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Robin Williams on an island.

[infinitevibes]

[theambitiouswoman]

✨ YOUR LAST 30 DAYS RESET CALENDAR 📓🌿 ✨

This 30 day reset is meant to transform you slowly and intentionally. Instead of overwhelming you with a full routine on day one, we build habits layer by layer. Each week we add small upgrades that stack together. By the end of the month, you’re not forcing change because you’ve naturally shifted into a more aligned version of yourself

The daily non negotiables stack every week and should be practiced every single day

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🤍 DAILY NON NEGOTIABLES THAT START WEEK 1 (Every single day) These repeat all 30 days

✔ Morning lemon water (or warm water w/ electrolytes)

✔ 10 minutes of sunlight (or red light if cloudy) (text outside for 10 minutes, drink your water, tea, coffee; talk to trees, or walk your pet. But go outside

✔ A 10- 20 minute walk (or pilates / gym workouts)

✔ No phone for the first 15-30 minutes of waking up

✔ One page of journaling

✔ One “future self” choice daily

✨ WEEK 1: REGULATION + RECONNECTION

Day 1

Main task: Slow morning routine with no phone, sunlight, grounding. It doesn’t have to be an expansive routine. If you don’t have one at all now, your goal should be to not rush

Alternatives:

5 minutes of deep breathing

Put your phone in another room overnight

(Daily non negotiables active)

Day 2

Main task: Pick ONE thing you’ll repeat for all 30 days (examples: walks, pilates, red light, skincare)

Alternatives:

10 minute stretch

Daily greens/tea ritual

Day 3

Main task: Clean one of your common used spaces. Like your closet, bed room or bathroom. Move some things around

Day 4

Set your morning atmosphere. Choose one: soft music, a candle, a signature scent

Alternatives:

Open windows for fresh air while you get ready

Create a small morning “station” with your journal + water glass

Day 5

Main task: Create your “non negotiable five” list for the month and place it somewhere visible

Alternatives:

Turn it into a phone wallpaper

Set alarms to remind you of each one

Day 6

Main task: Digital declutter: delete 500 photos/screenshots, old notes & outdated files

Alternatives:

Clear emails

Day 7

Main task: Two sentence reflection every single night.

I released __ / I welcomed __

Alternatives:

5 minute gratitude list

Think about the best part of your day

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🤍 DAILY NON NEGOTIABLES THAT START WEEK 2

✔ Morning lemon water (or warm water w/ electrolytes)

✔ 10 minutes of sunlight (or red light if cloudy)

✔ 10–20 minutes of movement

✔ No phone for the first 15-30 minutes after waking

✔ One page of journaling (or 5 minute reflection)

✔ One “future self” choice daily

✔ Nightly two sentence reflection

✨ WEEK 2: ENVIRONMENT EDIT

Day 8

Task: Organize all of your self care, beauty, skin care etc products. Replace, restock or declutter old products

Day 9

Main task: Upgrade your beauty ritual with one elevated practice: gua sha, red light therapy, hair oiling, or facial massage

Alternatives:

Body exfoliation

Face mask + steam

Day 10

Main task: Remove items you haven’t worn in the last year

Alternatives:

Create three “future self” outfits

Build a mini capsule for the week

Day 11

Main task: Create a signature atmosphere scent for your space. Choose a candle, diffuser, incense, or room spray that sets the tone for your mornings or work block

Alternatives:

Choose one scent for daytime focus and another for evening wind down

Use a natural essential oil blend for clarity or calm

DAY 12

Main task: Elevated Sunday reset. Soft lighting, candles and music while you clean and reorder your space

Alternatives:

Reset your fridge

Change sheets + wash blankets

DAY 13

Main task: organize your pantry. Teas, supplements, snacks, or jars

Alternatives:

Restock wellness essentials

Transfer pantry items into containers for aesthetics

DAY 14

Main task: Create or refresh your cozy/safe corner with a blanket, candle and journal

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✨ ADDITIONAL NON NEGOTIABLES STARTING WEEK 3 ✨

1. A daily stillness moment (2–5 minutes)

This is not meditation. It’s just a pause to sit with yourself and do nothing. If you don’t know how to think of nothing, think of the ocean :)

