May Contain Traces of Evil

Ramblings of another dragon-deluded twit on the Internet... Or something like that, anyway. All pronouns, lean they/them. 30 at last bio edit (vintage '92) Nutrition information: Water:~64% Proteins:~20% Lipids:~10% Win:~3% Awesome:~1% Snark:~1% Evil:Trace "[...]Like a sliding scale from ‘majestic as shit’ to ‘startled goat’" weirdsewing. "The softest of beans" princehamlct. "Eth(n)ically ambiguous bishie" Conclusion of late-night conversation. "He's a dorkbutt and you shouldn't talk to him" politicalautist, who chose to be my partner for seven years and change (and thus knows what they are talking about). "In our experience, you are Dragon, not gender" faery "Alright, Tiresias, settle down there" Theorange If you're wondering why I didn't reblog a "reblog if" meme, it's because I'm only reblogging ones I find particularly entertaining at this point. As a rule they have too much associated guilt-tripping for comfort. I have some rules for argumentative interaction. Please read them here (apparently these links don't work on mobile. Sorry; can't fix that)

[darael]

DNI if:

You don't want to

[furryprovocateur]

mature content warnings on text posts of nothing but letters on a screen. . . remember when you were allowed to post like an adult and not be shamed or silenced for it

[furryprovocateur]

there is no acceptable explanation for this post being given a mature content warning outside of saying that you are an adult baby on the cyber nanny website!

[punkrock-bottom]

They hate me for being a horny pervert but I have warriors defending my honour across the globe

[thanook]

ironically enough, bringing a plushie to a public setting as an adult requires a tremendous level of emotional development, and attempting to shame an adult for having a plushie in public requires a significant amount of immaturity. this applies to a surprising number of things.

[spiraledfaun]

i'm going to say something potentially controversial

i have been part of the queer community for 14 years, have studied sexuality and gender presentations from a variety of cultures and subcultures, have updated myself on terms and codes and in-group norms, and have tried to look at things with as much nuance as i possibly can

and i have NEVER come across a functional definition of the term "tenderqueer" that didn't just amount to "queers i personally don't like".

[spiraledfaun]

some people claim it refers to mostly over-sensitive white queers who haven't unpacked their racism (a group that definitely exists, btw), others use it to mean those who play with their gender and presentation in a way that is flamboyant, flashy, and sometimes assumed to be performative (i literally don't understand the problem here), and still others use it to mean queer people who levy their identity as a get-out-of-jail-free-card to dodge accountability when they cause harm (absolutely a fucking problem)

there are certainly other working definitions, and i won't say that people behaving in the ways of the first and last definitions shouldn't be criticized,

but as a term, it is functionally useless. it does not refer to any coherent enough concept such that anyone can actually tell who or what you're criticizing.

i've even seen some people use "tenderqueer" to refer to people who don't believe you need dysphoria to be trans, which is an objectively correct belief!

look. i know it is so so fucking tempting to come up with a way to laterally (or sometimes not so laterally) insult people from your own community, especially one so big and varied as the queer community. but for the love of fuck, when you toss around this imprecise term, it begins to sound like a dogwhistle. it begins to sound like an invitation to fill-in-the-blank with whatever type of queer person personally grinds your gears, whether it's a warranted feeling or not.

the issue is not criticizing types of people who need to have their poor behavior criticized--the issue is using an imprecise term that could very easily invite alignment with people who think you and your friends shouldn't exist. you think you're complaining about over-sensitive white queers who for some fucking reason still haven't figured out how to not be racist at every single person of the global majority that they meet in queer spaces--a VERY REAL ISSUE!--and Transmed Intersex-Hating Harvey over there thinks you're on the same page about policing self-expression.

[spiraledfaun]

and, you know, far be it from me to police the way people talk,

but you should know that when you use this term in lieu of being specific, it muddies every conversation you bring it into to the point of uselessness.

