A Hottie with a Tottie

The ramblings and observations of a Single Mom who chases an adorable all be it Todzilla around!

[doewithabow]

Makin Moves

Ok ok ok I know I disappeared and I know all of like 3 of you read this but I'm sure you were beginning to wonder what might have happened to this doe and her little fawn aka wildthing! Well my friends in all fairness we did have a good excuse! We MOVED!! Not far but still we moved to our own little two bedroom house. It's charming. Definitely has some really sweet aspects but the snakes that live right outside my front door are not as charming or sweet. I'll have to tell you how it all turns out one we get settled into it. For now we have beds and a shower curtain and Internet. And really isn't that all we need to survive? Oh and food thanks to some friends who went and so kindly bought and brought us groceries we also have food! Wild child is also not only had her whole world turned upside down which hasn't gone over so well she has also graduated to a toddler bed! That is going over better than the move has! She does love having her own room and now having a big girl bed too {night number two!!} but she misses the old place. So I am anxious to get this place together so she might start to feel more stable. Also on the horizon is maybe a change in job scenery so stay tuned more to follow. Also prayers, good juju, happy vibes, and positive thoughts are all welcomed! So here is to new adventures and our next chapter! Night Y'all, the Doe with a Bow

[doewithabow]

Social Adulting

y'all it happened! I went and was social Saturday night! After my sweet post about my adorable Wild Thing my friend in town was like girl you need to get out. So she drug me out..

and y'all it wasn’t ½ bad! I’m so proud of my self lol I straight up hung out with adults and like did this whole adulting!

The night was fun & I didn’t realize how many people I knew until we were out and I had people asking me to hang out with them. It was nice but it was also like being in high school all the little clicks and drama that was out. The music was decent but it wasn’t my normal scene so I was a little out of my comfort zone. The night did end on a rather sour note…I finally go out and venture away from my daughter and I get a 36 oz beer spilt all down me. Y'all I’m talking like half my hair all of my shirt my wallet and my cardigan. All over.. The poor guy he felt so bad and I have to tell you that I felt bad later but he tried to hug me and apologize and I told him to stop touching me unless he wanted me to break his face. He was nice and danced with me later when I came back. But still that was my point - I was ready for home and my bed! I would like to note though that I made it clear to 1:30 am before I had to crawl into bed. I should also note that it took 2 redbulls! Anyways I just had to document that I went and socialized. I did the adulting thing and it wasn’t so bd. I love my Wild Child, but I also noticed in going out that I definitely let everything in my life revolve around Wild Thing. It’s not bad but I’m constantly trying to make up to her for only having one parent in her life. What I realized even more was that in doing so and not taking any time to do something with out her that didn’t include cleaning or prepping or shopping for us for the week or whatever it was affecting my parenting a little. So now I’m going to work on finding a balance for personal time that isn’t based on something for Braelynn and I and making sure that I still spend quality time with Braelynn. So here’s to Adutling! Sincerely, the Doe with a Bow

[doewithabow]

Hugs for Days!

Wild Thing she makes my heart sing. I don't go out often - well in truth I actually don't have much of a social life. I prefer my toddler when I'm not at work so it leaves little room for social or romance. Not that there's really any thing happening in the romance department anyways. Let's be real - I'm a single mom. And that means one of two things group a of guys: I'll date you but only if we can bang....pass {that's how I became a single mom in the first place right} more or less...moving on. group b of guys: I really wanna date you but I'm too scared to ask and you have a kid.... pass Anyways my wee Todzilla! Tonight {and well every night} she fights bed time.. but only kinda sorta. She loves it because we have our own sort of routine, but she hates it because she's missing out on so much {ha! if only she knew how boring it gets around here once she's gone down..} Tonight though she was especially sweet. She wouldn't hug me when I got home but she more than made up for it at bed time. After we said our prayers she stood up on her bed and said MOOOOOOMMMEEEE! i LUUU you. and threw her arms around my neck and hugged so tight then let go grabbed my face and kissed me then hugged me as tight as she could and wouldn't let go until I told her I loved her and to sleep sweet. My heart is full! and so on that note, that's how I'm choosing to end my day is full of love and hugs from my sweet Wild Child! Sincerely, the Doe with a Bow

