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[ybchronicles]

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"The Rape Poem to End All Rape Poems."

One of the best pieces of group spoken word poetry I’ve ever seen. WATCH IT. 

[forgenderstudiesclass]

By reading the comments you can already tell who's a douchebag.

[forgenderstudiesclass]

The ethics behind "friendzoning."

So I just wanted to bring this up because there are so many people complaining how they keep getting "frienzoned" by certain people and they are tired of being nice. The term "friend zone" came from the Friends sitcom simply meaning that Ross is stuck in a friend zone with Rachel because she will never about him that he does about her (which if you follow the show that's completely incorrect). Anyway, friend zone has now escalated into something someone does to a person. It has evolved from a noun (a metaphorical place) to a verb ("She friend zoned me"). The issues I really want to dissect about friendzoning are the logical issues and ethics behind the friend zone and friendzoning and the difference between friendzoning and being in the friend zone.

Let's start from the bottom up. If I am to say I am in the friend zone with someone I am interested in, in the original Friends context, I am simply saying that the person I am romantically interested in do not return the same feelings. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with saying, "I am in the friend zone" or "she put me in the friend zone" because there is no negativity attached to it. I am simply stating "she does not feel the same about me as I do her." (I am just using she because I am a hetereosexual male). The difference between friendzoning and the friend zone is that friendzoning is an action. It is a verb in which a person places someone in the friend zone. To say, "She friendzoned me," would be synonymous as "She put me in the friendzone." except in one context friend zone is a verb and in another a noun. 

HOWEVER, the logical issue arises when I say, "She friendzoned me so she's ungrateful." If we were to break the first argument where I stated "She friendzoned me so she's ungrateful," I am discarding any other probabilities that she "friendzoned" me. She could have friendzoned me because she has a boyfriend/girlfriend. She could have friendzoned me because she is simply not interested in me romantically. Just because she friendzoned me does not equate to her being ungrateful. She could be plenty grateful. She could have been grateful by paying me for babysitting her dogs. She could be grateful by returning favors. Hell, she could even be grateful by giving me a major organ if needed I needed it. Just because someone friendzones me does not equate them to being anything else. 

The ethical issue would begin when I start saying, "Why won't she give me a chance? I'm a nice guy. I'm always there for her when her boyfriend isn't and I always do favors for her. Why does she always have to friendzone me?" The issue here is I'm telling someone else how to feel. "She should feel romantic towards me and not her boyfriend." I'm stripping away her individuality to think and feel and telling her how she should think and feel. Just because I'm always there for her does not entitle her to want to have sex with me. Just because I'm nice to her does not make me a better person or a better potential boyfriend than her boyfriend. If I feel someone owes me something because I've been nice to them then I wouldn't really be nice. If I donate to charity and expect that charity to pay me back with someone materialistic or other I wouldn't really be donating. I'd simply be putting the other person in debt to me. Another ethical issue about the nice argument pertains to treating someone like an object. Say I find a woman attractive and I find that she's not dating anyone. I cater to her every whim and when I find out she's not romantically interested with me I use the argument stated above (excluding the boyfriend part). From the get go my main goal was to have sex with this woman. From the very beginning I have seen her as an object for sexual satisfaction and when she does not become that object I question why. I am not seeing her as a person who should be treated as a person, but I am seeing her as a means towards sexual satisfaction so I start to cater to her every whim. From the get go I have already committed and ethical wrong and then I accuse her of committing an ethical wrong when she does not meet my ethical wrong.

Collectively, there is nothing wrong with saying "I am in the friendzone" or "I have been friendzoned by (insert name here)," but when some sort of entitlement plays in the argument or a negative trait that becomes a logical issue and/or an ethical issue. If a woman does not find me as a romantic partner that does not mean she equates to being a bitch, ungrateful, bad, malicious, etc. And even if I start complaining when a girl as friendzoned after being so nice to her what gives me the right to tell her how to feel and think? Nothing. This friendzone thing needs to stop because no one owes anyone anything especially if it pertains to sex. We are attracted to who we feel attracted to and not even we can control that.

TLDR; Frienzoning is ethically wrong and illogical.

