…I’m not usually one for praying but uh… Gd… Please give me some FUCKING STRENGTH HERE.
No, you could NOT call two ADULTS with a ten year age gap pedos what the FUCK is WRONG with you fuckers???
Let’s be very, very clear. Pedophilia, as defined as a mental disorder (a paraphilia, according to the DSM, and while I have a lot of issues with the DSM, y’all seem to latch onto definitions pretty hard without knowing jack shit about them so, source, I have six years of fucking education and two degrees in mental health under my belt) is an adult (16 or older) who is sexually attracted to PREPUBESCENT CHILDREN.
PRE. PUBESCENT. CHILDREN.
Not someone with an “uwu icky age gap”. Not a short person dating a tall person. Not someone who is neurotypical dating a neurodivergent person (also ew fuck off with your abelism on that one). Not two adults engaging in ANY KIND of consensual role play.
It is an adult. Who is sexually interested. In actual. Living. Real-life. Prepubescent children. That means someone who has not gone through puberty.
“You could call two adults with a ten year age gap pedos” NO YOU FUCKING CANNOT. Because those are ADULTS. IDGAF how big that gap is. You cannot. Call two fully grown adults- whether they have a 2 year, 5 year, 10 year, fucking FIFTY year age gap. Pedos. Because neither of them is being attracted to a PRE PUBESCENT CHILD. They are ADULTS.
Y’all. This kind of bullshit is fucking DANGEROUS. This is EXACTLY the reason that we have seen so many people in certain online spaces- people who like to label things that are not pedophilia as “pedo shit”- turn out to actually be fucking sexual predators. Because when you water down the term pedophilia to “something that seems icky that I don’t like” or anything that isn’t actually fucking pedophilia, you end up using it as some kind of weird “look how good and woke I am” signal. You create an environment where those people over there are pedos because we say so because LOOK, adults with an age gap, that’s PEDO SHIT and I don’t support that so I am a SAFE person.
This shit. Isn’t fucking okay. And it is driving me CRAZY how folks have decided that things like two fucking grown ass adults having a consensual relationship is FUCKING PEDOPHILIA because oh, one of them is 20 and one of them is 30. Or one of them is 24 and one of them is 35. Or, fuck, I’ve even seen people say that literal fucking teenagers having crushes on their PEERS, people two or three years older or younger than them, people who GO TO SCHOOL WITH THEM. Is pedophilia.
I am BEGGING y’all to actually learn what is and isn’t pedophilia.
And if ANYONE ever says to you “Oh, I don’t support X thing because it’s pedo shit, I’m a good/safe person, those people over there are BAD, you shouldn’t ever listen to them, listen to me”…. Fucking run.