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A queer human trying to better themselves and spread love. | they/he minors dni

[d5vetx]

Devout

[maybemacdc]

[dezforthewin]

Honestly so beautiful

[beif0ngs]

Over the Garden Wall 10th Anniversary stop motion short by creator Patrick McHale and Aardman Animations

[miseria-fortes-viros]

your weird obsession with moral purity is degrading your critical thinking skills and poisoning your ability to empathize with other people btw

[npdkondraki]

i like it when trans women exist. i think there should be more trans women

[npdkondraki]

trans women i love you. never forget this

[decomposedmaw]

Tonight feels chill...

[bedupolker]

Soul Eater fanart to celebrate October

[singing-bowl]

thinking about how ursula k leguin said "what goes too long unchanged destroys itself. The forest is forever because it dies and dies and so lives" and how everyday i wake up slightly different and i can feel myself shed the skin of who i used to be slowly, slowly, until i look back and can scarcely recognise who i was... but also she is still a part of me, part of the leaf litter and the humus, supporting me as i send new roots down and new leaves stretching up to the sunlight

[mihai-florescu]

"Are you more of a family or career oriented person?" Babygirl im a bed oriented person. Snork mimimi

[niyarest]

[stevenrogered]

Nick Offerman wins Best Supporting Performance in a New Scripted Series at the Spirit Awards for "The Last of Us."

[inconsistent-duckposting]

It is Soup’s birthday! He is two years old now!

[adulthoodisokay]

SOUP

[foxspices]

@cloudbabyiii

[stuckinapril]

I love not paying attention. I love tapping out of situations and things

[homunculus-argument]

It's wild that you don't necessarily need to even be abused to have childhood trauma. Like just having an excessively negative, spiteful, toxic and mean-spirited parent is enough, even if they never do it at you, or on purpose. Imagine being a doctor and explaining that to a parent.

"Hey you know how you don't have any friends because people find you unpleasant to be around? Well it turns out that your child is also a person, and finds you unpleasant to be around. Growing up in an environment where they are constantly subjected to your opinions technically counts as torture, since the situation was both continuously distressing and inescapable. You are literally so annoying that you gave your child brain damage."

[brightlotusmoon]

[greatatuintheworldturtle]

I was gonna jokingly pitch a series where a single dad has to learn to be less of a miserable bastard for the sake of his children's social development, but then I stopped and realized that that is basically the plot of Despicable Me.

[brightlotusmoon]

[fire-fira]

I've seen this a few times now, and every time I haven't really wanted to get into this, but...

Can Abuse Be Unintentional? 3 Reasons That's the Wrong Question to Ask - Everyday Feminism

“I don’t think they meant to be abusive.” Do you think intent matters when it comes to abuse? Here’s why we should focus on different questi

...If what you dealt with from your parents was harmful enough to give you cptsd, if it was cyclical, if it was ongoing and (because you were a child) you couldn't escape, then even if they didn't deliberately set out to harm you it was abuse.

It doesn't have to be 'on purpose'. They don't have to have physically or sexually abused you. They don't have to have intended any harm-- because news flash: the vast majority of abusers never intended any harm. Simply unintentionally being awful and making you feel horrible in a cyclical and persistent way while almost never making an effort to change their behavior (or even allowing things to be safe enough for you to convey 'This hurts, please don't do this' without blowing up/guilt-tripping you/acting like you're horrible for daring to even suggest they did anything wrong) means they're abusive.

While no one likes the feeling of being told they hurt someone else, someone who makes an effort to not be abusive will apologize for where they're out of line (whether that's immediately or after they've had time to step back and think depends on the person and the circumstances) and then try to do better. Someone who's abusive might apologize, but even if they do they'll make no real changes to their behavior and it'll only be a matter of time before there's another blowup or incident.

In my case, everything I went through was NEVER on purpose, it was NEVER done out of malicious intent, there was nothing premeditated about any of it, and there was never a desire to hurt me involved. And from that alone some people might think that calling it abuse feels too harsh, too accusatory, like I'm judging them cruelly for things that they never intended to have happen. It still nearly killed me.

Whether something is abusive or not isn't about intent, or whether something was premeditated or not: It's about impact. And if I had actually died due to what I went through? It wouldn't matter how 'not on purpose' it was-- I'd still be dead.

Dead is dead. Abuse is abuse is abuse.

And being squeamish about acknowledging the kind of awful shit mentioned in the original post as a type of abuse just means that people who've lived through it have a harder time putting words to what they've been through.

[milesgmoralles]

Hobie Brown in Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse (2023)

bonus:

[beeabart]

the sillies

[niidsch]

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