#extradirty
if i look back, i am lost
Misplaced Lens Cap
oozey mess
DEAR READER
we're not kids anymore.
Xuebing Du
Sweet Seals For You, Always
blake kathryn
Peter Solarz
TVSTRANGERTHINGS
Monterey Bay Aquarium
art blog(derogatory)
NASA
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Cosmic Funnies
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Kiana Khansmith
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@finchilyflawless
don't go into the humanities because they're unprofitable and don't go into stem cuz its getting torn apart right now and don't go into buisness because it's competetive and speculative and don't go into education because it pays like shit. Just lay on thr ground. Just lay on the ground.
my unpopular opinion is that i hate tiktok because now people just publicly watch loud ass videos in public spaces with no regard for anyone else. 100% it was not this bad with youtube, it’s such a different thing with tiktok. put on headphones. you are grown.
This is it! This is what social media/smart tech have done! They’ve rotted away any distinction between private and public.
Yes, we do have the right to make demands on public behavior. Of course we do. Have you never heard of laws and etiquette? I’m not allowed to grocery shop naked. You can’t rummage through my purse. I can’t have a work meeting in the middle of a movie theatre.
I remember when it was taboo simply to answer your cell phone in public. The person answering would apologize and try to go to a more private area. Then public calls were normalized. Then putting people on speaker. Then listening to music without headphones. Do you know how many times I have hiked up a mountain or driven to the beach, only to be met with someone blaring shitty top 40 music from their portable speaker, because Heaven forbid you go one hour without noise?
Old woman yells at cloud and all that, but I can’t believe someone is not only admitting this behavior, but saying it’s a good thing! No one likes you! You’re a menace!
BEING INCONSIDERATE OF OTHERS IS STILL BAD.
It was obnoxious when it was youtube.
It was obnoxious when it was music.
It was obnoxious when it was the radio.
It was obnoxious when it was dudes wanting to talk to you instead of letting you just read your freaking book.
Do you want to be this guy? Because being obnoxious in shared spaces is how you become this guy.
Wear your damn headphones like an adult participant in the social contract.
Best art history lesson ever, thank you
We don’t talk enough about the systemic health effects of casual fatphobia and how much they fucking skew the data to the point where we literally cannot know how much outcomes are actually related to fatness and how much they are related to society not being designed for fat people, like literal design.
My best friend cannot find a bra.
She’s fat. We won’t get into the ~why~ here because it honestly wouldn’t matter whether it was “all her fault” or whether it was a result of outside forces like genes and such, she still deserves a goddamn fucking bra that fits.
And she cannot find a bra.
She’s short and fat, and Fat Bras are usually full cup, but because she’s short the full cups are usually too tall, or the armbands around them are too tall, to the point where what’ll fit around her chest and over her boobs will also dig up into her arms or have such high coverage that she literally cannot wear a shirt with a neckline high enough. Any bra that goes out enough goes too high.
This affects her ability to find clothing, impacting her ability to go outside sometimes, because she has this tiny selection of bras and she constantly has to wash them and when they’re gone she has no idea when she’ll next be able to find another unicorn bra. They appear in a flash usually in startups that die soon after, and COVID has killed most the small businesses remaining where she had even a hint of a chance of finding a fitting bra.
So she wears bras that don’t fit. Or she doesn’t leave the house. One gives her back pain. The other is, obviously, not very active. She likes to be active.
If she brings it up, people suggest breast reduction surgery.
But the thing is, with a good bra, she does not get back pain.
But if it’s that hard to find a good bra, they say, wouldn’t a reduction just be easier?
Wouldn’t it be easier for you to chop off part of your flesh, they say, then for us to cut fabric and underwire to more sizes? As if that is normal. As if that isn’t horrifying.
