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~ 23 ~ USA ~ Feminist ~

[spoopy-pumpkin-possum]

Here's a few more Doc Ock text posts

[metaphorformetaphor]

At night when everyone is silent and everything is still, I lie in the darkness of my windowless room, the place where they exile me from the community of their heart, and search the unmoving blackness to see if I can find my way home. I tell myself stories, write poems, record my dreams. In my journal I write—I belong in this place of words. This is my home. This dark, bone black inner cave where I am making a world for myself.

—Bell Hooks, from Bone Black: Memories of Girlhood (Henry Holt, 1996)

[lavendersage]

oh to be a small mouse in a pastoral children’s novel who lives in a hollowed out tree stump and does nothing but collect dewdrops and sweep their doorstep with a feather

[othernotebooksareavailable]

and carve one strawberry into slices like it’s a ham

[lavendersage]

you get it

[brucebocchi]

[unclefather]

[paintedbunt-ing]

Gonna start appending “while gay” to everything I do

[mishastoesies]

“if no art makes you feel anything, make your own art and feel something” is too raw of a line to have come from a jenna marbles video of her painting a rainbow/polka dot seahorse saying “it’s seahorse time” on a denim jacket

[curesforwritersblock]

spotify watching me listen to megan thee stallion, doja cat, marina, and lorde all in the span of an hour:

[ladyheart-deactivated20210919]

Actually Spotify looks like this while it watches you listen to four very popular musicians on the top 100 charts.

[bryansomething]

Same vibes

[deerchasingheadlights]

Obsessed w her

[the-last-kenobi]

too many people prayed for the world to NOT end in 2012 and god panicked and started pulling out rough drafts. bonus years. side quests and horror stories. he dug up his flop era and started posting it for all to see. you fangirled too hard and now earth is running ten seasons past a perfectly written ending using unlikeable background characters and resurrecting terrible plot lines. congratulations you’ve supernaural’d the earth.

[socio-logic]

“If a society puts half its children into short skirts and warns them not to move in ways that reveal their panties, while putting the other half into jeans and overalls and encouraging them to climb trees, play ball, and participate in other vigorous outdoor games; if later, during adolescence, the children who have been wearing trousers are urged to “eat like growing boys,” while the children in skirts are warned to watch their weight and not get fat; if the half in jeans runs around in sneakers or boots, while the half in skirts totters about on spike heels, then these two groups of people will be biologically as well as socially different. Their muscles will be different, as will their reflexes, posture, arms, legs and feet, hand-eye coordination, and so on. Similarly, people who spend eight hours a day in an office working at a typewriter or a visual display terminal will be biologically different from those who work on construction jobs. There is no way to sort the biological and social components that produce these differences. We cannot sort nature from nurture when we confront group differences in societies in which people from different races, classes, and sexes do not have equal access to resources and power, and therefore live in different environments. Sex-typed generalizations, such as that men are heavier, taller, or stronger than women, obscure the diversity among women and among men and the extensive overlaps between them… Most women and men fall within the same range of heights, weights, and strengths, three variables that depend a great deal on how we have grown up and live. We all know that first-generation Americans, on average, are taller than their immigrant parents and that men who do physical labor, on average, are stronger than male college professors. But we forget to look for the obvious reasons for differences when confronted with assertions like ‘Men are stronger than women.’ We should be asking: ‘Which men?’ and ‘What do they do?’ There may be biologically based average differences between women and men, but these are interwoven with a host of social differences from which we cannot disentangle them.”

— Ruth Hubbard, “The Political Nature of ‘Human Nature’“ (via gothhabiba)

Yes.

[crazy-pages]

Here, have a study (x) showing that mothers underestimate their daughter’s physical capacity from as young as 11 months old (though in reality it’s identical to that of their son’s at the same age). And if you think that parents acting on those expectations won’t alter their children’s development, then I have a sloped bridge to sell you.

[chinaannemcclaincontents]

[alexaloraetheris]

I've been laughing like a hyena for the past 15 minutes

[queenstravelingdarling]

This process right here??? Cinematic gold.

[jaesig]

"Arre yiu dhumm!?" In this essay, I will describe how much of a mood.com this is.

