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margo | 30s | she/her | why are the wings coming out, mav?

[emseebeans]

An Archive of Our Own, a project of the Organization for Transformative Works

Written for the tag ‘5+1 Things’ for @ao3tagbingo.

Fandoms: Top Gun (Movies) Rating: T Relationships: Bradley “Rooster” Bradshaw/Jake “Hangman” Seresin Additional Tags: Alternate Universe - Coffee Shops & Cafés, Alternate Universe - College/University, Getting Together, Light Angst, 5+1 Things Summary:

The morning of his first day of classes, Jake runs out of coffee. It feels like an omen for the rest of the semester, until it leads him to a coffee shop where he meets Bradley Bradshaw, a hot, albeit infuriating, barista. He keeps Jake coming back, even though he never makes what Jake orders. (or, five times Bradley makes Jake the wrong drink, and the one time he makes Jake exactly what he wants.)

[delusionalbestie]

who wanna come over and have floor time

[creepish]

your honor, in my defense, you wouldnt get it

[mostlythemarsh]

Running

[armengoldira]

[archduck-waddles]

Fuck it

*un-sesame's your bun*

[armeleia]

It's a valuable service. I hate sesame rolls.

[fullcravings]

Coconut Cheesecake

[mostlythemarsh]

A Lifetime

[noshamehustle]

[formerglory25]

reblog if you too are bi and confused or support others’ right to be bi and confused

[curlicuecal]

an entomologist rates ant emojis

Beautiful big almond eye, realistic and full of expression as she gazes gently at you. Elbowed antennae and delicately segmented legs and body. Gorgeous pearlescent sheen like she is glowing. This ant moisturizes. This ant is round and huggable. This ant is a star. 11/10.

Beautifully detailed, lifelike pose but with an unexpected neck and odd antennae, perhaps scared straight. Her eyes suggest she has seen things. Her expression confirms she has seen too much. She is haunted and I want to know more. 7/10.

Floppy antenna, pointy muppet face, oddly posed legs. What is she? She has no waist. May be she is some kind of bee in disguise? I find her unsettling. 3/10.

This ant has an unexplained, double-jointed thorax, and no evidence of a waist. Her four-footed pose suggests that she a centaur rather than an ant. Centaur ants would be cool. I’m not sure what was intended here. 2/10.

Good first impression, kind of bland in the details. This ant has no particular waist to speak of, floppy rather than elbowed antennae, and an inexpressive face. Her color scheme is soft and hazy. I like the sharp angles of her stylishly sophisticated legs. This ant may not know quite were she is going, but she knows how she is getting there. 6/10.

Were you even trying. 0/10

Gasp! This ant is elegant. This ant has a beautiful tapered thorax, a segmented abdomen, alert, elbowed antennae, and a light-footed pose. This ant’s face suggests curiosity and a desire to explore the world. This ant inspires me. I want to be like her. 10/10

3-legged, waistless centaur-ant with strange, limp antennae and a beak. I don’t know what this is? It kind of reminds me of a Hork-Bajir. 1/10, not an ant.

This ant… makes me sad. All of her legs are broken. The MS Paint art style and gradient abuse convey distress. She has a duck beak. Despite this, her expression suggests perseverance and determined cheerfulness. I want this ant to have a better life. I am rooting for her. 3/10

This ant is a bold and challenging mixture of photorealism and caricature. She is broad and low-built and seems very sturdy. She looks like she would help you move. This ant is a dependable friend. 9/10

A picture of an ant from a children’s book.  She is wearing little boots.  This ant is wrong in every way, and yet I can’t stay mad at her.  7/10

An interesting, top-down view of an ant; her legs are positioned with slightly jarring symmetry.  Nevertheless, her overall impression is that of a graceful, stylized design, like a pictograph.  She is suitable for adorning fine garments and jewelry or perhaps gracing the walls of a tiny ant church.  I like this minimalist ant.  8/10.

This is a termite. -10/10

[argonianbum]

why are these all marked as “she”? don’t female ants have wings??? why bother adding the pronoun???

[curlicuecal]

Alates (male and female reproductives) have wings. The queens shed their wings after they mate. The males die. The daughter workers do not have wings. If you see an ant without wings, it’s a she.

And honestly—why bother panicking about things being called “she”? It’s not like I need a reason to gender a bug. I do it all the time. It’s fun. It’s humanizing. They don’t care.

I’m calling this spider she right now. 🕷️ her name is delanie. she’s a lesbian.

[kalex-corner]

This post was such a delightful trip from beginning to end.

[anxietyproblem]

[zero-two-ten]

this site has one setting

[jenroses]

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record.  And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons. 

[kittydorkling]

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

[bogleech]

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

[crack-fic-casey]

Both of you to assume we’re not reblocking the werewolf anecdote and forced to read The helpful psychological advice

[faithliesinashes]

And now going to interject with my neuroplasticity side bar of your werewolf fucking and your sound psychological advice.

To me what is being described

is a form of neuroplasticity (as a stroke survivor the term annoys me but it applies).

If you’re not familiar with the term, the short version is that it’s the brain’s ability to adapt and rewire*. It can work both for you and against you. So like learning new things, relearning in the event of a brain injury (but is limited+). But then it can also work against you in that if you go oh this is too difficult to scary, and don’t work to push pass whatever it is you are struggling with it can become ingrained. Ie. going outside is hard, so you stop doing thr little things that eventually build up.

Because yes what you practise you get good at whether intentionally or not. And let me tell you it is fucking hard. I’m currently working with a neuro psychologist to help me post stroke. Because it’s so easy for me to be reactive and grumpy more so than before. I had a bit of an issue as a teenager struggling to regulate my emotions becauee of ASD but I’m now back to square one. I am also carrying a lot of anger which I hate and so much irritates me. It’s a struggle.

*In the case of stroke survivors it is not a cure because when cells die there is no where to rewire. Once they’re dead theyre dead.

+my dad had a major stroke 16 years ago that stopped his heart, and his left hand is a permanent fist. No amount of therapy or neuroplasticity has ever made an improvement and I know other survivors who are in similar positions.

[thomtrebond]

you've got a fucking hospital of people begging to swaddle you, man. you just gotta ask.

[ororium-z]

Happy Pride!

[rootbeergoddess]

Every pride, you must reblog this. No exceptions

[thesaltofcarthage]

I love that four different people on my feed scheduled this joyous person to reblog by 8am on June 1. I look forward to seeing this a dozen more times today.

[thickness-protection-program]

"so I asked chatgp-"

[theperksofbeingahugefuckingcunt]

Apparently my stepdad and I are fucking psychically linked because ?? every single time he makes chili for dinner I get a migraine. Without fail. And it became like a ha ha running joke because it happened so many times but now I’m living 3 hours away from my parents and I just texted my mom and

WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME

[theperksofbeingahugefuckingcunt]

Happy disability pride month

[nose-bl]

via @ninjahijabimuse​

this is so much better i love it

[saffronbaklava]

that coffee and pastry will save your life btw

[lesbianlandry]

i'm not gonna stop you this time

ankles - lucy dacus

[scinnlaece]

Shane & Ilya + focus shift