Not Quite Human

TJ | 19 | Australian | Asexual | Panromantic

[real-pcys-deactivated20190118]

hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas

[real-pcys-deactivated20190118]

a classic example

daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it

mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too

[daeranilen]

a common variant

mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having

[lierdumoa]

This is a very important post about how to recognize problematic behavior in narcissistic mothers. It is also something we all need to watch out for in ourselves, especially if we were raised by a narcissistic parent.

Because if that’s what you’re used to, you can grow up wrongly believing that this is what sympathy is supposed to sound like.

I have, numerous times, talked about having a bad day, and had a well-meaning acquaintance tell me how much worse their day was, honestly believing that they were being sympathetic – that telling me how much worse their day was would somehow make me feel relieved, or grateful, that my day wasn’t as bad as theirs.

Of course, it did not make me feel better. It made me feel like my experiences were being trivialized, and like my feelings were being invalidated.

I know these people weren’t trying to be cruel. They truly just didn’t know better. They thought they were empathizing.

If you didn’t grow up learning what genuine sympathy looks/sounds/feels like, it’s hard to know how to show genuine sympathy for other people, even when you really do care about them.

[jumpingjacktrash]

becoming vegan because factory farming is unethical is like deciding that since walmart and amazon mistreat their employees you are now going to get everything you need out of dumpsters

[jumpingjacktrash]

in a nutshell, instead of reforming the bad parts of your society, you try to opt out of it in a way that has really no effect, and wouldn’t work at all if the majority of people weren’t still part of the industry you dislike.

there was, for a while, a real movement of people who tried to get everything out of dumpsters, as a way of opting out of capitalism. but the problem was that you couldn’t get what you need when you need it, leading to you being kind of a drain on your community, and someone had to buy that stuff in the first place for it to end up in that dumpster anyway. it was Fundamentally Silly.

going vegan to opt out of farming practices has similar problems. for instance: you (hypothetical vegan you) won’t buy honey, but the bees are being used to fertilize the vegetables and fruit you eat, they’re making the honey anyway, all you’ve done is – well, nothing, because you’re not a big enough demographic to make an impact, but even if you were, honey sales are a much smaller part of beekeepers’ income than crop pollination. and beekeeping is not a big faceless corporate interest. it’s not monsanto. it’s a bunch of single-family or partnership business with a truck or two and a couple hundred hives. the bees make honey after a pollinating run, and the beekeepers sell it for a little extra income. if you made a dent in that, you’d be achieving nothing but making joe beekeeper buy his kids’ t-shirts at k-mart instead of target.

animal farming and plant farming are deeply interconnected. plant farmers grow animal feed; animal farmers sell manure for fertilizer. most non-corporate farmers raise both plants and animals. it’s more economic and gives them more resilience.

if you were a big enough demographic to hit ‘the farming industry’ in its wallet. you would be making things MUCH harder for small farmers than for factory farms. you would be making it easier and easier for factory farms to crowd family farmers out of business. so that’s pretty much achieving the opposite of what you want, right there.

and then there’s the fact that plant farming is just as rife with gruesome factory farm conditions as animal farming, but it’s humans who are exploited in those. i’m not going to level accusations of racism here, but it really is unfortunate how little the vocal internet vegan contingent seems to know or care about the exploitation of the mostly nonwhite workers in the industry. it makes y’all look racist, whether you are or not.

look, i keep saying this, even though folks never seem to hear me: i don’t hate vegans, i’m not trying to stop you being vegan, i do not care what you eat.

my problem is with defensive internet vegans trying to promote their dietary restriction lifestyle as a solution to problems in the real world. it is not. it may create more problems than it solves, or maybe it breaks even, i don’t know. it certainly doesn’t solve anything that can’t be solved just as well without it. it can only look reasonable from a perspective of deep ignorance about where food comes from and how the farm economy works. you basically have to be young, urban, and somewhat privileged to embrace it. and it is, fundamentally, very silly.

[questionablemotivations]

Furthermore I’d like you to look at a sheep farm. Actually look at it.