Examples:

sit with eyes closed

breath reset

5 slow inhales/exhales

2. 1 small action toward a personal goal

Examples:

reading 1 page

sending 1 email

applying to 1 thing

learning one new skill

✨ WEEK 3: MINDSET + IDENTITY SHIFT ✨

DAY 15

Main task: Write your identity statement: “I am becoming a person who…”

Alternatives:

Make it your lock screen

Record it as a voice note

DAY 16

Main task: Relationship audit: think about who expands you and who drains you

Alternatives:

Unfollow/mute draining social accounts

Distance yourself from one misaligned connection

DAY 17

Main task: Write what you refuse to carry into the new year

Alternatives:

Rip it up

Burn it safely as a symbolic ritual

DAY 18

Main task: One hour focus block with no distractions

Alternatives:

Work in a café

Put your phone in a drawer for the hour

DAY 19

Main task: Complete one thing you’ve been avoiding

Alternatives:

Make that appointment

Clear that one area you keep ignoring

DAY 20

Main task: 1% upgrade / improve one tiny thing in your lifestyle or environment

Alternatives:

Upgrade your water or coffee cup

Add a nutrient to your meal

DAY 21

Main task: Device free evening for two hours

Alternatives:

Tea + book

Bath + soft music

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✨ ADDITIONAL NON NEGOTIABLES STARTING WEEK 4 ✨

1. A daily future self alignment check every single day where you ask yourself: “Is what I’m doing right now aligned with who I said I want to be?”

2. Daily beauty/body respect moment. Do something small for yourself that makes you feel cared for physically

Examples:

apply lip mask

posture check

hand cream

stretch hips

fix your hair

apply body oil

✨ WEEK 4: FUTURE SELF EMBODIMENT ✨

DAY 22

Main task: Vision journal 2026 as if it already happened

Alternatives:

Record a voice visualization

Create a mini mood board

DAY 23

Main task: Financial reset, review accounts, cancel subscriptions, clean digital bank clutter

Alternatives:

Set a savings or income goal

Review and rewrite money beliefs

DAY 24

Main task: exfoliate, shave, hair mask, glow shower, body oil

Alternatives:

At home facial

Nail or brow grooming

DAY 25

Main task: Build a five outfit capsule wardrobe for your “future self.”

Alternatives:

Photograph each outfit

Organize clothes by color

DAY 26

Main task: Rewrite your standards: love, friendships, lifestyle and boundaries

Alternatives:

Write a “bare minimum list”

Write a “never again” list

DAY 27

Main task: Social detox, clear your feed of comparison triggers

Alternatives:

Mute 20 accounts

Curate your algorithm intentionally

DAY 28

Main task: One hour of movement,walk, pilates, yoga, dance, or stretch

Alternatives:

30 minute guided class

20 minute “clean your space” movement

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✨ WEEK 5: COMPLETION + ASCENSION ✨

DAY 29

Main task: Create your New Year ritual- playlist, candle, bath, journal prompts

Alternatives:

Make a ritual box

Write a letter to your future self

DAY 30

Main task: Full reset: clean sheets, glow shower, vacuum, clear surfaces, organize your space. Read your identity statements + your 2025 vision

Alternatives:

Do a full home energy cleanse (fresh air, incense, open windows)

Donate or throw away anything misaligned

✨ BONUS MINI WEEKLY TASKS

💛 Weekly self reviews (10 minutes)

What did I release this week?

What improved?

What felt aligned?

What do I need to adjust?

[etherealjptr]

Her eyes

Like a window to heaven

I might be intrigued by the way she feels familiar

An old friend I’ve always laughed with

Yet I wonder what you look like with no clothes on under darkness

She likes me. I like her too.

