Dreadtyn Graves

🜏 The Dreadtyn Grave subsys ⛧ Hypersexual arospec transmasc & transneu alters 🜏 19-900 years of age (or ageless) ⛧ Collective he/him & it/its pronouns 🜏 Minor amnesia barriers ⛧ Lots of anxiety 🜏 Vampires, Cryptids, Demons, & Wolves ⛧ rentry 🜏

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

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Dreadtyn Grave Subsystem alter rentry’s, current fronter, and request status

CURRENT FRONTER: https://pk.fulmine.xyz/f/ykcek

CURRENT FRONTER IMPORTANT INFO: X usually use the first person pronouns X/Xs/Xself instead of I/me/my/mine/myself and X use it/he/daedra pronouns.

CURRENT FRONTER STATUS: Accepting pentagram pride emoji requests.  Can request discord size, rentry size, or both

Collective rentry: https://rentry.co/m764b

Krugoura: https://rentry.co/xm23a

Nuer: https://rentry.co/ptp4k

Rott: https://rentry.co/idxsf

Eligor: https://rentry.co/nbum9

[kenstewdivorce]

Like as an alcoholic I HATE the fatphobia related to any form of treatment. The idea that I should stop drinking cause it'll make me lose weight, the way doctors will point out my "beer belly" before they talk about my liver or my kidneys or the social aspect of my drinking problem, the way people only care about my drinking problem cause it makes me fat. You don't care about me as someone who's struggling with addiction.

[kenstewdivorce]

I encourage non alcoholics to like and or reblog this because it's a unique experience of fatphobia you don't understand if you've never tried to get help for a drinking problem.

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

It's bad how much X relate to this. It was more of "imagine what your body would look like if you stopped drinking, plus it's not that hard anyway" vs "this could kill you and is a serious issue that you're struggling with and we care about you and want you to be safe"

[revenant-coining]

Vaemortachronal

[ pt: Vaemortachronal ]

[ID: a rectangular flag with 8 equally-sized horizontal lines and a thicker one in the middle. colors in this order from top to bottom and reflected after the last listed color: black-red, dark pink, purple, blue-purple, pale blue. in the center of the image is a black-red clock symbol, around the symbol is 2 half circles with arrows on the end. the symbol is outlined and filled with pale blue. End ID]

requested by @dreadtyngravesubsys

Vaemortichronal: a chronosian term for when one is immortal in a way similar to vampires and demons.

Etymology: va(mpire), (da)em(on), (imm)orta(l), chronal

@radiomogai , @imawanokiwaaa , @reveningcontent

[ID: a pink line divider with a pink and purple sun in the middle. End ID]

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

Vlassithian

“A xenogender tied to dark classical music and vampire aesthetics.”

This term was requested by no one and coined by Krugoura

@’s are for exposure, please dm to ask to be removed @gender-mailman @epikulupu @revenant-coining @neopronouns​ 

[donniesbf-deactivated20230410]

[ no id ]

bloodrownic

a gender related to blood and drowning in it. it could be the blood of your enemies, your own blood, etc. it may be associated with feelings of fear, but doesn't have to be.

requested by nobody.

[revenant-coining]

Rev's 500 Followers Coining Event !

I hit 500 followers near the end of January and wanted to celebrate ^^ This event starts Feb 22 and ends Feb 28. Any type of term can be coined for this event except transx/transid terms.

please @ me in your post, and use the tag 'rev500event' so I don't miss any !! I'll reblog every post I see as long as I'm not on the poster's DNI :]

Prompts:

Day 1 / Feb 22: love / affection

Day 2 / Feb 23: your own characters / worlds / personas / etc.

Day 3 / Feb 24: light / warmth

Day 4 / Feb 25: sleep / dreams / nightmares

Day 5 / Feb 26: chaos / lack of order

Day 6 / Feb 27: your alterhumanity / nonhumanity (or nonhumans in general if you're not alterhuman / nonhuman)

Day 7 / Feb 28: horror / gore

Alternative Prompts:

an aesthetic you like

spirals / rainbows

oceans / deep sea creatures

multiverse / alternate dimensions

angels / demons

tagging for reach /nf, ask to be untagged !

@gender-mailman , @chaoscoining , @radiomogai , @honey-makes-mogai , @ithriel-coins

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

Perhaps X will attend

[ifyouknowmeirlgoaway]

Man when I was growing up and dealing with my undiagnosed, unmedicated ADHD and having the worst time, my parents would say, “If you can’t do this now, how are you going to handle being an adult?” all. the. fucking. time.

But all of my problems are actually so fixable.