[spiraledfaun]

i'm open to hearing definitions, but i'm going to be very clear that every single definition i have ever found or been told has been WILDLY different from all the others,

or it has gestured at a, once again, general, imprecise group of queer people they personally don't like

[toyintrance]

Agree with the above and also like. The whole thing just smacks of "I want to use queer as a slur again but too many people like it now so we have to make a more demeaning version for people I dislike"

[homunculus-argument]

The Odyssey but retold as a low-stakes modern adventure of one guy out with his girlfriend leaving the bar with his buddies to do just one (1) simple thing real quick, it'll take like 15 minutes tops, he'll be right back, but then some bullshit happens and the trip keeps getting more complicated as more bullshit keeps happening while he just tries to get back to the bar because he promised his girlfriend that he'd get back and he knows that she's still there because she told him she'd wait there.

And by the time he finally gets back it's almost 3 am and the bar is about to close while she's sitting there stone cold sober, surrounded by 5 drunk guys unsuccessfully trying to convince her to give up on waiting for him and go home with one of them instead. And the guy shows up to proceed to beat the shit out of them before explaining himself to her like hey sorry bullshit kept happening, my phone fell into a storm drain and my wallet got stolen when I was trying to find someone who'd borrow me a phone so I could call and

[thekijs]

His girlfriend had been fending off the 5 drunk guys for most of the evening by explaining that even if she was going to ditch her boyfriend, she can't possibly leave without finishing her beer, which she is keeping perpetually full via careful sleight of hand where she's just pouring it back and forth into and out of the pitcher.

However the drunk guys are also drinking, and eventually she can't afford to buy another pitcher for the table so she can't keep up the ever-full beer glass trick. At this point she has to resort to setting up the pool trick shot that she's never seen anyone but her boyfriend pull off, and says she'll leave with whoever manages the shot first.

That buys her another hour or so and then, finally, her boyfriend makes it back. He looks like shit, hair down and just a mess, he's wearing an entirely different jacket that he got from an alley, and barely recognizable—especially to 5 guys who've been drunk for hours now. He lurks for a minute, finds out what's going on, and proceeds to pull off the trick shot first try. Throws the jacket off, fixes his hair with a hair tie his girlfriend lends him, finally looks like himself again, and THEN beats the shit out of them with the pool cue.

[weaselle]

yuh i was there, that's how it happened

[fucktoyfelix]

[charl0ttan]

its so crazy how starburst gets away with marketing how "juicy" starbursts are but like thats just your spit. thats saliva

[crobag]

[rainekittys]

I post a lot about how fat people deserve to feel sexy and are hot, which is true, but I do also want to remind everyone that fat people should also be able to exist and be respected without being sexualised or you being attracted to them. You should respect people and treat them normally regardless of how attracted to them you are. If your activism centres purely around how much you can sexualise a marginalised group, your activism is shit, sorry

[prokopetz]

Problems in computationally efficient fluid simulation which have stymied game designers for decades are being solved right now by artists on Patreon whose ability to afford groceries this month depends on whether they can render a video involving several gallons of jizz on a laptop from 2017.

[mcgravin]

Who would contribute to a patreon for videos of 2017 laptops covered in jizz?

...

I'm not suggesting no one would; I'm sure it's someone's fetish. I actually just need to know who to advertise my new patreon to.

[holmoris]

thinkpad users

[kotortwo]

got fired from being the entertainer at a bachelor party for twisting the groom-to-be's dick into a poodle shape

[json-derulo]

sitting my white ass down and listening

[iwait4youalexg]

Oh!

[doh007]

Thank you all, i needed further explanation - And i do find it might help me!

