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Here is an ongoing list of ethical (feminist, BIPoC, queer porn sites), pls add in the comments what you love and know:
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Octopus filmed changing colours while sleeping.
i wonder what they are dreaming about
Changing colors duh
Whatās really cool about this is that cephalopod (octopus, squid, etc.) intelligence evolved completely separately from intelligence in tetrapods (which includes primates, dolphins, crowsā¦ basically any other intelligent animals you can think of). Cephalopods are very, very far away from us on the tree of life. For context, you and a starfish are more closely related than you and an octopus. The last common ancestor of humans andĀ cephalopods was the so-called Urbilaterian, the hypothetical first animal with a left-right symmetric body. This animal almost certainly had, at most, an extremely simple nervous system, without anything resembling a brain.
All this is to say that the fact that this octopus appears to be dreaming means one of two things. Either
a) dreaming is a very, very old thing indeed, going directly back to the Urbilaterian. This would mean that almost every animal, from insects to starfish to sea slugs to newts, is likely to have the ability to dream in some capacity or another (unless they have specifically lost it by evolutionary simplification).
or
b) dreaming evolved entirely independently in cephalopods when they developed greater intelligence. This would suggest, at least, that thereās something very fundamental about dreaming related to intelligence itself, which causes it to emerge independently when sufficientĀ intelligence arises.
Needless to say, either of these outcomes would be really very cool.
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Hey all you lovely people who have periods, the world is starting to look a little bit brighter now that certain tampon/pad companies have started to allow people to receive small kits and samples of pads, maxi pads, liner, and tampons for free. And I mean 100% free and discreet. You just have to give them your address and name, and bam! Youāve got all the menstrual cycle products you could ever need for no cost. Links below!
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hello ! Do you have any advice for a first time snail purchaser?
iām so happy that youāre interested in the wonderful world of snails! i would love to give you some advice.
getting ready for your new snails
snapartment (snail apartment)
before you adopt any snails, you should prepare a cozy home for them. i keep mine in a 10 gallon aquarium that works perfectly. if you decide to use this aquarium, i highly suggest you also get a cover like this. itās not the exact one that i have, but iām sure it will work great. next, you will need some kind of substrate. i use plain soil that i found at walmart for my snails, and i recently bought some coconut soil that iām going to try out (ill post about that soon!) i also bought two succulents and planted them in the aquarium. succulents are great for snail habitats because theyāre cute, they donāt need a lot of water or sun, and snails love to climb them! i found some rocks outside and washed them thoroughly in the sink and placed them in the aquarium as well, along with some glass stones which i also washed. i also added a little terra-cotta pot for them to crawl all over and hide in. the first couple of nights, snails would sleep inside of it, but now itās old news to them and they just ignore it. i use a spray bottle to regularly mist the aquarium, as snails like their homes to be a little moist. i keep a shallow water dish in their home. itās important to keep it shallow because snails can drown.
if you are going to get a giant african land snail, there are some different requirements, like a heat mat and a larger tank.
food
for feeding, i highly recommend using a mandoline like this one to prepare food for your snails. it makes thin slices that are easy for them to eat. my snails love carrot the most, but they are also fond of kale, asparagus, and mushrooms. all snaily food should be sliced into a little snaily size!!!
foods that snails can eat:
apple
banana
beans
blueberries
fish food soaked in water
mango
romaine lettuce
potato
dandelion leaves
strawberries (mine are not fond of strawberries, but many snails are!)
plum
cauliflower
cherries
watermelon
tomato
mushrooms
raisins
turnips
cabbage
basil
cuttlebone
boiled egg
and more! google will be your friend.
foods that you shouldnāt feed snails:
salt
salty foods
avocado
onion
grapefruit
lime
lemon
leeks
spinach
rhubarb
parsley
celery
tips about feeding:
the darker the greens, the better! darker greens like kale have more chlorophyll which makes it healthier and more nutritious for snails (and humans!)
avoid cucumber. snails love cucumber, but sometimes they love it so much that they become āpicky eatersā and will only want to eat cucumber.
have a designated eating area, above the ground. this makes clean up easier. plus, snails will learn where to go if they are hungry.
wash food before feeding. snails have survival instincts that will keep them from eating food treated with pesticides or chemicals. a lot of our food has those, so always give the food a nice rinse before preparing it
feed your snails once a day, and remove any food that they didnāt eat the next day.
give them clean water each day. they like to bathe, and sometimes the water can fill up with dirt, poop, or even slime. itās just nice to replenish their water every day.
feed snails, especially babies, a variety of foods each day. otherwise they can become fussy eaters. snail babies who are introduced to many foods opposed to just one or two are healthier and live longer.
notice a soft shell? your snails need more calcium!!
acquiring snails
i adopted my little garden snails fromā¦ a garden. i think looking for snails in nature is fun and a Good Time. i havenāt purchased a snail online (yet), but i know there are a few websites, and even shops on ebay, that sell snails. snails are social dudes that like having friends so probably buy more than one.
the snails are HERE
ā”ļøalways wash your hands thoroughly before and after handling snails!! ā”ļø
snails have personalities. some are shy while others are little party people. if your snail is not coming out of his shell, donāt worry. try massaging their foot or lightly spraying them with water. give them some time to adjust to their new crib.
