I got locked out of my actual blog and don't know when I'll get it back, so this is going to be either my new temporary or permanent blog. I'm using the opportunity to start over on a blank slate, but if you were a mutual of mine I'm probably going to tell you my old URL.
Pronouns: he/him, masculine or neutral terms only
Feel free to send me asks or DMs, I see them although I may not always respond. All likes, reblogs, tags and comments are always welcome unless explicitly stated otherwise.
Minors can interact, but I am an adult and have a tag for 18+ posts. If you're not an adult, please stay away from those posts and block the tag if you don't want to see that stuff. You can find it at the bottom under the cut. Also I'd prefer if you don't follow me if you're younger than 18, if you're under 15 I'm going to actively soft block you.
About me:
I'm in my 20s, living with a little purring furball. I'm interested in creating stuff (whether that is drawing, painting, playing guitar, crocheting, 3D printing, soldering, baking or cooking) and taking things apart to fix them, reuse them, figure them out or modify them. I've taken apart most of the electric devices I own at least once.*
I am neurodivergent (autism, CPTSD and chronic depression, maybe ADHD) and queer. I try not to, but I might sound very bored/dismissive/rude/unexcited even when that is not the case. I try to use tone tags to circumnavigate that issue, but if I don't, please don't assume the worst. Criticism is always welcome, as long as it's in good faith and constructive.
(*I work in IT and am qualified as an electrician, so don't do that if you don't know what you're doing.)
About this blog:
I try to tag common triggers, but I might miss something occasionally. Please tell me if I do, as well as when there is a thing I am not tagging you'd like me to tag in the future.
This blog has a 0 tolerance policy for any kind of radfeminism, if you are any flavor of radfem, you're not welcome here (TERF, TIRF, SWERF, TRF, whatever). Nor do I tolerate any other kind of bigotry (racism, ableism, queerphobic, classism, saneism, etc.) or exclusionary behaviour (e.g. biphobia, aphobia, intersexism, transmisia, exorsexism, etc.).
Additionally, I am anti censorship, death penalty, moralising kink and bio-/gender essentialism, and I am pro bodily autonomy, body neutrality, sex neutrality, human rights for all and using conflicting labels. If you take issue with any of that, I suggest you save your time and go somewhere else.
NSFW asks and DMs are also fine, but the same rules as for normal ones still count, on top of no messages from minors. Also no forcefem, detrans, dd/lg or anything involving piss/shit/vomit. I'll probably expand this section in the future.
I might edit this post in the future with new tags/fandoms/rules/etc. I'll tag when it's been the last time I've done so.
Fandoms/Interests:
I'm not always active in all of the fandoms, but I am open for talking about all of them as well as my interests.
⧠Disco Elysium
⧠Pathologic
⧠Marble Hornets
⧠OFF
⧠ĆNA
⧠Undertale/Deltarune
⧠DHMIS
Tags:
#⧠old man yells at cloud <- personal/original posts
#⧠yapping <- reblogs with commentary
#⧠putting them in the plinko <- blorbo/fandomposting
#⧠mdni <- 18+ posts
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Wowsers, you actually read the whole thing? If you actually read all that, then you get a cookie for your attention -> đŞ
while we talk about the fact that transmasc and trans man erasure is not a "casualty" or a "side effect" of trans womens hypervisibility but a deliberate effort to silence us made by both wider society and the trans community, we must also remember that trans men of color are DOUBLY affected by this. radfems (both trans and regular terfs) want to push the idea that transmasculinity is inherently "white" and that when we talk about the struggles that trans men experience that we are talking about white trans men in western countries, and they benefit off pushing this idea. we must remember and advocate for trans men of color and especially those who are in countries affected by american imperialism who are the most at risk group of a lot of the most violent acts of transandrophobia and antitransmasculinity, and never let radfems erase them in order to paint trans men the hysterical whiny bitches they want to
You can also notice how often the transmascs and trans men who talk about how they are "privileged" and how transmascs and trans men need to "stop whining" often are white and from western countries. You will never find an arab trans man or an african trans man talking about how they are "privileged" over women. Because their realities are far too diferent from your usual american and european ones you find on Tumblr.
Idk where people get the idea that âerasureâ is like, a preferable alternative to violence. Erasure is not the absence of violence, it is the systematic refusal to acknowledge violence. Itâs watching a drowning man and refusing to help. Itâs turning your back on the sick, the starving, and the imprisoned.
This website has multiple well-known posts about how medical misogyny means most people donât know that women can have different heart attack symptoms than men. That is erasure, and it kills people.
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but the doctor down the street who gives me my T shots
in a clinic so small that it's just two rooms
was excited for me when she said my voice had dropped
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but the receptionist who could see that I was a man
didn't bat an eyelash when I asked to see the gynecologist
and called me sir when he asked how I wanted to pay
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but the barber cuts my hair exactly how I want it
and never gave me strange looks for being in a men's salon
not even back when I didn't pass as one
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but my friends have always gendered me correctly
and stick to it even when it confuses other people
and my friend's little sibling calls me older brother in Kannada
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but my dog learned my new name quicker than the humans
and she runs to give me a kiss when she's told to
without being confused about who's being referred to
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but I can feel the Adam's apple growing in my throat
and my muscles getting stronger, and my smile more real
and I'm growing a beard, and I talk more freely
yes, India made legal gender change impossible
but I'm here, and I'm alive, and so are you
and there are good people, people who care
and don't let them make you forget that--
you are not alone.
itâs fun that Mormonism is based off pseudo-archeology and Scientology is based off pseudo-psychiatry. By that logic the big American New Religious Movement of the 21st century is gonna be based on⌠pseudo-computer science?