[jjcunygender]

Texas School Hosts Speaker Who Encourages Girls To "Shut Up" To Be Dateable

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Richardson High School, a public school outside Dallas, hosted a religious motivational speaker who is known for his dating rules that teach girls they need to talk less and be more mysterious to get guys to like them.

Tips on his website include, “A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent” and “Don’t try to be a guy.”

Justin Lookadoo, anyone with your hairstyle shouldn't tell other people how to act. 

Edit: I actually want to pummel his face in right now.

WHERE DO THESE PEOPLE COME FROM?!

[forgenderstudiesclass]

So I just want to establish the difference between a feminist and misandrist.

Let's start with definitions first from the online Oxford dictionary.

misandry - noun - dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against men (i.e., the male sex)

feminism - noun - the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

(I got these definitions directly from the Oxford online dictionary. If you don't believe me, look it up yourself.

So, now that we have gotten that out of the way let's expand because it seems many people get very confused between these two definitions.

A feminist is a person who advocates women's rights "on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men." A feminist can be a woman or man (or any other sex). Feminists do not hold any hostility or prejudice against the male population. Advocating for women's rights DOES NOT make you a misandrist.

A misandrist is a person who holds prejudice against men. To put it into simpler terms a misandrist is basically a misogynist. Many people think that misandry does not exist simply because women are socially oppressed. While it is true that women are socially oppressed misandry does exist. What makes a feminist a misandrist is when the "feminist" says something along the lines of "men are oppressing us so we ought to dethrone them and enslave the entire male population." 

Feminists attack the institutionalized policies that are unfair to women which is basically the entire social hierarchy. Misandrists may be attacking the institutionalized policies, but they take it a step further saying "all men should (insert malicious verb here)."

I've seen plenty of misandrists who believe they're feminists. Sexism towards men is just as real as sexism towards women.

[jjcunygender]

Your Vagina Isn't Just Too Big, Too Floppy, and Too Hairy--It's Also Too Brown

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Good news, ladies! Society has discovered another new thing that’s wrong with you, which means another opportunity for you to make yourself more attractive for your man. Score! Turns out, the color of your vagina is gross and everyone hates it. So bleach that motherfucker. Bleach it right now!

I seriously thought this was going to be a coffee commercial. Mass marketing schemes make the strangest commercials.

[a-box-of-cats]

ap sex ed.

because public school sex ed sucks.

[fuckyeahsexeducation]

Oh my gosh amazing, accurate, GENDER NEUTRAL graphics?! I’ve died and gone to sex educator heaven. (The only thing better would be the inclusion of Intersex genitalia)

[leslieknopenopenope]

LOOK AT ALL THE TRUTH! LOOK AT IT, CHILDREN! 

[queen0fswordss]

All of my followers need to read this

[jjcunygender]

An interesting and informative visual about the common myths and truths about sexual organs, sexual behavior, and sexual pleasure.

[marxist2xchromosomeactivist-blog]

Gender roles hurt EVERYONE.

[oratorasaurus]

[misandry-mermaid]

Between 95-99% of rapists are men.  This is a case of profiling, not “discrimination".

A lot of MRAs are sharing this video and talking about how this is obviously reverse sexism and blah blah blah.  I’m curious how many of them would be totally cool with it if they actually had children who were sat next to a male stranger on a plane with absolutely no way to identify whether or not he was a safe person to put next to a child for an extended period of time.

I’m suspicious as fuck of any man on an airplanes who’s asked to move for the safety and peace of mind of some children and, rather than saying, “Of course, whatever is best for these kids, I understand.", he throws a fucking tantrum. 

Guess what… you have no fucking legal right to sit next to children on a private commercial airline.  And it is sketchy as fuck and raises a lot of red flags for you to act like you do.

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[stingingnetty]

I agree I guess but then there’s just this part. Because like my dad would never do anything bad????? and is a great dad to both of his children and I wouldn’t want him to feel like that. But then again, to that same point, he does and HAS gotten uncomfortable due to strange men sitting by me or my brother. With good reason because there was an instance once! (Nothing happened but it could have had he not have been so vigilant!) 

Also I’d like to see where that “95-99%" of all rapists are men, I really violently disagree. I was raped by a woman, a girl my own age. Someone who was my first friend that I met in college. So maybe I am just a minority in that, but I know there are others. I can’t be just a 1% oddity.

