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[liberalsarecool]

[antique-scarecrow]

We live in a society not an economy

[glitterweave]

[bloodphoenix]

I am either ascending to a higher plane of existence or having a stroke, but I don’t want it to end.

[michellechang]

i’m a simple gay i see a boy’s belly and my brain stops working immediately

[mysharona1987]

[bubbaj222-deactivated20210803]

The way they don't process how the immediate influx of cash can, if used right, lead to getting the book, or having the credit score, or even having an actual meeting with a celebrity (since he's also a businessman) is always gonna stab my brain the wrong way

[lichtensteining]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[rockshitty]

This reminded me of a story from my youth.

When I was a freshman in high school, my class (the freshmen) got the most cans for a food drive. Part of our prize was that the principal hired a comedian to come do a set for us. He was actually pretty good and I really enjoyed it. I wish I could remember his name or anything about him except for the end of his set.

His last joke was “And before I go, I have one more joke for all the psychics in the audience.” and held his microphone to his forehead for a couple seconds.

I thought it was clever, and I have a really easy laugh, so I laughed.

I was the only one who got it. And the only one who laughed. At the joke specifically for the psychics in the crowd.

And anyway, that’s why my entire high school thought I was psychic for like a month.

[lenacraft]

Nice

[parakeet]

your bed is probably as happy to see you as you are to see it. ‘here comes the warmth slab’ it thinks

[targent]

wrong it thinks “god hope this dipshit doesnt spill beans all over me again who tf eats beans in bed”

[targent]

stop reblogging this new year new me i havent spilled beans in bed ONCE this year

[targent]

uh oh

[targent]

i see you all. reblogging this on the new year to laugh at my folly of times past. if i had a dollar for every time i got an ask about the beans i could buy a new bed for every bean spilled. but no. i am still here.

but the joke is on you i will not eat beans today. oh my god i want beans so bad. but i will resist to spite those who have made me their jester.

maybe if i spill beans again i won’t even tell you. I Have the Power Here

[fuckyeahsirpatrickstewart]

Can we all please take a moment to mentally hug him for tweeting this

[thebiscuiteternal]

[justlookatthosesausages]

THE LEGENDS HAVE SPOKEN

[albertnatural]

[meloetta]

why do they always showcase ‘bullies’ in cartoons as being some punk with a mohawk like

when was the last time you saw a cool guy in a leather jacket not minding his own business it’s usually some basic asshole in a graphic tee that has something to say

[awkward-teabag]

Because the people at the top have a vested interest in making people assume guys like them can’t be bullies.

Bullies in cartoons: Punks

The most violent faction in a dystopia: Punks

Unfriendlies in video games: Punks

Punk fashion is coded to be bad and untrustworthy. Suits and clean-cut clothes are coded to be good and upstanding people.

People with tats, body mods, dyed hair, funky hair cuts are coded to be dirty and lazy. Close-cropped hair, little to no stubble, zero body mods or tats, and nothing colourful is coded as clean and professional.

The people at the top would rather you see the group they fear the most as the enemy so you never question them or threaten their power.

[advenridi]

i genuinely trust people in battle jackets more than people in suits/uniforms

[discogranny]

My racist uncle just showed up at the door, if this gets one reblog Ill deck him

[discogranny]

Well the people have spoken

[dredsina]

mormon kids under the age of 18 being told their church is a cult

mormons 18-24 after they go through their endowment ceremony and receive their new name and secret clothing and learn the secret handshakes and passwords and realize everyone around them has been secretly doing this the whole time and now theyre going to be sent away from their family for 2 years where they will literally not be allowed to be alone for 1 second of the day except to go to the bathroom and they have no idea how to get out of what they just got into

[dredsina]

one of the only perks of being a mormon woman is that i didn’t get my endowment at age 19 and i had a little extra time to mature and be out on my own. that’s all i needed to make a clean break and i got out at 21 before i wouldve gotten my endowment. 

[kittleimp]

wait what? can anyone elaborate on this? because I had no idea this was a thing

[dredsina]

basically when youre a mormon kid growing up you realize your church is a little strict but you’re like whatever. i have friends at church because i go to church 6 days a week and everyone around me is affirming that this is the right thing to do and we have special knowledge no one else has otherwise everyone would be like this. so youve gotta go teach them & it’s the greatest thing in the world to be a missionary. also the temple is beautiful and amazing and spiritual and holy and everyone wants to go there. but it’s a secret! :) because it’s holy and sacred

then if youre a boy and u turn 18 they’re like wow amazing!!! you get to go on a mission and be like all the great men around you!! and now you get to go through the temple! so #blessed!

and then you go through the temple and all the above mentioned SECRET CULTY SHIT happens (EXPLANATION HERE http://mormoncurtain.infymus.com/topic_templeceremonies.html) and youre shipped off to a strange place where everything you eat, wear, go, listen to and do is controlled, and you’re not allowed to talk to your family or friends (except through a once-a-week email) and you literally are being watched by your companion at all. times. 

some might say “you can leave at any time” but consider that i never went on a mission and i never went through the temple and i still consider leaving the mormon church the hardest thing i ever did. you have no social network outside the church. you are lacking major knowledge and skills. you have to grapple with the fact that you may never see your family again.

[chortletortoise]

I’m reblogging this again bc I have Thoughts.

Leaving is such an isolating experience. No one inside wants anything to do with you anymore and no one outside understands the scale of messed up that Mormonism is. Like it’s easy to point and laugh at the ridiculousness, but it’s literally a cult. There’s so much trauma involved and there’s trauma in leaving.