Maybe the ice will melt in time

For my heart to feel hers

[theambitiouswoman]

You are sexually attracted to people who mirror your childhood wounds (neuroscience + how to rewrite your attraction)

What society loves to call chemistry is rarely compatibility but neurobiology replaying an old emotional pattern. The brain wires its blueprint for love in early childhood, long before you ever date anyone. If you grew up with inconsistency, emotional distance, criticism, unpredictability, or a parent whose moods you had to manage, your nervous system learned to pair survival activation with connection. The amygdala stored that discomfort as familiar, the hippocampus tied it to love and the dopamine–cortisol loop became your baseline for it. So when you meet someone for example who’s hot and cold, avoidant, or emotionally unpredictable, your limbic system fires up with adrenaline, cortisol, and dopamine because that’s what your childhood trained you to crave. Your nervous system misreads this activation as attraction

Healthy, secure people activate the opposite system. The prefrontal cortex and the ventral vagal pathway which in short is the networks of clarity, safety, emotional regulation, and long term bonding. But if your body is wired for chaos, that calmness doesn’t feel right. It feels boring like “something is missing” simply because stability doesn’t trigger your survival chemistry. Your body has never learned how to interpret that silence as desire

Attraction is fully rewritable so when you start regulating your nervous system you lower chronic cortisol and strengthen the prefrontal cortex and your vagus nerve becomes more responsive, your baseline shifts out of hypervigilance, and suddenly you stop bonding with people who destabilize you. The spark you once felt with avoidant or inconsistent partners begins to fade because your body is no longer addicted to the dopamine withdrawal cycle. And the emotionally available person starts to feel genuinely attractive. This applies to everything by the way. Our general interests, likes and dislikes. They are all a reflection of our internal chemistry. So once our chemistry starts to change, so does everything else. How we dress, what colors we likes, our hobbies etc. There are a lot of stereotypical generic examples out there that I see on social media, and while they can sound annoying, there is underlining scientific truth to it. Have you ever heard a therapist or someone in a similar field say that are our interests , actions etc everything even our micro expressions tells a person everything about our internal state. It’s true. Because if a person felt, or was doing x then that would mean that their interests or how they feel about themselves would line up with certain things. And literally that’s how you begin to understand what’s real or not. If the person is telling you the truth about who they are or not etc

I digress

This is what real healing looks like: your attraction slowly moves from the limbic system’s trauma loops into the steadiness of a regulated nervous system. You stop craving the person who activates your wounds, and you begin desiring the person who can actually hold you. It’s the moment your body stops repeating the past and finally chooses a future that supports your peace

So the first step is pausing when you feel that intense pull to someone. As you incorporate habits that lower your baseline cortisol, the people who destabilize you naturally lose their appeal because your body is no longer fueled by chaos. At the same time, you have to break the dopamine–withdrawal cycle that makes avoidant partners feel addictive. Mute them, stop checking their social media and replace that craving with daily dopamine wins like movement, finishing tasks, healthy meals and emotional regulation. Slowly exposing yourself to safe teaches your nervous system that safety can feel good too. You rebuild inner safety by keeping your word, setting boundaries, creating structure, and proving to yourself you’re someone you can trust. Your body will start desiring peace instead of chaos and kindness becomes attractive in a way instability never was. There’s grief in letting go of the old pattern. Yes it’s not easy. Especially if you’re not emotionally grounded. But that grief is what frees your attraction. Eventually you’ll feel your body relax around healthy people and tighten around unhealthy ones. You guys often hear me say “gross” regarding toxic scenarios. That’s because toxic things seriously gross me out. I want it no where near me. I don’t find it the least bit attractive at all. It’s disgusting and not cute or funny to me in anyway. That’s when you know you’ve rewired your attraction. When your heart stops craving the wound and starts wanting the person who can actually hold you, which I know it’s something everyone secretly wants in their search for love. So you can do yourself the favor of rewiring your nervous system or you can choose to continue to be unhappy and unfulfilled. But ultimately the responsibility falls on you. If you really want it. Be honest with yourself