[dadgangs-blog]

See, that’s the thing, sure your dad wouldn’t do anything like that, but people who don’t know him don’t know that. So, I would hope, your dad would realize “okay, these people don’t know me, they’re just trying to make things as safe as possible for these kids" and move.

Because, yes, 99% of rapists are men. Bureau of Justice Statistics has it right here, page five specifically. The 1% of rapists who are women surely do exist, and I’m very sorry for what happened to you, but those are the numbers.

As you said, something almost happened to you once, but it didn’t because your father was vigilant about stopping it from happening. In this video they specifically say that they are asking grown men to not sit near unaccompanied minors on a plane. That means these kids do not have a father or a mother (or any other guardian) sitting near them to prevent something from happening.

So what’s worse: a man who genuinely has no intent to harm a child being asked to move or nothing being done about it and a child being sexually assaulted/raped? I think the answer is pretty clear here, and any man who actually is a reasonable person would just get up and move.

[misssclaw]

Reblogging for the commentary. 

[tiltedsquare]

So as a man, I’m automatically assumed that I will hurt, molest, or rape anyone within the vicinity? Well, HOLY SHIT, ya’ll better lock me inside my house and not let me out because apparently men are predators by nature. And because we totally can see the age and sex of a person when purchasing online tickets. Why is it an airline policy that men cannot sit next to underage kids, but parents having to fly with their children isn’t a policy? I do agree that the reasonable thing would just to get up and move, but it’s the policy that pisses me off. There should be a policy which states underage kids have to fly and sit next to a parent. I don’t know where the Hell a 12 yr old would want to fly to without a parent until he/she is eloping.

Just because 99% of rapists are men, it does not mean that women are rape. For a fucking site that emphasizes so much on equality, ya’ll are pretty piss poor at proving that. Women rape too. Men and women are equally capable to care, nurture, destroy, love, and commit crime. So why should men be singled out in crime statistics? Also, take note that the only reason statistics show that 99% of rapists are men could be a reason that we live in a hegemonic society. Men are socially accepted to be powerful and if a man reports that he has been raped by a woman no one would take him seriously and even if he is taken seriously that would seriously hurt his position in being “powerful and dominant."

Also, because of the stigmatization we have I feel fucking conscious sitting near children in any public areas and walking behind people when I’m getting somewhere. Why? Because people automatically eyeball me like I’m some sort of fucking predator when the biggest crime I’ve fucking done is steal bubble tape when I was six. 

Yes, men rape, men hurt, and men destroy, but so can women and men can also love, care, and nurture just as much as much as a woman. So think about that once you go out into the world thinking men are predators and also before you think about statistics, know that a huge amount of rape, domestic violent, and child molestation incidents go UNREPORTED.

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Security camera clips that make the news usually show bad things, but Coke decided to “look at the world a little differently” in this heartwarming viral video. They found security camera footage from around the world showing happy moments: people stealing kisses instead of possessions, dealing potato chips instead of drugs, and offering car assistance rather than road rage. [x]

[forgenderstudiesclass]

I hate it when people think only women get raped.

Get some perspective. Just because the odds are unlikely, it doesn't mean they are impossible.

[gansterbeeitch-blog]

[forgenderstudiesclass]

If misogyny is up there misandry should be up there too because women aren't the only ones who are raped. 

[infrais]

no i wasnt staring at your chest

someone establishing eye contact (via infrais)

"I was reading the text on your shirt."

[isitmerube]

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Mine:  :(

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Women and sexism in the workplace.

America, being known for its independence and "fair opportunities," could be considered one of the most sexist countries. Women are often thrown into a misogynist work environment where her competence and her physical appearance are either questioned or objectified. In some businesses women possess an extremely slim chance in entering and even when they do they are often criticized and belittled for their contribution to the work.

One of the most sexist and misogynist work environments could be the comic book industry. I love comic books. I have grown up watching their cartoon shows and I'm an avid comic book reader, but it's absolutely disgusting how women are treated in the comic book industry. Of course not all men that read comics or are in the industry are sexist, but the amount of men who question women's adequacy about their knowledge of comics or even their writing and art is massive. 