You CANNOT grow crops there. That’s WHY there are sheep on it.

You refuse to use wool, well aside from.the fact that it’s a fantastic fiber and how polluting polyester and other plastic fibers are, it doesn’t harm the animal to remove and in fact is done for their benefit.

Above - a sheep farm (note steep and craggy hills), an uncompressed bale of freshly shorn wool and some sheep being shorn.

It’s not stressful for the sheep. Sheep are dumb. Be confident, dont hurt them and they’re good. Wool is a good fiber - strong, warm - even when wet - renewable and biodegradable.

My issue with Veganism-As-A-Cult is the lack of critical thinking. By all means eat what you want, wear what you want to wear but a blanket ban on all animal products because they’re HARMFUL is in itself an extremely harmful philosophy.

Do you refuse to eat plants that were pollinated by bees or fertilized by manure since they’re a product of animal labour?

Honey doesn’t hurt bees. Wool doesn’t hurt sheep.

What about animals that are going to die anyway? We are currently in the process of exterminating possums in our country as they are a pest and destroyer of our native species. We kill them humanely but they’re still going to die because its them (introduced pest) or our endemic endangered species. We use the meat for pet food and the fur for a lot of things now - in making yarns or fur items - because the alternative is to let it rot. Which is just bloody wasteful tbh.

What would (generic) you prefer we do here? Let sheep die of over heating or the weight of wet wool? Force bees into swarming (90% casualty rate) so we can avoid taking their honey? Leave pest animals to rot and encourage the use of set-and-forget traps since there’s no incentive to check them?

What’s the humane option?

[chaviv-a]

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[silkirose]

L.P.P.- Lance Protection Program

Reblog to join

[bigtonguebiollante]

Since we’re not seeing trailers left and right, let this be our warning.

[dragonsrequiem]

Please please PLEASE do not sleep on this. They only made this series because it kicked major booty in the box office, but they aren’t promoting it so it will fail and they can go back to their normal paint palettes.

Do. Not. Let. Them! Please do not let them shrug off a group who is called a minority but really isn’t minor in representation!

Let them see that there are just as many people who love T’challa and Zuri as there are fans of SpiderMan and the Hulk watching!

[yinx1]

Here is the trailer! It looks awesome btw. It Premieres TONIGHT PLEASE WATCH IT LIVE, or STREAM IT ON THE DISNEY NOW APP. Don’t forget to tweet about it, and have it trending. Disney XD tonight September 23 @ 8c/9p

[squoosetiel]

Me as a parent

Me: i don’t care if you’re gay, bi, pan, trans, or whatever. I will always love you no matter what

My future child: I tell people on the internet to kill themselves over fictional characters and ships

Me, choking back tears: get out of my house

@ninjaplatypus904 cause they asked me to tag them idk

[wlwaffle-deactivated20180825]

“sexuality is a choice”

“women wouldn’t get raped if they didn’t wear revealing clothes”

“there are only two genders”

“i’m not trying to be sexist/racist, but..”

“a/bi/pansexuality isn’t real”

“gay people shouldn’t have children”

“i don’t want to be friends with a gay person, they could hit on me”

“you can’t identify with the gender you want to be, only the one you were born with”

[iminato]

Reblog if you have mourned the death of a fictional character.

[ianoshea]

If you do not reblog this, you are in fact lying.

[actually-adumpster-deactivated2]

Hey, don’t you fucking scroll down

You

Fucking

Liar. 

[wivver]

Safe side of the voltron fandom

Reblog and like if you’re part of the “safe side” of the voltron fandom + value others ships and opinions!

[whendoesyourjourneyend]

You have permission to flirt with me anonymously. Starting now.

[dreamyoswin-deactivated20141206]

[girlyshippings]

I got one ;-;

[marvelous-marvel-fan-deactivate]

I got none ;-;

[wildflowercal-deactivated202101]

*gets none*

[reinadelaserpiente-deactivated2]

**gets none**

[winterhcwk]

I’ll definitely flirt back don’t worry😉

[stardust-revengers]

*gets none* yo imma yeet myself out the window

[your-local-emo--goblin-deactiva]

I’ll post ukulele cover of “can’t help falling in love” if any of you do this.No one ever flirts with me.EVER.

