Randomosity

Right time to update this thing for the first time in forever. I'm Cheri. I'm Kiwi, born in '92, cis woman, demisexual, been in a relationship since 2010 (also the year I finished high school), basically white (my Mums part Maori but we never really connected with Maori culture much and also I'm pale with blue eyes and freckles so), grew up with a mentally / emotionally abusive father (who was also an alcoholic, smoked weed, and was sometimes physically abusive to my mother), I have a history of depression and anxiety and I've had chronic lower back pain that prevents me from working full time for nearly 2 years now thanks to an injury. I'm a Hufflepuff, INFJ or INFP, cat person (my partner and I have 2), and I reblog fandom stuff (lately lots of Steven Universe, Gravity Falls, and Adventure Time), funny stuff, gaming, feminism, and anything else I find interesting. Please let me know if I reblog something offensive, or if you want me to start tagging something for any reason. My ask is always open for anyone that wants to talk about anything and if we're mutuals I'm happy to exchange facebook, skype, email or snapchat.

[rednines]

The fact that when they first tested the nuclear bomb they thought that there was a possibility it could set the atmosphere on fire and end all life on earth but still set it off anyway is a testament to the fact that we are only alive via dumb fucking luck

[witchlockmonsterfox-deactivated]

if anyone’s interested: the study my professor did was basically with children who were 2-3 years old.  they laid out toys for them to play with that were commonly associated with one gender or the other (action figures vs. dolls, a pink and therefore “girly” bike vs. a non-pink and “masculine” bike or w/e).  for a while they would observe them in the room and the children would be aware they were being watched by them.  during this period pretty much every child played with the “appropriate” toys

what they did next was then have everyone leave the room, but be watching behind one-way glass, and observe which toys the children would choose when they didn’t think they were being watched. a lot of children would play with any toy, regardless of which gender it was “meant” for.  they had no problem with it.  but they were aware of the fact that adults and other people had a problem with it.  they had already learned what they were “supposed” to do, despite the fact they didn’t seem to honestly care.  just as long as they thought they weren’t being watched and wouldn’t get in trouble for not playing with the “right” toys… which in itself says something

basically it supported the idea that children internalize gender roles at a young age, are aware of them, and it isn’t innately something a certain gender prefers over the other (or someone with one type of genitals innately prefers, as most people correlate gender with genitals, especially regarding a child. so it seems logical to assume it’s unrelated)

they’re just kind of arbitrary associations that seem to do more harm than good

[naamahdarling]

So, basically, children too young to communicate effectively are being criticized and possibly punished for playing with the “wrong” toys.

Good job, parents.  Great fucking job.

[pureimagineering]

Here’s one of the reasons I don’t buy the cynical interpretation that Ariel gives up her identity for a man.

This screencap comes from her introductory scene. She’s searching through a shipwreck for human artifacts–which is her passion–when suddenly she’s attacked by a shark.

While fleeing, she accidentally drops her bag full of artifacts right in the shark’s path. Without hesitating, she chooses her passion over her safety, risking her life for a dinglehopper.

The girl is an anthropologist who studies humans. That’s her passion, that’s how she spends her time…that’s her identity.

Sure, Eric is the catalyst that leads Ariel to changing her species and leaving her family–he certainly intensifies her feelings–but they’re feelings she already has, and they dictate most of her life.

If Ariel had the chance to become a human before she met Eric, everything that we know about her suggests that she probably would.

[recovering-academic]

Ariel is an anthropologist, I stand by this

[itswalky]

Triton: Fuck your passion! Ariel: okay

[starline]

I like this better.

[frittahz]

Ugh

[outropeace]

positive things…

[ronamov]

SAVE US MRS OBAMA

[cwnerd12]

message to my women, PoC, LGBT, and disabled followers:

I love you all. Your lives are valuable. There are still a lot of people out in the world who love you. 

Please, please, please, stay strong. Now is the time to fight back and show that we won’t be erased.

And please tell those around you who need it that they are loved.

[9uys]

clothes have no gender

[sometimes-alice-deactivated2018]

[chicken-fingers]

this movie was way too heavy for its intended age group

[errorpng-deactivated31237653-de]

it’s actually really perfect for all ages because when kids learn this stuff early in life it stays with them 

[vulture-jack]

Dude this is no where NEAR “too heavy”.  This was one of those movies that actually treated me like I had a brain and thought legitimate thoughts.  This was a movie where the stakes were real and it was clear that awful things might actually happen.  They almost get NUKED.  And even as a kid I understood that.  I loved the way this movie treated me as a child.  Because the character acted like a real kid, and there was a touch of realism to it.

