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itznarcotic

secretboldy

Wait you’re a white guy named Brian who is into pup play omg it’s just like family guy

that-twink-over-there

Why do you ask

if i was an animal and i knew i was being observed and researched i would do something super fucked up. but only once. never again. ruin their lives. keep them guessing.

hunk-heaven-deactivated20230805

CHARLIE PUTH

brucebocchi

tallymali

remember go nuts show nuts whatever

tallymali

this wasnt a suggestion im talking abt tumblrs old nsfw policy

drtanner

spleen9000

I think one thing I really didn't get when I was like 20 is that "small talk" is often a way for people to hint at the bigger deeper things that are going on with them without overloading someone. like it can be an invitation and a chance to test the waters before launching into things that it may or may not be the appropriate time/place/person to talk about those things with.

like when someone asks "how are you," you don't have to respond with "good," but it also isn't necessarily a good context to go straight to "I keep flipping my shit at people I love because I can't regulate my emotions and I'm afraid of them dying or abandoning me," plus if someone isn't used to broaching that kind of topic at the beginning of an interaction it gives them a chance to develop the kind of comfortability to be able to talk about that stuff. some people will reach that point sooner than others, whether it's over 10 minutes or multiple years.

also, I've realized that it's a shame to dismiss talking about things besides our deepest troubles as being meaningless. human connection is meaningful even if it is just about the weather or how our family or our favorite sports team is doing, and knowing how someone feels about these supposedly surface topics tells us a lot about eachother that can be applied to topics you may consider more personal or impactful, and forming that foundation with someone is absolutely not something to be pushed aside as trivial.

derinthescarletpescatarian

Small talk is social calibration. You calibrate a system before you use it for intense or precise work.

antigonetwo

whenever anyone smugly says “I hate small talk. Tell me Deep Things about yourself when I first meet you” I am instantly suspicious of them. What gives you the right to demand that of me? And assume I want to hear your deep thoughts on things?

No. You get small talk. I don’t know you.

And honestly there is nothing wrong with small talk. It’s a connection you both share. The weather? You both experienced last week’s storm, wasn’t that a doozy. How are you? Tired, my baby is teething. Oh yeah, I’ve been there. A small connection in a divided world isn’t a bad thing my dudes

crabwithaknife-art

i won at blood pressure the other day

anemonequeen-moved

mtfoss

Something I really don't see discussed is the intersection of ableism and fatphobia and how if you look at how fat disabled people are talked about you'll see a blatant desire for eugenics that's usually not even obscured

mtfoss

Think about the last time you saw disabled fat people portrayed as anything but a villain or at best a punch line

femmeharlequin-deactivated20240

Not to mention if a disabled person is fat and uses a wheelchair or electric scooter or anything like that ppl will accuse us of just using it bc we’re lazy and our fatness is seen as “proof” that we’re just lazy

hazel2468

I was thinking just the other day how like. There’s this rhetoric that I see applied to both disabled and fat people by abled skinny people. And it’s this idea of like-

“If I looked like you/ was disabled like you, I would rather be dead.”

I see it ALL THE TIME. And it’s just...

Both thin people and abled people seem to be under the impression that there is NO POSSIBLE WAY that a fat life or a disabled like (or even *worse* to them, a fat AND disabled life), is worth living. They look at fat and disabled people and can’t possibly IMAGINE being happy like that. And so they assume that we MUST be miserable in our fat, disabled bodies.

And that kind of attitude is just. So. Fucking. Disgusting and INFURIATING to me. The idea that my life, a life these people know NOTHING about other than what they glean from a five second glance at me, cannot possibly be worth living, or be as happy and fulfilled as theirs.

kipplekipple

Can't emphasise enough how true this is about the attitude. A man stopped me in Sainsbury's once to tell me he'd rather die than use a wheelchair, while I was shopping. In my wheelchair.

celebswhogetslepton

@sasuke_tokyo Photos by Kii Chan (@ketsuhoshino)

nicephysiques

xeppeli

turnipfritters

this is probably the only sex gif i will every reblog, because for some reason i feel like it’s more than just sex. i don’t know if it’s how they’re actually looking at one another or the way they can’t get close enough. he’s actually looking at her like a person and not just a sex object.

but then again, it could be all in my head. i mean, this is how i would want it to be. but that’s just me

dongstomper-deactivated20161230

i never want to see this ever again

medusabraids

what do rugby players need all that ass for?

espagna-lasagna

enbycarp

A customer just called and asked, “Do you have music?”

I paused a moment and said, “We do have concerts coming up, yes.”

She asked, “When are they?”

And I said, “We have several options. Is there a certain kind of concert you’re looking for?”

And she said, “what’s the difference?”

Again I paused, and then explained that there are different kinds of music, like classical, pop, rock, etc. The phone call is over, but I’m still not over it.

enbycarp

She called back! She wanted to know “some dates for music.”