[wet-paiint]

i honestly don’t think i’m going to get any but i  c a n  d r e a m

[winterskelly20]

What am I doing?

[deviliabymidnightandfriends-dea]

BRING IT

;3c

[lucky-fuyu]

BRING IT

[toastys-posts-deactivated201901]

YE

[missjessicabrewer]

I don’t care if I lose a thousand followers overnight, but if you think “tranny” or “shemale” are remotely acceptable ways to refer to a transgender person, please unfollow me.

[missjessicabrewer]

The number of notes on this pleases both my ego and my fragile faith in humanity.

[guys-positivity]

Adding on, “extra hole boy”, or “pussy boy” are equally abominable ways to refer to trans men.

[datboi-against-cgl]

Dont use Shim, shehe/heshe, chick with a dick d*ckgirl or c*ntboy either

[reyphorian]

and if you use “it” to dehumanize any trans person i will personally come to your house, break down your door, and piss on everything you own

[nothing--new]

‘Sissy’ and ‘trap’ are also utterly reprehensible…

[spiroandthelacktones]

Also if you call a trans woman futa I will kick your fucking teeth in

[fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20]

Please yes, im fucking sick of people looking at and consuming futinari culture and think that’s what we are

[goodnastygirl]

is it okay for a person who is not trans to reblog this?

[fattyatomicmutant-deactivated20]

Given the fact this is a legit list of words that trans people don’t want to be called/don’t want to hear, I hereby decree this post may be reblogged by everyone who wants to spread the word that these words are NOT ACCEPTABLE.

[dualclock]

ngl having been called a transvestite to my face not real sure I like that one either.

[wormcourt]

Transvestite or transexual

[natcritiquescartoons-deactivate]

Also if you call yourself “TRANSROMANTIC” i hate you and you’re trash

[haiku-robot]

also if you call yourself “transromantic” i hate you and you’re trash

^Haiku^bot^0.4. Sometimes I do stupid things (but I have improved with syllables!). Beep-boop!

[ghostigoo]

thanks haikubot

[cartnsncreal]

Reblog and you might save someone’s life, especially with all our Black Girls going missing #ProtectBlackGirls #SaveLife

[lazorsandparadox]

For those who don’t know what’s happening in the video, she untied her shoelaces, pulled one through the inside of the zip tie binding her hands, then tied the shoelaces together. Then, by pulling downward and back and forth on the shoelaces with her feet, she created enough friction to wear away part of the ziptie, making it weak enough to snap right off her hands.

[m3rcykill]

SIGNAL BOOST

SIGNAL BOOST

SIGNAL BOOST

[jewel-charisse-deactivated20181]

Will always reblog

[yourladyindank]

Protect all the ladies and the dudes

[spiduhgirl]

THIS IS IMPORTANT

[sweaterkittensahoy]

Why I stand with Planned Parenthood

Multiple gynos refused me an IUD because  “oh, it hurts so much to put in when you’ve had kids! We don’t want to put you in pain!!”

I was at a 7-9 on the pain scale regularly for my periods, and the docs were determined to make me run the gauntlet.

“But what about the pill?”

“Symptom-swap.”

“Have you thought about depo?”

“Mood drop.”

“And the patch?”

“Family history of breaking out in rashes.”

“Well, what about the nuva ring?”

“How will that NOT give me the same symptom-swap issues?”

“…”

“Look, I’m in pain so bad I wake up in the middle of the night. I’m in pain so bad I didn’t know I had appendecitis. I need SOMETHING.”

“Have you tried an ibuprofen protocol?”

“YES.”

“There are yoga poses that help with cramping.”

“I can’t uncurl from the ball of pain I’m in. How the hell am I supposed to hold position?”

“Well, how much caffeine do you drink? That could be a factor.”

“I have three cups of coffee a day and drink lots of water.”

And so on.

