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saif, 29, they/them, sapphic, punjabi, marxist

[pjharvey]

i'm still a leftist but in my experience women are viewed as expendable in leftist spaces, spoken over, treated as stupid, on a level that is astounding. you can get away with an enormous level of vitriolic hatred for women if you couch it in the right terms

[pjharvey]

yeah they think it's bourgeois and childish and that you are bourgeois and childish if you are a feminist. sometimes the ones that want to act like Allies to Women will act like it's cute (read: naïve) that you're a feminist and expect you to be flattered by that. otherwise you're stuck up and obnoxious for acknowledging rape culture, caring about your own safety, and not believing in bullshit like "rich women don't experience misogyny"

[helenvaughans]

from what i've observed, i do think there is some pressure for women in not explicitly feminist leftist circles to affect a kind of "cool girl" posture for the benefit of the men in the movement

[helenvaughans]

same as it ever was!!!

[xenosagaepisodeone]

right wing handwringing over birth rates has always unsubtly been a combination of wanting more white babies/wanting control over women, so it's bothersome that the popular response to that is just pointing out the cost of living. "we Would be having more kids if you guys made some positive changes to society" and such. pronatalist sentiment is becoming so much more explicit that I don't think many self-styled progressives are ready to reconcile with the fact that many women simply do not want to have children. we already see how women are demonized for refusing to undertake the thankless burdens of their mother and grandmother's generations lol, I can't imagine how full abdication from child rearing will come across to some people.

I can't even see "we Would be having kids" as a strategic approach to get conservatives to consider advocating for a higher quality of life considering that they truly could not care less if you, specifically, are poor. it's true that more couples would have kids if it was cheaper, but that will not be enough for these types until women's subservience is codified. even now, they consider the lack of child rearing in today's insane society to be a matter of selfishness. they view themselves as completely different animals than you. they have and will continue to advocate for more advantages for people of their specific backgrounds and income brackets to reinforce this lol.

[communistkenobi]

I think this rhetoric also ignores that the right wing want the inverse for Black and brown people - this logic of “raise living standards and we’ll have more kids” is a white perspective that ignores white supremacist medical violence, forced abortions, forced sterilisation, mass deportations, mass incarceration, police murder, imperial aggression, and forced removal of children from families as institutional programs of population control (Canadian residential schools, for example, were built for this exact purpose).

Increasing white birth rates is only one half of the equation for the right wing, and this raising-living-standards rhetoric fails to address this completely. Even in the outlandish scenario where the right wing accepts this logic and institutes robust welfare programs, do people think the state will offer these things to black, brown, and indigenous people? In any scenario where this happens it would just be Aryan UBI

[queerstudiesnatural]

i think there is something to be said about this wave of white women made media that is so surface level with an underlying racist and/or insensitive bias and that refuses to engage with criticism. i'm talking taylor swift's the life of a showgirl, emerald fennell's wuthering heights, colleen hoover, the acotar series and booktok in general, etc. whenever you dare to raise concerns about the superficiality or the questionable writing or the treatment of poc in those pieces you get shut down with a "it's not that deep" or "let women have fun". this weaponisation of misogyny to justify slop made for mass consumption, especially considering how wide spread it is becoming, scares me quite a bit. to quote princess weekes, "the girlypopification of anti-intellectualism" is truly concerning, and i do believe it is linked to the rise of far right movements worldwide. if you refuse to engage with what you are being presented with, and exclusively consume brain smoothing content "for fun" then yeah you do become more susceptible to propaganda. it is that deep.

[transcephalopod]

something deeply depressing about the fact that, in english-speaking LGBT spaces, you have to choose between being cut off from your community or being called a slur, either directly or implicitly. even if people individually agree to not call you a queer to your face, you're still forced to allow yourself to be labeled that if you participate in LGBT spaces at all. it's in the names - queer safe space, queer meetup, queer book club, queer community, queer literature, queer event, on and on and on. the best you can hope for is people awkwardly agreeing to not call you that word directly, clearly not understanding at all why you find it uncomfortable. you can't express that discomfort upon hearing the word without warning, or being called that by people who don't know you dislike it, or seeing it plastered all over the place. any kind of negative reaction to the word queer will get you an uncomfortable conversation at best, and at worst you're getting called a conservative TERF exclusionist and kicked out of the space.

some of the most vulnerable LGBT people - those of us from rural communities, or conservative areas, or who have bigoted families - are excluded by default from the spaces they need most, and all in the name of including people who have no business being there.

[otherside-picnic]

If criminals don't get to have human rights, then the people in charge of deciding what a criminal is get to decide who is and is not human. Do you understand? Is this not blindingly obvious? Do you care?

Or do you assume you will always be "one of the good ones"?

[nemfrog]

Internal organs of the pigeon. The biology of birds. 1923.

Internet Archive

[mityenka]

when you grew up as a lonely uncool girl it will never stop haunting you by the way. you will meet a cool person at a bar or the train station or at a friend's party and you can wear your most stylish outfit and striking eye makeup and you will swear that they can see through all of the facade and see the lonely terribly insecure teenage girl you used to be who desperately wanted to connect and you will swear that they know that there is like an insurmountable gap between you. this will happen forever

[guerrillatech]

[theflowerwar-deactivated2025091]

We joke and all but some of you really forget that people hate women.

[theflowerwar-deactivated2025091]

Seeing people wonder “how can people say stuff like this” and “why does [x misogynistic thing] keep happening” is a bit disorienting because when you take a five second pause to think about it you can realize quite immediately that it’s because people hate women. Like guys… people HATE women.

[cigarettesforcats]

[kibumkim]

The patriarchy won lmao

[disgracedmilfman]

Evergreen

[3000s]

living in an environment of people you cant say no to is bad for you because you basically have to become manipulative to get your point across to survive and that carries over into non family relationships

[3000s]

my dad doesnt want me to "talk back" (meaning: try to explain why i'm telling him no) even when what he wants will harm me; i work around this by saying yes until things get really bad; he finally notices and lets me stop; i do this automatically in all interpersonal relationships because i'm scared, but it pushes people away because they aren't like my dad

[3000s]

actively living in this environment as an adult stunts your growth as a person

[elliegoose]

the idea that women are "more allowed" to express emotions than men under patriarchy honestly seems like a lie that serves patriarchy itself.

women are constantly pressured to dissociate from the way our circumstances negatively impact us, and we are straight up not permitted more emotional expression in any meaningful way that is received well in patriarchal relations. in reality, we are marked as "more emotional" and therefore taken less seriously than men.

nobody under patriarchy is allowed a healthy and full expression of their emotions, but framing emotional expression as an advantage that women have is bizarre.

[bakwaaas]

[lmaonade]

idea i had

[lmaonade]

more

[probuccalfat]

stoicism won’t save you. pick up a hobby where you make something with your hands

[crabussy]

how come they make you reinvent the concept of dinner every evening. I have to make dinner come true every evening like some kind of unpaid genie intern