madness mara

virago. she/him

[failfujo]

hi. yeah, this is one of those blogs.

My name is mara. I'm 26 years old. 5'9 if that matters and I have a dead end job and I hate my life.

i’m a shut in that feels like the world has abandoned her. I have hebephrenic schizophrenia and bpd. I switch between having anger issues and feeling sorry for myself. this isn’t a self-help redemption arc or a “healing femininity” i'm addicted to porn. I drink alot. I love yaoi. My hygene is bad.

Just think of your "loser fujoshi" and yep thats me.

i’m not here to be palatable.

i’m not here to fix myself into something dateable. I'm also fail at being masculine bc I'm just a cis tomboy girlfail amd I fail at everything

this blog is about:

being undesirable without apologizing for it

gender failure as resistance.

resentment, loneliness, and rage sometimes

attraction, power, envy, and the politics of being overlooked.

i don’t hate women who are loved. i hate the system that made love a reward you earn by behaving correctly.

sometimes i’ll be cruel. sometimes i’ll be vulnerable. sometimes i’ll contradict myself. that’s intentional.

if you’re:

too much or not enough

unwanted and aware of it

tired of “just work on yourself”

drawn to dominance, sharpness

you’ll probably understand me.

DNI if you like masculine men in your yaoi. Or are obsessed with men I find masculine. I will freak out. I only like femboy content. It sounds weird, but trust me, It will trigger me and cause an episode.

[secretscents]

In this house, femboys and tomboys are slurs and derogatory language.

[failfujo]

Before knowing the history of tomboy I was fine being called it...then I learned it was coined to push young gender conforming white women to become athletic so they could create "healthy white babies" and it was expected they'd eventually fall back into femininity? It never was for actual masculine women...the expectation was always to rape and convert masculine women, or ensure gender conforming women eventually stay in line.

"Why don't you call yourselves tomboys?"

It's term stems to support the Great Replacement Myth.

[middbus]

ppl are literally attacking feminine cis men for no reason and you're not standing up as a trans woman????

very #woke of you to assume a masculine trans WOMAN has anything to do with cis men.

[bellboutique]

being trans and gnc will have people giddy because they feel like they can misgender you. I'm a feminine MAN. Moses please deal with this world swiftly...

[middbus]

The funny part that it wasn't for "no reason" it was because they were transphobic. But we want to relate to these men, right? This sureely isn't discrimination off the basis of being transgender itself, right?

[failfujo]

Idk if it's my place to say, but it's crazy they feel most comfortable misgendering than actually thinking you're the gender and allinity you are. a gnc person can understand a feminine man, but not someone who only transitioned to become one. The same thing. So why treated differently?

[middbus]

You're misunderstanding our intent. It's not our of malice! Both Mollis and trans women are both orginally men and transitioned some sort of way to femininity. It's not transphobic to say you're of the same exact group just because of silly little gender.

???? Go fuck yourself. Trans women are women, feminine men are men. You think you're slick trying to logically slip us both into the "male" category. There is no reason why you should lump in the experiences of trans women and mollis together At All even if somewhat similar.

This kind of rhetoric in these ages is what gets us killed.

[princevin]

Anon, that’s not how any of this works. Trans women and feminine men are not the same. Firstly, trans women ≠ feminine men. Not every trans woman is feminine? Womanhood is, y’know, not intrinsically feminine. Equating womanhood with “some sort of femininity” is a fundamental misunderstanding of everything this space has been talking about.

Again, reiterating middbus, just because /feminine/ trans women and feminine men can have an overlap of experiences does not make both groups the “same exact group.”

Anon, if you’re being genuine about not being malicious, then I heavily encourage you to sit down and think about why you’ve concluded that being a trans woman is ‘basically the same’ as being a feminine man. You have some transphobia to identify, unlearn, and unpack.

[secretscents]

As GNC cis people we experience misgendering because people can't comprehend our existence. Imagine what gnc trans people go through.

