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when you're young you think you're too good for doric column. you think she's nothing. honey she's everything
when you're young you're all about corinthian. oooo corinthian, she's so fancy, she has so much detail, corinthian is the best column, call me corinthian. girl she only looks like that because she's insecure. smooth. classic. timeless. understated. doric column
one way to read this is "this man has no idea what he is saying"
another to read this is "this man is terminally online and has excellent comedic timing"
240827 EXO-CBX at the Billboard K Power 100 event
i'm sure you see this kind of thing a lot* but it's so extremely outlandish to me, imagining someone throwing a kittne out of a moving car, or any of the other cartoonishly evil things people have done/do to animals... i'm glad y'all got to baby caraway (& all babies like him) *more often than the average person, due to your line of work
There's also a decent chance that he fell out of the engine block I phrased it poorly. He probably dropped from a car (intentional or not) rather than bouncing off a wheel or taking a glancing blow because he's not injured enough for those other scenarios
We used to regularly find kittens under the hood of cars at the shop (like one a year or so).
Engines are cozy, and your average kitten will freeze when the car starts. We'd lift the hood and find a snarly traumatised baby clinging to the intake or something.
Hell of a time getting them out of there, but if you've never seen an entire shop full of tough, stoic gearheads making baby noises at a kitten curled up with a shop rag blankie and some meat from somebody's sandwich, it's definitely a sight.
I once had two police officers knock on my door one night because my neighbors heard a kitten crying from under the hood of my car. They didn't know the car was mine, so the police ran my plates. I came outside to find four neighbors anxiously waiting for me to pop the hood so the baby could be removed. I was actually heavily involved in rescue work at the time, so I scooped him up, made some calls, got supplies from nearby friends and took this dusty little beeb inside for a bath and dinner. I fostered and eventually got him adopted out since my resident cats absolutely refused to share me. We named him Joss, and he liked to yell while eating....which was never not funny. Good times.
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It's almost as if we're constantly saying this
Just a completely random thought but like...
I am truly starting to believe, at least for people my age (so late 20s- early 30s range), our parents didn't actually want children. Not in the way that matters.
They didn't want unique, individual, whole other people to raise into adults. They didn't want to do the amazingly hard work of being a parent- in that being a parent entails making sure your children can go out into the world and be their own people and make their own way, and it is your job as the person raising them to prepare them for that as best you can.
They wanted "children". As in dolls. As in "look at this thing I made let's talk about how great I am for making it". As in "let me brag about all of my child's accomplishments, those are all on me, but if they fail that is on them". As in "my child matters in what they can give me, not in who they are as a person of inherent value". As in "this was expected of me and I did it and now I am going to raise this human being the same way my parents raised me".
As in "why doesn't my fully grown adult child talk to me anymore? They're so entitled! They're so whiny! They DARE tell me I didn't do a good job parenting them! They DARE tell me I hurt them! They DARE express that they have feelings and thoughts and wants and a life outside of what I imagined for them in my head, outside of what will look good on me! How dare they not be a little thing I can hang on my fridge with a magnet and point to and say look my baby loves me. Look I am a good parent- that means I am a good person. Look I became a parent and that means I am GOOD. How DARE they undermine my entire identity as a Good Parent by telling me that I messed up?"
Sort of, but also sort of not. I mean yes, lots of parents are like this, for a variety of reasons. No, this isn't unique to just parents of Millennials and Gen Z. I would argue it's probably massively more common for older generations.
In terms of US culture, I would say that you're noticing that Gen X is really where things started to materially change in major ways that makes not having kids a more socially and physically viable option for a lot more people. To a lesser extent, these changes are also seen on a global scale or had global impacts.
To use my own parents as an example, they were born in 68 and 69, and would've been the first generation to grow up with some of these things and/or seen these changes.
By changes, I mean:
The FDA approved the Hormonal Birth Control Pill for women (1960).
