Motivation and Happiness
This isn't directly related to my lifting or regimes but its something that I want to talk about because it is so important. Without either of these two important factors you cant even come close to realising your full potential. What would you do without motivation? You would more than likely not leave your home. Why would you when you have no motive? There may be things you want to achieve but many people want them to be handed over to them without any effort on their part. Life does not work this way, you can get lucky on occasions this it true, but the majority of the time you have to work for what you want. These days people can think very pessimistically in my opinion. They would rather see the bad in a situation than take the positives away and for a long time I was guilty of doing this. To be honest I still do it every now and again, but im learning to see the good in the bad and if I can you can too. For example, I was benching heavy today at the gym, really pushing myself. I got to the last rep on my set and I failed, but that's ok. Its a learning process at the end of the day, I know what went wrong and I know how to improve next time. So next time I go to the gym I know what I need to do to achieve my goals. There is a lesson in every failure. Motivation doesn't always come from within, sometimes you do need an outside influence. This can come from many different places such as: talking to friends, family and loved ones or listening/watching motivational music/videos. For me listening to motivational speeches is very effective. I get incredibly motivated watching the film, Pumping Iron. For those who haven't watched it, stop reading and go watch it NOW!!! The reason I get so much from it is because im a massive Arnold Schwarzenegger fan ( if you lift and you aren't I question your sanity ) but more so because of another bodybuilder called Mike Katz who stars in it. This is because I feel I can relate to his journey in some ways and seeing that he can do means I can and so can you. Happiness is the next topic I want to talk about. Recently I had my life changed. For a long time I didn't think It would. I have a lot of things going my way, I don't mean this in a big headed way, but I've got a lot of things in my life to be happy about that many others don't. Most of the time I would take these for granted because I've always had them around and haven't known life without them. The thing that changed my life recently was ( finally ) getting together with my current girlfriend. For a long time It didn't look like it would happen. This was due to many reasons, which I wont bore you with but since its happened its helped a lot. This isn't just because being in a relationship is a great thing that many people strive for, but its because of what she does for me. She has helped me see those positives. Since getting together, shes been away and I found myself in a bit of negative state of mood. I overthought about this for a while and although I did miss her, as is natural, I thought there must be more to this. But what was actually causing this bad mood? I knew in my head that nothing was wrong, so why was I feeling this way? What I decided to do was write down what was going right in my life and what I didn't like. Needless to say the positives greatly outweighed the negatives. I thought about what I could do with the negatives and they were either things that I couldn't change or I could. The things I could change, I changed. The things I cant, I just have to accept because there is no point wasting time stressing about things that I cant control. Without her I don't think I would of been able to do this as easily, so thank you x
She's been a catalyst for this new way of thinking, sometimes we need one to help. But they come in many different forms i.e. family and friends. Writing a list down for yourself could help you see what's actually important.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EyhOmBPtGNM