[doewithabow]

we are so FIERCE! quite frankly there's no other way to describe us. it sums our dynamic duo up perfectly. Wild Thing loves to have her "piture" taken! And this morning on the way into daycare she asked so who was I to tell this adorable Todzilla no?! And immediately after this adorable photo sesh she goes ok "dooooown peeez!" It was the perfect attitude for her shirt that stated she's "Little Miss Independent" ain't no doubt about it, that's my girl! Happy Friday Y'all! -the Doe with a Bow

[doewithabow]

Cat Got Your Tongue

I was going to start with some catchy opening line but I feel like I should disclose that this isn’t a graphic or explicit but it does I guess in some way contain adult content…

Ok now on to the topic that I never thought I would write about… 50. Shades. of. Grey….

Sorry I’m gonna need a minute while that sinks in again…

I have to say the cat really did get my tongue, and not in a sexual way more in the I can’t find my words.

In truth my curiosity got the vey best of me. I’m not sure if it was because of all the women who were so overly obsessed with it or if it was the women who so openly objected and hated the movie and novels. Alas I found my self renting the movie…. {I’m still shocked that I even hit the play button}

In the beginning the movie seemed like poor acting and bad chemistry. And we’re only talking like 5 minutes into the movie. Then as the two main actors dialogue started to pick up I realized just how controlling Grey is. Having been in several controlling relationships now I can see it right off - and there was no denying that Grey is controlling. And not in a healthy adult relationship way…

I’m one of those people who once I start something I feel like I have to finish it…even a bad movie…. So I kept watching thinking it would get better. And for a little bit it did. I sorta felt pulled in like Ana was likable and fun and sweet…. And then she just seemed sad. Other than when he was pleasuring her she just seemed to be so sad.

And then just when I was ready to give up on this film Grey comes in and gives you a small piece of himself that tugs at the heart strings just enough….

And I’m there I’m right there thinking ok I see it I get it - and then BAM! It goes from erotic to pain and it doesn’t even look like he’s ok with it. It’s like they both know on some level that they’ve gone from pain and pleasure to controlling, degrading, and abusive….

I know this is all the same as what’s been said before but I guess it was so different seeing it on screen than reading what others had to say.

The last thoughts that came to mind as the movie closed out were a) this film and relationship was more about abuse than a healthy submissive relationship b) the meme that says if fifty shades of grey were set in a swamp or a trailer park it wouldn’t be a hit… well it’s on point people who read a book about a guy who had similar tastes to that of Grey’s but didn’t have his wealth and power would be considered abusive, gross, and have unhealthy sexual desires. c) damn my curiosity for getting the better of me! d) My hope is that the abrupt ending of the movie send the clear message to young girls and women everywhere that there is a difference between abuse and between a healthy dominant and submissive relationship. and last e) in truth if you can look past the relationship and see it much like that of Magic Mike than it was an ok decent film….

Ok ok ok I’m good I’m done and I wont go on I wont type anymore of this fifty shades of nonsense! And with that I’m out of here!

Sincerely the Doe with a Bow

[doewithabow]

To the tiny human who blessed me with the adventure of motherhood! Thank you my sweet girl for the last few years that turned my world upside down - and even with all the hard times and hard work it's been worth EVERY single minute! Here's to many more adventures with my mini me! -the Doe with a Bow!

[doewithabow]

Todzilla Chapter 2

Happy Mother’s Day Tumblr!

I know I already posted but I just couldn’t resist the opportunity to take a moment to brag about how my daughter makes all this craziness that I call my life worth it!

