Hello,
I have been seeing people urging Finale Haters to go see therapists and try to think positively. I appreciate the thought, and I am sure many of us are doing so. I just want to say something that I feel should be taken into account:
Not all therapists are good at dealing with fandom issues. And not all of them have suitable methods. Sometimes, you are unfortunate and have a therapist who doesn't really understand. Fandom things are often taken lightly by non-fandom people. I think a therapist is advised but not always the best option.
Also, another thing: People deal with feelings differently.
You see, not everyone responds well with "think positive." Some people, like me, as I have learned recently from GO3 discourse, deal with this grief better by talking to people who think the same, reading posts from other people with the same view and just... hear a friend say, "Yeah! That was bad!"
People who tried to tell me to think positive or started getting concerned over me end up making me feel worse unintentionally. So I believe that we are allowed to be able to discuss our own feelings and criticise this show together in public where people like me can see and feel like they are not alone.
As long as Haters and Enjoyers don't go into each other's spaces to argue about who is right or wrong, both sides should be allowed to discuss publicly how they feel.
It is sad that the whole "go find a new fandom if it upset you so much" happened. We don't want to leave. We are mad at the Finale because we love Good Omens so much. I am sure both sides love Good Omens, in our own ways.
Let's try to respect each other, please.
If a Hater use Temuverse in their own space and with their own friends, it is not a personal attack against you. It is how we deal with this, making jokes and discussing problems we see.
If an Enjoyer think it's so beautiful about an ending, in their own space, I hope fellow Haters leave them alone like I do. I only engage if I see a civil discussion space or if I see mistreatment toward someone (regardless of side).
Honestly, as I have said on Bluesky, I don't see the point of asking for Asanthony to be not tagged Ineffable Husbands anymore. Keep asking for it, no matter how civil we are, is easily spun into us being gatekeeping when we just want better tagging and filter. I just hope that if you care about fans who don't like them, be mindful of tagging to make sure the mute tag option work well.
I still think cw for the decision scene is good etiquette. Maybe if you don't see it as suicide, you can tag it as cw: the decision or something concrete that people can mute.
That's all I am suggesting. I hope we get through this tough time.
Sending this as myself cause no point in going anon as I have said some of these things publicly already. Thanks for reading.
-Vivi-
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