[thereignclub-trc]

quit brainrot. unfollow trolls. read essays. go down rabbit holes. have a calendar. maintain a todo list. read old books. watch old movies. turn on dnd. walk with intent. eat without youtube. chew more. train without music. plan for 15 mins. execute. organize your desk. take something seriously. read ancient scripts. act fast. find bread. eat clean. journal. save a life. learn to code. read poetry. create art. stay composed. refine your speech. optimize for efficiency. act sincere. help people. be kind. stop doing things that waste your time. follow God. craft reputation. learn persuasion. systemize your day (or don’t). write. write. write. write more. iterate violently. leave your phone at home. walk to the grocery store. talk to strangers. feed the dogs. visit bookstores. look for 1800s novels. experience art. then love. sit with a homeless man and offer them lunch. don't gossip. embody virtue. sit alone. do something with your life. what do you want to create? turn off your mind. play. play a sport. combat sports. notice fonts in trees. fall in love. notice patterns on a table. visualize it. talk to people with respect. don't hate. be loving. be real. become yourself. cherrypick your qualities. discard the useless. rejections aren't permanent. invite what aligns. accept what does not. read great people. be different. choose different. do great work. let it consume you. lose your mind. value your time. experience life.

[romessence]

The urge to deactivate everything.

[bloombound]

[theunseenocean]

As much as I wanted it to be you, you really showed me how much you didn't want it to be me, and I need to accept it.

[etherealjptr]

Jan 2025

[theambitiouswoman]

Why you should be more selfish

I think a lot of people aren’t selfish enough. And I don’t mean the “bad selfish” like being greedy, entitled, lacking compassion for others, using people etc I mean the good selfish… where you prioritize your well being, your peace, your future instead of constantly pouring from an empty cup

Most of us were taught that selflessness is the highest virtue, that putting others before ourselves is what makes us “good.” Then there’s the manipulative tactics from others that come with it, making matters worse emotionally and physically for you. You can’t show up for anyone else if you’re drained or living a life that doesn’t feel like your own

Good selfishness means you say no to things that drain your energy even if others don’t understand or get upset. It means choosing your HEALTH over convenience. It means walking AWAY from relationships that disrespect your worth. Protecting your time like the precious resource it is… because IT IS. Investing in your growth, even if others call it indulgent (the better you get, the more you can pour into and inspire others)

When you practice this kind of selfishness, you actually become more generous because you’re giving from a place of fullness. You’re modeling what it means to honor yourself & that gives others permission to do the same. If it’s one thing I’ve seen across the board that affects people the most, it’s not the lack of, or the support, it’s that they are simply unaware that certain realities and things can exist aside from their own (no fault to them of course)

So no, you’re not a bad person for choosing yourself. You’re simply practicing a higher level of responsibility & self respect that says that you matter too ✨

[etherealjptr]

All about me this season

[natalioovski]

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[etherealjptr]

Every time they remind me that my ex has moved on feels like I’m going through the break up again

[etherealjptr]

The most painful part about life is the ability to love someone who will abandon you time and again

[etherealjptr]

When you left

I lost more than a friend

I lost faith in love

[scorpionlafemme]

[etherealjptr]

I’m generally generous but my therapist told me “why are you scared of being selfish? You’re putting everybody first and they putting themselves first”

[theambitiouswoman]

Gut Friendly Grocery List 🥦🥑🧀

🧀 Probiotic and Fermented Foods:

Yogurt (look for live and active cultures)

Kefir

Sauerkraut

Kimchi

Pickles (fermented)

Tempeh

Miso

Fermented cheeses (e.g., cheddar, gouda, Swiss)

Kombucha

🫘 Fiber-Rich Foods:

Whole grain bread, cereal or pasta

Oats

Brown rice

Quinoa

Lentils

Chickpeas

Black beans

🍳 Protein:

Lean meats (chicken, turkey, lean cuts of beef or pork)

Fish (salmon, mackerel, sardines)

Eggs (rich in amino acids)

Tofu and tempeh (fermented soy products)

Cottage cheese

🍎 Fruits:

Berries (blueberries, strawberries, raspberries)

Bananas

Apples

Oranges

Lemons

Watermelon

🥦 Vegetables:

Spinach

Broccoli

Cauliflower

Brussels sprouts

Asparagus

Onions

Garlic

Artichokes

Sweet Potato

Jicama

Chicory root

Dandelion greens

🥜 Nuts and Seeds:

Almonds

Walnuts

Flaxseeds

Chia seeds

Pumkin seeds

🥑 Healthy Fats:

Avocado

Olive oil

Grass fed butter

🍠 Herbs and Spices:

Turmeric

Ginger

Garlic

🧉 Beverages:

Green tea

Herbal teas

Aloe vera juice

Coconut water

🍫 Other:

Dark chocolate (in moderation)

Apple cider vinegar

Bone Broth

Raw honey

sea salt

Collagen

Seaweed

[theambitiouswoman]

We have three brains: The head brain, the gut and the heart.

