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Aromantic cat ! Lmk if yall wanna see any other flag cats :)

[ID: digital art of a bouquet in a glass vase, where each flower is colored like a pride flag. Top to bottom, left to right are: agender, aromantic, bisexual, progress pride, nonbinary, pansexual, transgender, polyamory, genderfluid, intersex, aroace, polysexual, asexual, genderqueer, gay, and lesbian. End ID.]

Happy pride!

bratty-little-red

Small pride project finished! I made an Aro flag tote bag 😊

Now that i have the pattern mostly figured out .... I am kind of obsessed and wanna make 800 more

lemonscribs

Aromantic pride shark 🥝💚

an-ruraiocht

not gonna lie i increasingly just find myself thinking... what are single disabled people supposed to do? basically everything assumes that either a) you have never been independent and are fully reliant on caregivers, whether this is parents or a paid carer that you are somehow funding, or b) you have a partner who can look after you, drive you to appointments, pick you up after you've had sedation, advocate for you, be your proxy, do the housework when you're sick, push your wheelchair, be your companion when travelling (e.g. handle the luggage if you're using a wheelchair), etc

and like. first of all even for people with partners that's assuming they're abled themselves and can handle all that. you can't assume that. secondly: what about people who are single, who live alone, who will probably always do so

"get someone to keep an eye on you when you start this new medication" who. "don't over exert yourself" nobody else is going to do the tasks. "this can be a walker or a transit wheelchair so your partner can push you when you get tired" my what

like it's not a coincidence that amatonormativity discussions started / developed in care contexts because it is so often the assumption that intimate partners will fill these needs. but I feel like this is often discussed in the context of "and this is too much to ask and puts too much unpaid labour on the unqualified partner" which is not untrue and needs discussing but like. also. what about people are single, independent adults who are neither emotionally nor geographically close to their siblings etc and are not Disabled Enough to have a paid carer (a group that grows as resources shrink). like are they just fucked then. they're on their own. punishment for failing to be enough of an adult to couple up.

an-ruraiocht

a few years ago i was having a procedure for which i was going to have partial sedation, so they wouldn't let me leave the hospital alone afterwards. even though i would just be getting a taxi from outside the door back to my house

i had to ask my housemate to come to the hospital in a taxi, leave the taxi waiting outside, come inside to fetch me (they wouldn't even let me go from the ward to the taxi even though i could point to my phone and the texts saying that my housemate was outside), and then go back to our house with me. fortunately it was a weekend, so she didn't have to take time off work to do this, but they went on about how she'd have to keep an eye on me for the next day or so

bear in mind that i barely knew my housemate when we moved in together. we had mutual friends but it was an arrangement of convenience

these days i do have nearby friends who own a car, so would potentially be able to pick me up in a situation like this. but they don't live with me. so they wouldn't be able to keep an eye on me overnight as my housemate was assumed to be willing to do. my flat only has one bed in it. like. i don't know. it just seems to be completely beyond their comprehension that somebody could live solo and not just have someone who will look after them?? and this was for a small routine procedure that lots of non-disabled people have, so not even assuming high care needs! hospitals just can't comprehend that single adults exist!

aro-disaster

That reminds me of the time I was giving blood and (in addition to my usual fainting shenanigans) there was a concern that the phlebotomist had given me nerve damage.

Trying to get the blood people to understand that I had driven there and that no, I didn't have a partner to come fetch me and monitor me was a flipping task and a half.

It took me over an hour to get out of the centre and I had to promise to call 111 (the non-emergency medical line) if anything happened.... Not sure what they would have been able to do for a tweaked nerve over the phone, or indeed what having a partner there would have achieved...

softwaring

transgender pride flag, made using my own photography.

diurnalcritters

Day 1383

the-aro-agenda

as much as i may talk about friendship and queerplatonicism know this. i don't think there is any type of relationship that is inherently more meaningful than any other type. the solution to amatonormativity is not to put platonic relationships on a pedestal

new-ace-on-the-block

Good news, although it was terribly hot upstairs, it was still a pleasant temperature downstairs where I do much of my crochet

So the aro pride flag horns got done!