[bellboutique]

Imagine every day even other trans people actively try to misgender you and your experiences and wonder why we're mad all the time. They wonder why we're always adamant on distancing ourselves away from them.

It's almost like we're fucking oppressed!!!! 😃

[bellboutique]

It's not even fucking woke that gnc people experience sexuality on a whole different axis than conformists do. We share the same gender, but what it looks like for us is completely queer.

[bellboutique]

Whilst we're here, can somebody tell me why cis gnchet men's takes sound like misogynistic incelism?

[scaryb4rbi3]

Lowkey starting to see it was a big mistake to allow rolereversal into the label because why do I open the Virago tag and there's NO GNC women. Just:

"Oh she opened the door for her husband! See? Masculine."

[shoefaced2]

things to keep in mind:

a) gender presentation is just as much a spectrum as gender identity

b) gender roles are social constructs, not immutable biological truths

c) "social construct" ≠ "unimportant." we are taxonomically a social species.

d) some ways of breaking a culture's gender norms are more stigmatized than others. this is worthy of note.

e) the act of breaking gender norms at all should be uplifted regardless of how destigmatized that sole act is, provided it's harmless.

[this-is-gynarchophobia]

Welcome to This Is Gynarchophobia

This is an account platforming experiences with Gynarchophobia.

I will post, reblog, answer, and comment examples of Gynarchophobia when seen.

These experiences can be had anywhere. If not immediately clear, we will explain how

something Is Gynarchophobic.

This also serves as a safe space for GNC women to vent about Gynarchophobia

You may send images, screenshots, videos or instances of Gynarchophobia. This Includes: expressed bigotry, microagressions, misrepresentation, or exclusion of masculine women.

So what is Gynarchophobia?

Gynarchophobia (also kwown as Gynandrophobia) is bigotry against masculine women and GNC women as a whole and their lived experiences. This includes but is not limited to:

The belief a woman cannot be masculine. Stereotyping mascline woman as androgynous, the belief of divine femininity and inate femininity within all women. The lesbophobic belief you have to be lesbian to be masculine as a woman. The belief masculine women face less oppression. Bilittlement of HetGNC women's oppression and experience.

The fear and disgust of female led relationships and role reversal dynamics. A woman's dominance not being respected. A belief masculine women operate on the same gendered experience the same as feminine women.

Erasure of female bisexual masculinity. Fetishization and obiectificationof masculine women by any group.

And much, much more.

[failfujo]

??????

[viragoposting]

What should we do about the misogynistic fem men?

Kill them

[secretscents]

I am not a man and if you compare me to a man in any way I am blocking.

[cerberusmon-wm]

[failfujo]

Week 3 of therapy. I'm feeling much better now that I'm medicated.

I made this blog during an episode. I don't think alot that I had posted during that time represented myself respectfully.

If you need help, don't go to the internet. Please get medication or seek professional guidance. Most of my gender struggles have been made alone. It never had to be that way.

[failfujo]

Hey there, thank you for follow! ^^

hiiii you are very welcome sister!!

[kafvus]

The amount of incels and diet incels hiding in plain sight, disguised as mollis/fem men in hetgnc and role reversal communities in general is appalling and baffling. These incels seek out masculine women for emotional and psychological labor while they view their own femininity as degrading. When they are challenged and threatened, they start using the same incel lingo and call you a gold digger, money chaser and a cheater. The audacity to come into a space that is supposed to be safe and free for virago women to explore masculinity in and put them in feminizing roles is insane. I implore gnchet men and women to be cautious of such people because they ruin the image of fem men and use women as emotional crutches because they feel insecure about themselves. And before anybody starts yapping about "the incel to transfem/femboy pipeline", let me tell you that feminine people are and always have been capable of misogyny and gynarchophobia, and being feminine/a woman is not an inherently feminist thing and doesn't absolve you of misogyny and consequences.