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Lauren, 31, married. Mama to Wyatt (2015) and Gage (2018). I tend to stick to baby related posts, but sometimes Harry Potter stuff slips in.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

Lately I’ve been experiencing something totally new.

For the past 10 years I have changed my Facebook profile background for pride month. And this month I started to do that…and I hesitated.

I honestly cannot say why. But I almost feel like me, as a cis gender straight lady, posting a rainbow background for pride month is…intrusive? Overstepping? I’m not sure how to word it tbh.

Every year that I’ve gone to pride , I’ve been invited by a large group of queer identifying people.

I’ve asked a few of my gay/lesbian/nb friends, and they all have said that I’m a solid ally and am INVITED INTO the queer space so I should come (yes I know the a doesn’t stand for ally, it stands for ace and that’s 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻).

But I just can’t shake the feeling that by posting a rainbow and going to pride that I’m intruding on a space that’s NOT meant for me???

I will say that pretty much nothing is going to keep me from pride this year because my bff since I was in the sixth grade FINALLY came out to her entire family and is getting married this summer (!!!!!!!) and this will be her first pride as a married woman. You’d literally have to jail me from being at pride with her this year.

But I do feel weird about it. And I never have before.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

Lol bb you were just a lil gay.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

6 random facts!

Tagged by @parentinginplaid

1. I think about Harry Styles daily

2. I’m trying to learn how to code via free online classes and YouTube tutorials so I can get a job in like a year when both the babies are in school.

3. I cry every time I hear the national anthem.

4. I’m an extroverted introvert.

5. You can always tell how well I’m managing my anxiety by looking at my hands.

6. I don’t like chocolate or gravy.

I tag @coveredincoffee @maeganbobaegan @motheroctopi @lunarmomma

[blooooom]

as an older millennial i have a tremendous amount of affection for gen z. there is a wildness about you, a freedom, a kind of bravery to be yourselves and i think it’s a side effect of so many of you being older souls. you all really are the lights sent here to guide us all home, and no matter how fucked up and terrifying and hard it gets, i am glad you chose to come. the kids are, in fact, alright.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

I’ve started the process of weaning gage. It took many many months of struggle to wean Wyatt when he ultimately stopped asking for boobs at 27 months. Gage is proving to be much easier. When he officially turned one, I stopped offering him the boob before he ate solids. And he’s only asked for boobs like four times since then. We’ve gone over 24 hours twice with no issues.

My husbands vasectomy is in a week.

We’re looking at houses and doing small little upgrades to our current house to get it ready to sell.

I’m waffling between going back to school to be a rad tech and eventually focusing on nuclear medicine. Or getting my real estate license. If anyone is in either of those career paths and wants to offer some input, please feel free.

I feel like my family and myself are really about to step into a new era and I’m excited.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

This bathroom selfie gives me life.

[iesbiancatra]

due to personal reasons, i will be ignoring the express wishes of the people around me and singing sea shanties

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

My last baby is turning one next week. As much as I love having a tiny baby around, I’m glad to know that (barring some sort of freak fertility accident) I’m moving passed this stage of my life. Wyatt starts preschool next month.

I’m going to go back to school when gage is in preschool. Use my brain. Get a job. Make some money.

Throw away all the stupid weird baby toys that fill up every single corner of my house.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

Worst mom in the world

Took my 3 year old to a splash pad the other day. EPIC fail. He acts like SUCH a monster around kids. I’m at a loss. He slapped a 7 year old boy right on the head for trying to take something from him. He kept running and not listening to the staff when they told him to slow down. He apparently smacked some other kid that I didn’t even see, HES SO FUCKING QUICK.

Obviously I made him take a timeout for those offenses. We went to the bathroom and had a talk, no that’s not a euphemism lol. He listens better if there’s not 1,000 people around and the bathroom was quiet. I tried to let him go back to playing, but he pretty much immediately ran up to this super small baby and yelled in her face, it sounds terrible but he was pretending to be a dog and thought it was a super idea to greet the baby by barking LOUDLY in her face. Again, obviously not acceptable and I’m not going to let him get away with that. So we left. This is what happens every fucking time I try to take him somewhere with other kids.

I have to remove him. We weren’t even there 45 minutes. I just want my kid to be able to have fun and play and interact. At this point removing him is beneficial to the other kids, but detrimental to him. He’s completely unsocialized. He never gets to do anything fun. I know it’s not fair to let him walk around and be an asshole to other kids, but as HIS mom I just feel sad for him. We stay home all day. Every day. I pride myself on being consistent with discipline. He’s just so full on every single second he’s awake. He’s got no impulse control. If a thought enters his head, it’s executed before he can even process it. How am i supposed to discipline him for things that have no fore thought???? He doesn’t mean to be aggressive, but that doesn’t mean he can just do whatever he wants and apologize later. I know eventually he will learn to think BEFORE he does things. But it’s been a long couple of years 😔

Even at home when i try to do fun things, I can usually get MAYBE 15 minutes before he starts acting nutzo and we have to stop.

I have him registered to start a half day preschool program two days a week in a month. I hope it helps, he’s so sweet. He would love to have some friends.

[radpatrick-blog]

i’m always a slut for equal rights

[rlmjob]

when I grow up I hope I have a really cool bathtub

[mjalti]

having to be “mature” at a young age sucks bc you aren’t really “mature-mature” you’re a child playing at a maturity bc you don’t have the foundation to be the bigger person when conflict arrives so what you do is ignore it bc ignoring a problem and being happy about a resolution look the same to your inexperienced eyes. Then you get adults praising you for a development above your peers but you aren’t really developing. You’re stagnant. Your peers will grow up and experience things and make mistakes and grow from them but you will keep yourself in this box, ignoring things ignoring ignoring ignoring until one day you have to face the fact… it wasn’t maturity you had. It was fear. And now you’re an adult too and you make all of your choices based on an emotional risk/costs analysis bc you don’t know any emotion other than fear & you have to start healing from your own childhood by making peace that you weren’t really a mature child. You were just a child who was given too much to carry & didn’t know how to say “no”.

[janeplease]

[astrophelos]

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

The gif is from one of Coop’s last rounds of chemo, right before his 2nd birthday. The picture is of him chillin at the grocery store last week. Today is his third birthday. So proud of you, Coop!

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

My children, y’all. Perfection 👌🏻

[gaysie]

no offense but we’re only getting older baby and i’ve been thinking about it lately does it ever drive you crazy just how fast the night changes..

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

I love the cover of “Girl Crush” by Harry Styles more than is probably acceptable.

[somethingmissingthiswaycomes]

There are lots of ways to help in political crises. Protesting, voting, joining unions, calling your asshole representatives so they know their days in office are numbered, making sure people know their rights, protecting immigrants and minorities-in-general who live in your neighborhood, etc. are all good,

but in terms of the human rights violations happening in America right now, here’s something more immediate you can do.

fairfightbondfund.org/ lgbtqfund.org/ communitybondproject.org immigrantfamilies.org freedomforimmigrants.org

If you’re in a financial place to make donations, check out these links. If not, spreading the word on any tangible way to make a difference will help; if you have a twitter, you could retweet the original thread here: twitter.com/sarahmirk/status/1143201552657575937

I don’t usually make these posts myself, but my influence on Twitter is practically nil, so here I am.

[fromproseccotopacifiers]

I’m always sleepy and my hands are cold.