Hey real quick i wanna shout out snd say happy pride to the straight trans men and transmascs! I see yall struggling to feel like places have space for you and accept you as if your straightness is some sort of dealbreaker when it comes to inclusion and that makes me sad!! So just know people who exclude you or make you feel bad for being straight? Not worth your time!!!!
You have ALWAYS through history had a place in the trans community and overall queer community, the right people, those who care and who are kind, they love you- the internet is a terrible megaphone for the worst most annoying and pedantic exclusionists, i'm sorry you have to put up with their reductive, binaristic and discriminatory opinions! If romantic relationships is something you strive for i hope you meet the girl of your dreams someday soon- several even!! And i will always stand by your side, solidarity and love forever <3
And if people give you shit i will use all my faggy strenght to explode them đĽđĽđĽđĽđĽ
The problem is that the amount of penicillin in a slice of bread is so miniscule that you'd need to eat a vast amount to receive a medical dose.
Bread mold also has a shit load of toxins that vastly outnumber the amount of penicillin. These mycotoxins over time cause liver, kidney, immune system, brain and heart damage, hemmhoraging, ovulation disruption and damage to semen production.
âFor example, if youâre trying to convince people to boycott a segregated store, your object is to convince them that boycotting the store will have a strategic effect, not that desegregation is morally important. For whatever reason, on a cognitive level human beings have a really hard time with this. Smucker cites an example of a Lefty roleplaying session where people were tasked with selling an action to people who agreed with them on principle but didnât see the strategic merit of the action. Surprisingly, the sellers couldnât make the conceptual switch to sell strategic merit: instead, they doubled down on THIS ISSUE IS IMPORTANT â even though it had been stressed to them that the people they were selling to bought into the importance of the issue. People react poorly to âthis is important, so do WHATEVER I SAYâ; they want to be convinced that what youâre proposing will work.â
âBob Wing, a grassroots organizer, explains this nicely: âIf winning feels impossible, then righteousness can seem like the next best thing.â But righteousness is not conducive to getting normies to join your team if your team cannot demonstrate ability to, at least sometimes, win. Nor does righteousness help you make real inroads with regular people.â
the thing about "I want shorter games with worse graphics made by people who are paid more to work less and I'm not kidding" is that these games exist and are out there and you have to make the conscious choice to seek them out instead of just expecting the big companies to deliver this, because they will not
But no, seriously. This is one of the biggest things that pits people against each other in fandom spaces.
Youâve got people who need stories where men get to have completely platonic deep friendships with other men, need stories where men can be affectionate and support each other emotionally without it having to be romance. Youâve also got people who need stories about men being romantic with men. Both of these are valid. Whether either is canon doesnât really matter because transformative works are allowed to be transformative and transformative works are works in their own right. Itâs right there in the name.
But because there can only be One True Fanon, instead of acknowledging that different people have different needs and taking a live-and-let-live approach, you usually end up with both groups fighting to throw the other one under the bus first for trying to âstealâ their representation.
Please no Oppression Olympics clowning on this post. Everyone needs stories. Itâs an immutable part of the human condition.
the only thing I disagree with in this post is âyouâve heard of competing access needsâ, because in my experience, approximately nobody has, and most of the people who have are themselves disabled
(so nobody leaves this post without knowing what competing access needs are: the thing where movie subtitles are important for people with hearing loss or auditory processing issues, useless to people with vision loss, and can easily distract other people from the action. the thing where movie descriptive audio is important for people with vision loss, useless to people with hearing loss or auditory processing issues, and can easily distract other people from the action. et cetera and so forth.)
the other thing that worries me about both groups you describe is, zero of these people seem able to enjoy stories that arenât entirely for them, which is sad, and zero of these people seem to know where to find the back button should they happen upon a fic that turns out to be really not for them, which is aggravating to everyone else and canât be much fun for them either
and the crowd that first goes âif you want stories with [thing they donât like], write your ownâ, then turns up when their addressees do in fact write their own just to say âew, why is this so [thing they donât like]â, can fuck altogether the fuck off
Competing access needs are also why itâs important to have a bunch of different kinds of things. Like, a building that only has stairs is going to be inaccessible to a lot of people. But if it has stairs, a ramp, escalators, and an elevator (depending on the size of the building), so many more people will have access. Iâve always had a major fear of elevators, and I often find myself using the stairs even when my body canât take it, so an escalator would give me better access. However, someone in a wheelchair would likely take the elevator instead of the escalator because it fits their chair better. The more options there are available, the more people are going to be able to access something: our competing needs shouldnât mean that only one of us gets to exist. It should mean we expand the possibilities so we all get to be in the building, even if we take different paths to move through it.
Why shouldnât we expect that in media? The answer to âwe need representationâ shouldnât be âonly perfect representation [which is very subjective, with everyone having a different definition of what that would even be] is allowed. Everything else is offensive.â It should instead be âmore representation means more aspects of our experiences are shown.â
The âoh no I definitely canât be gay, itâs time for some self-loathingâ story is real for a lot of people, and can be very important to see represented. But I donât want it to be all the stories I see. The âIâve always known I was gay and Iâve never had a problem with itâ story is real for a lot of people, and can be very important to see represented. But I donât want it to be all the stories I see.
The more kinds of stories we let people tell, the more we will be able to find ourselves represented
