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Ela, twenty-seven; a postgraduate student somewhere in SE Queensland Au + a hoarder of hobbies and all things cute and messy, also keeps a planner but is so inconsistent with it this space is where she dumps things that keep her creative juices flowing

[kosmogrl]

[bootdork]

I wish it was easier to talk about mobile phone addiction without sounding like a boomer

[bootdork]

Phone addiction (specifically social media addiction) is real and it's not a joke and it is everywhere. Phone addiction literally reduces the grey matter of your brain. It's no secret young adults are more anxious and depressed than ever; more lonely than ever; more aimless than ever. Do you remember being a hugely creative kid, and feel like that spark is gone now? Can't sleep at night? Yeah, your GABA receptors are probably fucked from getting hits every 60 seconds from checking your phone. What's your daily screen time like? 6 hours? 12? These are common numbers. It's insane! It's insane and it's deliberate. Companies make more money from you when you're brain is fried from scrolling 10 hours a day through meaningless content.

But it can be reversed. Start small. If you hit this post then take 5 minutes to put your phone down in another room and do something. Do a crossword. Go for a walk. Be present! CBT is a hugely successful therapy for phone addiction and can even reverse the damage done to your brain.

I get it. I have dozens of beloved friends online, and I'm more informed now than I would ever have been without access to the Internet, but wouldn't it be nice to wonder sometimes? Wouldn't it be nice to be able to go outside and not itch for your phone screen? To have that creativity and confidence back? Start small. Start now.

[kerink]

i know we're all sick of self-care being a marketing tactic now, but i don't think a lot of us have any other concept of self-care beyond what companies have tried to sell us, so i thought i'd share my favorite self-care hand out

brought to you by how mad i just got at a Target ad

[themythicalcodfish]

OP this is EXCELLENT

[whatbigotspost]

Now THAT’S a self care resource! If you’ve gotten distracted by capitalism’s appropriation of “self-care” and watering the meaning down to nothing this is a super helpful guide to cut through the bullshit.

[wetheurban]

Life is really just returning back to yourself over and over and over again.

[darkshrimpemotions]

If the right way is too hard, fuck it. Do it the wrong way.

Folding clothes keeps you from getting the laundry done? Stop folding clothes. Put a basket in your room and throw your unfolded clean stuff into it right out of the dryer, it's fine.

Rinsing dishes off keeps you from loading the dishwasher? Load them dirty and run it twice.

Chopping onions keeps you from making yourself dinner? Buy the freezer bags of chopped onions.

You forget to take your meds and don't want to get out of bed to get them? Start putting them next to the bed.

Can't keep up with the dishes? Get paper plates. Worried about environment impact? Order biodegradable ones online if your local store doesn't have one.

Make the task easier. Put things where you use them instead of where they "go." Eliminate the steps that keep you from finishing the task. Eliminate the task that is stressing you out.

Do it the "wrong" way. It's literally fine.

[stuckinapril]

you will get up & you will make that to do list & you will be realistic about your limits & you will take it easy but steady & you will eat good food & you will get things done & you will move your body & you will do things that make you happy & you will limit your screen time & you will be the thing that saves you

[eatpussypraylove]

This is generally directed to people in my inbox who ask for life advice - Once you realize being a beginner is incredibly awesome and exciting and you’re on this earth to do things and interact w ppl everything shifts. Be awkward be bad I sincerely just view all of life as a fun game of practice where I get to try random things even if it’s like painting a wall or figuring out public transportation or talking to someone I don’t know. It’s all about the experience and if I’m “bad” or make a mistake or feel awkward at a party it’s all good because I’m learning

[teachingliteracy]

“‘Don’t you ever mind,’ she asked suddenly, ‘not being rich enough to buy all the books you want?’”