if you notice any eggs in the soil, crush them or boil them or freeze them, unless you want hundreds of little cute baby snails that you cannot practically care for but will inevitably become emotionally attached to.
if your snail bubbles up when you try to touch or hold them, donāt worry, they are not dying. this is what snails do when they are anxious. just give your snails some time to get used to you.
one thing iāve noticed, at least with my snails, is that they will immediately try to escape their new home before settling in. i imagine it like a human being locked in a luxury hotel. at first, theyāll try to get out, because thatās the instinctā¦ but once they realize theyāre stuck in there for a while, theyāll probably take advantage of all the amenities like the food and the pool and everything else.
your snail friends will learn who you are and recognize you by your scent. snails are good little sniffers. iāve had snails who love to be held and pet by me, but bubble up when held by anyone else.
if a snail is sticky-stuck to something, DONT pull on their shell!!! slide the snail along the glass and eventually they will let go. if you must lift a snail, lift from their head because that is the stickiest part and less likely to hurt.
be sure to clean the tank at least once a week.
bonding with the snail dudes
my snails love me. iām sure your snails will love you as well. at first, they might be scared of you, but soon theyāll recognize you as the big warm thing that gives them food and love. once your snail is comfy with you and likes to crawl on your hand, try petting them. start by gently petting their shell. they love it. you can also gently stroke their little bodies and heads, but donāt poke their eyes please. it hurts them and makes them sad. if you accidentally poke em, donāt worry too much, theyāll forgive you.
SNAILS LOVE CLIMBING. ok this is probably my favorite thing that snails do. when holding a snail, try to putting a finger or two directly above their head. they will get really excited and CLIMB UP ONTO YOUR FINGERS. they just love climbing. one of my little snails, rocco, loves climbing the most. he will lift up his entire head and body in hopes that i will give him a finger to climb on. when i put him back in the tank, he will immediately climb wherever he can, especially onto another snail. be attentive. snails sometimes get really excited about climbing. rocco has fallen off of my hand from trying to climb when there wasnāt anything to climb on.
there is nothing cuter than a snail drinking out of a sink. while i opt to give my snails bottled water 99% of the time, i canāt resist letting them drink tap water every now and then because it is so cute. take your (awake) snail to the sink. turn it on so it is barely running, but not just dripping. have it warm or lukewarm if you can. put your hand close to water. your snail will be very confused for a moment, but then they will drink and shower under the water. it is very good.
cute and good snail quirks
when a snail decides they want to go somewhere, they GO. they donāt rly understand the concept of going around things, they just GO. so, when a snail wants to go, they will climb over literally anything in the way, whether it be the entire water dish, a pile of food, or another snail who is trying to eat or sleepā¦ the snail will just GO until they get to THE THING.
snails are a little dumb. they will learn where the food and water is, and they will get very confused if they go to the spot and there is no food/water. i have come home to find a snail just sitting in the empty water dish, waiting for the water to show up. itās cute.
iāve been holding a snail as iāve typed this and the little dude FELL ASLEEP on my HAND. he trusts me!!!! he trusts me to keep him safe and to stop him from falling. oh my goodness, live tweet, he is just now waking up. he is peeping his little eyes out. i love this snail.
snails canāt hearā¦ but i still tell them i love them bc i need to vocalize it.
snails are most active at night and will eat/drink the most then.
snails keep all their important organs in their shell, so donāt try to remove it or paint it!!
snails can live for YEARS!!!
Calming masterpost:
crisis/urgent support lines and sites
hotlines/crisis lines for depression, domestic abuse, alcohol and drug abuse, teens, pregnancy, lgbt and more
mental support community - a forum where you can post that you are in a crisis right now and need peer support as soon as possible
imalive crisis chat - online one-on-one chat for if youāre in at risk of hurting yourself etc
self harm alternatives
si urges alternatives
relaxation/anxiety relief
do nothing for two minutes
interactive silk art
guided relaxation
watch a dream
100,000 stars
thisissand - create sandscapes on your screen with your mouse
calming gif
the quiet place project
the quiet place - find some quiet
the thoughts room - a super calm page to unburden yourself from bad thoughts
the comfort spot - a place for anonymous venting with out anybody judging you for who you are
the dawn room - my personal favourite, especially good for when you feel alone
know that it will be okay - when a moment is too hard for you - come here.
music and sounds
my anxiety relief playlist - on 8tracks
my positivity/recovery playlist - on 8tracks
āstay strongā playlists - on 8tracks
coffee shop sounds
rain sounds
calmsound - nature sounds
rainycafe
comfort food
one minute cookie in a mug
brownie in a mug
several cookie recipes
25 hot chocolate recipes
loads and loads of snacks - 533 quick and easy recipes for a range of snacks on studentrecipe
lots of different in-a-mug recipes
chocolate pudding in a mug - my personal fave (lil tip: add mini marshmallows for extra gooey yumminess)
advice and tips
how to be okay with yourself
25 resolutions
life hacks
more life hacks
a hella ton more life hacks - so many life hacks dude soon ur gonna never have a day-to-day stress again
school masterpost - school sucks so bad but hopefully this can help ease the stress
how to love yourself
how to bypass restricted wifi omg
alleviate menstrual cramps
boost your confidence
love yourself!