It’s not just bras. It’s chairs. It’s benches. It’s goddamn shoes. It’s seatbelts. It’s exercise equipment - I just got an exercise bike for Christmas. I had to shop around to find an affordable one that was also rated to take my level of fat. If I were 100 pounds heavier, which some people are? I don’t think any equipment would have existed in a price range that any working person could expect to afford. I don’t think most people even look at the weight ratings on chairs and couches and furniture. Once you start? They are lower than you think. There are absolutely 100% people you love in your life - whether really tall men or just average kinda overweight fat people - who should not be using the things they are using. Who are not getting support from their mattress, their footwear, their office chair. It might be you! You might be thinking “but I am average size!”, but the amount of furniture out there that’s only weighted to about 200lbs? Or 175??? It’s SO MUCH MORE THAN YOU REALIZE. Get into the Proper Fat? The 350lb, 400lb, 500lb fat? There’s virtually nothing.
Seatbelts are not tested for fat bodies and seatbelt extenders aren’t regulated.
We know about the problems with too small a blood pressure cuff. With too low a medicine dose. With no MRI a really fat body can fit in for a thousand miles.
We know, from multiple studies on multiple oppressed communities, that social bias by itself, with zero other compounding factors, can give people worse health outcomes.
Now add up
+ one of the social biases with the least pushback even from the educated liberal set with
+ having a world that is literally not made for you. Where you cannot get clothes, furniture, or transportation in a way that will actually accommodate you,
+ where society is constantly blaming you for this. And even if you somehow (and if you know how, please tell me) manage to retain some sense of self worth and optimism and determination despite all that
+ that’s not gonna magically give you access to the daily supplies a person needs in their home and out in public that’ll make living safe and healthy life literally physically possible.
If you’re really so concerned about fat people’s health start a bra company. If you’re really so concerned about fat people’s health mandate changes to seatbelt requirements. If you’re really so concerned about fat people’s health have a variety of chairs in your waiting room with at least some being properly Fat Rated. If you’re really so concerned about fat people’s health, make it easier for fat people to be active by making exercise equipment that fits them, swimwear that’ll actually stay on them, athletic shoes that can bear them. If you’re really so concerned about fat people’s health ask they be included in more medical trials. If you’re really so concerned about fat people’s health, promote fat visibility and fat people loving their bodies - because hating yourself has literally never been good for anyone’s health.
If you’re using “concern for health” as a shield to allow you to judge and criticize strangers, you don’t give a fuck about anyone’s health. You’re just an asshole who prefers a veneer of respectability when you bully people. You’re hateful and we can see right through you.
But fatphobia isn’t just bullying. It isn’t just judgment from strangers. It isn’t just medical neglect and medical bias. Even if we could wave a wand and make all that go away, my best friend still wouldn’t have a bra that fits, people still wouldn’t have a chair that supports them, a seatbelt that protects them. It’s literally engineered in. And it slowly kills people day by day by day.
This is probably a little too much nuance, but whenever I see a "all borders are violence" post (a political position I generally agree with!) I always add a little asterisk that says "*but the border checks that keep you from bringing homegrown produce into big agricultural areas to avoid the transmission of parasites and invasive species are actually fine and if we were more vigilant about that kind of thing maybe we wouldn't have spotted lanternflies in the states."
That doesn't work as well as a slogan, though
Things borders should be for:
Biosecurity
Customs management (you do not want people importing a bunch of stuff that doesn't meet your country's safety standards, for example)
Things like that one lake in Europe where three national borders coincide and they built an island specifically so you can run between countries for fun
Things borders shouldn't be for:
Policing who can and can't come into a country
Political pet peeve but nothing being done is a "distraction" from anything else. Everything that the current administration is doing is an extension of American imperialism and conservative American values. Iran is not being bombed to "distract from the Epstein files", trans legislation is not being passed to "distract from Palestine", none of this is happening just to "distract" you. And dismissing certain issues as "distractions" is a horrific excuse of them.
It is, however, happening all at once to overwhelm you. And there is a HUGE difference.
This should anger you.