🧠 Head (Brain): This is where our logic, intellect, and conscious thought processes are centered. Despite its importance, 90% of our behavior is influenced by our unconscious mind.

How to take care:

🧠 Do activities that stimulate your brain, such as puzzles, reading, learning new skills, or practicing mindfulness meditation. These activities can help improve cognitive function and maintain brain health.

🧠 Healthy nutrition, regular exercise, adequate sleep, and managing stress are crucial for brain health. Physical health directly impacts your cognitive abilities and mental clarity.

🧠 Keep your brain active by learning new things regularly. This could involve hobbies, courses, or activities that challenge and stimulate your intellect.

🍽️  Gut: Often referred to as our "second brain," the gut produces a significant amount of serotonin, which plays a crucial role in mood regulation and overall emotional management.

How to take care:

🍽️  Eat a diet rich in fiber, fruits, vegetables, and probiotics (like yogurt or kefir) to promote a healthy gut microbiome. Avoid excessive sugar and processed foods.

🍽️  Drink plenty of water throughout the day to support digestion and overall gut function.

🍽️  Stress can negatively impact your gut health. Practice stress reduction techniques like deep breathing, yoga, or meditation to maintain a healthy gut-brain axis.

❤️ Heart: The heart has neural pathways that communicate with the brain, suggesting a bidirectional flow of information. This connection emphasizes the role of emotions, intuition, and feelings in our decision making and overall cognitive processes.

How to take care:

❤️ Maintain positive relationships, express your emotions constructively, and engage in activities that bring you happiness and fulfillment.

❤️ Regular exercise not only benefits the heart but also helps manage your emotions by releasing endorphins and reducing stress.

❤️ Take time for your self care activities that nurture your emotional and psychological health.

[theambitiouswoman]

Cognitive Techniques To Change Your Thoughts ✨✨

Cognitive techniques are strategies used in cognitive therapy to help you identify and change negative thoughts and beliefs. These techniques should be practiced regularly so that they become habits.

Cognitive Restructuring: This involves identifying and challenging negative or irrational thoughts and replacing them with more positive or rational beliefs.

Thought Stopping: When you notice a negative thought entering your mind, you can mentally shout "Stop!" This interrupts the thought process and gives you a chance to replace the negative thought with a positive one.

Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. When you observe your thoughts without judgment, you gain insight into negative patterns and choose to let them go.

Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help you process and analyze them. With time you can identify patterns and work on changing negative thought cycles.

Positive Affirmations: Repeating positive statements can help counteract negative self talk and reinforce positive beliefs about yourself.

Evidence Collection: When faced with a negative belief, ask yourself, "What evidence do I have that supports or refutes this thought?" This can help you see things in a more balanced way.

Decatastrophizing: If you tend to imagine the worst scenario, ask yourself how likely it is to happen and what other possible outcomes there might be. This can help you view situations more realistically.

Labeling: Instead of saying "I am a failure," label the thought as "a negative thought about my abilities."

Distraction: Engaging in an activity or hobby can divert your attention from negative thoughts and give your mind a break.

Scheduling Worry Time: Instead of ruminating on worries throughout the day, set aside a specific time to process them. This can prevent constant worry and allow you to focus on other tasks.

Challenging Cognitive Distortions: Recognize and challenge cognitive distortions like black-and-white thinking, overgeneralization, and personalization.

Visual Imagery: Visualize a place or situation where you feel calm and happy. This can help shift your focus from negative thoughts.

These are very simple descriptions and examples of cognitive techniques. I listed the ones we can put into practice on our own. There are more in depth methods and practices used by doctors on different fields of study and practice. I can list, as well as add upon the information listed here.