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Yet another new study debunked the basis for the anti-trans sports bans. It was never about sports but for creating legal avenues for exclusion and abjection. This is one of the largest analyses ever conducted, involving 52 studies and 6,485 trans people. Read the study here.

lucieslucidity

post so nice had to reblog it twice and force it down everyone's throats

fleshengine

At minimum about 4.5 thousand people liked this without reblogging it.

We gotta fix that.

dancinbutterfly

Progress.

Onwards!

onthedriftinthetardis

I can't access the full paper, but their conclusion is right there in the abstract:

While transgender women exhibited higher lean mass than cisgender women, their physical fitness was comparable. Current evidence is mostly low certainty and has heterogenous quality but does not support theories of inherent athletic advantages for transgender women over cisgender.

lauralot89

hydrattan

I was feeling agitated and artblocked yesterday so I decided to give my brain a rest by watching TV and then the next thing I knew these were in front of me

phineas-and-ferb-heritage-posts

phineas and ferb heritage post

lakemojave

People are unfazed if you hate women but if you dislike dogs they assume you're a bad person

horsefriend

putnamspuppeteer

For those who don't know: Ikumi Nakamura is the woman who was senior artist on Bayonetta, and designed the titular character along with Hideki Kamiya. Their greatest moment of bonding was over their insistence that Bayonetta keep her glasses on at all times. Nakamura cannot go to horny jail. She is the warden.

brookietf

catgirlforeskin

Happy pride month to her and her exclusively

seraphiminn

she made a comic about the experience on twitter

catboybiologist

happy pride

ikindamaybewanthertositonmyface

An Update from back in October I'm surprised wasn't added to this post. lol

fleshengine

I love the face of a woman having the time of her life.

shinesurge

gentle psa to new comic artists about a problem i also suffered from: slow quiet pacing is totally fine BUT if that's not what you're deliberately going for, you CAN fit more Story Progression on the page. no, more than that. more than that even. i promise if you don't want it to a single action doesn't need to take a whole page to illustrate each of its steps, a lot of connecting magic happens in the gutters i /promise/ if you draw someone pulling up in a car then skip to them walking in the door with groceries we will Understand that they unloaded the car and unlocked the house you feel me

shinesurge

#I am not a comic artist#but I had a similar problem when I was in film school#I call it “the door problem”#in my thesis film I had written that two characters walk out the back of the club into the alley behind the club#and my club location did not have a back alley but did have a side room that we used as the door#but that door opened in#and the location I used for the alley had a back door but that door opened outwards#and I knew it looked weird#I struggled framing the shots#and blocking the actors#and I got really really caught in my own head about how to make this door work#because to me it was really important that you saw every step from club to outside#because even though we had learned in school that you could transition it didn't feel right because it didn't feel like a new scene to me#(this being one of the struggles with a short film. It can all feel like one scene if your script is short!)#AND THEN#when we got into the editing room we just...cut the door transition entirely#initially not on purpose#what happened was that we decided to tighten up the timing by cutting non-linearly to the custom music I had commissioned#which made it much more experimental especially in comparison to my fellow classmates#however it showed me that the story still absolutely worked without needing to show how they got into the alley#the audience can infer the door#so now anytime I can feel myself getting stuck on something when I'm filming I think#“Is this a Door Problem?”#as a storyteller it's always a question of what is the absolute bare minimum you need to convey what you're trying to say#and sometimes that means you just need to already be outside the club

(via @currentlycreating )

Exactly! Film and comics are VERY similar mediums in this way, I love this. We should always be considering Door Problems

foone

Every social media site expands until it contains screenshots of Tumblr

monsterpotion

#they should make a social media website that's exclusively tumblr posts

inkskinned

Every day I handle more money than I will ever make. Every day.

At the start of my employment, my boss showed me videos of people stealing, and we both had a chuckle about it. How silly they were! There was a camera overhead, and it’s not to watch the shoppers. See, we can’t actually stop shoplifters. They get away with it maybe nine out of ten times. But we, who are watched and tallied and witnessed? We are always caught.

At first it was hard to hold one hundred dollars bills. An amount I had never seen before. An amount that didn’t exist in my household. It’s normal now. Here is something that is not for me.

“What the hell, I’ll take another,” says the man, pondering our 200 dollar watches. What the hell. Total comes to 580 and not even a flinch in his face. I have been working for 11 hours today and made only 110 dollars. It will go to my rent. Today I work for free, it feels. When I get my check, I will have 35 dollars left for food and saving.

The six hundreds he hands me go into the cash register. For a moment, I imagine having money. Then I put it away, counting out his change.