[rootbeergoddess]

Where is her Oscar

[imposterogers]

spider-man 2002 is actually such a funny movie and not even in the “oh so cringey” way. peter waving to mj when she was actually waving to her friends? the ‘go web go’ scene??? peter dragging a cafeteria tray across the cafeteria??? peter finding out he had super powers and immediately jumping off a building and flinging himself into a wall???? peter absolutely demolishing his room and telling his aunt it’s a science project???? peters first costume? so fucking funny

[imposterogers]

visual evidence

[urbanfantasyinspiration]

Accurate depiction of what would happen if a teenager got superpowers

[katal0gue]

The way that we learn about Helen Keller in school is an absolute outrage. We read “The Miracle Worker”- the miracle worker referring to her teacher; she’s not even the title character in her own story. The narrative about disabled people that we are comfortable with follows this format- “overcoming” disability. Disabled people as children. Helen Keller as an adult, though? She was a radical socialist, a fierce disability advocate, and a suffragette. There’s no reason she should not be considered a feminist icon, btw, and the fact that she isn’t is pure ableism- while other white feminists of that time were blatent racists, she was speaking out against Woodrew Wilson because of his vehement racism. She supported woman’s suffrage and birth control. She was an anti-war speaker. She was an initial donor to the NAACP. She spoke out about the causes of blindness- often disease caused by poverty and poor working conditions. She was so brave and outspoken that the FBI had a file on her because of all the trouble she caused.

Yet when we talk about her, it’s either the boring, inspiration porn story of her as a child and her heroic teacher, or as the punchline of ableist, misogynistic jokes. It’s not just offensive, it’s downright disgusting.

[roachpatrol]

the reason the story stops once hellen keller learns to talk is no one wanted to listen to what she had to say

how’s that for a fucking punchline

[cookinguptales]

Another part of the story that is often conveniently omitted is that Anne Sullivan, the “miracle worker” in question, was also a visually impaired woman (and abolitionist) who faced her own struggles finding accessible education. That was why she was able to teach Helen Keller and connect her with resources that would allow her to flourish in academia. When Helen Keller was railing against poverty-induced diseases that caused blindness, she was talking about things like trachoma which was what had caused her friend’s vision loss.

The fact that Sullivan is often portrayed as able-bodied in retellings of their story is indicative of the narrative that is most comfortable for an ableist society: that accessibility and equality are gifts bestowed upon the disabled by able-bodied heroes. Disabled children are never taught that they have the power to lift each other up, and that’s a crying shame.

[heywriters]

I didn’t learn she was an activist until college when (the chillest history teacher in the world) had us read Zinn & Arnove’s Voices of A People’s History (which I highly recommend), and we were tested on Helen Keller’s “Strike Against War” speech. Here is the beginning of her speech:

“To begin with, I have a word to say to my good friends, the editors, and others who are moved to pity me…I do not want their pity…I know what I’m talking about.”

[impormable]

Old dude came in the shop and when I said "lemme know if you have any questions" he goes "what was the name of Alexander the Great's horse," thinking he was so funny. I told him Bucephalus, and he was so disappointed. Like his whole day was hanging on beating me at trivia. He says "you're only the second person who knew that" and I said "well, probably the third if you count Alexander the Great." He left without buying anything, and did not say goodbye. I think I honestly hurt his weird little feelings! Sorry I'm a bitch, old man!

[sonnetscrewdriver]

I had one of these once, bookshop customer randomly challenged me to name, quote, ‘the only word in English where two u’s are next to each other’, and when I immediately said ‘vacuum’ he looked disappointed and when I pointed out it isn’t even the only word with two u’s next to each other in English and offered ‘continuum’ as an example he looked like I’d just punched his ribcage out his back like a Mortal Kombat character

[captainclickycat]

People claiming this didn’t happen have never worked a day in retail

[ceasarslegion]

Quick i need a gamer drink that isnt gamer girl bathwater or gamer fuel because i cant get either of those in canada

[aperture-laboratories-official]

Rockstar, Monster, and Red Bull.