My mom is out of town and asked me to take out her trash. I forgot. And when I remembered I had two seconds of freaking out before I put together a plan: I got two big plastic boxes, loaded her trash into the trunk of my car, and threw it out in my apartment complex’s dumpster. The only bad thing that happened is I had a small leak into one of the boxes, and I’ve already got that soaking with bleach in my tub. FIXING my terrible ADHD mistake took less effort than doing it properly and you are the only people who will know.

But nooooo when I was a kid it was always ~do it right the first time exactly how we expect or it can’t be done at all~. No fucking wonder I’m a mess of an adult now.

[transhysterical]

And can we talk about how “how are you going to handle being an adult?” encourages suicidal ideation as well? Bc holy FUCK

[prof-grace-aspen]

The fact is, if no one teaches you these coping strategies, if no one encourages your creativity and problem-solving, you WILL suffer as an adult - but that’s still not your fault.

SO many ADHD kids that go undiagnosed because they’re “gifted” or fly under the radar crash and burn in college. So many crash and burn trying to hold down a stable job.

This isn’t mean to be doom and gloom, it’s meant as an admonishment to parents and teachers and administrators and therapists and all other adults: if you see a child who is struggling and you do not give them coping techniques; if you do not teach them a different way to accomplish the task, or if you don’t encourage them to think up ways that work for them, you are setting that child up for failure.

I’ve had to do so much work just to stay afloat as an ADHD adult. It’s hard. Sometimes it feels impossibly hard. But I just keep trying to stick with the tricks I know work; to try out new ones, and if something is novel and works for a bit, great!! If the novelty wears off and the coping technique stops working, that’s normal for ADHD too. You are not FAILING if the thing that worked for two weeks suddenly isn’t working anymore. We thrive off novelty, period.

Some of the techniques will stick, I promise.

[fittingoutjane]

My parents spent years and years trying to teach me to keep track of my keys with shame. 

Never. Fucking. Worked. 

I’d do shit like walk around the neighborhood for two hours in winter rather than admit that my keys were lost again. And even when I could keep track of my keys, it was a constant drain of executive function points that I could have been spending on things like homework.

My husband hung little key hooks by the front door, and it worked instantly. Not 100% effective, but like 99% effective. And when my keys do get lost, instead of blaming myself, I stop and think about why the system broke and how I might need to modify it. Oh, there was snow, and dealing with boots and other outerwear distracted me as I came in the door? Yeah, that might happen. How do I incorporate key hanging into the process of wet boot removal?

[bettsfic]

as someone without ADHD but who lives with someone with ADHD who has in turn experienced all the constant parental shaming we’re talking about, the things he’s most terrified of doing or thinks i’ll get mad at him for are actually not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things.

scared to use the oven in case he forgets to turn it off: ovens can stay on for a while. i’m never gone so long i wouldn’t notice and turn it off myself.

scared to forget to lock the door: who cares? we don’t have anything valuable anyone would want to steal, and they did, a locked door wouldn’t stop them.

scared to park in the garage in case he hits either wall and damages the property: yeah that would definitely suck but 1) he’ll get a scratch on his car, whoopdeedo, and 2) a garage door can be fixed. it might cost money but whatever. mistakes happen. all you can do is fix them.

scared to forget his laundry in the washer (which he’s done several times now): just wash it again. 

scared to forget his meds before work: i bought him a little med bottle for his keychain so he can take a couple spares with him.

scared to forget something i asked him to do: i’ll remind him or, better yet, we’ll do it together.

scared to leave something out in the kitchen: ?? ??? i will put it away.  

to me, unless something causes actual bodily harm or death, it’s not that big a deal. everything can be fixed. everything. the worst that can ever happen is that you lose time or money, and maybe it’s a lot of time and maybe it’s a lot of money, but the point is, it can be fixed. you can burn your entire fucking house down and as long as no one’s hurt, nearly everything can be replaced. no doubt it will suck and you’ll lose a few things of sentimental value, but it’s just stuff. just physical objects that you own. and the place you live is just a building. imo it’s way more worth it to live without shame or fear and make the occasional mistake/forget something important than it is to be constantly vigilant of what-ifs. 

[faeleverte]

My life changed when I learned HOW to fix mistakes. When a mistake wasn’t a spiral to despair. When I finally quit trying to be perfect and decided to use my weird brain for creative solutions. ADHD brains are WIRED to be creative and beautiful problem solvers. When you accept that your can be GOOD at fixing mistakes, they become opportunities to shine instead of abuse yourself. And that’s a WONDERFUL feeling!