self help after anxiety
stop biting your nails
stop procrastinating
stop skipping breakfast
videos and movies
cure to sadness (video)
the movie blog - a blog dedicated to movie masterposts you will never be without a movie to watch again
cute roulette - THE BEST PLACE ON THE INTERNET ITS LITERALLY JUST A HUGE ROULETTE OF VIDEOS OF CUTE ANIMALS WHAT MORE COULD YOU WANT FROM LIFE
random acts of kindness caught on film
disney movies
movies for angsty teens
distractions etc
rice questions - answer simple questions and donate free rice to people in poverty!!
click to give - just click a button to donate (it costs nothing) food to animals shelters, people in poverty and homeless veterans; mammograms to fight breast cancer; therapy for people on the autism spectrum; alzheimerās and diabetes research; a book to a child; protect wildlife habitat
break something - good for anger
loads of cute games
how to make a blanket nest
learn something new - a masterpost of hobbies
exercise like a superhero
nice words
things to do when your sad
slap a bald guy with an eel - this is ridiculously entertaining
watch a dog lick your screen - it loops, so you could literally watch for hours if you want
calmingmanatee
daily puppy
how to make a comfort box
download free books
extras
emergency compliment!
lots of compliments - they even include ur name aw
huge list of bloggers who have put themselves forward as willing to listen/chat without judgement
getting anon hate?
:) tag - all the posts that iāve tagged for making me happy
7cupsoftea - free, anonymous, confidential talks with trained listeners
get a hug
Calming songs, playlists and instrumentals:
Sing Me to Sleep
The Boulevard of Broken Dreams
Boost your Mood (peppier and happy songs)
The Driving Mixtape
Study
Summer Nights
Itās Going to be Fine
Calm & Collected
Once Upon a December - Piano (song)
Clair de Lune (song)
The Moon is a Harsh Mistress (song)
Calming/distracting Websites
The Quiet Place
Rainymood.com
Calm.com
Soundrown.com - calming sounds to mix and match
A website to distract yourself
A recovery masterpost
A post of interesting things
Ungruntle yourself
Press a magic button and fix everything
Play cute games
Almost every movie your little heart desires (i suggest you use with adblocker)
How to love yourself
A website that compliments you
Crafts and activities, easy and fun DYI projects
Glitter calm jars
A list of things to do to curb anxiety
Make a blanket nest
Silky summer legs
Lots of food recipes; mostly desserts Ā
For bad days masterpost
Make some microwave snacks
Five minute fudge
Make a phone case
A bunch of hobbies!
Self care list!
Pretty gold-dipped feathers (for decorating or anything)
What to do when:
Youāve been triggered
Youāre having an anxiety attack
Youāre having a panic attack
Your face is red and puffy after crying
You just had a fight
You hate yourself
You want to avoid being stressed
You want to get over your ex
Meditation and breathing
Guided Meditations
Do Nothing for 2 Minutes
Calm Down
Meditation Tips
90 second relaxation exercise
Simple things
Pretty Tree
When You Feel You Have Lost Everything
See Some BLOOD
Press a Button to Make Everything OK
Calming Manatee
Calming Gif
Make Something!
Jump into a Sofa Fort!
Make a Comfort Box
Glitter Jar Or This One
Other Nice Things
A Page To Help You Recover!!!
Coping Skills & Distractions
The Quiet Place. Shhhhh
For When Youāre Upset
The Nicest Place on the Internet
Player 2
10 Most Relaxing Online Games
Talk To Someone That Will Listen
Not Having a Good Day?
How-to Love Yourself
Ground Yourself X X Ā X
Mood Chart
Do Nothing For Two Minutes
Rainymood
The Comfort Spot
Weave Silk
Seed Plant Breeder
This Is Sand
C.A.L.M
Calming/Relaxing Music:
Soft Piano: x, x, x, x, x
The Sound of Waves: x
The Sound of a Storm + Waves: x
the See some Blood link is really cool actually.. I clicked it and it actually helped with my self harm issues. also the break something near the top scared the shit outta me. It takes you to a completely blank page and i thought it hadnāt loaded so i clicked to test and the whole screen loudly shattered I jumped my skin.Ā
how is being transracial different from being transgender?
because, while your race is fully contingent on how you were born and is not a socially malleable characteristic, gender is 1) something that is and has been perceived by different cultures in varying ways and is not a constant concept, 2) cannot be defined on a binary established by genetalia (even if intersexism didn't exist, the truth is that there are other factors which also determine gender, including the chemistry of the brain), and 3) is a way for people to define not just their physical appearance, but also their attitudes, their relationships with others, their goals in life, and how they interact with the world around them in a way personal to themselves.
being transracial would mean acknowledging that institutional racism exists and pretending it is something that can be avoided and/or manipulated to one's personal will. the only motivation you would have for being transracial (from the POV of a more-privileged person pretending to be a less-privileged POC; the other way around is rare and typically a result of internalized racism) would be to appropriate the suffering of a group of people. being transgender means that you recognize that most men follow certain aesthetics and behaviors and most women follow certain aesthetics and behaviors, and you've decided that living in the certain set of behaviors that you've been instructed to live by is torturous and untrue to yourself.