[ceasarslegion]

My dad paypals me 20 bucks every exam season "for red bull and snickers" because he swears by a trick he used to do in college where he would chug a red bull and eat a snickers in the exam hall before every single one of his exams and he did well on all of them. Legitimately swears to this day that it works and makes me do it. The first time i tried it i also knocked that exam out of the park. It would take 2 more years for either of us to figure out that we both had low blood pressure and what all that caffeine and sugar was making us experience was known as "normal blood pressure allowing us to concentrate better." My dad still swears that it was the red bull and snickers and not the medical equivalent of using the wrong equation and getting the right answer.

[nealashitposts]

I recently found out why my mom would never sleep around me when I was a kid. Like she’d never let herself take naps or sleep if I was awake, ever. Or if she did, she would lock her bedroom door. So when I was 6, I was asleep in my bed in the middle of the night when I hear a loud bang, like a pot being dropped and come out to the living room to see my mom standing by the window, with just a huge pile of spaghetti all over the sill, and a pot on the ground, and I ’m like “Are you gonna eat all that?” And ya’ll she get’s BIG MAD and yells at me and chases me to my room but then a little while later a bunch of cops show up and ask me a bunch of random ass questions about my art? Like this one cop lady keeps asking me to draw dragons for her?! And they seem mad as hell

I didn’t want to get arrested so I just never asked my mom for spaghettis after that. Lesson, learned. Don’t ask mom for spaghettis or she’ll call the damn police on you. 

So I have this memory in my head, and it goes unquestioned until I say it outload for the first time a few months back and as soon as I say the words “When I was six, my mom called the cops on me for asking for spaghettis” My adult logic slams into place and is like “Hang on. Your mother definatly did not call the police on a 6 year old for asking for spaghetti.” 

So obviously that’s not what really went down. I call up my mom to tell her how I remember it and on top of her figuring out why her kid has always been really cagey around spaghettis for the last 3 decades she tells me what really happened. 

So on that night, a man tried to break into our house through the front window. It was just my mom, and her kids so she did what she felt she had too and shot him in the head. He’d been wearing a helmet, which landed on the floor under the window.

Now I just want ya’ll to put yourselves in my moms shoes for a minute here. This woman has just taken a human life. The trauma of that- the instant agony, the panic, the guilt, the fear- all of it hitting her at once, her only solace the knowledge that her children are safe. She protected her daughters. No matter the cost to her soul- her children are safe.

Then she looks up and sees her six year old staring at the inside of this mans head before saying “Are you gonna eat all that?” 

[nealashitposts]

I suspect they were trying to keep me busy and distracted while they cleaned up the corpse in the living room?!?

[kagaintheskywithdiamonds]

oh, fair enough

[sunrisedespair]

Can confirm, when kids are on site in certain incidents/situations, look around, think fast, distract them and go along with whatever the hell any safe/familiar/etc person may have told the kid before you got involved (in this case the parent is the safe person)

It may have been that there was some kind of dragon themed kid stuff laying around that they picked up on, depending on your age something like Dragon Tales or How to Train Your Dragon etc.

Alternatively the parent here may have just said “they like dragons work with that” and it worked.

Most important thing if a kid was present but isn’t aware and wasn’t directly involved, keep it that way and keep them unaware of the situation by just behaving normally and providing a simple, ideally fun or familiar, task for the child to focus on.

The one cop might have been pushy because they wanted kiddo to be more weirded out by them that by the situation at hand overall. Not the best approach, but worked well enough in this case.

If the kid needs to be asked questions later etc fine, but that’s later. Right now, parent needs help and reassurance, kid is oblivious, potential threat already eliminated– That’s about as ideal as such a situation can be, really.

[dopaminx]

Ok but this post started with you saying you found out why your mom would never let herself sleep around you. Was she… was she afraid you would murder her in her sleep and eat her brains????

[midi-wizard]

watched a bunch of old, standard def, Spongebob episodes on a 4K HD TV last night and i loved seeing all the fried JPEGs they used for background objects, like these door handles.

[midi-wizard]

like the pineapple in this screenshot probably looks pretty seamless on an SD TV but now it looks like an MS paint addition.