Sometimes I wish people thought I was crazy. Not like psycho murderer crazy but like just not all there. I don’t want to be stupid crazy I want to be like Luna Lovegood level of crazy. I want to be able to do strange things or say something a little weird and people just be like ‘oh yeah that’s normal’. I want to sit on my kitchen counter in the dark and drink tea. I want to just stand in a corner facing a wall humming a song. I want to have that look in my eyes like I’m not really present. I want to be so quiet that sometimes people don’t even notice I walked in a room and it looks like I just appeared. I want to be weird and strange and kinda wise but only occasionally. I want to be the little weird girl that lives in the back of my head.
Very unpopular opinion: Carve the mark is better than Divergent.
WAIT THIS WAS YOU
I SAW THIS EARLIER AND ASSUMED IT WAS JUST ONE OF THOSE VIRAL LIL COMICS THAT EVERYBODY PASSES AROUND
I JUST NOW SAW THE NOTES, WHAT DO YOU MEAN THERES LESS THAN 4K
get to to 4k notes
Maybe... 10K?
you guys know what to do
been getting really into bed recently
Happy Stitch Day, everyone donate to the NICWA out of apology that we let the reboot gain any kind of traction
The National Indian Child Welfare Association is an organization working to protect indigenous children and families through education and advocacy on child welfare and kinship rights. Nobody gets left behind.
Gonna copy-paste what I put into the Dual Process Theory YouTube community post, just in case anyone is blissfully ignorant of what's been going on in the Disney community:
The National Indian Child Welfare Association is an organization working to protect indigenous children and families through education and advocacy on child welfare and kinship rights. The original Lilo & Stitch is very relevant to the ICWA as it shows a US government agent attempting to separate an indigenous woman from her child ward to put her into the care of the state, something that has happened and continues to happen to indigenous children. Nani's "Aloha 'Oe" scene was added as a way to parallel their situation with the colonization of Hawai'i; the original song was written by the last Queen of Hawai'i as the United States forced her to cede her ancestral lands to them, which they then proceeded to colonize and commercialize. Nani is unable to find a job due to the tourism business taking over her land and Lilo is objectified enough to mirror the behavior (taking photos of white tourists rather than white tourists taking photos of her) and gets removed from her traditional dance because of a rich white or white-passing bully.
The original movie is subtle in its messaging but very clear if you know anything about Hawai'ian history, and the movie ending with 'ohana being kept and Nani being able to keep her sister, who she loves, because she now has a support system who can assist her in her own shortcomings is presented as a happy ending for everyone, and the ideal community that we should strive for.
The reboot, if you haven't seen it, has Nani (played by an actress whose mother is a Hawai'i realtor) literally look Lilo in the eye and tell her that 'ohana is a fantasy that can never be reality and that their parents abandoned them by dying. She AND the film see Lilo as a burden on her that is alleviated when she gives up custody and goes to the mainland for college. Why not have her go to a Hawai'ian college, or do classes online while staying with her sister? Because they didn't think about her actually caring for and loving her sister. They thought about how she should go pursue the generic American Dream, and this neurodivergent traumatized child should be passed off to someone else. They literally have an indigenous CPS agent tell her to do this. Her happy ending is giving up custody of her sister to a neighbor and going to a white-dominated university.
Even the non-indigenous characters get removed from the 'ohana, as Jumba is now solely evil and irredeemable and serves as the final antagonist instead of Gantu, which also provides the wonderful(/s) message that criminals cannot be redeemed and government agents are never wrong. The reboot looks at you and tells you that family means nothing and indigenous people should give up their children and culture and assimilate. The director literally said in an interview, "Some people get left behind."
All this to say, we're definitely donating to the NICWA today. They fight to protect the Indian Child Welfare Act that prevents indigenous children from being kidnapped away from their cultures and assist indigenous families in protecting and caring for each other.
Nobody gets left behind.
Guess what just got a sequel announced. Everyone donate AGAIN
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it. it ends in 50 years…..horse is fucking eternal
Let’s keep the post circulating for 50 years it’ll be great when we’re all in the old folks home
im going crazy you have GOT to decouple romance/amatonormativity and marriage in your mind. you have GOT to understand that marriage is a legal document that protects you from exploitation especially if you are a woman or a stay-at-home anything. it is not some evil unique to heterosexual people. it is a legal document that says 'this is who i want in my hospital room when i die, this is who i want to have my stuff when i die, THIS PERSON OWES ME RECOMPENSE IF THEY KICK ME OUT OF THE HOUSE I LIVE IN"
You are not immune to being taken advantage of by your partner if you are queer. do not wind up homeless because your garbage live-ins name is on the lease and they decided to drop you like hot coals.