[genderkoolaid]

This viewpoint of invisibility as a privilege is a display of one function of antitransmasculinity that rewards people for upholding the idea that most transmasculine people are white, cis-passing, hyper masculine, educated and able-bodied, as these are the only configurations of a transmasculine person that would receive an invisibility that would be more rewarding than it would be isolating and suffocating. [...] Invisibility as a term for this dynamic is a fallacy in and of itself as what transmasculine people are suffering from is not invisibility, which suggests accident, but is instead deliberate erasure. Trans men, transmasculine people and transmasculinities have historically been intentionally erased (through not just expunging records but by creating new records entirely) explicitly so that violence against this marginalized group can continue to be ignored. This ignorance creates a dynamic where transmasculine people who actually do rise to any level of power are then made hypervisible (cough, buck angel, cough) and the general perception of a transmasculine person remains an image of a privileged, white, cis passing transsexual, who ‘acknowledges biological reality’, who has lived flawlessly as a man 6 months into t or instead an impressionable young (white) girl who has been infected by a social contagion. This cycle of highlighting only a few different stereotypes of trans man / transmasculine person further contributes to the erasure and harm done to trans men and transmasculine people who do not fit into those very niche groups that attain all the visibility and are said to represent the entire demographic. This deliberate erasure of the actual majority of trans men and transmasculine people exists primarily so that violence can continue to be enacted against them behind closed doors. It is so often not only transmasculine people themselves that are made invisible, but rather it is anti-transmasc violence, including militant state violence, interpersonal violence and a medical + psychiatric violence, which makes transmasculine people, through a process of essentialization, aggressors without aggression and victims without words.

from "Not transmasc invisibility, but erasure: Antitransmasculinity as erasure" by S.L Void

[jamjarblues]

i truly think that this recent trend of “if you relate to a post about a different identity than your own you are ~derailing~ and taking over the conversation” is incredibly harmful.

i recently experienced some pretty severe transphobic abuse in my workplace (children’s home) that included having food thrown at me, being called slurs, being told i was a pervert because i am trans. one of the managers talked with me afterwards and shared that he had had a similar experience as an Asian man. this wasn’t him derailing my experience, or talking over me, or making things about himself. he was communicating “hey, i know how it feels and how much it sucks. you’re not alone.”

THAT is what solidarity IS. i don’t know what it’s like to be Asian, he doesnt know what it’s like to be trans, but we both had a similar experience and we were able to turn a horrible experience into an opportunity for bonding and comfort.

stop looking at people’s attempts as solidarity as an attack. and hey, you never know - you could find an opportunity to grow closer to other people.

[experiment41]

we are NOT bringing 4chan incel terminology to this site, take that "foid" out of your post and go wash your blog out with soap

[cognitohazardous]

the memeification of fascism is a proven method of perpetuating and instilling it in other people. Layers of irony will not protect you once you adopt racist, sexist, ableist, transphobic terminology into your lexicon. you'll be acknowledging and nursing the mindsets and connotations borne of those words.

[ryebreadgf]

girlhood this girlhood that. woman you are 26

[ryebreadgf]

I got a message about how this is supposedly mean. I am holding your hand when I say that refusing womanhood and clinging onto girlhood will not save you from the realities of adulthood. I am not saying you are not young. 26 is incredibly young. you are free to love the concepts and media associated with girlhood but there is much to love about womanhood that you are not seeing. there is something to be said for being free of the shackles of girlhood and childhood. you are an autonomous being. you have power over your life and the paths you will take. it is easier to see the paths when you start taking yourself seriously instead of waiting for others to do so. no one is saying you have to be serious. womanhood is joy too. a different shade of yellow

[goodbye-susan]

No disrespect but I cannot handle the official art with Rincewind depicted as a grey haired old wizard. Every bone in my body knows this guy is a 30-40 year old walking disaster who got kicked out of college and wanders the planet against his will and is stuck in the middle of his life making things up as he goes along (affectionate).

[quasi-normalcy]

John Boyne surely must be the most financially successful example of an author who does absolutely no research at all when writing about a hot-button issue and then plays the martyr when called out on it.

[misanthropymademe]

ah, this moron

[quasi-normalcy]

It's the kind of basic categorical error that you see and think "he must have asked ChatGPT" but then you notice that this was 2020 and he's just thick.