People on the outside don’t understand how hard it is to leave. I grew up where all my friends were catholic and are no longer religious and they’re like “well everyone hates church, you just stop going” but Mormonism isn’t like that at all. For starters I had to get a lawyer involved to leave and then the ostracization from the entire community that nurtured me growing up was just the cherry on top. It’s effectively being shunned. Everyone you were forced to call sister and brother growing up no longer wants anything to do with you. And you deserve it, because you shouldn’t have fallen for the anti-Mormon lies.

Leaving The Church was the hardest thing I ever did and my family accepts me so I’m a lucky one. But they still ardently adhere to the institution that hurt me and has resulted in the deaths of people I love. I will never understand.

[antique-scarecrow]

“There’s so much trauma involved and there’s trauma in leaving.”

It’s easy for people looking in from the outside to forget this. Thank you for the reminder. Can anyone recommend resources for young Mormons looking to explore their options?

[periwinklepromise]

Please note: this post will be directly addressed to those hypothetical young Mormons

If you know you’re ready to leave, use quitmormon.com. It’s run by the guy from reddit who is now famous in exmormon circles for offering absolutely free legal services to anybody who needs help leaving. You can give your church id number if you know it, but it’s not required (I never memorized mine, and I sure wasn’t going to ask for it). He takes care of everything. This keeps TSCC (the so-called church) from getting all your latest info and keeps them from hassling you or harassing you. They have to talk to your lawyer instead. Pre 2015, it felt almost impossible to try to leave, but it’s a lot easier now! The years of picketing General Conference to force an excommunication trial are over!

Find a support system. Lean on your friends that have never been mormon, any family members who left, anyone you know who left. I’m an exmormon happy to answer any questions, and I’m sure there are plenty others in the notes who would be super willing to be supportive too. Exmormon groups are many and varied now, and it’s best to find the one that vibes for you. There’s a subreddit that’s popular, but I personally used - and I know this sounds weird, since I don’t have kids - a forum called Mormonism & More on the site babycenter.com. It was started several years ago by some mormons who had questions they weren’t allowed to ask on the normal mormon board (because that board required uplifting, mormon-approved answers at all times). It’s since shifted to ex-mormons or people who want to leave but can’t right now because of family situations. Even though the threads were years old, I spent weeks on that forum, reading about what other people had gone through and how they got through it, and to me, that was super helpful.

Research the culty stuff at your own peril. I liked learning about that stuff for a really long time, because I felt learning about all those secrets (I especially liked learning about the truth of the Book of Abraham) … it helped me feel valid in my choice. It helped me keep in mind that this was something that I had escaped, something that had wanted to hurt me. Missing your abuser doesn’t mean you should go back, it means you should keep moving forward. Missing your cult has the same solution. Lots of people fell for the “we’re totally not a cult!” line by TSCC. Some of them will not offer sympathy. If you want to watch the hidden camera videos of endowments and other temple stuff, I would super super recommend you have a trusted friend watch them with you. And bring comfort food. You’ll probably need it.

TSCC put out a series of essays on controversial (read: faith-killing, eye-opening, omg how could I have ever supported the people who did this) issues in mormon history. They are the Orthodox LDS pre-approved responses to a lot of the more incriminating accusations that have been leveled at TSCC over the years. They should be hosted on TSCC website somewhere, and would have been posted around or after 2015. They may reaffirm your faith now that you know TSCC’s defense, but they may push you right out the door. (Or break the shelf? Do Mormons still use the shelf analogy, or is that retired now?)

Lots of mormons become atheists after leaving. Many join mainstream xian churches. Some become witches, some study every religion they can get their hands on, some try to go back and realize all the magic (or holy spirit, if you prefer) is gone. Don’t think you have to know right away. Some people throw away or burn all their mormon stuff, some people keep it to show their kids, but again, you don’t have to make that decision right away. Some people call TSCC a cult after they leave, myself included, but you don’t have to if it makes you uncomfortable or it it doesn’t feel true to your experience.

Look up religious trauma syndrome. It’s real. The pain you will probably feel is real, the grief you will probably feel is real, and in many ways, you may have to mourn the death of what you were always told Life Will Be For You.

And learn that the world is not half as evil as TSCC told you. Your coworkers who drink a beer at the end of the day are not evil or abusive. Your friends who wear sleeveless shirts are not evil or promiscuous. You’re allowed to wear short shorts! You’re allowed to drink coffee! You’re allowed to ask questions in a faith community without being silenced or condemned! You’re allowed to not want kids! There’s a lot of unlearning here.

TLDR? You have options. You have freedom. Find nonmormon friends who will support you. Be kind to yourself.

[cornedbeefhashtags]

You want to settle this under the mistletoe, bro? 😤

[yimra-deactivated20250209]

[homoclothes]

cat boy this cat boy that...... i need a cat MAN .

[nasty-boi-dread-deactivated2026]

[falseficus]

had to watch a sea urchin fertilization lab for school and the way they dispose of the fertilized urchins is putting them in a tub labeled “used” lmao

[falseficus]

cruelty

[vietnyamese]

slutty urchins banished to the whore chamber

[reniadeb]

[seppohater-deactivated20230613]

this interaction literally ruined my day

[moxyinverse]

theres not one last name between them

[flawlessglamazon]

I REFUSE to let this get buried in the notes