In 1965, the Supreme Court decision of Griswold v. Connecticut (Griswold) finally and completely rolled back state and local laws that had outlawed the use of contraception by married couples. [Wikipedia says: "France repealed its anti-birth control laws in 1967. Similar laws in Italy were declared unconstitutional in 1971. In Ireland, legal condom sales (only to people over 18, and only in clinics and pharmacies) were allowed for the first time in 1978. (All restrictions on Irish condom sales were lifted in 1993.)" ]
The AIDs crisis in the 1980's also increased the availability of free condoms, and national campaigns for condom use took place in the US and Europe in 1985-1987. Condoms were also pushed in other countries as both a health measure (minimize or prevent STIs!) and also for imperialist reasons (eugenics. It was to help "solve overpopulation" in poor non-white countries).
This rise in condom campaigns is what got them to be introduced to big stores in the US like Walmart.
Advertising condoms on TV in the US was still illegal in 30 states by 1975.
The 60's and 70's is actually when US condom production regulations were tightened, making them more likely to be reliable and effective as contraceptives.
While women had the right to open bank accounts in the 1960's, it wasn't until The Equal Opportunity Credit Act of 1974 was passed that American women were guaranteed the right to open checking accounts and credit cards solely in their own name (without needing the signing permission of their husband or father). (I've seen claims the UK guaranteed this right in 1975, but I don't know the source for that.)
Before it was overturned, Roe v. Wade was decided in 1973, and led to abortion access improving.
Using my mom as context, she was about 17 in 1985. All of this shit was brand new.
Put simply, Gen X is really the first generation to even have relatively common access to reliable forms of birth control (like condoms in regular supermarkets, or freely passed out at health clinics) and where women could manage their own finances (thereby skipping the financial need for marriage) and receive employment protections (I skipped listing dates of acts that protected women from sex/gender based discrimination in the workplace, but those are also relevant).
And all the meanwhile, (in the US) they grew up in the Reagan purity culture abstinence only era, chockablock full of evangelical fundies who try at every turn to make things like contraceptives, abortion, and sex education impossible both to access and highly demonized. (That's how we get shit like the quiverfull movement.)
So anyone pre-Gen X? Had FAR less opportunities to avoid having children if they didn't want them.
That Gen X still had kids even if they didn't want them or only wanted the idea of them is indicative of: 1) the relatively recent social changes still shifting cultural norms as they became adults 2) relatively recent protections and accesses that allowed people the option to not have kids, meaning being a parent was only then becoming an active choice of desire for many people! 3) generally the tension between parent-child and identity formation across time always existing.
Basically this was the first generation where you could more easily actively choose to avoid having children (although stigma still exists, it was becoming easier) and likewise actively choose to want to be a parent instead of it just being an expectation and often inevitability of life. And you don't (probably often can't) develop reasonable expectations of children as unique individuals if you have little/less choice in the matter of them happening to you.
To so many people, their ability to consider children wasn't framed as "do you want to raise small humans?" But "you will end up with small humans to raise, so how will you deal with that in your life?" and then they developed coping mechanisms to try and find personal satisfaction in a situation where agency was not guaranteed, and those were often terrible for everyone.
The very notion of family planning as an active choice, reliable, accessible, and consistent contraceptives, safe abortions, being able to remain unmarried as a woman but still have equal rights, contraceptives being legally allowed for married people — all of this is really recent to Gen X parents, and only a little less so to Xennials. Frankly before that people weren't really given many options and people weren't really asking if you wanted any of these things.
Xennial here--let me tell you navigating all this is wild because about half of us have said "fuck it, I'm living my life on my terms" while half aren't ready to break out of generational trauma cycles (or feel they can) and a huge cross section in the middle is trying to do both with like, ZERO road map on how that even works because while i was getting comprehensive sex ed in 7th grade, my mom's students one town over weren't allowed to talk about HIV or birth control. Meanwhile, the world is burning and we are just as desperate to survive as everyone after us, but options we took for granted are vanishing and we aren't old enough to know any sort of world where we don't have choices even though female bodies were still the property of the male gaze and rape jokes aimed at minors was considered casual conversation.
