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I love Mando's vibe. Imagine some guy rolling up to your shop in a beat up honda civic. He steps out wearing an armani suit. He opens his wallet and offers you two dollars to fix his car.

internet-woman

You tell him it isn't enough but you'll fix it if he does the most dangerous thing you can think of. He brings his toddler to do the job.

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i just read a washington post article on romcoms aging poorly due to the pushiness (and oft-stalkery conduct) of the male characters therein, and it got me thinking about pride and prejudice, and specifically darcy saying, “one word from you will silence me on this subject forever.”

because, like, that’s the seldom-portrayed romantic dream in the patriarchal hellscape that is our world, isn’t it?

a dude being willing to say, “i understand if you don’t feel the same way about me, and i’ll leave you alone forever about this if my attention is unwanted.”

so simple, yet so wonderful in its basic human decency

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and dudes to this day wonder why women still swoon over darcy

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Note also: Elizabeth turns down Darcy’s first proposal, and in the process, accuses him of doing some stuff he did not do (and also some stuff he totally did).

The next day, he surprises her on her walk. He hands her a letter, asks that she read it, and then takes off.

When this happened to me after I had turned someone down IN REAL LIFE, the letter contained a passionate argument to the tune of “actually you’re wrong and you do like me and you should go out with me” and it was creepy af.

Darcy’s letter to Elizabeth starts with: “Be not alarmed, Madam, on receiving this letter, by the apprehension of its containing any repetition of those sentiments, or renewal of those offers, which were last night so disgusting to you”. He goes on to set the record straight about the stuff he didn’t do (as well as the stuff he did) which is *actually relevant* to Elizabeth. And he, as promised, doesn’t romance her further.

It’s totally bizarre that even now, this can be considered unusually great dude behaviour.

pluckyredhead

Darcy’s first proposal: “You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.”

Darcy’s second proposal: “One word from you will silence me on this subject forever.”

His whole arc in the book is about learning to consider other people’s feelings and not just his own, but the fact that it’s expressed via who gets to talk and who is told to shut up is so, so telling. The first time around, he imposes his voice on her whether she wants it or not. The second time, he asks how she feels, and in exchange, offers her the gift of his silence.

And yeah, the fact that dudes still! have! not! learned! this! lesson! is exhausting.

ghost-of-bambi

How surprising is it that Pride and Prejudice was written by a woman, when many romantic comedies are produced and directed by men?

Answer: not at all

drsarcasticraspberry

200 years later and the world is still full of guys who think they’re a Mr Darcy when they’re actually a Mr Collins.

tzikeh

200 years later and the world is still full of guys who think they’re a Mr Darcy when they’re actually a Ross Geller.

dduane

All of this.

random-fandomania

garlic-slut

These men said “that is NOT what women are for” so fast

micdotcom

Sportscaster Dale Hansen defends student wrestler Mack Beggs and takes a stand against transphobia

bonkhrnyjail

this man just CHECKED™ his privilege im living

fierceawakening

this is what i mean when i say “actually tolerance isn’t all that bad” this guy says several times that he doesn’t understand and even is uncomfortable, but that that isn’t what matters. imo, that’s how tolerance works.

jumpingjacktrash

true tolerance is, “i don’t have to understand, because you don’t need my permission to live. my job as a member of your community is to have your back, whether i understand your situation or not.”

postcardsfromspace

I’m going to keep reblogging this forever, because it is such an excellent, clear example of how to approach this stuff from outside.

captainvladmir

This motherfucker right here. I think about his monologue sometimes, for years now. It still gives me hope.

acecroft

be like ripley, don’t break the quarantine

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robertmitchum

CARY GRANT in ARSENIC AND OLD LACE dir. Frank Capra

michonnegrimes

THE WEST WING – 2.17 “The Stackhouse Filibuster”

cartnsncreal

We don’t even need Disney. Shoutout to the young black writers, directors, producers, animators, we can make it happen.

prismatic-bell

I want to see her get a portrait like a typical modern service picture. Face on, medals showing, the whole bit.

Say her name.

himbo-kronk-stan

Here’s some pics of her bust in Leavenworth Texas!

illogical-bullshit

I found this somewhere and it just resonated with me

westieronto

How most people with invisible illnesses are treated by health care “professionals”

thefemcritique

The Golden Girls didn’t fuck around

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pls watch

honestly i really appreciated this scene when I first saw it bc it took me like two years to get a diagnosis for what’s wrong with me

mttheww

Dorothy: Dr. Budd?

Dr. Budd: Yes?

Dorothy: You probably don’t remember me, but you told me I wasn’t sick. Do you remember? You told me I was just getting old.

Dr. Budd: I’m sorry, I really don’t–

Dorothy: Remember. Maybe you’re getting old. That’s a little joke. Well, I tell you, Dr. Budd, I really am sick. I have chronic fatigue syndrome. That is a real illness. You can check with the Center for Disease Control.

Dr. Budd: Huh. Well, I’m sorry about that.

Dorothy: Well, I’m glad! At least I know I have something.

Dr. Budd: I’m sure. Well, nice seeing you.

Dorothy: Not so fast. There are some things I have to say. There are a lot of things that I have to say. Words can’t express what I have to say. [tearing up] What I went through, what you put me through—I can’t do this in a restaurant.

Dr. Budd: Good!

Dorothy: But I will!

Dr. Budd’s date: Louis, who is this person?

Dr. Budd: Look, Miss–

Dorothy: Sit. I sat for you long enough. Dr. Budd, I came to you sick—sick and scared—and you dismissed me. You didn’t have the answer, and instead of saying “I’m sorry, I don’t know what’s wrong with you,” you made me feel crazy, like I had made it all up. You dismissed me! You made me feel like a child, a fool, a neurotic who was wasting your precious time. Is that your caring profession? Is that healing? No one deserves that kind of treatment, Dr. Budd, no one. I suspect had I been a man, I might have been taken a bit more seriously, and not told to go to a hairdresser.

Dr. Budd: Look, I am not going to sit here anymore–

Dr. Budd’s date: Shut up, Louis.

Dorothy: I don’t know where you doctors lose your humanity, but you lose it. You know, if all of you, at the beginning of your careers, could get very sick and very scared for a while, you’d probably learn more from that than anything else. You’d better start listening to your patients. They need to be heard. They need caring. They need compassion. They need attending to. You know, someday, Dr. Budd, you’re gonna be on the other side of the table, and as angry as I am, and as angry as I always will be, I still wish you a better doctor than you were to me.

jennytrout

Reblogging for any of my mutuals who’ve ever dealt with Dr. Budd.

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snipertrifle

UNMUTE

neonmanatee

this one time I ran a red light on mistake and I didn’t notice it was red until it was too late so I just ran the light screeching like an angry pterodactyl the entire time

a cop was at the intersection so he pulled me over and when he came up to my window he was wheezing cause he was laughing so hard and he said

“ok so i know you ran a red light and that’s really bad and you should never do it again but i’m not gonna give you a ticket cause that was the funniest thing i’ve ever seen and my partner can’t get out of the car cause he’s laughing so hard he’s about to pee himself”

i forgot that i’d had my window open when i ran the red light and the cop told me that all he heard from my car was this really high-pitched “screeeeeeeeeeEEEEEEEAAAHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhh”

and that’s how i got out of getting a ticket for running a red light