I know for a fact we sell our products for double what they are worth. That I could be making commission. That they could hand me those 580 dollars and change my life and not even mark the difference in their checkbooks. He’s not the only sale they make today, but I am the reason they made it. He’s not the only one spending 600 dollars, but if I hadn’t spent two hours with him telling me about his life, he wouldn’t have spent any. I go home. I don’t own a watch.

I have watched and rewatched a video on how to make salmon four ways. My shopping list is always the same. Pasta. Rice. Tuna. If I can afford butter it was a good week. I dream of the world I will never walk in, where I can throw the best fish fillet in the cart with a shrug. I hold hundreds in my hand and look up at the camera. I put them under the cash drawer.

I go to work. I scrap together my savings. I eat my bowl of rice slowly. My manager takes a paid week off from work just for his birthday. He owns a yacht.

I’m not worth the cost of a watch.

inkskinned

i wrote this while i was working at orlando’s walt disney world parks.

i was part of their college program. i moved to the state for it. they legally owned the building i was living in and still charged me rent. i ostensibly was being charged to work for them. it was a 2 bedroom apartment and they placed 6 adult women in it in forced triples.

as many as one in ten disney employees have experienced homelessness while working for the company. despite huge efforts to unionize, strike, or otherwise demand fair treatment; disney has refused to increase employee quality of life.

disney admits publicly that a good portion of their success is because the employees (“cast members”) are dedicated, passionate, and selfless. this is never reflected in pay. even “face” characters (ie those that are princesses etc) make barely above a minimum wage.

at the time that i worked there, i made $8.50 an hour. at one point i was asked to create a human shield around a bag because a bomb dog had alerted to it. for eight fucking dollars an hour.

i now work a very cushy office job. i have bought the salmon and cooked it all four ways.

i go to the store. i am nice to the person behind the counter. she looks up at the camera while she counts out my change. there is nothing fundamentally different about her and i.

we are both worth more than the watch, anyway.

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powerbottombrucespringsteen

The thing is nobody at pride is evaluating you to determine if you’re queer enough to be there because they’re too busy thinking “it’s so hot out” and “why is this lemonade 12 dollars?”

anistarrose

if you are a parent, or may become one, or you are otherwise likely to arrive in the situation of caring for a child while they eat, promise me this: if a child doesn't like a certain food or food group, you will ask them WHY. and specifically, you will pay attention to either confirming or ruling out "it makes my mouth itch" or "it makes my stomach hurt," both of which are medically important info that children may not provide unprompted. which i know because this PSA has been brought to you by "i spent my entire childhood and much of my early teens eating peas and lentils while wondering why everyone else liked the Violently Itchy Mouth Sensation so much, like were they a bunch of legume masochists or something, before i finally realized that Violently Itchy Mouth Sensation was in fact a sinister demon appearing only to me, and her true demonic name was: Legume Allergy"

brainrockets

Do not let your child suffer from spicy bananas!

velvetys

Everything used to be 20 dollars and now that I finally have 20 dollars everything is now 200 dollars

ur-favorite-fishgirl

if you vote me for president i vow to make everything the ocean again. no more land only ocean. this will solve all of our problems and replace them with new, far more interesting problems

ur-favorite-fishgirl

if you vote me for president i vow to make everything the ocean again. no more land only ocean. this will solve all of our problems and replace them with new, far more interesting problems

#this is what team aqua wants to do #<— prev #good tag thank you I’m stealing it

interestingmistakes

Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

2well2water

so crazy to me that mormons aren’t embarrassed about their whole deal even a little bit. they’ll gladly tell strangers that they’re a member of the lds church as if that isn’t one of the single most incriminating and humiliating things to be in the entire world.

teaboot

The frog stays in the pot because the water's fine.

briarblackwellbooks

yeah, that's how cults work. though it almost never starts out that way. mormons don't convert you by telling you about the fact that their original cult leader read golden plates in a hat. scientologists won't convert you by telling you that we've all got alien ghosts in us. heaven's gate wouldn't have converted you by telling you that they're gonna hop on a ufo with the help of barbituate-laced applesauce and a plastic bag. they start out innocuous. a local church. a self-help class. a bunch of nerds talking about nerdy stuff. and then they make you feel special. they make you feel loved. they give you cool lingo and new friends and something to do on the weekends and a mission and a purpose and a goal. and then you start sounding like them. acting like them. being like them. and if they ask you to give up your money? oh, it's for a good cause. and if they ask you to cut off your loved ones? oh, they're bad people. im better off without them. and by the time they tell you about the weird founding story, the confusing mythology, the coming doomsday, you're already in. you already gave up your money, cut off your friends, changed your identity into their image. even if the water's too warm for your liking, the sunk cost fallacy has you anchored to the bottom of the pot. so you let yourself boil. try to convince yourself that you like a hot bath.

see, the thing is about frogs is that they jump out of hot water all the time. unless they're sedated.

jupiter-dragonsong

Growing up, many of us were taught to proudly sing church songs like “I Belong To The Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints,” and “Follow the Prophet,” and “When I am Baptized.” We were taught that we had the Light of Christ, and we had to set a good example for the church. We were told that when we felt happy, it was the Holy Ghost telling us the church was true. We were taught to spread the gospel wherever we went because it would make other people’s lives better. We were taught that people outside the church could tell there was something different and special about us.

