Kaizers Orchestra fan blog, sometimes other stuff too. Drmowinckel.com archeologist, courtesy of the wayback machine. I share the best (and worst) of it here, tagged dma archives
A 44-year-old man presented in May, 2001, with muscle cramps. He had no medical history
of note, but volunteered the fact that he had been d
Re: blorbo from my research, here is my favorite ever case study. I'm obsessed with it.
Summary:
- Guy presents to neurology with muscle issues, very clearly has something going on but diagnostic tests are inconclusive
- History is mostly unremarkable. Key word, mostly. He drinks four liters of plain Earl Grey tea per day. For context this is nearly twice the recommended daily fluid intake. All fluids, to be clear, not just tea. He only drinks tea tho
- Bergamot is known to be phototoxic in high doses (reacts badly on your skin with sunlight)
- APPARENTLY nobody previously has consumed enough of it for it to be widely known that it is also, apparently, mildly toxic to ingest in high doses
- Guy starts drinking plain black tea again. Only 2 liters this time (he didn't have a medical reason to drink that much tea, he just liked it) and so now he's fully recovered
the best and easiest way to distinguish between the flags of Hungary 🇭🇺 and Bulgaria 🇧🇬 is to remember that Hungary has red at the top symbolising paprika whereas Bulgaria has white at the top symbolising yoghurt
Poland 🇵🇱 and Indonesia 🇮🇩 can be distinguished by thinking of the red stripe as indicating the position of the equator. Indonesia has a brighter red because it is closer to the equator
You can tell the difference between norway 🇧🇻 and Danmark 🇩🇰 because norway is rich and can afford a third colour. Then that third colour is dark because its oil money.
Faeroe 🇫🇴 has white because they are mostly inhabited by sheeps.
Ireland’s flag 🇮🇪 is a mirror of Côte d'Ivoire’s flag 🇨🇮, and Ireland is where Saint Patrick did shit, the big St. Patrick’s day color is green, so the Irish flag has green in the front. Does that count?
Finland 🇫🇮 and Sweden 🇸🇪 may look similar, but you simply have to remember that Sweden is yellow and blue because they are big fans of Donald Duck, who has a yellow beak and often wears a blue jacket.
a sort of survivor's bias of literature causes a lot of people to believe that novels "used to" be of higher quality, greater originality, greater 'effort', greater literary-ness, greater inspiration, &c., than they are to-day
and it's like, well, that is because you're pitting a book published 150 years ago that people still talk about and read to-day, against your average aeroport written-to-spec romance that probably will not be being discussed 150 years from now. if you read the mass-market Grub Street hetslop of the Victorian era I promise you would not like it.
My ancestor was arguably the most popular and successful aeroport written-to-spec slop novelist of his day, around that time. The critics worshipped him, and the public adored his work. Let me tell you, it was Not Good. I've read milk cartons more interesting and well written than that pile of junk. If you wiped your asshole with it, your ass would just get shittier.
But don't take my word for it, comrade Rudolf Nilsen said it best:
"[He] had announced to the public that The Asylum will be his last book. We must allow ourselves to hope that he will live long - long enough to see the blessed fruits of this heroic decision "
Shitlit has always existed, it will always exist, and all we can do is hope that the barbed and scathing remarks of better men will outlive the slop itself.
Problem: not enough (zero) Jolyon Palmer thirst blogs on this site
Solution (option a): create one
Solution (option b): blackmail someone vulnerable into running one for me. possibly lando norris, he seems easily manipulable
Solution (option c): find joly, kidnap him, make him fall madly in love with me, and then slowly over time trick him into thinking it's his idea to create and run his own thirst blog
The thing is, even if you were lucky and your parents taught you how to clean, they probably didn't teach you how to clean the stuff you clean stuff with, like brushes, mops, sponges, rags, and so on. Or how to clean your cleaning appliances, like a dish washer, clothes washing machine, and clothes dryer and its ducts (if you have a ducted dryer), or a carpet cleaner, vacuum, Or how to clean up clean messes, like spilled bleach or detergent.
My parents threw away all of these things (even the vacuum cleaners and the dryer) when they got too dirty to function, because no one even told them THAT they could be cleaned. Cost them thousands of dollars over the years.
All I'm saying is that cleaning is not intuitive, and not knowing how to clean is not a moral failing, but it is something you can learn.
I'm going to reblog this post with resources for learning how to clean things and how to clean cleaning things (I'm not at my desk at the moment). If you have any favorites, please feel free to add them in too!