what's the difference?
certain races of people may associate themselves with certain characteristics and behaviors, but not because they are naturally intrinsic to all of them, but because some races develop certain cultures as time passes and [typically negative] interactions with other racial groups of people occur. identifying with these characteristics and consequently saying you are of that race without being born of that race is 1) stereotyping an entire racial group of people, and 2) appropriating and taking advantage of a marginalized group and their respective culture and experiences. the other version of being "transracial" would be simply desiring to look like another race, which would also be offensive, as the history of most non-white racial groups includes discrimination based off of their physical appearances, and ignoring that to stereotype a group of people is beyond offensive.
contrarily, men tend to be masculine, and women tend to be feminine. much of this is based off of socialization, but much of it is not negative and simply stems from how men and women tend to interact with the world around them. the difference between this and analyzing races is that much of masculinity and femininity are part of peoples' inherent characteristics and are not defined in the same way that racial cultures are often defined. for instance, while certain behaviors that many women adopt stem from misogyny (e.g. being more likely to let people speak over them, timidness, performing hyperfemininity), to define women by these characteristics would be inaccurate and backwards. women experience as wide of an array of emotions, behaviors, interests, opinions, and thoughts as anyone of any gender. this is because the side effects of misogyny do not affect women in the same way that institutional racism puts certain groups of people in dangerous long-term situations in which people may adapt their cultures as a beacon of strength and endurance.
when a transgender woman says "i am transgender," there is no "culture of women" she is appropriating or taking advantage of. she is recognizing the scale of femininity, masculinity, and androgyny, analyzing them in reference to herself, and adapting who she is to be happier with herself. in no way in that process are women as a whole getting some sort of disadvantage, because womanhood is about the expression of femininity across a wide variety of behaviors, as aforementioned. misogyny would exist with or without transgender women, as peoples' negative perceptions of femininity would exist regardless of people pushing those boundaries (in fact, it is often trans-inclusive spaces that exist to push the boundaries of what defines gender and how people can stop being limited by their gender and instead use their gender, cis or trans, to empower themselves- aka, an important philosophical cornerstone for feminism).
since this is a pretty clear TERF "gotcha!" question, i know that what this question is really asking is "being transracial would be considered offensive. so then why is being transgender not?"
and the answer to that question is just as i said. the concept of changing your race is contingent on stereotyping a racial group of people in order to take advantage of them. the concept of changing your gender means analyzing your relationship between masculinity and femininity and deciding how that relates to you; while misogyny is universal, there is no universal misogyny, as well as no universal state of womanhood of which to appropriate.
also FYI, asking this question automatically revokes your right to complain about people calling TERFs and radfems racist by default. you're really going to try to compare transgender people existing to institutional racism and say you're the progressives here? try again.
hi hello pewdiepie is bad and i donāt care about his minecraft series and neither should you
hrn o people are kinda upset and not seeing the big deal so hereās a video about the rebranding of white nationalism and if you donāt want to watch that- Pewdiepie follows and supports people like Ben Shapiro, Stefan Molyneux, Steven Crowder and more people who are openly homophobic, transphobic, and racist (and in Molyneuxās case- a self proclaimed ārace realistā who associates heavily with white nationalist like richard spencer) not to mention his own right-leaning āedgyā humor
If one video isnāt enough for you:
This one is about cryptofascism and how Pewdiepie advertises for the Online Right.
In the 1960ā²s Legally a woman couldnāt
Open a bank account or get a credit card without signed permission from her father or hr husband.
Serve on a jury - because it might inconvenience the family not to have the woman at home being her husbandās helpmate.
Obtain any form of birth control without her husbandās permission. You had to be married, and your hub and had to agree to postpone having children.
Get an Ivy League education. Ivy League schools were menās colleges ntil the 70ā²s and 80ā²s. When they opened their doors to women it was agree that women went there for their MRS. Degee.
Experience equality in the workplace: Kennedyās Commission on the Status of Women produced a report in 1963 that revealed, among other things, that women earned 59 cents for every dollar that men earned and were kept out of the more lucrative professional positions.
Keep her job if she was pregnant.Until the Pregnancy Discrimination Act in 1978, women were regularly fired from their workplace for being pregnant.
Refuse to have sex with her husband.The mid 70s saw most states recognize marital rape and in 1993 it became criminalized in all 50 states. Nevertheless, marital rape is still often treated differently to other forms of rape in some states even today.
Get a divorce with some degree of ease.Before the No Fault Divorce law in 1969, spouses had to show the faults of the other party, such as adultery, and could easily be overturned by recrimination.
Have a legal abortion in most states.The Roe v. Wade case in 1973 protected a womanās right to abortion until viability.
Take legal action against workplace sexual harassment. According to The Week, the first time a court recognized office sexual harassment as grounds for legal action was in 1977.
Play college sports Title IX of the Ā Education Amendments of protects people from discrimination Ā based on sex in education programs or activities that receive Federal financial Ā assistance It was nt until this statute that colleges had teams for womenās sports
Apply for menās Jobs Ā The EEOC rules that sex-segregated help wanted ads in newspapers are illegal. Ā This ruling is upheld in 1973 by the Supreme Court, opening the way for women to apply for higher-paying jobs hitherto open only to men.