Tiny Dinosaur said that green leaves would look good with the aro flag

With these I've tested the opposite of the others, that is a single colour base (white) with the flag colour only on the ridges

I think this will work best with flags or colour schemes with lower colour contrast as black on white is quite eye catching, though a darker colour base with bright ridges could look really nice!

They're also attached at a slightly different angle than the ace example, more mountain goat compared to the ace bighorn sheep. I like both angles a lot!

I also decided to finish thinking hard about prices, and reduce horn headbands to €45 for just horns or €50 with flowers/leaves

I'll get around to listing the aro horns tomorrow, the ace ones are already up and so is the crochet pattern (and both 40% off in June with coupon code FRIENDOFTINYDINO)!

endcrys

This pride month I need every aromantic to get more annoying about being aromantic

aro-culture-is

aro culture is being nonSAM aro ‼️‼️‼️ i love being nonSAM aro ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

#hey it me too

stagbeetleboy

Cupid missed

aromanticofficial

official aromantic post

watercolourcritters

queer love forever!!! happy pride, babes!!

[ID: An acrylic painting of a cartoon pink unicorn standing triumphantly with text around it reading "Queer Love Forever." The background is a deep purple. End ID.]

genderkoolaid

FTM* History: Venice Bans A Haircut

In 15th century Venice, the city had a problem. Not only were there so many dang sex workers, not only were so many Venetian men fucking other men, but a lot of the sex workers who had vaginas were dressing up as men to have sex with men!

So how did Venice deal with this “problem”? Well, on March 15th of 1480, they banned a hairstyle popularly associated with these FTM-crossdressing sex workers from being worn by people classed as women. The punishment for those who broke this law was excommunication, a fine, and public shaming. Sex workers who wore this hairstyle in particular were whipped, had their heads forcibly shaved, and held in prison until they could pay the fine.

From Venice: A Documentary History 1450 - 1630 by David Chambers and Brian Pullan:

From the Latin. Decree of the Council of Ten, 15 March 1480: The coiffure [ habitus capitis ] which Venetian women have recently taken to wearing could not be more indecent in the sight of God and men, since by means of this coiffure women conceal their sex and strive to please men by pretending to be men, which is a form of sodomy; and therefore : Be it determined that by the authority of this Council the Heads of the Ten Heads or at least two of them shall go to our Lord Patriarch and persuade him, by means of the confessors and also through an edict to be published in all the parishes, to prohibit the hairstyle [ gestamen capillorum ] which women adopt, and which they call a ‘mushroom’ [ fungus], and which hides the forehead; and to order the hair to be drawn and tied back behind the head, and the forehead and face to be made free of it, that they may be seen to be women, just as God made them, and as was their custom before the present corrupted age: all this upon pain of excommunication. Once this commandment has been published in the churches, be it resolved, so that it may also be obeyed through the fear of temporal penalties, that if any woman is seen wearing this indecent coiffure and hairstyle, her husband shall be compelled by the Heads of this Council to pay a fine of 100 ducats, which shall be given to the accuser, and both the husband and wife shall be immediately proclaimed upon the steps, as many times as may be necessary, as fearing neither God nor our own laws. If the woman concerned is unmarried, then her father or brother or any other person in whose power she lies shall be punished as well as herself. ‘The enforcement of this decree shall be entrusted to the Heads and Inquisitors of this Council, or to another Council, upon their oath. The Lords of the Night and the Heads of the Sestieri shall be instructed that, once these edicts have been published, all whores found wearing this arrangement [ sixam ] of hair shall first be whipped and then have their whole heads shaved. Having been so shorn, they shall be led to the steps and there proclaimed, and their accuser shall have 25 lire from the goods of each woman, and after being whipped, shorn and proclaimed they shall not be released from prison until they have paid over this money.

*"FTM" here is being used as an umbrella term for people seen as female presenting/acting in ways seen as masculine/male.

(More on the history of FTM crossdressing being sexualized here)