I like this video because it does a great job of introducing the basic foundations of house cleaning (and because he doesn't use bleach, which is a common allergy in addition to being awful to inhale). He also talks a little about how to clean a vacuum. And why you shouldn't put grease from your pots and pans down the sink drain. I also love that he mentions that different houses and different people have different needs and different versions of what clean and cleaning looks like.
He doesn't mention though that the toilet seat comes off. I take my toilet seat off to clean under the hinges and clean the seat more thoroughly once a quarter.
This is another video from the same guy about cleaning and depression. This advice, especially at the beginning, can feel really really difficult and oppressive to hear. However, I find that it's generally pretty solid. But I'm autistic and so is he, so that gets a massive Your Mileage May Vary stamp on it.
I have a favorite part of this video. It's from 10:52 to 12:36. I think we could all use to hear that. There's a HEFTY pause after that one. I promise the narration does come back.
I'm also going to recommend KC Davis' book "How To Keep House While Drowning"
This is a pair of videos about how to correctly load and use a dish washer.
The first one is a quick 1 minute 30 second overview on loading. I can't find the exact video I'm looking for, so consider this a substitute for that. If I can find the one I'm looking for, I'll swap it in.
The second is a half hour deep dive on dishwashers and detergents. The short form of that is you shouldn't need to pre-rinse anything, detergent pods are overpriced and can cause problems, some dishwashers have a filter in the bottom that needs to be cleaned (but most don't), run your sink until the water is HOT before starting your dish washer, and put a little detergent in the pre-rinse dispenser when you're washing extra dirty dishes (or on the inside of the door if your dishwasher doesn't have a pre-rinse dispenser).
How to clean a front load washer (with bleach). This should be done monthly or every time you wash really soiled clothes.
With expert tips and tricks for all types of washers.
How to clean a top loader (without the removable agitator thing). This should be done every 1-3 months depending on you unit, or every time you wash really soiled clothes.
Regular cleaning of a top-load washing machine will prolong the life of the appliance and leave your laundry cleaner and brighter.
How to clean a top loader (with the removable agitator thing). This should be done every month, or every time you wash really soiled clothes.
These carpet brushes are a LIFE SAVER if you have dogs. This thing allows me to go from vacuuming about 4 square feet before my vacuum is full to vacuuming half the living room (I don't vacuum often enough. You should vacuum weekly, and I just can't.). I have to unclog the vacuum less often. It fluffs up some of the flat spots in the carpet. And I also use the brush to shampoo my rugs in the spring.
A spot cleaner (or a carpet cleaner with a spot cleaner attachment) is another life saver, ESPECIALLY if you can afford to splurge on a heated one. I see them at Goodwill or at yard sales occasionally, and they're worth picking up. The shark one in the video is great too.
This channel is gold. There's tutorials for cleaning EVERYTHING on there. Just go subscribe!
Gonna throw another potential resource at the end of this very long list, which may be potentially helpful for others like me who loathe videos. It's... the weirdest thing that has genuinely been helpful to me in housekeeping. Absolutely full of useful advice, and bizarrely still relevant in large part. (Though, caveat, research ANYTHING to do with chemicals or cleaning products more complicated than vinegar + lemon + water for modern information.)
It's America's Housekeeping Book (1941). Available for free download on the Internet Archive. (Large PDF file at the link here).
The LISTS y'all. The step by step lists. The emphasis on efficiency and arranging spaces for the least resistance possible. The basic concept of "take a tray or basket into a room when you are tidying up so you can put things that belong elsewhere on it and take them out LATER in ONE GO".
more musicians should write about completely made up situations. i dont wanna hear another breakup album thats obviously just the singer venting about their ex. its boring. i dont care. make up some OCs and write crazy POV songs about them killing eachother.
In my writing, I have sometimes alluded to my not experiencing empathy, specifically what psychologists call affective empathy, or popularly understood as “feeling someone else’s feelings.”
(You can contrast this with cognitive empathy, also known as perspective-taking, which involves thinking consciously about how another person feels, or with compassion, which is consciously choosing to show people consideration with your actions. More on both of these later).
Whatever that intuitive magic is that allows other people to gaze at a person’s face or body language and feel in an instant what they might be feeling, I don’t have it. When something tragic or unexpected happens to a person that I care about, I can seem baffled by their reactions and indifferent at first. It takes me time to really appreciate what they must be going through. Moving through the world, I’m often emotionally adrift and without much sense of whether another person understands me, is offended by me, or might be quietly asking me for something.
“Autistics do have empathy!” is theprotest of many Autistic self-advocates when our collective humanity is called into question by the RFK Jr’s of the world. “In fact, some studies show that we are emotionally overwhelmed by empathizing too much!” And certainly, it can be valuable to correct misconceptions — but only when doing so doesn’t uplift the same ableist, neuro-conformist standards that keep us oppressed and protesting for our lives.