We were not taught about Joseph Smith marrying minors, or the racism, or the kind of people early prophets really were. Anything that was brought up was discussed only briefly and waved away as us trying to “understand eternal logic for a worldly lens.” God loves us, who are we to question him? I did not learn the incriminating truths until months after leaving, because it was still so deeply conditioned into me to never look at information from outside the church because the world twists the truth to tempt us away.

Many people on this site are very open and proud about being queer, as they should be! Some people might think that’s embarrassing or that you’re morally bankrupt for doing so, but we know those people are wrong and bigoted and not worth listening to. This is maybe a bad comparison, but that’s how it felt for us. We were so clearly on the right side of history, and you on the wrong. That was our reality.

I’m not trying to defend any of the heinous shit done in the name of Mormonism. I am asking for a little grace though, for the people who are like me.

Why should anyone feel humiliated for having been indoctrinated since childhood? I am not embarrassed about having been Mormon. Leaving a cult is, in my opinion, one of the bravest things a person can do. I had it really easy— I left young and my close family members are relatively accepting. Most people are not so lucky. Leaving means tearing your life and your sense of self and your framework of the universe from its foundation.

The way we talk about Mormonism, and cults on this site, has bothered me for a while. Doing harm does not make you not a victim. Cult members are victims. And I promise you, you are not too good to join a cult. Some of the smartest, kindest people I know are still Mormon because being Mormon is the core of their identity. You are not too smart or too moral to fall into the orbit of a high control group.

briarblackwellbooks

yeah. yup. prev is right. and this is an issue a lot of people on the left have. please educate yourself on cults. because the best way to make yourself vulnerable to a cult in a way that you can control is to convince yourself you could never end up in a cult. good starter resources are knitting cult lady (aka daniella mestyanek young) and the short film "mind control made easy (or how to become a cult leader)" by carey burtt films on youtube.

scribefindegil

I was in a long-term relationship that fell apart partially because I was ace and my partner was very much not, and every time we looked for relationship help we got told that I was the problem. Not just that a significant mismatch in sexual desire could be a problem in a relationship, but that it was My Fault, Specifically, for not being willing to suck it up and have a bunch of sex I didn't want. To my ex's credit, he cared about consent much more than any of the professionals we talked to and refused to pressure me even when my (lesbian, billed as progressive and pro-LGBT) therapist was actively telling him to.

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Sometimes breaking up is necessary, and that's what ended up happening with us because there were other reasons we worked better as friends, but there *should* be better frameworks for discussing what people want and need that don't automatically assume that one partner's feelings are automatically more important or valuable than the other's.

geese-in-flight

I was dating someone who wanted to be accommodating and work with me to figure things out but lacked the EQ to do so in any effective way. It was my first relationship and I was still figuring out what being ace meant for me. It’s been eight or nine years, but I still remember very clearly the moment I realized we’d been approaching the entire discussion as if my orientation was the problem to be solved, and that it would be equally as valid to say that hers was.

She was significantly less impressed with this revelation than I was, but I tried to hold on to it ever since (although obviously the real problem wasn’t either one of us, but the mismatch and the lack of tools to deal with it). I think it’s super important to remember that we aren’t the ones in the wrong while our theoretical partners are the ones in the right. I was surprised by how much I’d internalized the assumption and I don’t think I’m the only one.

ineffectualdemon

The other frustrating aspect of this is allo relationships will often have periods of time where libido does not match (I'm not derailing and this will swing back to asexual people)

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

And asexual people would stop getting shit for being themselves.

scribefindegil

Yeah, exactly! There are many different forms of intimacy, physical and emotional, and we need to stop viewing non-sexual forms of intimacy as inherently lesser.

And also you're right that while this post is specifically about the asexual experience, these problems affect everyone; desire gaps, whether temporary/circumstantial or ongoing, affect many if not most long-term relationships. And the solution needs to reaffirm bodily autonomy and compassion for everyone, not just carve out a specific exception for ace people. Too frequently I see people and institutions that, even when they're attempting to be affirming, essentially say "Well this is what a committed relationship Needs To Look Like . . . unless you already id as ace I guess" instead of allowing their general idea of what relationships can look like to expand and become less prescriptive.

No one should be pressured into sex they don't want. This should be a basic and non-negotiable tenet of feminism. But it goes out the window as soon as it's in the context of a committed relationship that isn't otherwise abusive.

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