This is why we needed feminism - this is why we know that feminism works
I just want to reiterate this stuff, because I legit get the feeling there are a lot of younger women for whom it hasnāt really sunk in what it is todayās GOP is actively trying to return to.
Did you go to a good college? Shame on you, you took a college placement that could have gone to a man who deserves and needs it to support or prepare for his wife & children. But if you really must attend college, well, some men like that, you can still get married if you focus on finding the right man.
Got a job? Why? A manĀ could be doing that job. You should be at home caring for a family. You shouldnāt be taking that job away from a man who needs it (see college, above). You definitely donāt have a career ā youāll be pregnant and raising children soon, so no need to worry about promoting you.
This shit was within living memory.Ā IāM A MILLENIAL and my mother was in the second class that allowed women at an Ivy League school. Men who are alive today either personally remember shit like this or have parents/family who have raised them into thinking this was the way America functioned back in the blissful Good Old Days. There are literally dudes in the GOP old enough to remember when it was like this and yearn for those days to return.
When people talk about resisting conservativism and the GOP, weāre not just talking about whether the wage gap is a myth or not.Ā Weāre talking about whether women even have the fundamental right to exist as individuals, to run their own households and compete for jobs and be considered on an equal footing with men in any arena at all in the first place.
I was a child in the 1960s, a teenager in the 1970s, a young adult in the 1980s. This is what it was like: When I was growing up, it was considered unfortunate if a girl was good at sports. Girls were not allowed in Little League. Girlsā teams didnāt exist in high school, except at all-girlsā high schools. Boys played sports, and girls were the cheerleaders. People used to ask me as a child what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said I wanted to be a brain surgeon or the first woman justice on the Supreme Court. Everyone told me it was impossibleāthose just werenāt realistic goals for a girlāthe latter, especially, because you couldnāt trust women to judge fairly and rationally, after all. In the 1960s and 1970s, all women were identified by their marital status, even in arrest reports and obituaries. In elementary school, my science teacher referred to Pierre Curie as DOCTOR Curie and Marie Curie as MRS. Curieā¦because, as he put it, āshe was just his wife.ā (Both had doctorates and both were Nobel prize winners, so you would think that both would be accorded respect.) Companies could and did require women to wear dresses and skirts. Failure to do could and did get women fired. And it was legal. It was also legal to fire women for getting married or getting pregnant. The rationale was that a woman who was married or who had a child had no business working; that was what her husband was for. Aetna Insurance, the biggest insurance company in America, fired women for all of the above. A man could rape his wife. Legally. I can remember being twelve years old and reading about legal experts actually debating whether or not a man could actually be said to coerce his wife into having sex. This was a serious debate in 1974. The debate about marital rape came up in my law school, too, in 1984. Could a woman be raped by her husband? The guys all said noāa woman got married, so she was consenting to sex at all times. So I turned it around. I asked them if, since a man had gotten married, that meant that his wife could shove a dildo or a stick or something up his ass any time she wanted to for HER sexual pleasure. (Hey, I thought it was reasonable. If one gender was legally entitled to force sex on the other, then obviously the reverse should also be true.) The male law students didnāt like the idea. Interestingly, they commented that being treated like that would make them feel like a woman. My reaction was, āThank you for proving my pointā¦ā The concept of date rape, when first proposed, was considered laughable. If a woman went out on a date, the argument of legal experts ran, sexual consent was implied. Even more sickening was the fact that in some statesāeven in the early 1980sāa man could rape his daughterā¦and it was no worse than a misdemeanor. Women taking self-defense classes in the 1970s and 1980s were frequently described in books and on TV as ācute.ā The implication was that it was absurd for a woman to attempt to defend herself, but wasnāt it just adorable for her to try? I was expressly forbidden to take computer classes in junior and senior years of high schoolā1978-79 and 1979-80ābecause, as the principal told me, āOnly boys have to know that kind of thing. You girls are going to get married, and you wonāt use it.ā When I was in collegeāfrom 1980 to 1984āthere were no womensā studies. The idea hadnāt occurred in many places because the presumption was that there was nothing TO study. My history professorāa man who had a doctorate in historyāinformed me quite seriously that women had never produced a noted painter, sculptor, composer, architect or scientist becauseā¦wait for itā¦womensā brains were too small. (He was very surprised when I came up with a list of fifty women gifted in the arts and science, most of whom he had never heard of before.) When Walter Mondale picked Geraldine Ferraro as a running mate in 1984, the press hailed it as a disaster. What would happen, they asked fearfully, if Mondale died and Ferraro became president? What if an international crisis arose and she was menstruating? She could push the nuclear button in a fit of PMS! It would be the end of the WORLD!! ā¦No, they WERENāT kidding. On the surface, things are very different now than they were when I was a child, a teen and a young adult. But Iām afraid that people now do not realize what it was like then. Iāve read a lot of posts from young women who say that they are not feminists. If the only exposure to feminism they have is the work of extremists, I cannot blame them overmuch. I wish that I could tell them what feminism was like when it was newāwhen the dream of legal equality was just a dream, and hadnāt even begun to come true. When āwomanās workā was a sneerāand an overt putdown. When people tut-tutted over bright and athletic girls with the words, āReally, itās a shame sheās not a boy.ā That lack of feminism wasnāt all men opening doors and picking up checks. A lot of it was an attitude of patronizing contempt that hasnāt entirely died out, but which has become less publicly acceptable. I wish I could make them feel what it was likeā¦when grown men were called āmenā and grown women were āgirls.ā
Know your history.