While it is true that some Autistics can hold a job, write a poem, play baseball, and yes, feel empathy, the fact remains that many in our community cannot and never will — and it is those Autistics who are considered the least human under an ableist regime.
Our humanity must be defended along some lines other than our supposed similarity to neurotypicals. We must be held as valuable even when we cannot feel what others expect us to feel, even when we lack some quality that everyone has been told is essential to humanity. Autistics, in all our facets, are human beings, including in our lack. And the research shows that a significant number of us lack either cognitive or affective empathy.
I am one of them. And I am not alone.
Not having empathy has meant missing a lot of meaningful social data, accidentally hurting people constantly, and lacking a cornerstone of human connection that many see as foundational to expressing love or even human decency. It has not been easy. It makes me see myself as downright inhuman at times. But like Carmen and so many other low-empathy Autistics, I’ve had to try my best work around it. Here are some of the strategies that Autistics use to cope with our lack of empathy:
Intense Moral Scrupulosity
Jacob is in his late twenties, and was diagnosed as Autistic as a child. He grew up repeatedly being told that he couldn’t comprehend other people or socialize normally, and was heavily trained in social skills and emotional reciprocity by a legion of care providers, school psychologists, and therapists. One of the results of all this is a profound mistrust in himself.
Jacob says, “As a kid, every time I interacted with a non-special-ed kid, I could feel all the eyes on me, people holding their breath, waiting for me to screw up. As an adult, every bad date that I had or bad job interview, my parents would always say well, what did you say wrong? What did you miss?”
To cope with all his guilt and uncertainty, Jacob sought an anchor in evangelical Christianity. He joined a local megachurch when he was seventeen, and became obsessive about serving God and always behaving ‘correctly.’ He distanced himself from friends who drank and smoked weed, threw out all of his favorite books and DVDs that were filled with ‘sinful’ material, placed harsh browsing blocks on his phone and computer, and policed his thoughts for any inklings of cruelty, criminality, or sex.
“I needed to know how to be a good person,” he explains. “And here there were people offering rules on how to be a good person.”
Autistic people are generally known to be highly consistent in how we apply moral or ethical rules to a wide variety of situations, very sensitive to perceived rule violations, willing to sacrifice social acceptance in order to express what we value, and a lot of us wind up developing obsessive-compulsive qualities. There are probably a lot of reasons why this happens, but one of the most frequently suggested ones is that reducing the world to a narrow set of rules helps to make life manageable when you are consistently overwhelmed. If you’re a bottom-up processor in a sea of excessive, unpredictable stimuli, knowing what to focus in on helps.
Obsessively Studying Human Behavior
My inability to recognize & connect with other people’s emotions was part of what drove me to become a social psychologist.
By the time I was in high school, it was clear to me that other people were communicating on a wavelength inaudible to me: A classmate would pointedly tell me It looks like somebody got a haircut and I’d respond with a deadpan Yes, I did, then be laughed at. A teacher would take me aside and tell me that one of my classmates was falling behind on their papers and I’d reply, Oh really, that’s not good, not understanding I was being told to help. It felt as if I was constantly being thrown a rope and dropping it to the floor.
I tried to fill the gaps in my understanding as scientifically as possible, by reading a ton of popular psychology books (of dubious quality). I became obsessed with documenting and analyzing everything about a person’s mannerisms, tone of voice, word choice, and expressions. I studied handwriting analysis, nonverbal gestures, lie detection, attachment strategies, love languages, and active listening.
Over-helping and People-Pleasing
Jewyl is a nonbinary Autistic person who is so afraid that their lack of empathy might make them inconsiderate that they have over-corrected wildly in the opposite direction — forever showering the people around them with praise, attention, acts of service, and gifts. They describe this tendency as compulsive, and say it’s negatively affected their life and relationships a lot.
“I bring my roommate all this food home from my work and I buy all the toiletries and cleaning supplies, I clean the bathroom and the living areas, when she travels I take care of her dog and bird for free, and I buy her a lot of Magic: The Gathering card packs and bring her home lots of new games.”
The reason for this? Ten years ago, Jewyl was kicked out of their housing by a roommate that said they were oblivious to the huge messes of food waste and craft supplies that they made. They have been dropped by numerous friend groups for being too ‘annoying’ and only ever wanting to talk about their own special interests, too, and their family calls them inconsiderate. They never want to risk letting people down again. So they try to make themselves as useful as humanely possible.
I wrote all about the ways that Autistic people who are low- or no-empathy may try to compensate and fit in among empathetics, often at our own expense. You can read the full piece for free on my Substack.
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