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[dongvaljean]

In honor of pride month, here’s my favorite picture of me.

[fightingwaves]

Some actual good advice from cosmo that I thought I should put out there

[kaylasloth]

“Your body is not a problem that needs to be solved through strategic dressing”

[nevergenders]

YOUR BODY IS NOT A PROBLEM THAT NEEDS TO BE SOLVED THROUGH STRATEGIC DRESSING

[kimclassheroes]

Fuck being nice to everyone. If someone treats you badly, you have every right not to tolerate bullshit.

(via heart)

[forsakenlouie]

[sniffling]

the baby boomer culture: how an entire generation literally will not shut up about young people doing things they enjoy

[rihannacoveredinblood-deactivat]

The Divorce Culture: how an entire generation couldn’t keep it together, and forgot how to not project their insecurities onto children.

[princeprimrose-deactivated20221]

A generation filled with people who screamed PEACE LOVE WHATEVER and literally spent the entire time doing whatever they wanted and now punish this generation for “doing the same” even though we’ve been pushed to mature 100x faster than they were.

An entire generation of snotty people who I can’t wait to see all die off.

[raygunssodomyandtheclash-deacti]

A generation who went to college for free and then spent their early adulthoods voting for Ronald Reagan and dismantling the New Deal welfare state.   A generation that was given everything, and has spent the past 35 years making sure that no one after them will have anything.

[trianglesarentreal-deactivated2]

A generation that was given everything, and has spent the past 35 years making sure that no one after them will have anything.

[bogleech]

6

Whoa, slow down, there isn’t enough ice on our planet for the 76 million people getting all these burns.

[discovering-blue]

Bröther… The doggo misses you

[discovering-blue]

バスツアー Ａｅｓｔｈｅｔｉｃ ｓｈｉｔ スツ ｔｈａｔｓ モール ｓｏｍｅ Ａｅｓｔｈｅｔｉｃ バス ｓｈｉｔ ｒｉｇｈｔ モールモールｔｈｅｒｅ メキシコシティーｒｉｇｈｔ ツアｔｈｅｒｅ ピングモール ｉｆ ｉ ｄｏ ｓａｙ ｓｏ ｍｙｓｅｌｆ ブルｉ ｓａｙ ｓｏ バス ｔｈａｔｓ ｗｈａｔ ｉｍ ｔａｌｋｉｎｇ ａｂｏｕｔ ｒｉｇｈｔ ｔｈｅｒｅ ｒｉｇｈｔ ｔｈｅｒｅ (ｃｈｏｒｕｓ: ｒｉｇｈｔ ｔｈｅｒｅ) ｍＭＭＭＭＭＭ ピングモールブル НＯ０ОଠＯＯＯＯＯОଠଠＯｏｏｏＯＯＯＯＯＯＯＯ メキシコシティー Ａｅｓｔｈｅｔｉｃ ｓｈｉｔ

Honestly I am screaming this internally more than I should be

[discovering-blue]

Saturday's are my fave day of the week,,,

[blazeofgold-deactivated20190921]

has anyone else noticed there’s a very specific way women interrupt each other in conversation that’s quite distinct from the way men interrupt women in conversation? like, women seem to interject a lot more– not as a silencing tactic, but to show their enthusiasm or agreement, cause they perceive a conversation as kind of collaborative, organic exercise. but i feel like men get really annoyed if you excitedly interject when they’re saying something (most specifically in a debate/discussion context) because they perceive conversation as something combative or competitive and see an interjection as a threat or a challenge. i’ve also noticed men dismiss women’s way of talking as being sort of incomprehensible and nonsensical because of this habit we have of seeming to butt in or finish each others sentences excitably. 