Adding to this:
This is why it is not assimilationist for gay/queer people to want to enshrine marriage rights in their country/region
Similarly, this is why polyamorous people are fighting for the right to have their relationships recognised by their states through marriage and/or similar agreements
Oh, and because on top of those aforementioned financial and medical protections, these laws also help you maintain connection to any kids you have and/or raise together!
I would go further and say, this is why we really should be looking to expand some of these rights so that marriage is NOT the only way they should be enshrined. (e.g. Why could I get married tonight to a guy I met this morning, and get him on my health insurance, but I cannot do the same for a sibling?)
Remember the fight for same sex marriage was never “we feel left out”, it was “we’re sick and not allowed to see each other. We’re dying and not allowed at the funeral. Someone who kicked me out at 14 just showed up for the first time 24 years later to tell the doctor to pull the plug, and they did.”
Marriage is a legal documentation of rights. Fully agree with prev that those rights should be divested from the concept of monogamy entirely, but for now we have to at least understand what they are
I need the tumblr kiddos to understand that when my wife and I got married in 2013 we had to plan our vacations to ensure we only visited states where our marriage was legal, because otherwise if my wife got sick (not unlikely, she has multiple chronic conditions) I might not even be allowed to visit her in the hospital.
Every older queer you know who is in a longterm relationship will have similar stories of how we planned our whole lives to protect what would have been granted nigh automatically if we were heterosexual.
Marriage is a legal status that confers certain protections and rights, and until societies introduce other ways to get those protections and rights, we need it even if we hate it as an institution.
I got married a week before Obergefell. It was incredibly special to me and my spouse that we never crossed state boundaries and lost our marriage rights. We are celebrating our tenth anniversary in a month.
In the last week, a student expressed surprise to me at the way homophobia was portrayed in a certain book. "It must have been before gay marriage," the student said. The book was from 1985. I gave the student some brief guidance on the history of LGBT narratives over the last forty years, but what I was thinking was, "Goddammit, kid, I was gay engaged before gay marriage."
Obergefell as a case is really important to understand. It was the culmination of multiple cases involving adoption, death certificates, and the right to visit one's spouse when they were dying.
As a boyfriend or girlfriend, you have no claim to your partner. None. If your partner gets hit by a car tomorrow and goes into a coma, you have no right to them in a hospital. That goes for heterosexuals, too.
My aunt's best friend was in a committed partnership for four decades. She wasn't married to this guy because her first marriage ended horribly. When her boyfriend died, she wanted him buried in a family plot. But he had kids by his first wife. Kids who didn't like my aunt's best friend. They had their father cremated and gave my aunt's friend nothing.
She had no legal protection. She had no legal recourse. She doesn't even have the ashes of the man she spent her life with.
If a white, cisgender, heterosexual woman can get fucked over because she wasn't married, then that can happen to you too.
One of the other important cases was US v. Windsor. Edith Windsor's wife, Thea Spyer, passed away in 2009 after they married in Canada in 2007 and had their marriage recognized by their home state of New York in 2008; the couple had been together since 1965 and engaged since 1967. Edie wore a circular diamond brooch instead of a ring to avoid outing herself at work; she was one of the first women to become a senior systems programmer at IBM. Spyer, after being expelled from Sarah Lawrence when a security guard saw her kissing another woman, got her PhD from Adelphi University & became a psychologist with a private practice in New York.
After Thea died, the government refused to honor the spousal exemption to the federal inheritance tax for Edie. She was required to pay $363,053 in estate taxes on the value of Thea's share of their joint property, along with the savings that Thea accumulated during her life. If they'd been considered married by the federal government, that would have been $0.