So this, too, is what they mean saying āmake America great againā and/or the good old days.
REBLOG FOREVER.
I am 70. I remember all those things. I was a student nurse from 64 to 67 and we were not permitted to āfinishā a bed bath on a male or insert a catheter in a male. Seeing male genitals might cause us āharmā or upset our delicate sensibilities. Imagine when we graduated and were āthrownā to the wolves. Imagine if you were a male patient who had to be the first to be āpracticedā on by a graduate nurse. (Ha!) At the school I attended no student nurse could be married. Only one school in my city (Atlanta) would even admit married women and Male Nurses werenāt even thought of. What man would want to be a nurse when he could be a Doctor. In all my training I only remember 3 or 4 Women who were Doctorās and a very few, (less than 5 or 6) female interns or residents (and this was a teaching hospital) and most of those were OB/Gyns and one was a pediatrician.
When I graduated and was going to get married I wanted to go on birth control pills. You needed to be on them for a least one cycle before they were effective. I wonāt go into what hoops I had to jump through to get a prescription from my Dr. (a man, natch) but when i went to the drug store to get the prescription filled I ended up having to get my future husband to āaccompanyā me so the pharmacistĀ āinterviewā him and see if it was okay with him for me to be on the pill.
Even when we went to get a marriage license I had to get my Fatherās signature and we had to go before a Judge because I was not yet 21 (I was 20 and 9 months).
I could go on and on, getting a credit card in MY name, etc., but I will tell you that WE MUST RESIST.
The number of people I know who romanticize gender inequality is frankly terrifying. A world never existed in which the lives of women were simplified by benevolent men who saw to her every want and need. That was not a thing. A world never existed in which women were all ladies, men were all gentlemen, & everything was some great big cishet fairytale. Feminists arenāt a bunch of upstarts who want to destroy a perfectly wholesome and non-harmful system. Justā¦look at history. Look at the posts above. We. Must. Resist..
About 8: The State of New York only added No-Fault Divorce as an option in 2010 (!!!)
I want to repeat here.Ā
This is what they mean, when they sayĀ āOld-fashioned valuesā
When conservatives start waxing lyrical about theĀ āgood old daysā, this is what they mean. They are fully aware how much things blew for women, and they would like to return to that.Ā
My mother was not flatly told she couldnāt teach History because she couldnāt coach sports.Ā That was a manās job.Ā (This was 1973.)
HER best friend, a fellow English teacher (mom went into teaching English after getting slammed about History), was let go from the school she taught at because she was going to have a child in the summer.Ā They rehired her the year after ā as a long-term substitute for an anthropology teacher ā not her former position.
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Pretty convenient that a lot of American students never learn that Einstein was a Jew who came to America and started the nuclear research after fleeing from the Nazis and having most of his research lost in the book burnings.Ā
Or how much of his life and work was shaped by his autism, like how it was his biggest asset because it allowed him to think differently, but also his biggest hurtle because of all the abuse he received in school from teachers who labeled him as a dunce and told him he was stupid because of his disability. Which he proved wrong by discovering the theory of relativity because of his autism instead of in spite of it.
EVEN THOUGH THOSE ARE THE TWO MOST RELEVANT DETAILS OF HIS LIFE THAT EXPLAIN HOW AND WHY HE DID ALMOST EVERYTHING HE DID. But nah, Im sure diversity wasnāt relevant enough to be important in this situation.
Its almost like we have a biased school system that censors the accomplishments of marginalized groups to stop them from realizing that people like them have accomplished things.
He taught at Lincoln University after he was told black students couldnāt attend his lectures at other colleges and universities.
Article quote: āIn 1946, Einstein, the Nobel Prize-winning physicist traveled to Lincoln University where he gave a speech in which he called racism āa disease of white people,ā and added, āI do not intend to be quiet about it.ā Lincoln was the first school in the United States to grant college degrees to blacks.ā
Remembering someone who cared about education
I didnāt know this about Einstein, all I knew was crazy hair math man. It makes me sad that we never learn about his life.
cheat code
This will work, I used to be a recruiter. Recruiters donāt got time to read every single resume they see, they look for keywords, find what they want, Call and do a preliminary interview. Thatās it lol
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AMAZING :D
I will remember this tip!
I have no idea if this works at all, but I donāt see how it could hurt. Iām all about resume cheat codes. Hereās some more advice:
How to Write a Resume so You Actually Have a Prayer of Getting Hired
How to Write a Cover Letter like You Actually Want the JobĀ
Brilliant
But also use those resume buzzwords too!
Words like: manage, maintain, coordinate, monitors, processes, etc can be used in your resume to draw attention to it!