[valsdas]

this is exactly what research on gender and language in interaction confirms: women’s style tends to be more collaborative, the conversation being the goal, while men’s is competitive - the goal being establishing themselves as the ‘strongest’ or most dominant = powerful #dragged

[nevaehtyler]

They are all so beautiful omg

[gaycousin]

when your friend/loved one is dissociating

how to tell if they are dissociating

- non-focused, “zoned out” - doesnt reply to comments, or replies very half-heartedly - eyes arent focused - doesnt seem to notice anything going on around them - repeats doing or saying the same things over and over - forgets what they said or did, whether in the last few minutes or the last few days

things you can do to help

- get them to a quiet, calm place - ask them very basic questions: “are you okay?” “how are you feeling?” “is there anything you need from me right now?” - help them recount the events theyve forgotten, whether in the last few minutes or last few weeks - walk them through what is going on, tell them, if you can, that you think that theyre dissociating - if you can, keep an eye on them and look out for things they might miss, ie: crossing the street, accidentally bumping into something, receiving important information - sometimes showing them funny stuff or having them read an article or something after doing the previous steps helps

keep in mind that i am not a doctor or professionally qualified to help with mental illness. i just wrote down a list of what i like to have people do when i dissociate. hope this helps someone!

[tofuvi]

grapefruit & honey tea.

[lesliasonsdemarieantoinette]

[bajo-el-mar-blog]

Reading about abusive men and the way they think. Very unsettling and an incredible book so far. Here are my very professional notes.

[imnotreallyherecheckagainlater]

what book is this?

[tehbewilderness]

This is from “Why Does He DO That” by Lundy Bancroft.

[chemicalheart-deactivated202009]

I’m so glad I’m seeing more and more Lundy Bancroft quotes on my dash because this book CHANGES THE LIVES OF ABUSE VICTIMS. The programs run for rehabilitating abusive men through the courts? Bancroft DESIGNED THEM. His programs are replicated ALL OVER THE WORLD. He literally wrote THE book on abuser rehabilitation.

[queen-mayhem]

Here’s a link to a pdf copy. If you haven’t read this book yet, read this book.

[appropriately-inappropriate]

Can we talk about how it seems like the entirety of the book is online on PDF, this making it accessible to anyone with an internet connection?

That is how we stop abuse.

We enable everyone to know what it looks like, so that when it happens, they can shut it down.

[bhuttu]

Arm yrself with knowledge!

[birkenth0t]

Changed my life, would reccomend.

[fuckyeahsexpositivity]

Reblogging for the PDF link.

—BB

[egodram]

Always reblogging because this isn’t just a partner abuse thing, this is a common abuse tactic PERIOD: Parents, siblings, bosses, general assholes, etc…

[tinierspacecharm]

http://www.pdf-archive.com/2014/07/20/why-does-he-do-that/why-does-he-do-that.pdf

new link (the old one is broken)

[hansbekhart]

Pretty sure I’ve reblogged this like eight times, don’t care.

[angryblackgirlrants-blog-deacti]

“Always reblogging because this isn’t just a partner abuse thing, this is a common abuse tactic PERIOD: Parents, siblings, bosses, general assholes, etc…”

[shiobookmark]

Heads up guys. It moved again. https://www.pdf-archive.com/2015/10/21/why-does-he-do-that/ But if it breaks just use the sites custom search. :3 That’s how I found it.

[the-l-club-deactivated20170630]

[keysmash-warrior-deactivated202]

@discovering-blue @kagrenacs GET IT? CUZ YOU’RE REALLY GAY

[weloveshortvideos]

when a baby is crying in the background and you use slow it down on snapchat

[shiz-ko-e-deactivated20181215]

FUCK

[shiz-ko-e-deactivated20181215]

why does this always make me hysterical oh my fucking god

[bornagainswiftie]

THIS IS HORRIFYING

[institute-for-thermal-research]

I think about this man every day

[institute-for-thermal-research]

happy easter

[buttonpoetry]

If a toddler drowns in an ocean and no one is around to photograph it, do we still care?

 Mohamed Hassan - “Secrets of the Sea (for Alan Kurdi)”

One of the runners-up from our first-ever video contest. Keep an eye out for our next submission period, open soon! Help bring Button to you.

(via buttonpoetry)