How I Survive Life?

Me, my life and I. Just an ordinary human being sharing their ups and downs, success and failures, goods and bads, likes and dislikes, the insane and the unsane, the should haves and the should definitly nots- because sharing is caring, right? Instagram: How.I.Survive.life.elizameh

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So I guess we're coming to the end of the year.... And I guess we'll all start seeing them "what a year posts" , "can't wait for next year" "my goals for next year are...."

The sometimes irritating look how much I have achieved posts when all you've done (well I've done) is just survive.

But let's face it 2020 has been just pure shite. But still a year, i guess we could call it the year we all paused..... Hmmm imagine if that was the film title really not appealing, the year the earth stood still.... I'm sure that's a film already....... Just simple covid 19 in 2020, nah we wouldn't have to see that we all know what happens in that movie....... Hmmmm suppose title pending.

So if your wondering if this is going to be one of those look at what I've achieved, my reflection on the year, looking forward to next year posts..... Well yeah I guess it is.

This year we've all spent times away from our loved ones, some more than others but for all of us as social creatures that's hard. We've all lost people or know of people who have passed, fluffy ones and all. We may have gained or re-ignited a relationship or lost one.... I'm still including fluffy ones in this too.

We've all seen and been through the frustration of the covid restrictions and witnessed the effects of it, the strain of it, the impact of it on living our lives, achieving our goals and our mental health.

I'm sure we've all said we could have done a miles better job or given suggestions on how to run this country better. Yep... Guilty!! You know what we probably could.......and we all have our views. But we've got through it and you've done an awesome job so far.

So what have we achieved this year......

I feel like probs many people out there, that I have achieved nothing... Nothing I've wanted to and that's frustrated me. But On reflection alot has been achieved. And a lot has been learnt.... And I bet you've done alot too.

So here is what I have learnt and achieved:

1. I made it through the year and so have you, So let me first congratulate you on making it this far and surving this roller-coaster 2020(thats the title). This is a massive achievement. And if this is all You've done, doesn't matter your here and that's all that matters.

2. I've watched a lot of series on Netflix and realised if I've done nothing it's fine sometimes I need to rest.

3. Life is not a competition about who has the more stuff, more money or the shittest life.... its about supporting them because you never know when your going to need the help in return.

4. Respecting others:I feel like this has left the majority of people and something we all need to learn to do.... Or do more often.

5. Social media can be the devil

6. Find a good skin care routine: it's generally changed my skin and I will be blogging about this in the new year.

7. I've got to be comfortable and happy before I can help others be happy.

8. Every little thing helps: even if it's just getting dressed in the morning or doing the washing up, or making your bed. You've achieved something for the day.

9. Control the things you can control, I get tied up in things I cannot control and get anxious about it. I've learnt it's pointless doing this.

10. When the bowls full it's full:by meaning I cannot do everything something has to wait to get done.

11. Live each day, because everyday could be my last.

12. I love all the people in my life. And your all fantastic and I have totally underestimated how much you make my life bearable to. Live.

13.People will find an excuse for anything not trying, failing. People will use anything as an excuse. You get no where using excuses and if you really want to do something you will always find a way.

14.reflection, doesn't harm to tell yourself what the f*** have you done, buts also good to think how you could of done better or the things you have done well.

15. Let go of the things that don't matter. You wouldnt waste 1 million pound trying to get the 10 pound back you lost, so you wouldn't waste a day fretting over something that doesn't matter.

So Id just like to say.... If you feel like you've achieved /learnt nothing or gone no where this year.... Chances are you've done more than you think. So...

Cheers and here's to 2021, I'd set some goals but let's face it who knows what's going to happen. probs get taken over by a pack of man eating monkies, hope not, but moving on this is my mantra for next year.......

-live each day to the best I can

-don't make excuses, find a way.

-talk more and respect others

-think about the things only I can control and not about the things I can't.

-Reflect on your day, week, or month and set small achievable goals.

-not worry about the things that don't matter.

-smile more..... I'm nearly 30 and I feel like I've not yet developed my laughter lines yet.

2020 it's time to eff off step aside and let 2021 take the stage.... 2021 let's see what you've got!!

All the best

Take care

We can do this!!

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Learn from the past. Live today. Look forward to tomorrow.