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This is a requirement for getting a geology degree
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my night manager (who is a gay man) and i sometimes sit down and exchange stories and tidbits about our sexuality and our experiences in the queer cultural enclave. and tonight he and i were talking about the AIDS epidemic. heās about 50 years old. talking to him about it really hit me hard. like, at one point i commented, āyeah, iāve heard that every gay person who lived through the epidemic knew at least 2 or 3 people who died,ā and he was like ā2 or 3? if you went to any bar in manhattan from 1980 to 1990, you knew at least two or three dozen. and if you worked at gay menās health crisis, you knew hundreds.ā and he just listed off so many of his friends who died from it, people who he knew personally and for years. and he even said he has no idea how he made it out alive.
it was really interesting because he said before the aids epidemic, being gay was almost cool. like, it was really becoming accepted. but aids forced everyone back in the closet. it destroyed friendships, relationships, so many cultural centers closed down over it. it basically obliterated all of the progress that queer people had made in the past 50 years.
and like, itās weird to me, and what i brought to the conversation (i really couldnāt say much though, i was speechless mostly) was like, itās so weird to me that thereās no continuity in our history? like, aids literally destroyed an entire generation of queer people and our culture. and when you think about it, we are really the first generation of queer people after the aids epidemic. but like, when does anyone our age (16-28 i guess?) ever really talk about aids in terms of the history of queer people? like itās almost totally forgotten. but it was so huge. imagine that. like, dozens of your friends just dropping dead around you, and you had no idea why, no idea how, and no idea if you would be the next person to die. and it wasnāt a quick death. you would waste away for months and become emaciated and then, eventually, die. and i know itās kinda sophomoric to suggest this, but like, imagine that happening today with blogs and the internet? like people would just disappear off your tumblr, facebook, instagram, etc. and eventually youād find out from someone āoh yeah, they and four of their friends died from aids.ā
so idk. it was really moving to hear it from someone who experienced it firsthand. and thatās the outrageous thing - every queer person you meet over the age of, what, 40? has a story to tell about aids. every time you see a queer person over the age of 40, you know they had friends who died of aids. so idk, i feel like we as the first generation of queer people coming out of the epidemic really have a responsibility to do justice to the history of aids, and we havenāt been doing a very good job of it.
Younger than 40.
Iām 36. I came out in 1995, 20 years ago. My girlfriend and I started volunteering at the local AIDS support agency, basically just to meet gay adults and meet people who maybe had it together a little better than our classmates. The antiretrovirals were out by then, but all they were doing yet was slowing things down. AIDS was still a death sentence.
The agency had a bunch of different services, and we did a lot of things helping out there, from bagging up canned goods from a food drive to sorting condoms by expiration date to peer safer sex education. But we both sewed, soā¦ we both ended up helping people with Quilt panels for their beloved dead.
Do the young queers coming up know about the Quilt? If you want history, my darlings, there it is. They started it in 1985. When someone died, his loved ones would get together and make a quilt panel, 3āx6ā, the size of a grave. They were works of art, many of them. Even the simplest, just pieces of fabric with messages of loved scrawled in permanent ink, were so beautiful and so sad.
They sewed them together in groups of 8 to form a panel. By the 90s, huge chunks of it were traveling the country all the time. Theyād get an exhibition hall or a gym or park or whatever in your area, and lay out the blocks, all over the ground with paths between them, so you could walk around and see them. And at all times, there was someone reading. Reading off the names of the dead. There was this huge long list, of people whose names were in the Quilt, and people would volunteer to just read them aloud in shifts.
HIV- people would come in to work on panels, too, of course, but most of the people we were helping were dying themselves. The first time someone Iād worked closely with died, it was my first semester away at college. I caught the Greyhound home for his funeral in the beautiful, tiny, old church in the old downtown, with the bells. Iād helped him with his partnerās panel. Before I went back to school, I left supplies to be used for his, since I couldnāt be there to sew a stitch. I lost track of a lot of the people I knew there, busy with college and then plunged into my first really serious depressive cycle. I have no idea who, of all the people I knew, lived for how long.
The Quilt, by the way, weighs more than 54 tons, and has over 96,000 names. At that, it represents maybe 20% of the people who died of AIDS in the US alone.
There were many trans women dying, too, btw. Donāt forget them. (Cis queer women did die of AIDS, too, but in far smaller numbers.) Life was and is incredibly hard for trans women, especially TWOC. Pushed out to live on the streets young, or unable to get legal work, they were (and are) often forced into sex work of the most dangerous kinds, a really good way to get HIV at the time. Those for whom life was not quite so bad often found homes in the gay community, if they were attracted to men, and identified as drag queens, often for years before transitioning. In that situation, they were at the same risk for the virus as cis gay men.
Cis queer women, while at a much lower risk on a sexual vector, were there, too. Helping. Most of the case workers at that agency and every agency I later encountered were queer women. Queer woman cooked and cleaned and cared for the dying, and for the survivors. We held hands with those waiting for their test results. Went out on the protests, helped friends who could barely move to lie down on the steps of the hospitals that would not take them in ā those were the original Die-Ins, btw, people who were literally lying down to die rather than move, who meant to die right there out in public ā marched, carted the Quilt panels from place to place. Whatever our friends and brothers needed. We did what we could.
