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u can be boiling alive in your mind for months and then on a random tuesday ur head gets so clear and life is worth living again and you're like damn what was all that about then
Driving around my town trying to find one single burger just one burger or a hot dog but Unfortunately everythings just rubble and twisted scaffolding upstretched and rotting and theres shit on fire and a big black ass sky
Guess i cant do shit anymore Cause the sewers are all muddied with a thousand lonely suicides... And yep, you guessed it: a dark wind blows.
i will say about sangfielle and this has always and will continue to bug me (in a minor way.) is people calling each others characters friends and i KNOW why because it's the standard for a ttrpg party (usually) and the players are friends but these characters are truly the most coworkers ever. of all time possibly
@ahcoffeebeans2 envisioning an office au
bonus (you are correct about this):
Honestly making new friends in my late 20s early 30s has in some ways been indistinguishable from dating except the courtship period is not romantic or sexual. I think people need to revisit the art of flirting in a friend way…like presenting your best self to a person and genuinely glowing when they return the gesture. And letting people influence and change you and getting excited when you have a chance to talk to them. That’s what makes getting to know someone fun in the first place…everyone in those advice threads about how to befriend people is basically describing how to have Coworkers not friends. “Go to a bar and hang out and start a conversation” you can do this but you have to follow up the first encounter with putting your best foot forward instead of just listlessly hoping for the social approval of the other party!!!!
you know i think the average person would watch community and be like well of course britta is the most tumblr character, always on about her little pet causes and what not, but they would be wrong because the most tumblr character in the whole show, perhaps in the entirety of the human literary canon, is abed nadir
Our Mother of Exiles - Michelle Osman , 2023
American , b. 1981 -
Oil on canvas , 36 x 36 in.
one of my favourite funny little things about this website is when you make a post like 'killing you to death with a spear formation' and somebody reblogs it tagged #q #spear formation like i'm so happy to know you're keeping your dedicated spear formation tag well curated babe keep it up
apparently youre supposed to perform. they love it when you perform. but it has to be authentic. they hate it when it's not authentic. but you have to perform.
it’s really easy to become obsessed with a shakespeare play you just have to watch one version of it and then read the play and then go mad trying to watch every possible version of it you can find and then study several centuries worth of performance history and controversy
Guy who coinflips every morning to see if he should kill himself and inexplicably has gotten “live” each time
fucking the betrayal guy for betrayal
The Murderbot Diaries asks the bold question of "what if you told a horse girl movie from the point of view of the horse?"
an unsung favorite of mine
all emotions are important indicators that something in your life needs to change. feeling like emotions are evil and suppressing them in an effort to Be Good will result in way worse long term effects than acknowledging them.
being curious about emotions--especially the really Big Painful Stigmatized ones--and getting to the root causes so you can make slow substantial changes, rather than impulsive superficial ones, is pretty much always the way to go whenever possible.
most of the time when people apologize for their emotions (e.g. anger), they should really be apologizing for the behavior they engage in to soothe the emotions. because emotions in and of themselves do not actually harm other people.
people who say they are harmed by emotions are usually either
actually responding to behavior and simply uncritically accepting conflation between the two (e.g. "I'm afraid of your anger" often translates to "whenever you mistreat me you blame it on your anger, so if your anger is the cause of mistreatment, then my fear of mistreatment can only be discussed as a fear of anger"),
or are themselves engaging in a controlling behavior to soothe their own emotions that they are refusing to manage (e.g. "I'm afraid of your anger" often translates to "whenever you're angry I feel panic, and instead of interrogating what I'm afraid of and what I need to remind myself that I'm safe, I'm going to demand you never express feelings around me").
WITH THIS SAID.
a lot of the time what men call ''anger'' is actually just misogynistic resentment.
a lot of people will say ''men are only allowed to feel anger.'' this is just not true, but I believe there is something here that is gendered.
men are incentivized to outsource management of all pain and discomfort to women (and children). managing emotions is not paid productive labor, it is reproductive labor, so men--as a class--do not feel obligated to do it. feminized classes are supposed to do the unpaid labor. so men expect to outsource their emotional management to women and children in their lives.
this is why media often depicts women and children serving the role as "healing" the male protagonist. this is why women and children often are expected to learn how to not "set off" the patriarch. this is why people will say that men will get humiliated at work and "take it out" on their families. it's why men do not openly and by default process emotions with other men. the culturally normative expectation is for men to offload the effort of managing their emotions onto feminized classes.
men feel that it it women's responsibility to manage their emotions. they feel entitled to easy, pleasurable emotions all the time so that they can do good, productive, paid work without interruption. but then they still experience extreme, painful emotions that they don't know how to handle, because they are human beings, and emotions happen.
when faced with the dissonance between unbearable emotional pain, and women simply refusing to set down everything in their own lives to attend to it immediately, men become extremely resentful. they imagine that they are experiencing a painful emotion because women have neglected them, and then interpret their own emotions as cruelty inflicted by women.
I think the whole principle I outlined above (i.e. instead of suppressing emotions as evil and then lashing out impulsively to self-soothe, it is much more fruitful to be curious about emotions, to understanding where they come from, and figure out constructive ways to change your life that address unmet needs) really needs to be applied here.
if you realize you are experiencing this kind of misogynistic resentment, it is not helpful to try to suppress it. emotions grow when suppressed. even if you tell yourself you would never hurt someone, it is extremely likely that eventually you will justify lashing out at women in your life to self-soothe because you are not spending any time figuring out other ways to address the emotion.
instead, you need to really try to deconstruct your beliefs about emotions. you are not responsible for managing other people's emotions, but you are responsible for managing your own. even when they are enormous and debilitating. it is your life. if you are incapacitated by emotion, it means something really needs to change. you need to figure out what needs are not being met, and you need to figure out what can be done to meet them. this is not women's job. this is not the job of children. they have their own enormous debilitating emotions to manage!
there is nothing wrong with feeling negative emotions. there is something wrong with expecting to never feel negative emotions and then blaming them on other people, and using this blame as an excuse to punish them. it is essential that you understand the difference.
also, this goes for women expecting emotional management from children. it goes for cis people expecting it from trans people. it goes for tme people expecting it from tma people. it goes for white people expecting it from racialized people. it goes for nonblack people expecting it from Black people.
if there is a class that is constructed as "there to do unpaid labor for you" then you need to really interrogate any entitlement you feel towards anyone in that class to soothe your emotions for you.
maintaining healthy emotional boundaries is not neglect or cruelty.
URGENT: Help Two Disabled Queers Survive the Summer
EMERGENCY SURVIVAL FUNDS NEEDED We are a Black trans disabled couple with a cat… Tori Peck needs your support for Survival Funds for Hea
thank you so much for the support earlier this month. we may have a home on the horizon with most expenses paid, so we need support to get through until then as we will be moving states.
outside of moving costs, we need to take our cats to the vet, our car to the shop, cover rent and bills as we pack up, etc. i will put more details in the GFM, but as such we are really hoping to clear our campaign by the end of June. please consider sharing. every dollar helps, and every share gets us closer to a dollar. pls consider us if u have it to spare
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gfm stretch goal: $1600 by 5/23
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