A Reflection of Hopes and Dreams
First, a very merry Happy Year to you all; gosh, is it almost mid-January? Time sure does go fast, doesn't it?
Well then, I've boiled another cup of tea, and since it's so cold at this time of year, feel free to grab one of the blankets from the blanket box while we chat. So this is January, a time for reflection and longing for bed during icy mornings, though spring will soon be here.
My life has changed a lot since I first started this blog, and I felt compelled to update my small gathering of followers and anyone who might be interested in following my journey now.
In February 2022, I finally published my first novel 'Ginsterpigs', on what was Two's Day, Tuesday 22/2/2022. I also moved away from Hertfordshire to Stowmarket, bought a house, and got married.
It all happened so fast, and yet I have only to blink, and we're into another month, and soon I'll be celebrating the first year as a vintage wearing, not entirely domestic, housewife.
Source: I Love Lucy, starring Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz from CBS 1951-1957.
So, I first wrote a ‘bucket list’ in 2014 of a few thoughts and dreams I wanted to achieve. Some parts of it have changed, and others have stayed the same, as my life and my focus have sharpened, and things have been brought to a new perspective or priority.
24-year-old me was very tired of the job search and never-ending sea of competing against my fellow freelancers vying for attention, writing the drafts of my novel, and finding her feet in the world of dating and vintage clothing, and here I'm 34, nearly 35, working on my next book and the audiobook adaption of the first one.
I had initially wanted to get married by 24/25 and have a family by 30 but for now, I'm enjoying being married to my best friend, even if we only found each other aged 31 and enjoying being a homeowner with a stable career, who shares the chores and responsibilities that come with it.
Although we both want children, we are happy with whatever happens, and it is much nicer to have found my Mr Right and some financial stability than I might have done if I had done things sooner.
Even if I still don't like early mornings - especially on Mondays...
So here is my little list, which maybe I'll come back to next year and review or a few more years down the road, depending on both time and memory.
I’d love a photo wall in our house for pictures with our friends, family, and loved ones. I know the space isn't 'big' or massive here, but I could see it being in time going up the stairs, peeking through in welcome when guests visit. We also want to compile travel journals of some of our adventures and have plenty of albums of photos too. So far, we've also managed to create a family cabinet in the living room, featuring, at least for now, my side of the family, which I cobbled together for our wedding - but I'd love to add to it further to include my in-laws and extended family with quirky frames, and smiling memories.
Elizabeth Taylor coming down the stairs in Father of the Bride, 1950
I'd love to extend the kitchen and add a downstairs bathroom space, with places for utilities and more space for cooking and baking. (and the all-important downstairs toilet). These things would be great for when we have our own family and host dinner parties and board game nights - or simply have a guest to stay.
There will also be a reading nook in the second bedroom, space to sit and read or write with comfy throws to snuggle down in when it gets cold or dark and space to play music. We’ll have a games chest with lots of consoles and board games downstairs and another basket for blankets and throws to keep us cosy when we curl up for a rom-com or cheesy, sometimes trashy TV.
In our garden I want to have a few trees and flowers with a vegetable/fruit patch. Thus making us more self-sufficient but also enjoying our own labours in new and favoured recipes. There would ideally be a space at the back of the garden too for a workshop for Sam to keep his bikes and tools and do a few creative projects, with space on the porch on warmer days to sit under some fairy lights and watch the stars or to do a little scrapbooking whilst he does cross-stitch. I also want to set up a little library in the front garden to encourage the local school and community to get engaged in reading.
In time, we’d like to have a family, 2 kids, 2 cats and a dog. But no matter how many children we have, I’d be happy just seeing them healthy and happy. Teaching them to love reading as much as I do, to be considerate, compassionate and caring with a sense of adventure and a thirst for knowledge.
Music would also be key and I would teach them singing and piano, with a proper piano in the house - if space allows. We would still play music for fun as well and occasionally go to festivals or gigs as a family to enjoy local talents with music playing in our home. I’d also have a makeshift stage, even a spare area of the house with a curtain drawn across it to encourage theatre and make-believe, dress up and laughter. Sam would work with me to introduce them to puppets and games.
I want to go on holiday and travel to Canada, Sweden, Finland, Denmark, and back to Iceland, Norway, Bulgaria, Entrevaux, Pompeii. I also want to discover more of the British Isles and forgotten or overlooked spots like Lundy or Mousehole. But also visit more museums and art galleries, antique shops, curiosity spots, country walks/drives, old houses, castles and country homes, operas, ballets, musicals and theatre shows, both nationally and locally.
Honeymoon to Norway, overlooking the breathtaking Fjords of Olden
Hobby-wise - despite being anaemic, I would also love to dance again, returning to salsa or maybe try our hand at ballroom and some 50s swing. I want to properly arrange flowers - learning more about weaving willow into baskets and designs, preparing beautiful bouquets to place in the house or to give as gifts, and keeping pretty window displays for our front bay window as the holidays and seasons go by.
I will also look for new and favourite recipes to cook, bake, and have a set of recipes we have created and adapted for dinner parties we can have with our friends. Through this, I’d love to learn the love and appreciation of wine – whilst we don’t drink much, I’d hope to discover more about the pairings of wines with food and visit vineyards, discovering the sights and histories as well as the tastes. I’d also want to remake perfume and, this time, do it with Sam, maybe making each other a special and individual scent.
I also want to be more creative, trying more needle felting and a bit more stuff like macramé dolls, gradually conquering my fears and my disabilities to sew, weave and knit - I never mastered this at school, but I would love to be able to make my own dresses and skirts and do alterations and sheering etc, working on vintage patterns and designs rather than just the reproduction after reproduction in most high street stores. Especially since I love vintage fashion so much (though not so much the price tag).
I want to improve my drawing and painting and go back to pastels and watercolours. It would also be fun to learn calligraphy properly, studying old runes and Old English on occasion, with the myths and legends of oral storytelling. And with the travelling, I’d like to re-remember French, delve into Latin and other languages where I can. Another subject to study will be art history, being able to go into museums and being able to know the history of the artists and the stories behind their work. To learn more about the timelines and how they were - affected and inspired.
I also want to gain more confidence in myself. Selling old clothes and items that don’t matter to free up my wardrobe and the dusty baggage of the past. Although I’m not ‘massive’, I want to lose a little weight around my stomach so that I can stop putting myself down so much for enjoying my food. I will continue wearing vintage and look to take more photos, finding new dresses every so often, but also making more of my outfits public on Instagram to record my journey.
I would like to complete my LAMDA medals and exams for harp, piano and singing to honour my grandmother’s and her mother’s legacy, continuing to work on the family tree and family newsletters, telling my children the stories and sharing with them many photos and memories. I've already manged to push myself a nd become certified in my new career, with a new fancy set of letters after my name.
I appreciate that all this is an extensive list, somewhat dependent on my energy levels, money and space, but if nothing else I shall be happy even if all I achieve is this:
Taking more photos with Sam and friends on all events, even date nights.
Selling unwanted clothes on Facebook market and organise swap parties.
Getting my house in order and having that wonderful space to write.
I will engage more actively with pen pals and write to them, collecting postcards and curiosities, but also send letters to close friends when we cannot meet up as often.
Become more organised in myself and the home and have time to tidy without becoming overwhelmed as quickly.
Continue writing and publishing books in all genres - poetry, a slice of life and romance.
Hang out more with our friends, trying to plan dinner parties and games nights. Maybe we can plan an epic campaign or original fantasy game as a group.
And continue to write more on here, because after all, isn't that where this journey with you started? :)
Til our next meeting.
Have a beautiful day,
x Emmalena