Then, one day, I made an appointment and went to Planned Parenthood.

“Yeah. Hi. I have incredibly painful periods that are fucking crippling me, and I need an IUD.”

“Okay. Do you have a chart of your periods I can look at?”

“Yup.”

“Okay. Looks like you have regular, heavy periods where the pain is worsening. Is that right?”

“Yup. And the fatigue. And the mood swings. And all of it.”

“Fatigue and mood swings, too?”

“Yup.”

“…is there any history of endometriosis in your family?”

“Yup. I’ve never been diagnosed, though. They say it takes a biopsy.”

“The biopsy can confirm tissue, but if you don’t have excess tissue, it doesn’t really help. You can have endo without excess tissue.”

“Okay. So, what are my options?”

“I suggest Mirena. Paraguard can make period symptoms worse even though it’s got no hormones while Mirena has a low-dose hormone that should help with all your pain and other issues. Here’s all the info on both of them. Here are models of both of them. Why don’t you take everything with you, read through it, then call if you have any questions? We can go ahead and schedule for insertion before you leave, and you can just call and say which type you want after you’ve read up. Is that okay?”

“…Yeah. That’s. That’s fine.”

“Do you have any questions right now?”

“Um, I got told a bunch I shouldn’t get an IUD because the insertion will hurt too much because I haven’t had kids.”

“Looking at the pain you’re usually in, I think you can handle it. It will definitely hurt, but it should only last about twenty seconds.”

“Twenty seconds?”

“Yes.”

“I’ve been refused the best option for dealing with my symptoms because of TWENTY SECONDS?!”

“Sadly, we hear that a lot.”

Planned Parenthood treated me like a PERSON who was in pain, not a walking uterus bitching and moaning about womanly things. Planned Parenthood showed me respect and kindness and respected the knowledge I brought of my own medical history to the conversation. Planned Parenthood respected my autonomy where other doctors rarely had and paid attention when I explained why I felt the IUD was the best choice. Planned Parenthood showed me I mattered, and I want to show how much they matter to me.

[carafem]

^ the difference between a person’s symptoms being diminished versus believed.

[shiros-boyfriends-are-pretty]

HI YES IF YOU DONT SUPPORT THIS UNFOLLOW ME PLS AND THX

[whendoesyourjourneyend]

You have permission to flirt with me anonymously. Starting now.

[dreamyoswin-deactivated20141206]

[girlyshippings]

I got one ;-;

[marvelous-marvel-fan-deactivate]

I got none ;-;

[wildflowercal-deactivated202101]

*gets none*

[reinadelaserpiente-deactivated2]

**gets none**

[winterhcwk]

I’ll definitely flirt back don’t worry😉

[stardust-revengers]

*gets none* yo imma yeet myself out the window

[your-local-emo--goblin-deactiva]

I’ll post ukulele cover of “can’t help falling in love” if any of you do this.No one ever flirts with me.EVER.

[wet-paiint]

i honestly don’t think i’m going to get any but i  c a n  d r e a m

[winterskelly20]

What am I doing?

[deviliabymidnightandfriends-dea]

BRING IT

;3c

[lucky-fuyu]

BRING IT

[toastys-posts-deactivated201901]

YE

[shiros-boyfriends-are-pretty]

Let’s go, hit me.

[tittyinfinity]

Thank you to whoever made this im so excited

[cobaltdays-deactivated20210208]

what y’all thinking about fellas

[atavisticem]

So garlic is a natural anticoagulant, but then why would vampires be allergic to it?

Hear me out:

What if vampires made up all the stuff about them being allergic to garlic so that their victims would eat it, thinking it would ward off vamps, but instead it makes their blood easier to drink!

Because it doesn’t clot!

This has really been getting to me recently. Have I uncovered their master conspiracy or am I going insane?

[nyanbinyuri]

you know too much

[bigtonguebiollante]

Since we’re not seeing trailers left and right, let this be our warning.

[was-that-a-pun]

oh shit im gonna have to get cable again

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[dramatic-criticism]

I wish someone I knew understood and believed this