The comic industry is predominantly male. It does not take a genius to know that most of the writers for the major companies such as DC and Marvel have male writers lined up, but the percentage of female writers are nearly nonexistent. This could be one of two reasons (or both): 1. women are discouraged from taking an interest to comics and writing (and/or drawing) about them or 2. major comic book industries such as are not hiring competent females due to their sex.There needs to be a transition in the comic book industry. Hiring female writers and artists is not going to make the comic world go down under. In fact, it would probably expand the audience. And seriously, hiring female writers and artists might actually replace the shitty writers they have now.

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Reading Response to Levy's "Female Chauvinist Pigs: Women and the rise of Raunch Culture" and Lambert's "How to Be a Woman in Any Boys' Club"

Both articles, when stripped down to the very core, informs women how to succeed in a “man’s world.” In Levy’s chapter she focuses on women who use the objectification of their bodies to succeed. A female chauvinist pig, as defined by Levy, is a woman who objectifies other women and/or themselves and act like a “man” in society. To an FCP being a feminine female (those who shave their legs and apply makeup) are girly girls and an FCP mocks them. Ironically and hypocritically, FCPs often purchase Maxim magazines and Playboy in order to gawk at the girly girls.

The lifestyles the FCP are highly debatable  On one side FCPs enforce the idea of objectifying women and treating them like sex tools, but on the other side some FCPs are fully aware of the objectification and often use that to their advantage in order to get ahead in the business world.

Lambert’s article informs women how to act “properly” in the “boy’s club.” Her article contains basic instructions such as to not get jealous or compete with another woman. The article seems a bit of a parody set of instructions for women who are in sitcoms. TV sitcoms such as Friends, The Big Bang Theory, and How I Met Your Mother often start off with one woman with a group of men. Women who are introduced are often never seen again unless they are pivotal to another character.

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Reading Response to Alison Bechdel's "Fun Home"

Bruce Bechdel, Alison Bechdel's father, has been a closeted homosexual until the day he died. He would engage in coitus with young men while tending to his hobbies and serving his role in his household. Bruce Bechdel, in many ways, lived two lives. As Alison Bechdel was growing up, Bruce Bechdel would try to shape her to become a "princess" with flowery dresses and pins in her hair. This could possibly be due to Bruce Bechdel's repressed homosexuality. Because of the fact that gays were ostracized and ridiculed, Bruce Bechdel could not put on dresses as a child (which he wanted to as he revealed later in the book) therefore he tried to dress his only daughter in dresses. The only downfall, however, was that Alison Bechdel did not want to wear dresses or conform in the female gender role.

One of the main themes in the graphic novel is the hidden sexuality. Alison Bechdel and Bruce Bechdel both are homosexuals (although Alison Bechdel does not identify herself as one until later in her life), but unlike Bruce Bechdel was too scared to practice it freely so he did it on the "down low."

Although Bruce Bechdel's death was an "accident," Alison Bechdel believes it was suicide. Living through his life, Bruce Bechdel always had to hid his sexuality behind closed doors while only exercising it with young men. Bruce Bechdel lived through an unsatisfied marriage and could not "come out of the closet" because of his status as a father, husband, and high school English teacher. The life Bruce Bechdel contrived for himself slowly chipped away after he was caught buying alcohol for minors. 

[forgenderstudiesclass]

Reading Response to Chauncey's "Bowery as Haven and Spectacle"

Chauncey's article circulates around the working class and the Bowery. Homosexual men and male prostitutes are hardly scarce and these men are often referred to as fairies or male degenerates. Sexual performances were uncensored and explicit. Chauncey often used the term fairy. The term fairy has often been constructed and reconstructed to have its definition fluctuate depending on the situation. Fairies can be used as a disparaging slang for gay men or it could be used to describe a homosexual man who acts more feminine. However, in Chauncey's context, it seems the term fairy is used to describe a male prostitute along with a male degenerate.

Chauncey states that New York has been a city famous for hosting stage live sexual performances and transgressed the racial and gender boundaries. A person who grew up in the slums has stated that nothing phases him anymore since he grew up in a district where homosexuality and sex was uncensored and explicit.