echoloading

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[echoloading]

i guess maybe a pinned/intro post is a good idea

its been long enough (like almost a year and a half i think)

hi i dont have a name i want to go by right now so you can just call me echo or h ig

They/it/he pronouns

aroace spectrum

i need therapy but so do we all

Self-diagnosed autistic and i also maybe have adhd

Minor

Tags that i'm going to start using (they're pretty self explanatory):

#h's rambles - my thoughts

#h's vents - me venting

#tips - general tips for stuff, esp that i want to be able to find again

#reminders - positive reminders for when i need to cheer myself up

Might add to the list

[thespoonisvictory]

people misunderstand what ‘gifted kid’ actually means but it’s ok it’s fine it’s cool it’s good

[thespoonisvictory]

it’s not about actually being gifted, it’s about an initial higher scoring on standardized testing that means little to nothing or being good at learning in the way elementary and middle school wants you to, so you get marked as ‘advanced’. in reality, maybe you had faster development in certain areas, but the issue with being a gifted kid isn’t that “everyone told me I was so cool and special for reading and then I actually wasn’t :(” it’s “I wasn’t properly taught to handle things not coming easily to me, but the adults around me were counting on me not being a ‘difficult’ child in school.”

people who use it as some weird bragging method or interpret it that way are ignoring the way a lot of school systems force certain roles on students to simplify the learning process. If your kid doesn’t need to take notes to understand a science concept bc they get it naturally, well that’s good, but now you’re not teaching them how to take notes and they’re not learning that important soft skill. but because ‘gifted’ kids are easy and don’t show that they’re falling behind in learning in other categories that are harder to quantify, they eventually fall behind after that catches up to them. It’s about the failures of a one size fits all school system trying to compensate in the worst way possible.

[jabberwockypie]

And also the thing where ‘gifted’ kids are super likely to also be neuroatypical, which they don’t get screened for because they appear to be doing well in school. Or “You can’t be ADHD/autistic/etc, because you’re doing so well in school!”. Or being shamed for developing mental health issues/generally not being able to keep up with school work later, because you USED TO BE able to do it just fine.

Or the assumption that just because you can read well or you like math class, you’re somehow more EMOTIONALLY mature than your little kid brain is actually capable of being.

Or gifted kids whose parents and teachers put immense pressure on them to Do Great Things and Save The World and you’re like. “I’m 10 and I have no idea how to do that, but everyone is saying that’s my job?”.

[swordplease]

This is the best “gifted kid” post out there. I never took notes until college because I didn’t have to, snd when it got challenging I had to literally teach myself note taking at age 18. It also fucks with your perception of asking for help - you’re advanced, you’re competent, you should be able to understand every topic easily. Asking for help/going to office hours/asking for a tutor feels like failing when you were praised in your early years for not needing to do that.

[doomhamster]

#no one cares how smart you are as an adult they only care about the things adhd makes you bad at <- @elspethdixon, quoted for truth.

[echoloading]

Until this year i'd not studied once in my life, I studied once for an AP psych test and then didn't study for the rest of them because I didn't study for the second one and did fine and so decided I had other priorities. Some teachers at my school are working to get some better support for gifted kids but unfortunately that isn't in place yet and I know that I'm going to have a hell of a learning curve when I get to college because I don't know how to take good notes and I don't know how to study. I know it'll be hell because my mom (who was in the same school district as me growing up and who was also in the gifted program) also had a horrible time adjusting to her college experience, partially because she was used to jump all of the hardest and most advanced courses available to her and was not ready for the jump that would come with college. I have long believed that the problem with gifted education is that we were provided with fun and stimulating activities, not true challenges, and thus never learned to complete difficult tasks, and it's very validating to hear others say the same.

[echoloading]

"I've devoted my entire life to the glorious trees of the Engine Orchard of Oda. The craft the we have grown there, the freedom of flight, and sailing, of travel under sea and over wave and on top of clouds and to the stars and asteroids beyond. I've devoted my life to it. And the thought that those trees would suffer, that the lights of Oda might dim, if we had to change the way we live, it drops a pit into my stomach. But if we turned away from this right now, we wouldn't be saving Oda, we'd be destroying it. What did I say to you brave strangers when you showed up in Oda? No shortcuts. You do it the hard way."