— The House of Mirth, Edith Wharton (via macrolit)

[werelivingarts-deactivated20230]

‘eat the frog' method

Hi all, it’s werelivingarts. I just stumbled across this method called ‘eat the frog’, which means you get the most difficult or important task out of your way first. I actually have been using this method for a long time, hope this post gives you a new way of managing your time and productivity! 😜 ❤️

“If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first.” – Mark Twain 

[obsessivecompulsive]

Six simple rituals: 1. Drink a glass of water when you wake up. Your body loses water while you sleep, so you’re naturally dehydrated in the morning. A glass of water when you wake helps start your day fresh. 2. Define your top 3. Every morning ask yourself, “What are the top three most important tasks that I will complete today?” Prioritizes your day accordingly and don’t sleep until the Top 3 are complete. 3. The 50/10 Rule. Solo-task and do more faster by working in 50/10 increments. Use a timer to work for 50 minutes on only one important task with 10 minute breaks in between. Spend your 10 minutes getting away from your desk, going outside, calling friends, meditating, or grabbing a glass of water. 4. Move and sweat daily. Regular movement keeps us healthy and alert. It boosts energy and mood, and relieves stress. 5. Express gratitude. Gratitude fosters happiness. Each morning, think of at least five things you’re thankful for. In times of stress, pause and reflect on these things. 6. Reflect daily. Bring closure to your day through 10 minutes of reflection. Asks yourself, “What went well?” and “What needs improvement?”

(via bewwbs)

[lovelikemountains]

you ever just get in bed and ur like yep this is where i’m meant to be

[sincerely-barbaragordon-deactiv]

I love how this can have deep meaning like where you’re at in life or just purely loving the fact that you’re in bed

[so-pale-girl]

I want to write and create.

Jos. (via so-pale-girl)

[perrfectly]

[offtheocean-deactivated20191127]

Date someone who meets you half way. Date someone who brings you a glass a water when they get themselves one. Date someone who makes sure you don’t spend money on ridiculous things. Date someone your ex hates and your mom loves. Date someone who’d rather spend a Friday night watching movies, than out with 50 people they barely even talk to. Date someone who sleeps on your chest and leaves a little puddle of drool. Don’t date someone who makes you leave oceans of tears.

At the end of the day it’s the little things. (via offtheocean)

[wordsnquotes]

I am irritated by my own writing. I am like a violinist whose ear is true, but whose fingers refuse to reproduce precisely the sound he hears within.

Gustave Flaubert (via wordsnquotes)

“Nobody tells this to people who are beginners, I wish someone told me. All of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste. But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, it’s just not that good. It’s trying to be good, it has potential, but it’s not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase, they quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn’t have this special thing that we want it to have. We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know its normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I’ve ever met. It’s gonna take awhile. It’s normal to take awhile. You’ve just gotta fight your way through.”

—Ira Glass

(via idiopathicsmile)

[addiandarlie-deactivated2024101]

You realize you are not alone, right? No one in their twenties has life figured out. It’s okay to be a mess. You’re living.

Things my therapist told me today that almost made me burst out into tears. I need to remember this more often.  (via cesttoujourslamemehistoire)

[new-poets-society]

Women like us.

They warn you of women like us. They warn you, long before we ever breathe the air you know, Like our names are the syllables to catastrophic prophecies. We, who don’t stop. Don’t fall. Don’t cry. Don’t leave. Don’t stay. We who don’t and can’t and won’t. Who say No and no and hell no, until Every vein in our chasms and every nerve in our reigns resonates with the echoes of our denial to die down, until The ‘Yes’ we were always taught to say becomes nothing more than a fading stamp on an old passport. We are not candles or fires or hurricanes or any other jars of clichéd metaphors to feed the skies of your imaginations. We are bones and soul and dreams And then some more. Our mouths are the places that make you homesick for oceans you never even traversed, Our hands the galaxies you visited once in a long forgotten dream. We are the warm ideas you try to tuck away for cold rainy winters- In alleys, temples, banks, caves, the very depths of your conscience, Only to realize- We never even were containable to begin with.