OK, thatās it, thatās all I can write. I keep crying. Go read some history. Or watch it, there are several good documentaries out there. Donāt watch fictional movies, donāt read or watch anything done by straight people, fuck them anyway, they always made it about the tragedy and noble suffering. Fuck that. Learn about the terror and the anger and the radicalism and the raw, naked grief.
I was there, though, for a tiny piece of it. And even that tiny piece of it left its stamp on me. Deep.
2011
A visual aid: this is the Quilt from the Names Project laid out on the Washington Mall
I was born (in Australia) at the time that the first AIDS cases began to surface in the US. While I was a witness after it finally became mainstream news (mid-85), I was also a child for much of it. For me there was never really a world Before. Iām 35 now and I wanted to know and understand what happened. I have some recommendations for sources from what Iāve been reading lately:
And the Band Played On: Politics, People and the AIDS Epidemic by Randy Shilts is a seminal work on the history of HIV/AIDS. Itās chronological and gives an essential understanding of all the factors that contributed to the specific history of the virusā spread through the US and the rest of the world, the political landscape into which it landed (almost the worst possible)*. Investigative journalism and eyewitness account. Shilts was himself an AIDS casualty in 1994.
AIDS at 30: A History by Victoria Harden
The Origin of AIDS by Jaques Pepin for the science of it all.
Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UPās Fight against AIDS.
The Secret Epidemic: The Story of AIDS and Black America.
Larry Kramer is a pretty polarising figure and he had issues with the sexual politics of gay New York to begin with (see: Faggots) but heās polarising for a reason: heās the epidemicās Cassandra. Reports from the Holocaust collects his writings on AIDS.
I donāt think I can actually bring myself to read memoirs for the same reason I canāt read about the Holocaust or Stalinist Russia any more. But I have a list:Ā
The AIDS Generation: Stories of Survival and Resilience
The Quilt: Stories from the Names Project
Body Counts: A Memoir of Politics, Sex, AIDS, and Survival by Sean Strub
Borrowed Time: And AIDS Memoir by Paul Monette
Read or watch The Normal Heart. Read or watch Angels in America. Read The Mayor of Castro Street or watch Milk. Dallas Buyers Club has its issues but itās also heartbreaking because the characters are exactly the politically unsavory people used to justify the lack of spending on research and treatment. Itās also an important look at the exercise of agency by those afflicted and abandoned by their government/s, how they found their own ways to survive. Thereās a film of And the Band Played On but JFC itās a mess. You need to have read the book.
Some documentaries:
Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt (1989) [hard to find]
How to Survive a Plague (2012)
We Were Here (2011)
Everyone should read about the history of the AIDS epidemic. Especially if you are American, especially if you are a gay American man. HIV/AIDS is not now the death sentence it once was but before antiretrovirals it was just that. It was long-incubating and a-symptomatic until, suddenly, it was not.
Read histories. Read them because reality is complex and histories attempt to elucidate that complexity. Read them because past is prologue and the past is always, in some form, present. We canāt understand here and now if we donāt know about then.
*there are just SO MANY people I want to punch in the throat.
Theyāve recently digitized the Quilt as well with a map making software, I spent about three hours looking through it the other day and crying. There are parts of it that look like they were signed by someoneās peers in support and memoriam, and then you realize that the names were all written in the same writing.
That these were all names of over 20 dead people that someone knew, often it was people whoād all been members of a club or threatre group.
Hereās the link to the digitization: http://research.microsoft.com/en-us/um/redmond/projects/aidsquilt/
As well, there are numerous people who were buried in graves without headstones, having been disenfranchised from their families. I read this story the other day on that which went really in depth (I would warn that it highlights the efforts of a cishet woman throughout the crisis): http://arktimes.com/arkansas/ruth-coker-burks-the-cemetery-angel/Content?oid=3602959
Iāve had several conversations recently with younger guys for whom this part of our history isnāt well known. Here are some resources for y'all. Please, take care of one another.
http://www.aidsquilt.org/view-the-quilt/search-the-quilt
Updated link to the quilt
this is so hard to read or even think about butā¦ itās so important. itās so important to understand just the ā¦overwhelming SCALE of this. how many people died while the government did NOTHING.
Reblogging for pride
Never forget your fallen. Your people were nearly annihilated in an epidemic. Never forget how lucky we are, never forget how they tried to let us die.
I grew up hearing about the Quilt all the time and this post reminded me how long itās been since Iāve heard about it. Kids, go out and learn your history.
Iām a trans woman and Iām 38 now. My grandfather was a gay man living in Florida and he died of AIDS in the mid 90ās. He was in his 50ās.
My parents took care of him as he died, but they go to church 5 times a week to this day and though grandpa died saying he had no regrets my parents still insist that he must have ārepentedā for his āsinā before he died. The thought comforts them, apparently.
Meanwhile Iām in Florida right now for the first time in a decade and I canāt visit grandpaās grave because I donāt remember where it is and I canāt ask my parents because they disowned me for being trans. 30 odd years after the crisis began and weāre still dealing with the trauma of it. The response to the AIDS crisis was practically genocide against the queer community.
one time in high school my french teacher told the class that his grandmother died and a kid in the class said āje regrette :(ā and the french teacher burst out laughing and was like āyouāre gonna wanna say desolĆ© in this context because je regrette means likeā¦. my badā