"And it's.. you didn't know. None of- nobody knew that all of this bounty came from the suffering of others. But now you do... it's not the same, is it?"

"No. If we have to wait a couple hundred years to find out how to grow the trees in a new way, then that's the way we have to do it. No shortcuts."

[loveridden1999]

starting a collection

[opossum-handz]

[loveridden1999]

to the young who want to die by gwendolyn brooks

[thesweetiepienovels]

“No one is coming to save you.” I disagree ! I believe many people made up of many small moments come to save pieces of you , even if just briefly. The mentor who believed in you . The friend who said they’re proud of you. The family member that makes you laugh . The random person who held the door for you out of nothing but kindness. The teacher who took extra time to help you understand. The person who smiled at you when you walked into a store. The little kid who looks up to you. The person who randomly complimented you. Being “saved” isn’t about being whisked away and all your hardships gone, it’s about the people and things that remind you life is not all hardships, it is kindness, love, gentleness, softness, care, thoughtfulness. It is many moments made up of your lifetime that keeps you going and showing you the world is still beautiful, and will always be. Despite.

[paper-wounds]

“If I Am Killed For Simply Living” — Althea Davis

[16tinyfrogs]

on watching a parent age

i saw somebody say “what if you’re gone and i haven’t become anything yet” and basically that broke me on a random thursday evening

[jordanbolton]

'16 Scenes of You and Your Dad in Cars' - Jordan Bolton

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[willgrahamscock]

the most essential part of a fandom are those people who immediately tell you to write it, draw it, make it when you share your ideas, you have no idea how many fanworks are born just because someone encouraged it

[willgrahamscock]

another great way to make sure this continues is pressing the reblog button and going insane in the tags

[willgrahamscock]

immediately adding ‘fandom conga lines’ to my vocab

[imjunebitch]

[lunarberrylatte]

hey so you know even if the trans girl doesn't pass you still have to use her pronouns right?

even if she doesn't "try to pass" she still deserves the same basic respect you give everybody else.

even if she's done something bad that doesn't excuse you misgendering her on purpose.

i'm so sick of people treating trans people's pronouns as some kind of reward you get if you've been a good tranny.

this goes for those who use neopronouns too i dont care how "weird" you think it is especially if you're trans yourself.

it really is that easy :)

[cybergirl-cathy]

Something, something, "the test for progressivism is not whether you respect your friends but your friends and enemies too."

[daysleftofsecondterm]

Beautiful, you don’t HAVE to forgive them. You just can’t ridicule them after leaving for being “tainted” or “evil” or whatever the acceptable word is now. Do not punish the behaviour you want to see.

“But they should’ve known sooner” and we should’ve known sooner that Destiel was never gonna meaningfully happen outside of queerbaiting, what’s your point?

“I never want them near me” that’s fine, but you do realize to insult them, YOU have to get near THEM, right? Wouldn’t it be more conducive to what you want to just leave each other alone?

“What if one of them tries to approach me?” Then you block them online, or you keep the conversation clinical and polite irl. You do NOT take time out of your day to berate them for their old views. Your mother raised you better than that.

[jame-dumb]

Preserving these tags, they're very correct

[llamaking]

I would reblog this one million times if I could

[daysleftofsecondterm]

As a matter of fact you can!

[ink-in-hand]

This is fundamentally how cults WORK, btw

Villainize outsiders, which can look different depending on the cult, make everything an us vs them situation. And then when those outsiders show themselves to be hostile (doesn't matter why) the cult is proven right all along on one of their foundational messages

[planetsoda]

you’re laughing?

zacky lee maple was kicked to pieces by bigfoot who is the inventor of kumite

and you’re laughing?

[dragon-in-a-fez]

the ashtrays in airplane bathrooms are a fascinating harm reduction metaphor. yes it's illegal as hell to smoke in there. yes there's a smoke detector that will snitch on you the second you light up. so why is there an ashtray? because if there weren't, your single momentary dumbass crime could kill 300 people. it is fucking vital that if someone does have a lit cigarette on a plane, they have a place to safely put it out.

[waspsinyouryard]

admittedly i know little of the subject but one would think, at 45 years of age, he would be a ryan goose by now