The underlying principle here extended far, far beyond estate taxes - which would have incredible impact all by itself, especially for couples that were not upper-middle-class like Thea and Edie, since estate taxes on a much more modest house could be devastating to poorer queers and force the sale of the homes in question - and did so immediately. The day after the decision in Windsor, the judge handling McLaughlin v. Panetta, which dealt with veteran spousal benefits, asked how he could possibly find any other way than in favor of granting the petition, since DOMA's definition of a marriage matched that of the statutes defining the benefits, and that had just been found unconstitutional.
Within a month, queer spouses had the same rights under Medicare and Medicaid to be housed in the same nursing home as their spouse rather than being capriciously separated. They started getting death and survivor benefits from the SSA. They could file their taxes jointly. A queer foreign national spouse could get a green card the same way straight couples could. Within six months, the right not to have to testify against one's spouse, FMLA rights, VA rights, and more were added.
But it was still a patchwork of laws and rights that often depended on which state you lived in. Obergefell changed that in 2015.
Fun fact: Edie's lawyer for US v. Windsor was Roberta Kaplan, who is probably better known by younger folx as the lawyer for E. Jean Carroll in E. Jean Carroll v. Donald J. Trump. She and Windsor were both members of Beit Simchat Torah at the time; Kaplan and her wife are still members, AFAIK, but Windsor passed away in 2017.
Jane Eyre but the mad-wife-locked-in-the-attic is a vampire. you agree
it's left ambiguous whether:
Bertha was locked up for being a vampire
her vampirism was mistaken for female hysteria (she canonically bit people/tried to claw their hearts out. that's....suggestive)
she was locked in the attic and then contracted vampirism (bitten by a bat.)
whichever way: she's a vampire, she's dark and dangerous and beckoning like a siren's song from the rafters. she's got a failhusband and a repressed victorian governess dreaming of her daunting laughter. the Gothic Yuri potential is off the charts do u HEAR me???
in the climax, she escapes and Rochester is so panicked he sets the house on fire (fire being anathema to vampires). but then Jane (previously implied to have refused vampiric powers for religious reasons, before running off to the moors)—comes swooping in.
to the audience's shock and relief, Jane has recently embraced her nature as a fledgling, and has finally decided to abandon God (and compulsive heterosexuality) to return to her mistress. Bertha and Jane embrace, and with one romantic kiss they leap from the rooftop, transforming into bats/smoke still engulfed in each other's arms
Sabo Week Day 6:
Reunion/Smile
am taking perverse pleasure in reminding people it's 2025. that's a star trek year. silly little science fiction number. except it's happening, and DANG ain't it underwhelming!
for Gen Z folks who didn't live through it:
the late 2000s to mid 2010s were culturally, a time of a resurgence of hope. I don't think we seriously realized it at the time (for all the Obama campaign posters), but it honestly was the last period in recent history where it was assumed the future would be better.
that was a big thing, that many millennials didn't realize was a big thing, until it was torn away. we honestly thought it was over, the fear and uncertainty of the Cold War and the Nuclear Age (and Bush 2.0). we were born in an era of reprieve. things were bad, yes, the world was insane and unfair, but it was better than it was before. the world had been at the brink of ultimate disaster, and then it stepped back. (And we honestly thought we had escaped our parents' legacy, by sheer virtue of being born in the correct decade.)
I cannot overstate how much that shapes your worldview, growing up in a time where the recent present is better than the recent past. we had reason to believe the world was getting better. because it was, actually! for a good while there! progress was slow, but it was real, and we could feel its grit on our fingertips.
and now we're in an age of regression. because you were robbed. we were robbed. a great global era of robbery (of housing and food and time and health and body and freedom and fundamental human rights), has blossomed, and is happening everyday today.
be furious. they will steal the teeth from your gums.
Abolish Tesla.
Elon uses his overvalued Tesla stock as collateral for all his loans.
If the stock price crashes, banks will ask for their money back.
The Twitter deal alone would break him - twitter has tanked in value, he couldn't sell it to pay off his loans.
Please, oh please. Not just well deserved karma, it would be so fucking funny.
