you’re a cowboy like me

mia, 25, lesbian, she/her

[folklorewlw]

hi!!

i’m mia, i’ve been on tumblr since 2013 but this is a new blog bc i wanted a fresh start ⭐️

i like/post about:

💌 fandoms, mainly taylor swift, harry styles and star wars

🌲 feminism, social justice + politics

🪩 lesbianism & queerness

🍄 aesthetics (cottagecore, whimsygoth, nature, cryptidcore, emo and other 90s/00s subcultures, vintage/retro stuff…)

🪐 art, writing, music, history, fashion and animals

i am strongly against:

🌿 racism, sexism, antisemitism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism and any other discrimination

🍓 gaylors, larries and other conspiracy theorists

🕯️terfs, right-wingers, conservatives and nazis

[academic-vampire]

𝔰𝔫𝔞𝔦𝔩 𝔰𝔭𝔯𝔦𝔫𝔤

[charl0ttan]

they used to do nothing to me back in the morally neutral lab. it sucked

[grymmdark]

you were the control

[charl0ttan]

fuuuuck what were they doing to the other folks #fomo

[stephexmachina]

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

[stephexmachina]

AND SO IS BEING SOMEBODY'S MOTHER‼️

[stephexmachina]

it is about being a woman. hope that helps!

[vibrantstarfire]

reading comprehension questions for the notes:

is wanting to be a wife and mother a requirement for being a woman?

why might OP be annoyed with replies assuming that this post is about being aroace or transmasc if a woman doesn’t want to be a wife or mother?

are there reasons unrelated to sexuality and romantic interest that might make a woman not want to be a wife or mother?

are there reasons unrelated to gender identity and expression that might make a woman not want to be a wife and mother?

core concept: what is gender essentialism?

is it gender essentialism to imply that all women inherently want to be wives and mothers? could this be what OP is critiquing?

look at the notes OP responds to. is it gender essentialism to imply that being a wife and mother is so affixed to womanhood that to not want to be those things means you’re incapable of sexual/romantic feelings, or not a woman?

what trait are you perpetuating when you assume that women who do not want to be wives and mothers must be aroace or trans? is it gender essentialism?

[littlewildmother]

Studies show that engaging in ritualized behavior significantly improves outcomes on measures of grief and feelings of control, even when the person participating in the ritual has little or no belief in the ritual’s power. Just a reminder for no one in particular.

[littlewildmother]

Research has revealed that, while rituals are universal across human cultures, the content and actions of those rituals vary widely even when they have the same intended purpose. This suggests that it is not the actions that matter, but that you are taking any action at all and naming it ritual. It can be an elaborate ritual with dozens of moving parts and participants, or it can be as simple as lighting a candle alone with the intent to remember someone.

The healing is in the doing.

[awesomebutunpractical]

"He wouldn't say that" has a beautiful cousin, and her name is "That's Not What This Story is About".

[bandomastheatre]

petetrick as needy lesnicki and jennifer check from jennifer's body (2009)

[delicatepointofview]

DANCE NO MORE Together Together Tour: Amsterdam Night I (May 16th, 2026)

[tackminyard]

affirmations for my printer:

you are not out of paper

you have so much paper

it’s okay to function as intended

you are not out of ink

i just refilled that cartridge last month

you can connect to that computer you’re supposed to connect to

you’re allowed to print things

[tepkunset]

when you ask a knowledge keeper something and they say "good question"

[spinkwagoba-deactivated20230515]

GIRLS IN MY PHONE. WE CAN DO IT

[fagcrisis]

i hate the word spicy can we bring back calling things erotic

[meggriffin24]

men be like “apparently hating women makes u a misogynist 😂😂”

[newyorkkiss]

girl on club dancefloor has her feet cooled by a friend pouring smirnoff ice over them (2000)

[2000three]

Mary Magdalene washing Christ's feet

[cazort]

I love how every time I log on, this site attains new levels of heresy. I can't wait to see what is next.

[greeniery]

i tried to make a venn diagram but my migraine is ironically too bad for me to have the brain power to take the time to fix the proportions and then i locked one of the text layers and got pissed off and gave up. but i kind of like it all fucked up like this

[paradoxspaceheater]

the thing about misogyny is that femininity is both devalued AND forced on women (and those misgendered as women). if you fail to meet the arbitrary standard of Womanly Charm you're ugly and unwanted and hate yourself and if you succeed you're shallow and brainless and weak. if you don't try to conform you're lazy and if you do you're vain. it is not possible to beat this system. feminism needs both "feminine doesn't mean weak or less-than" AND "women don't have to be feminine to have value", and if you are fighting for one of these the people fighting for the other are not your enemies, nor are they privileged over you.

this post is inclusive of trans people, including but not limited to trans women and transfeminine people. exclusionary sentiment is not welcome.

[cottaqecore]

camille witt