[vanvelding]

I’m misquoting Bruce Coville, but “Why should we protect children from the worst parts of human nature when children are usually the ones affected by it?”

[itswalky]

pfffft, it’s realer if they teach you there are no souls

[whoopsrobots]

Sure thing buddy, lemme just hop back to my grandpa’s funeral and tell my five year old brother that it doesn’t fucking matter because we’re all just brief chemical reactions inevitably hurling towards the goddamn void for all eternity that would have fixed him right up

[racisrn-deactivated20130915]

somebody give me a pep talk

[racisrn-deactivated20130915]

inspirational

[wertyuolip8765tghnjmkjmhnbgfvd]

avatar: the last airbender, featuring lovable characters such as:

happy flying boy

water feminist 

cool jokes man

angsty fire dude

chill uncle (lowkey badass)

strong fight child

animal fren

lorge animal fren

the moon

and many more!

[beholdthemem]

Tag yourself I’m water feminist

[latenightseth]

They ain’t afraid of no ghosts.

[profeminist]

U.S READERS, REGISTER TO VOTE HERE

[darksilenceinsuburbia]

Postcards from the Suffragist Era

[tetradroid-deactivated20150401]

Interesting how even back then people were trying to characterize feminists as “man haters” and shit

[skaletal-deactivated20190721]

Okay, but The Masculine Woman is stylin’ as fuck and the one with the ladies playing cards and smoking backfires completely as soon as you realize it’s pretty much just a straight role-reversal and the ‘indignity’ of the thing is that he’s not the one smoking and playing cards with the boys.

Also, did anyone else pick up on the blatant contradiction between accusing feminists of being ugly man-haters (“some plain things”) and saying they use their feminine wiles to coerce men into agreeing with them (“the easiest way”)?

[leadhoovesies]

Notice that the men against it were mostly scared of being treated the way they treated women

[ju55y-deactivated20150927]

They were literally afraid of child rearing and washing dishes.

[lightsaber]

consider this concept: rey beating the shit out of all the racist star wars fans who want finn to die

[lightsaber]

in light of recent events, also consider this concept: daisy ridley beating the shit out of all the racist star wars fans who complain whenever john boyega is featured on her instagram

[astriiferous-blog-deactivated20]

“When you post something on the internet it’s going to be seen by everyone!!!11″

[jumpingjacktrash]

pertaining to recent posts about abuser tactics

i was emotionally abused in school as a small child, but strongly supported and validated at home; as a result, instead of coming to believe i deserved to be dehumanized and scapegoated, i developed a reactive stubbornnes where everyone who hasn’t earned my trust over a course of years is on probation and everything they say has to pass a gamut of skeptical analysis.

now, don’t get me wrong, this has caused a lot of problems for me in my life. my intimacy issues are breathtakingly bad. BUT it does have the followiing benefit: abusers testing for victim potential push me once, then run like hell.

what occurs to me after reading about the way abusers systematically erode your boundaries and use the frog-boiling method to make abuse seem normal, is that the general public could perhaps benefit from my experience, and learn that there is a simple first line of defense against abusers:

politely refuse the first request a new friend or date makes of you.

that’s it. that’ll weed out a whole lot of the assholes without you ever having to lift a finger to eject them. decent people will accept your refusal – they might be a little confused or hurt, but they won’t PUSH – and abusers will either show their true colors, or run like the cowards they are.

now, it might take a bit of cleverness to refuse the literally first request if it’s something like ‘please pass the salt’ that no sensible person would ever refuse, but if your hands are conveniently buttery you can do it. otherwise, wait for the first actual favor that requires effort, or just bluff it out – give them a cheerful nope and watch how they react.

because, in case you didn’t know this, a real friend will NOT throw a shitfit if you tell them you can’t drive them to work tomorrow, or you don’t want to lend them your jacket, or you’d rather they don’t take the last soda from your fridge. they really won’t. they’ll still be your friend. they won’t make a big deal out of it. i promise, abusive behavior is NOT normal, no matter what someone in your life may have told you.

[pascooleo]

This !!!!

[rynekat]

Remember that time Daleks and Cybermen had sass-off?

[carryonmywaywardstirrup]

THIS IS LITERALLY MY FAVE SCENE FROM DOCTOR WHO EVER I AM NOT EVEN JOKING I AM SO GLAD SOMEONE MADE A POST OF IT I THINK ABOUT THIS MORE OFTEN THAN IS NORMAL UGH IT MAKES ME SO HAPPY

[larissafae]

No one sasses better than the Daleks and Cybermen. No one.

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

I loved this ridiculous moment so much okay

ANGRY CYBORG SASS OFF

[whatisyourlefteyebrowdoingdavid]

This was my favourite bit