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Milk and honey “Outlook”

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xo

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No doubt one of the best films ever.... Independence day (1996). You know the one with Will Smith and Jeff Goldblum were Aliens try and take over planet earth but earth fights back and stands together as a planet and kicks Alien butt...... then they decided to make a not as good but still good Independence day resurgence (2016) with no Will Smith but still with Jeff Goldblum....and still earth stands together as one and kicks Alien butt....but this time earth had learnt from the Aliens and developed their technology to make the fight easier.......well here is perhaps one of the most relevant quotes from President Thomas J. Whitmore(character in the film):

"Good morning. In less than an hour, aircraft from here will join others from around the world. And you will be launching the largest aerial battle in the history of mankind. "Mankind." That word should have new meaning for all of us today. We can't be consumed by our petty differences anymore. We will be united in our common interests. Perhaps it's fate that today is the Fourth of July, and you will once again be fighting for our freedom... Not from tyranny, oppression, or persecution... but from annihilation. We are fighting for our right to live. To exist. And should we win the day, the Fourth of July will no longer be known as an American holiday, but as the day the world declared in one voice: "We will not go quietly into the night!" We will not vanish without a fight! We're going to live on! We're going to survive! Today we celebrate our Independence Day!"

Instead of physical Aliens we are all fighting an Alien virus unknown and new...... In this time of need when we are separated in our fight for survival it's important to remember no matter who we are, our nationality, wealth, position, gender, race,age, religion or ethnicity we are the same the same species and ....we all fighting to survive. I think it's important that no matter these differences at the end of the day we are all human beings and we are stronger together than we are as individuals. And if we fight and stand together we will soon have a new independence day.... Independence from a virus that has devastated our human race all across the globe. And in the time to come...we can learn from this new threat and make sure we are prepared to be stronger for the future.... And prepared for the next Alien fight!! ..... We are strong as individuals but even stronger when we stand together!!

4.7.2020 Eliza MEH

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Dreaming of home

Dreaming of home, a trickled down my face and fell until it joined the pool under foot. I smile.

What would I be doing at 9 minutes to 11am on a Saturday morning?

Feet up on the sofa, reading the newspaper; a hot cuppa in hand warming the soul. I can taste that sweet taste on my tongue.

Catch up with the lads before the game, in the pub with a pint?

I chuckle at one of little Johnny’s jokes. I wonder what he’s doing now.

5 minutes to 11 am.

A soak in the bath after an early morning shift in the factory. For sure I wouldn’t be soaking in icy cold mud.

2 minutes to 11am.

The faces of my two baby boys and my girl running up Clifton Hill with the kite watching it soar high. I just hope I see the afternoon.

11am. The sound of the whistle. The shouts of the gaffa.

Common boys. It’s time to climb

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A bit of writing here and there: Poem.

I’m Standing here

All alone

With nothing to do

and nothing to say

with this fear

that won’t go away

 I’m standing here

With people I know

With something to do

And something to say

With that fear

Gone……

……away!

Eliza-Meh xx

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Friends are like the Rays of sunshine breaking through the clouds after a storm. They are strong, few and far between; lighting up the torrent that had once stood.

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The beach is my get away place.

Why?

Because staring out to sea gives me hope that there is something better out there.

It gives me courage and strength, calms my anger, refreshes my mind.

The sea, taking away my thoughts with its tide, burying them in the depths to be forgotten but not entirely lost.

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How I Survive Life.....What’s this all about???

When there is a crisis, we as human beings always want to help. Its in our nature. Through physical help or moral support; sharing a recipe; a way of doing something to make life easier; a message to say your not alone or just a funny video.

The age of technology makes this so much easier. The ability to phone someone at the touch of a button and see them as you call them; 10 years ago just connecting just connecting to the internet took the amount of time you could phone somebody, make a cuppa and practice your handstands. (I’m not one of these back in my day people, no. Well not yet anyways)

You can post videos online of motivational speeches or we can do share quotes, upload photo’s that people 3000 miles away, who you have never met can see. The outreach of information is unreal.

In this such crisis never had we needed the use of technology more to keep in touch.

During this crisis, for some we take the time to do what we can to continue to work. Fitness- we make do with what we have. For some, they don’t know what to do- For others we take this time of isolation to learn or do something new; or something we have always wanted to do.

For me I have always wanted to sit and write. I have always been too busy, too distracted to write. My brain going into overdrive every time I sit down, or by the time I have sat down what, I have wanted to write has flown away. I wish there was a machine were my thought would automatically turn into words, that would not only make things less time consuming but solve my anxiety of structuring sentences, thinking about grammar, spelling and help me focus on my content.

