marina "prima" volta @thanook - Tumblr Blog

quitting my job to become a lake monster

LEAPS N BOUNDS!!!!

thinking about the time a former housemate said to me "hey I put these box fans in the living room because it's hot" while gesturing to the fans that I was actively sitting in front of because it was hot. and I said "okay thanks." and she kept standing there like she was waiting for something else so I said "am I blocking the airflow? do you need me to move?" and she said no I'm just letting you know they're here, in the living room, for circulation. and I said well yes, I did put that together. I am enjoying them. thank you. and she looked confused. so I asked "am I meant to do something with this information or are you just informing me?" and she said no I'm letting you know they're here because It's Hot In Here. she seemed a bit aggravated, and her emphasis seemed deliberate.

it took me asking three more times before she finally told me she wanted me to leave the fans where they are instead of moving them to my room or something. and I said oh! I had no intention of doing so but thank you for letting me know what the expectation is.

about a month later she brought up that conversation as the moment it actually clicked for her that I Am Autistic And Will Not Magically Intuit The Unspoken Request You Didn't Ask Me.

mothric

I have observed enough allistic communication to know that generally, if somebody points something out to you that you can already see or are already clearly interacting with, they are making an indirect request. but as I don't know what the request is, the only way forward is for me to guess (and likely get it wrong), or prompt the allistic to tell me clearly what they need.

however, allistics don't realize they do this, so asking them to say the unspoken surprises and confuses them. this is not their fault. allistics can be quite emotionally fragile and perceive directness as confrontation, so they habitually rely on indirect speech and coded language to preserve others' feelings. this is why they may find it difficult to be direct, even when asked. I have found that with enough gentle encouragement and reassurance that they are actually helping you, you too can achieve successful communication with your allistic friend or loved one. :)

monopole

almosthumanbutnotquite

Non human romance <3

Booping your snoots together

Nuzzling each other

Making noises at eachother

Kneading at them

Sleeping close to eachother for warmth

Eating food together and sharing

Non human romance is peak <33

decayeddogb0nes

not even for sexual purposes i js wanna be a canine and have a tail n shit

vimmie-vexes-1212

soooo true liek yeah wearing a collar is hot e.ct. but if I had a tail and fluffy ears and could smell like crazy I'd be sooo fucking good at just life. I'd have a good job and shit . you don't get it.

isuggesttherianthropy

I have a suggestion

thehoundofcourage

walking around growling under my breath at work with my ears aaaallll the way back, because i SHOULD be lying under a canopy of pine and feeling the breeze on my fur and the sun on my nose, with my pack around me pawing at the clouds above us,

not squinting into the artificial lights made of glass and fire, fanning my overheated skin with unrecycleable plastic, and yearning to be anywhere except in this concrete cage

despazito

m3s-txt

repost if your not human

outsidewolves

isuggesttherianthropy

I have a suggestion

creaturethoughts

people getting so pissed off about therians will never make sense to me. “oh, they’re all ill and they’re ruining their lives and it goes against who they really are and—“ Ma’am, the only reason that therianthropy sometimes decreases my happiness is when people like you are annoying about it. You are quite literally the only issue here 🪫🥀

sapphireh3arts

i honestly really hate the "identifies as" kind of language. it's super invalidating. i do not "identify" as a horse. i Am a horse. and i'll stomp you to death with my hooves

thanook

ironically enough, bringing a plushie to a public setting as an adult requires a tremendous level of emotional development, and attempting to shame an adult for having a plushie in public requires a significant amount of immaturity. this applies to a surprising number of things.

#i'm an adult thumbsucker and i stim with certain tags on stuffed animals #anyone who doesn't like it can kiss my ass #< prev #you are so incredibly based actually #keep up the good work out there