🗣🗣🗣 DRAMA GOING DOWN IN THE SCRAP HAPPY QUILTERS FACEBOOK GROUP!! 🚨🚨🚨🚨
Sorry I'm too lazy to transcribe all the screenshots
Anyway
A lady called Vanessa posted this quilt in the group
Someone made a complaint about it for being political (lololol if only they had seen some of the political quilts that are out there) and the admins took it down, and now people on are losing their minds
Statement from the artist:
Anyway I have thoroughly enjoyed reading these comments. There were lots in opposition to the horror of a political quilt lmao
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Why am I hungry.....
i keep seeing bait tweets like "is it possible for an internet friendship to last more than 3 months" so how long has your longest internet friendship lasted?
less than a year
1-2 years
3-4 years
4-5 years
6-7 years
8-9 years
10-11 years
12-13 years
14+ years
i dont make internet friends
Um. 18+ years!!
@ellemarchpane what decade are we on??? 😂
deadass should i comment on like YEARS old fics i get nervous to i dont wanna be annoying
Yes! Comment!
The author will likely really appreciate it! And if they don’t nothing will come of it!
It’s a win/win!
I genuinely do not understand this way of thinking.
How do I put this?
Okay.
I'm a fic author. I am not an author publishing a work to be sold for profit. I'm just banging out my little tunes (so to speak). I get NOTHING from putting these on a public forum like AO3. NOTHING. Nothing except potentially providing entertainment and enjoyment to other people.
But how am I to know that other people have been entertained and have enjoyed my work if they don't tell me?
Putting my fics on AO3 is basically Putting them on a roadside stand with a donation jar.
The AO3 donation jar is the comment section.
Now unless your comment is rude, unkind or demanding, I, The Author, am not going to be annoyed at getting a donation for ANYTHING. Why would I?
This would be like a published author saying "hey what the heck are you buying my book for? I wrote that eight years ago, what are you doing giving me money for that you weirdo"
Posting a live fic is a beautiful thing. When a fic ends or has been published for a while, its a sad thing. There's a window people used to wait at for that fic.
When you comment on an old fic, you give the author the opportunity to revisit that fic. It's comforting and gratifying to know that this story still holds appeal.
And even more so if its old because that means that you found this because you were looking for it, not just because it happened to be at the top of the results because it's brand new.
TLDR
Comment on any fic that speaks to you. Any fic, of any genre, for any fandom, at any time.
You know, if an author on AO3 doesn't want to receive comments on a fic, they have the power to turn off comments on that fic, or to orphan it, or delete it entirely. If the author has left the fic up and available for people to comment, they are open to receiving comments.
I got a comment recently on a fic I wrote 17 years ago (yes that's before AO3 existed - it was imported over from its previous home). It was a nice comment! I was happy to get it! Why would I be annoyed just because it was an old fic?
Ugggghhhh, Australia swam SUCH a good 400m free today and I'm going to be annoying the CRAP out of some teenagers in 3 wweks because imma make them watch it while flailing like a crazy person and I. CAN'T. WAIT.
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Heard you're accepting fan art?
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Reminder: the companies and political entities pushing Project 2025 have addresses and go out to lunch a lot and should never eat a spitless meal for the rest of their lives.
Practice bagpipes outside their secure compounds.
Follow them around ringing a bell wherever they go.
If they are going to be farcically evil, be Animaniacally good. Be the definition of chaotic justice.
Also, vote. It might just kick the ball down the road a bit, but that gives people more time to organize a concerted resistance (in no way on any social media platform) to the fascist creep happening in America. It is possible to take this country from the bastards who control it, it will take work, effort, and occasionally going offline and talking to humans though.
"If they are going to be farcically evil, be Animaniacally good. Be the definition of chaotic justice."
Don't skip past the part where they want to get rid of it because having data on weather supports the idea of climate change. :|
This is what a lot of the loudest "activists" who claim to support a certain cause do these days. I say claim, because they do nothing good for the cause (and sometimes only harm it) while also harming other people who are already suffering.