Oh I say as I notice the dictate button on the corner of the word document-Let's see if this works…..

Using dicate……oh it does fantastic however I hate the sound of my own voice. Although I still have to think about grammar. Got a full stop started delete started no just posted deleted not riot a care dictate has trouble understanding the Hulk St home accent no home hat H you LL ho Just kind of fun this is kinda fun. Maybe not…….

It had trouble understanding my accent…… So I guess I'll have to type.

On March 23rd 2020 the UK government announced the Lockdown of the UK. At the beginning of March covid-19 (a strain of the coronavirus) hit the UK; a virus that had been sweeping the edge of the planet. The virus attacks the lungs and the immune system. For most people the virus will have mild symptoms, but for some the virus can be deadly and we are likely to see many more deaths. Social distancing has become the norm over the last few weeks and my hands are on their 4th layer of skin, but we need to do our bit to try and save as many people as possible. Yes it means we don’t see our families, friends or even watch and take part in sport; my one time I’m allowed out my house to exercise I now fully appreciate and have quickly come to learn to pack in as much as I can to my one and only daily venture out the house, otherwise I sit, procrastinate and let my anxiety take over.

So here I sit- after week one of lockdown, by myself, at the dining room table. My homemade pizza (I know right homemade pizza- may as well brush up on my cooking skills to, I’ll post my recipe later) I have decided to start to write. I’ve told myself not to think about my grammar, I just want to write.  I just want to see where this writing journey takes me.

And now 26th May 2020 after almost 2 months of procrastinating, writing paragraphs from time to time, I decided to take the leap of creating a platform where I can post. Like most people I needed a kick up the backside to get me going making myself write, even if its complete crap, to post something. (as well as a helping hand from a friend who regularly messages me have you posted yet, and giving me encouragement…..thankyou so much)

Most of the time its finding something to write about. I then thought about life.

My life- it’s not anything special- everyday- but the everyday is what I find relatable. Like someone conquering Everest is extraordinary and climbing Everest is on my bucket list; reading bout it is captivating. The views, the technique the struggles. But what about the views, the technique and struggle of life. Why can’t I share the simplicity of the everyday as well as the extra-ordinary? Like the impact of reading a book. Or the struggle of carrying a full washing basket up my own version of Everest (the stairs- I have my own technique for this by the way, and recently found a painful way of getting down) or sharing a story of the past, talking with someone you have never met before, a funny joke, a really cool tv programme, the product you’ve used, a craft project. The times that are happy the times that are sad. Finding a life hack or sharing positive/negative experience. Or your opinion. Like I think ever one should be entitled to their opinion, good or bad but I also feel people should be prepared that others think differently. Because each and every one of us is subjective to every aspect of life. Which is why I decided on How I Survive Life. My own life survival story for the and the trivial. Yeah there is probably a million other blogs like this- but none have the same experiences of me. We all see life through a different pair of eyes.

A little ask from me………

Now please- all I ask from you is your support- I always get these amazing ideas in my head “I’m going to do them”- but then I never have the balls to do it and I freeze, have a melt down and go back to my safe space and hide away from the world. I never take that Leap.

Well now I’m sucking up the courage- and I’m taking that jump.

I’m putting myself out there and taking every opportunity I can. You never know what’s going to happen, you never know what’s around the corner. I’m going to give it a go. So I’m asking you to hold my hand and support me, read my stuff, like it if you want, give me feedback, suggest your ideas too- oh I’m open to this!!

I’m sooo open to sharing ideas, sharing experiences and recommendations. Give me constructive feedback (now this is not slating, slagging off, trolling- its suggesting ways to improve, offering guidance)…..But if your going to hate it then don’t follow it, don’t read it, stay away from my posts- because this world is so full of negativity and bull that adding more to it is just not going to help. If you want to give me negativity than follow it through with things that could help, things to change and make it better. There is one thing that seems to be lacking in this world and that is helping each other. No person has made it by themselves there has always been someone giving them constructive criticism to guide them.

So here goes……. Welcome to my world, my life, and my brain. Welcome to ‘How I Survive Life’….. And I do hope you enjoy reading!

Lots of Love

Eliza-Meh xx

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The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

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And so my blogging journey begins with this first step. I am looking forward to posting my first full blog soon. Look out for it-  And I hope you will join me in my blogging journey.