[amethystshattered]

This was reassuring as someone with undiagnosed adhd. People always tried to tell me the best way and sure, experience helps and if you’re experienced at a task you’ve probably optimised it. But that’s not how my brain works and the ways that help me work the quickest usually are different

[deathrehearsal-deactivated20230]

the world is so cruel to cds...why are you "burning" and "ripping" cds..you should be kissing and hugging them.....

[jungletopia]

[melkamay]

thinking about monstrosities and tenderness

[pawpunkao3]

(Image description: two digital drawings of a pale skinned human hand holding a pitch black, larger hand with claws on an orange background. In the first, the monstrous hand is holding the human hand’s fingers gently between it’s thumb and forefinger. In the second, the human hand is grasping the monster hand’s fingers, not wrapping all the way around. End description.)

[tangymogais]

Arolovic/loving aro

♡ An identity for aros who still feel that love is an important part of their identity! This may be platonic love, love for objects and concepts, or any type of love you associate with. The opposite of a loveless aro

Disclaimer: I fully support loveless aros! But I feel like my experiences with love and being aromantic are the exact opposite, and I wanted to coin something for it :)

💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖💚💖

[ID: a rectangular flag with 9 equally-sized horizontal stripes and colors in this order, top to bottom: dark pink, pink, light pink, green, light green, green, light pink, pink, dark pink. On the second flag there’s white text saying the meanings of the colors, the pink says “love in all its forms” and the green says “aromanticism”]

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

Pride pentagrams

Here is the third and final “batch” of X self ID bitchgender pride pentagrams From top to bottom: Smokebitch, thingbitch, transmascbitch, and finally 🩸bitch

The smaller versions:

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

Pride pentagrams

Here is the second “batch” of bitchgender pride pentagrams that X self ID with From top to bottom: Cigbitch, deadbitch, demonbitch, fembitch, gorebitch, grungebitch, and horrorbitch

Here are the smaller ones:

[dreadtyngravesubsys]

Pride pentagrams

X made a bunch of bitchgender pride pentagrams that X ID with.  Here is the first “batch.” From top to bottom it goes: ADHDbitch, arobitch, autibitch, bloodbitch, boybitch, BPDbitch, and chaosbitch

And here are some smaller ones:

[epikulupu]

DAMUINE

ID START ; a 9 striped flag colored with a thin stripe of dark blue, a large stripe of blue, a stripe of black, white, black, a large stripe of red, a thin stripe of dark red. in the center is a desaturated purple circle outlined in black. in the center is a large white symbol of a tooth, with two smaller symbols of teeth on either side. ; END ID

damuine !

a gender related to being a monster or cast off from society because everyone else damns you before knowing you.

da + mew + ine

from "damned" and "beluine", a variant of beast.

requested by @syrnaxi, coined by @syrnaxi, flag by us.

id by me

[xdle-coxns]

[ IMAGE ID : A flag with 10 stripes colored: Brown, Tan, Off-White, Dark Brown, Orange, Orange, Dark Brown, Off-White, Tan, & Brown. In between the centered Orange stripes is a Black line that– in the middle of the flag –juts down & then up before leveling out. The line & Brown stripes have a Dark red glow around it. END ID ]

CIGBITCH / CIGARETTEBITCH.

— A neogender where one is a cigarette & a bitch ; aka a 'Cigbitch' or 'Cigarettebitch'. — Cigarette + bitch. — Felt like coining it -!

CHRYSALIS @ 02/10/22.

[xdle-coxns]

[ IMAGE ID : A flag with ten stripes, the first 5 going from Light Red to Ash Gray & the next 5 going from Ash Gray to Light Red. In between the Ash Gray stripes is a Black line that– in the middle of the flag –juts down & then up before leveling out. Separating from the top left and bottom right are 2 lines, 1 half the width of the other. Finally, opposite of the deviating lines is a Drop of Blood emoji. END ID ]

🩸BITCH.

— A neogender where one is a 🩸 & a bitch ; aka a '🩸bitch'. — 🩸 + bitch. — Felt like coining it -!

CHRYSALIS @ 02/10/22.

[xdle-coxns]

[ IMAGE ID : A flag with 10 stripes, the first 5 going from Smokey Green to Gray & the next 5 going from Gray to Smokey Green. In between the Gray stripes is a White line that– in the middle of the flag –juts down & then up before leveling out. END ID ]

SMOKEBITCH.

— A neogender where one is smoke & a bitch ; aka a 'smokebitch'. — Smoke + bitch. — Felt like making it -!

CHRYSALIS @ 02/10/22.