, the focus should be on the person you hurt. “i’m sorry. i did something that was hurtful to you. even if i was having a rough time, you didn’t deserve to hear that,” is a better apology. if it was a small thing, you can leave it at that.

if you caused significant distress to the other person, this is a good time to talk about how you can minimize damage in the future. and again, even if it is tempting to say you should self-isolate and/or die, that is not a helpful suggestion. it will result in the person you’re talking to trying to talk you out of doing that, which makes your guilt the focus of the conversation instead of their hurt.

you deserve friendship, and you deserve support. but a supportive friend is not an emotional punching bag, and mental illness does not absolve you of responsibility for your actions. what you say during a mental breakdown doesn’t define you. how you deal with the aftermath though, says a lot.

nebet-ren

This is the most carefully-nuanced discussion of this I think I have ever seen. Thank you for writing this.

#def working on this

joybitch

“people fought to reclaim queer” is such a ridiculous way to frame activism during the aids epidemic. No fought for the word queer, they used the word queer in their fight to get the government to stop letting people die form aids. It wasn’t about the word queer. They also used fag and dyke in this way (Fags and Dykes bash back) yet no one calls it the fag and dyke community. No ones says you can’t call fag and dyke slurs because it was reclaimed. No one erases the countless tragic deaths pf the aids epidemic to justify using those slurs.

bimikus

made in anticipation of pride month!

ok to use for whatever, credit not needed but appreciated!! feel free to request any flags you don’t see. terfs don’t touch.

shrimpmandan

Happy early pride month. Take my shit.

vampish-glamour

Right wing homophobes: lesbians can like penis if they find the right one!

Left wing homophobes: lesbians can like penis if it’s on a trans woman!

vampish-glamour

There’s no difference. Both are expecting homosexual women to be attracted to male genitalia as long as it’s “the right one” or “on the right person”.

Both are trying to imply that lesbians can and should be attracted to the opposite sex.

Both send lesbians the message that there’s something wrong with them if they don’t like penis (aka being homosexual). Either they haven’t found the right one, or they’re transphobic.

We know nobody is forcing lesbians to like penis, but we also know that people are real good at making us feel guilty for not liking it, and are very determined to make us feel that way.

“Lesbians don’t like dick” should not be a controversial statement. The fact that it is shows how comfortable people are with being blatantly homophobic.

marsupial-deleterings-deactivat

the TRUE HEIRS OF ROME right here

girlboysanonymous

i refuse to let this get hidden in the tags

awed-frog

I don’t get why people are laughing at this? Being gay is considered a ‘psychosexual disorder’. They can confine you to a psych ward for it. Until fairly recently, an army doctor would perform rectal examinations to see if you were ‘truly gay’ or just trying to avoid conscription, which is compulsory for all adult males. They would also ask photographs of yourself involved in anal sex as ‘proof’. Now they’re more ‘subtle’. They drag your entire family through a series of interviews to see not only if you’re gay, but if you’re gay enough to become ‘disruptive’. They ask if you wear fitting or colourful clothes, if you wear make-up, if you’ve ever been ‘treated’ for homosexuality. They look for evidence of ‘feminine or promiscuous’ behaviour. If after all that they decide you’re actually gay, you’re given a ‘pink certificate’, which has a high chance of getting you fired from your current job and prevent future employment.

Some people really have no idea what it means to be gay, or even gender non-conforming, in most countries around the world. Grow up.

officialjiggly

if a dancing pikachu doesn’t fit in with your blog you’re running the wrong kind of blog

h0bbitprincess

GOD ALMIGHTY IT’S TRANSPARENT.

skepticalfrog

i cant help but hope the vague physical form my mutuals have invented for when they think of me is hot

skepticalfrog

#i imagine everyone as their icons #so #dont have an ugly icon ig?

a-prawn

y’ever listen to a song and get vivid flashbacks of the AMV u watched set to it 15 years ago

#i am only 23 dndndmdk #so more like 15 months ago tops

vampish-glamour

It disgusts me that there’s this idea going around that lesbians not liking penis is transphobic.

I keep seeing videos and posts of people saying “genital preferences aren’t real, you’re just transphobic”, “if you don’t like [X] you’re transphobic”, “you’re making trans women feel bad by not liking penis”, etc.

The most shocking of them all for me is whenever people call lesbians transphobic for “centring their lesbianism around not liking penis”, which usually means they don’t like us making jokes about not liking penis, not worrying about getting pregnant, that sort of thing. Or for not liking penis being a reason we knew we were gay.

What the hell do you want us to say? Sorry that we’re homosexual?? Sorry that you’re so insecure that lesbians not liking penis makes you feel bad?

Trans people have every right to transition, to be seen as the gender they’ve transitioned to, and to be treated with respect. But lesbians deserve respect too. And it sure as hell isn’t respectful to tell us that our sexuality—how we were born—is transphobic.

I’m tired of the disrespect that lesbians get for simply being lesbians. It’s not our fault that we cannot be attracted to something we aren’t wired to be attracted to. Please just give us the basic decency of not trying to make us feel like terrible people for how we experience our attraction.

So no, lesbians don’t like penis. We are not attracted to penis. This does not make us transphobic, it makes us homosexual.

And if you have a problem with homosexual women telling you “no, I’m not into that”, you need to consider why it is you have such a problem with other people’s boundaries.

#shes right