I said I had some great stuff for you and such but the truth is I can’t even remember it all! Go figure but I do have the best thing from today! While I was getting ready I could hear Wild Thing yelling my name in a very sing song way and by my name I mean Mommy…. Mooooommmyyyy Mommmee MOMI! and then she’d giggle and start over. So I went to investigate because the reality of raising a toddler is usually when my child is sing song saying my name means she has made a mess or some how climbed into a high space that it’s not even humanly possible but somehow the tiny human has accomplished it! Today however maybe she knew it was Mother’s Day and that I didn’t sleep well, whatever it is when I walked into the room the scene was this: My adorable Todzilla not being Todzilla like at all but a picture of happy sweet tiny human with a sippy cup rocking in mom’s rocking chair! And when she looked up and saw me she said “oh hi Mommy, hug please!?” And that’s all she wanted was for me to hug her, because as soon as I did she said ok thanks moooommmeeee! It was the sweetest thing, and it really made working today away from my sweet baby! So when the rest of all the funny things I was going to tell you about come to mind I’ll let you know! So Happy Mother’s Day and I’ll see ya tomorrow! Sincerely the Doe with a Bow

[doewithabow]

Happy Mother's Day

Hello Tumblr world! While I do have some great stuff for you today this one is really just for my mom & all the other hardworking, dedicated, devoted mothers! If it wasn't for my my mom and her excellent parenting finding the balance between parent and friend and perfect boundaries I wouldn't know where to begin as a mother. I'm so blessed to have an amazing mother such as mine. And although we are miles apart, literally on opposite sides of the country I carry my mother in my heart always! Because I LOVE her the mostest! Happy Mother's Day to all the Mother's out there! Sincerely, the Dow with a Bow!

[doewithabow]

Todzilla

Let me introduce my one and only wild thing! She’s a handful! A mess! And a full on drama queen! BUT she is also the sweetest, most loving child a mother could ever dream of.

She’s so full of life, she teaches me so much everyday. She knows how to pull at my heart strings and drive me crazy all in the same action - but she also is so full of wonder which makes it so I can’t help but want to do what ever it is she’s asking, yelling, begging, or demanding for!

She’s an animal lover too - looks like she’ll be like me and bring home all sorts of strays, which I’m sure will drive me just as crazy as I did my momma. She’s so gentle and so kind with animals. She loves on our little yorkie and she is obsessed with her Yaya and Papa’s german shepherd. She will lay her head down on them and say nice doggy and then pet them and say she loves them! The yorkie doesn’t weigh near enough so she struggles with it but the shepherd eats it right up! She loves to tell me all the animals and the noises they make and she’ll even sign them too.

When I started writing this post I thought I don’t have much to say….how do you describe your child to a bunch of total stranger? But now as I think about my wild child and what I would want people I know and love to know about her I just can’t stop typing. I realized I could literally go on for virtual pages! I chose this post today because in truth I work weekends, and that means I miss some fun stuff with my little girl. It also leaves me with out any fresh stories. While I could tell you all sorts of things that have happened recently I wanted something from today that would just make your sides ache… but alas it’s a Saturday and we spent the day apart… So maybe tomorrow or Monday. We shall see… If you’re still here thanks for sticking around and hold on to your electronic device because I promise you it’ll get real interesting and real funny real quick!

I mean seriously I haven't started talking about my dating life... Happy Saturday y'all! Sincerely, the Dow with a Bow!

[thecosmicmami]

My friend sent me this Yak and I am dying of laughter right now 😂😂😂

[doewithabow]

seriously tho! if dad bod is a thing why not the mom bod?!

[doewithabow]

Hello Blogger World

I'm just gonna dive right in! I thought I would love hiding behind an avatar and a witty screen name - the truth is I stand behind what I say, what I believe, and what I think is right. So here I am typing away with still a very witty screen name but not behind a faceless avatar. I love my wild thing aka todzilla - but I do want her to have some privacy when she's older and be safe now so for her sake and safety I will still use some anonymity. Well as much as can be said with our faces in the avatar window anyway. Who knows what I will have for you but one thing I know is that parenting is hard, and doing it alone is even harder BUT its totally worth it and you get some really great laughs and stories. So hold on to your laptops, tablets, phones, ect. whatever - b/c this should be interesting! Sincerely, the doe with a bow! oh yea ps my witty screen name - I do actually shoot a bow and have hunted since I was 13 with my dad.